Article in English: It's easy to get caught up in our lives and feel too busy for intimacy, especially if we've been with someone for awhile. However, relationships that leave one or both parties feeling unsatisfied just can't last. Make time for intimacy to keep the fires burning strong.  If you have kids that are a bit older, tell them that you've both had a very long day and you're tired so you're going to go to bed. If you have younger kids, get them into bed at a fairly early hour. Avoid only being intimate very sporadically, like when you take trips or set aside a "date night" once or twice a year. This is not good for a relationship. Make sure that everyone involved is happy and giving full consent before getting too serious. This is important for both men and women. If your partner is drunk enough to see giant purple mole-rats, you should not be getting intimate. Get a "yes", not an "I guess". Don't expect sex to be like it is in porn and don't expect your partner to look like a supermodel. And especially don't expect yourself to look one way or another. This will make you and them insecure and uncomfortable, reducing pleasure for everyone involved. If you want to find out more about what feels good to your partner, do some research. Read romance novels written for that gender or read advice columns online to find out ideas of what feels good and what doesn't. We don't mean lose weight or get bigger (insert body part): your partner is with you because they already think you're sexy. When we say be appealing, we mean have good hygiene. Wear decent clothes. That kind of thing. Weight is subjective but very few people are turned on by the smell of week-old sweat. Watch how your partner reacts to things. If they respond well to something you do, do more of that! If they seem uncomfortable, stop! Look for the subtle cues they give you, like putting your hand in a certain place. You can even try mimicking the things that they do to you as oftentimes it is their way of asking for something in particular. Slow down everything...

Summary in Indonesian:
Buat hubungan intim sebagai prioritas. Tekankan bahwa pihak lain berkenan. Singkirkan budaya iklan. Lakukan riset. Menarik. Perhatikan reaksi pasangan Anda. Pelan-pelan. Jangan egois. Eksplorasi pasangan Anda. Menjadi ahli dalam berciuman. Ubah segala sesuatunya. Berpikiran terbuka.