First, read the English article below.

Learning assertiveness and  the finesse of pointing out the harmful, critical patterns of others in a loving and productive way is in an important step toward dealing with put downs. Cultivate power by standing up for yourself and altering the environment to prevent future put-downs.  Being assertive is different than being aggressive. Try speaking clearly and maintaining eye contact while being a receptive listener  Communicating assertively can help increase self confidence, gain the respect of others, improve decision-making skills, and enable conflict resolution. Often people are too different to be able to see eye to eye. You will come across many people who don't make you feel particularly good to be around, and others will feel the same way about you. The key is to see that, even though not all people are meant to be friends, this does not make you or the other person bad. Incompatibility is just another part of life that we can learn to respond to with grace or with defensiveness and cruelty. When somebody puts you down, it's about that person and not you. Here are the top reasons people might criticize you:  They are threatened by your competence, attractiveness, etc. so they are trying to level the playing field. They have a concern about your motivation, skill level, performance or contribution. They feel you are not doing your share of the work or being a team player. They have a strong unmet need that is not being satisfied. They have a controlling personality and have to be in charge. They feel entitled to special treatment or status and do not feel they are receiving it. They want to make you look bad so as to advance their own position or curry favor with the bosses, etc. They feel insecure and are overcompensating. They think you are making them look bad in front of others. When we feel hurt or put down, it is easy to take the position of the victim and assume there’s nothing we can do to change these bad feelings. Seeing that there are always choices you can make to improve your situation,... 

Now, please write a short abstract for it in Indonesian. Abstract:
Responslah dengan "anggun". Terimalah kenyataan. Kumpulkan pilihan-pilihan Anda. Belajarlah untuk memahami ulang situasi Anda saat ini. Uji pemikiran Anda untuk menemukan perangkap pola pikir negatif. Temukan hikmah dari penghinaan yang Anda terima. Tertawakan saja penghinaan itu. Pindahkan fokus Anda ke hal lain yang Anda bisa kendalikan. Carilah dukungan sosial. Ketahui kapan Anda membutuhkan pertolongan dari luar.