If you live with your family, try to avoid common areas, such as the living room. If you live away, try to visit your family less often. Space out your phone calls or text responses more and more. Create physical distance from your family by no longer visiting or inviting them over. You only have so much energy to give and compartmentalizing the negative people in your life provides you with more energy to spend on the positive ones. If your relatives question your increasing distance, you might say, “I’ve just been really busy lately,” and leave it at that. Keep in mind that when people are used to getting a certain response from you, and suddenly they don't, it is typical for them to try harder before they give up. Be prepared for some push back when you try to distance yourself. ” Part of establishing boundaries is learning what you are, and aren’t, willing to do for certain people. If you must maintain a relationship with someone, you might consider setting up plans yourself. That way they occur on your terms, where you're comfortable, and last only for small lengths of time. If your family members ask you to do something that is harmful to well-being in any way, just say, “No.” Don’t feel the need to provide an explanation as your time is your own to spend. Of course, if you live with your parents, you are more subject to their rules and requests. So, choose carefully when saying “no” and your response will (hopefully) be taken seriously. If you are worried about what kind of family life you might create as a parent, lessen your fears and educate yourself by enrolling in a childcare or parenting class. The instructors will show you that a negative family cycle does not have to repeat itself. And, they will give you the tools to understand what parental actions are beneficial and which are harmful. You can find a parenting class by contacting your local hospital. They will, most likely, offer classes on a variety of parental topics. And, many of these classes are often free-of-charge for soon-to-be...

TL;DR in Indonesian:
Jagalah jarak dengan anggota keluarga. Belajarlah menolak. Ikuti kursus parenting (persiapan menjadi orang tua yang baik). Berkonsultasilah dengan konselor.