Article in English: Do you find yourself running a lot of errands for your boss that are not in your job description, constantly babysitting your cousin’s children, bailing your son out of trouble every time you turn around, doing your “study” partner’s work just so you can be done? Do you cancel plans because the other person had a rough day and needs to talk? If you’re doing these types of things for someone on a regular basis – for free – consider yourself being taken advantage of, unfortunately.  It's important to set boundaries when dealing with someone you think is taking advantage of you. Your boundaries should limit the impact their behaviors have on you. For example, you might tell them that you won't answer your phone after 9:00 p.m., even if it's an "emergency." Be sure to follow through with consequences if they violate your boundaries.  Unless they are doing as much for you, even if in other ways, pull back on your support. You will likely meet resistance, so kindly explain your reasons. It’s in their hands at that point. Rent is due in three days, but your friend still hasn’t returned the $300 you lent her three weeks ago. A colleague “borrows” an idea, then basks in the glory when others rave about his or her brilliance. If someone is constantly borrowing from you but not returning (or crediting) what’s borrowed, that person is, essentially, stealing from you right under your nose. Stealing from you and using you are on the same side of the coin, which is not heads up for you.  In the case of borrowed items, ask the person to return what’s been borrowed before you lend anything else. If nothing’s returned, don’t loan again. In the case of borrowed ideas, decide if addressing the issue would create a bigger issue. If not, talk about it and in the future be careful about what you share and with whom. Pull out your calculators and add up how much the person is costing you. Is your partner living with you for free, or only paying the utility bills, for instance? Do you find yourself always picking up the restaurant...

Summary in Indonesian:
Kurangi jumlah bantuan atau pemberian Anda. Pastikan apa yang ia pinjam dari Anda dikembalikan. Jangan membuat pengeluaran yang lebih besar daripada pengeluaran yang mampu Anda lakukan untuk orang yang bersangkutan. Jangan terlalu sering membantunya. Tahan keinginan untuk membantu atau memberi lebih banyak. Bicarakan mengenai perasaan atau kekesalan Anda.