In the 12 years I've spent coaching others, I've recognized patterns that hold us back from success.
In
the
12
years
I
've
spent
coaching
others
,
I
've
recognized
patterns
that
hold
us
back
from
success
.
Here I share some of the most powerful lessons I've learned along the way.
Here
I
share
some
of
the
most
powerful
lessons
I
've
learned
along
the
way
.
1. you compare yourself with others
1.
you
compare
yourself
with
others
Whether it's starting a business or learning a new skill, you will look at others who are much further down the road from you and expect your results to be similar to theirs, today.
Whether
it
's
starting
a
business
or
learning
a
new
skill
,
you
will
look
at
others
who
are
much
further
down
the
road
from
you
and
expect
your
results
to
be
similar
to
theirs
,
today
.
Since you cannot see the struggle, the mistakes and the hundreds of little improvements they made every single day, you suppose these never existed.
Since
you
can
not
see
the
struggle
,
the
mistakes
and
the
hundreds
of
little
improvements
they
made
every
single
day
,
you
suppose
these
never
existed
.
By comparison you feel incapable and discouraged.
By
comparison
you
feel
incapable
and
discouraged
.
Shift your focus instead to where you are today compared to yesterday to get a more accurate picture of the progress you're making.
Shift
your
focus
instead
to
where
you
are
today
compared
to
yesterday
to
get
a
more
accurate
picture
of
the
progress
you
're
making
.
2.
2
.
You want those you care about to approve.
You
want
those
you
care
about
to
approve
.
You create a story that their approval means you're on the right path.
You
create
a
story
that
their
approval
means
you
're
on
the
right
path
.
You don't want to disappoint.
You
do
n't
want
to
disappoint
.
And so you end up stuck by a rough comment, or an unenthusiastic reaction.
And
so
you
end
up
stuck
by
a
rough
comment
,
or
an
unenthusiastic
reaction
.
I'll never forget my uncle giving me a pained look while telling me, "Why are you still in London Come back to Malta with your family."
I
'll
never
forget
my
uncle
giving
me
a
pained
look
while
telling
me
,
``
Why
are
you
still
in
London
Come
back
to
Malta
with
your
family
.
''
Ouch that really hurt, but had I listened, I'd be stuck .in a dead-end job, living a life that was killing my soul.
Ouch
that
really
hurt
,
but
had
I
listened
,
I
'd
be
stuck
.in
a
dead-end
job
,
living
a
life
that
was
killing
my
soul
.
3.
3
.
You wait for the "right" time.
You
wait
for
the
``
right
''
time
.
You keep putting something off because it's not the "right" time yet.
You
keep
putting
something
off
because
it
's
not
the
``
right
''
time
yet
.
You need to make a few more improvements, get more experience, and Team a few more skills.
You
need
to
make
a
few
more
improvements
,
get
more
experience
,
and
Team
a
few
more
skills
.
You wait for the economy to improve, the weather to get better or for a sign that you should start.
You
wait
for
the
economy
to
improve
,
the
weather
to
get
better
or
for
a
sign
that
you
should
start
.
The right time is now.
The
right
time
is
now
.
Only by starting will you discover what else needs to be done or improved, never before.
Only
by
starting
will
you
discover
what
else
needs
to
be
done
or
improved
,
never
before
.
3.
3
.
You suppose talent rather than persistence is the secret to success
You
suppose
talent
rather
than
persistence
is
the
secret
to
success
"If I had any talent, this would be much easier.
``
If
I
had
any
talent
,
this
would
be
much
easier
.
I'm not cut out for this."
I
'm
not
cut
out
for
this
.
''
When you start your project, you discover it's a steep uphill struggle to get where you want.
When
you
start
your
project
,
you
discover
it
's
a
steep
uphill
struggle
to
get
where
you
want
.
You make it mean you're lacking in some way, that maybe you should aim a little lower or try something easier.
You
make
it
mean
you
're
lacking
in
some
way
,
that
maybe
you
should
aim
a
little
lower
or
try
something
easier
.
Don't bury into this mindset.
Do
n't
bury
into
this
mindset
.
Anything you do will get easier the more you do it.
Anything
you
do
will
get
easier
the
more
you
do
it
.
So keep working at it and eventually you'll find yourself at the top of that hill.
So
keep
working
at
it
and
eventually
you
'll
find
yourself
at
the
top
of
that
hill
.
In the 12 years I've spent coaching others, I've recognized patterns that hold us back from success. Here I share some of the most powerful lessons I've learned along the way.  1. you compare yourself with others  Whether it's starting a business or learning a new skill, you will look at others who are much further down the road from you and expect your results to be similar to theirs, today. Since you cannot see the struggle, the mistakes and the hundreds of little improvements they made every single day, you suppose these never existed. By comparison you feel incapable and discouraged.  Shift your focus instead to where you are today compared to yesterday to get a more accurate picture of the progress you're making.  2. You want those you care about to approve. You create a story that their approval means you're on the right path. You don't want to disappoint. And so you end up stuck by a rough comment, or an unenthusiastic reaction. I'll never forget my uncle giving me a pained look while telling me, "Why are you still in London Come back to Malta with your family." Ouch that really hurt, but had I listened, I'd be stuck .in a dead-end job, living a life that was killing my soul.  3. You wait for the "right" time.  You keep putting something off because it's not the "right" time yet. You need to make a few more improvements, get more experience, and Team a few more skills. You wait for the economy to improve, the weather to get better or for a sign that you should start. The right time is now. Only by starting will you discover what else needs to be done or improved, never before.  3. You suppose talent rather than persistence is the secret to success  "If I had any talent, this would be much easier. I'm not cut out for this." When you start your project, you discover it's a steep uphill struggle to get where you want. You make it mean you're lacking in some way, that maybe you should aim a little lower or try something easier. Don't bury into this mindset. Anything you do will get easier the more you do it. So keep working at it and eventually you'll find yourself at the top of that hill.