If your mom doesn’t like your girlfriend, hearing you become obsessed or single-minded will only support her reservations. Your girlfriend should be just one part of a healthy, colorful life. If your girlfriend becomes the center of your existence, you give your mom a strong argument against the relationship. Get your support group on board talking up your girlfriend and pointing out when your mom says something unfair or out of line. Seeing how people other than you trust and appreciate your girlfriend can slowly wear your mom’s reservations down.  Ask friends to casually mention some mom-friendly things about your girlfriend in conversation. For example, they could say, “Man, your girlfriend killed at that test today,” or, “Sorry we’re late, but your girlfriend just had to walk a bunch of carts back to the store before she’d get in the car.” Your siblings could ask you questions when your mother is around like, “Why are you so happy today?” or “Why did you put all your clothes away so fast?” Your answers give you a chance to brag about your girl. Don’t be too obvious, or your mother will get the idea that something is up. You might feel like you are caught in the middle between your parents and your girlfriend, and that’s because you are. However, taking sides by pulling away from your family or playing one against the other rarely works.  Remember that the goal is to have everyone get along. You need to stay on both sides. Avoid speaking negatively about one person when alone with the other. You want your mom and girlfriend to respect each other, not just tolerate one another. You get along with both your mom and your girlfriend so there must be a few hobbies, opinions, favorites, or personal similarities that you can use to ease your mom’s nerves.  Mention these things around your mother casually so it isn’t obvious what you’re doing. If your mom says something that your girlfriend would agree with, try saying something like, “That’s funny. My girlfriend thinks the same thing. I’m not so sure though.” You...

TL;DR in Indonesian:
Kelola keinginan untuk terus-menerus membahas pacar. Minta bantuan teman-teman dan saudara. Hindari memihak. Cari kesamaan Ibu dan pacar dan gunakan itu untuk menjembatani celah di antara mereka. Hindari hubungan yang memberikan perhatian negatif pada keluarga.