Article in English: Once you're calm and can speak without anger, you'll need to sit down with your friend to discuss what happened. Remember that you should not be hostile or confrontational. Simply sit down alone together and speak directly about what happened.  Make sure you are completely calm when you sit down with your friend to discuss the incident. Tell your friend that what he said was hurtful. Don't use declarative, absolute statements. Instead use "I" statements, such as "I felt really insulted when you said that about me" or "I felt like you were being very disrespectful by saying that." It's possible that you may not have noticed your friend engaging in his hurtful/damaging behavior in the past. It's also very likely that your friend has never noticed it, or is not aware of it. There are many forms of hurtful behavior, but six main categories cover some of the most common types that you should recognize and be aware of:  character assassinations - generalizations used to depict or define someone as always being bad/undesirable threats of abandonment - using hurtful, threatening statements to imply disinterest or abandonment in order to make someone else feel worthless invalidations - generalizations used to invalidate someone else's thoughts, feelings, or beliefs threats of exile - telling someone else directly that you do not want them in your life (similar to threats of abandonment, but even more damaging/insulting) hostile challenges - questioning someone else's ability to think, feel, or behave in a given way (including excessive and frequent sarcasm) preaching - attempting to use an absolute, unquestionable source/hierarchy to prove a point and put someone else down Whether your friend repeatedly hurts you with actions or with mean, hateful words, the result is the same: embarrassment, resentment, and alienation. If you recognize any of the patterns of hurtful behavior in your friend, let him know the first time it happens (or the first time you recognize it as such) that what he did is not okay.  Assess your...

Summary in Indonesian:
Bahas perilaku teman Anda tanpa bertele-tele. Perhatikan jika ada pola perilaku yang menyakitkan. Mengonfrontasi perilaku yang berulang kali dilakukan. Beri ruang kepada teman Anda untuk menanggapi kata-kata Anda. Cobalah untuk bersimpati. Pikirkan apakah pertemanan ini bisa terus berlangsung atau tidak.