a communications system including a communications network , a multiplicity of communications terminals , a monitor operative to monitor whether or not a specific user is connected to the communications network , a point - to - point connection enabler operative to conditionally allow at least one seeking user to establish a point - to - point connection with at least one other user who is in a set of sought users and an authorization request manager operative to transmit an authorization request to the at least one other user , when the at least one other user is connected to the communications network , receive a response to the authorization request from the at least one other user and transmit the response to the point - to - point connection enabler prior to the point - to - point connection enabler allowing establishment of the point - to - point connection .