a game to promote communication and understanding between couples . the game involves assigning points to a number of activities to be performed by one person , for example , the man , for the benefit of the second person , the woman . when the man performs an act such as letting the woman sleep in , taking the woman out to dinner , or giving the woman a gift , he is awarded the points assigned to that act . the accumulated points are tracked on a board . once the points reach a certain level , the man is permitted to redeem the points for a reward such as a night out . the woman is permitted to block the awarding of points temporarily in the event of an extraordinary event such as the man forgetting the woman &# 39 ; s birthday or not helping out with household chores .