Article in English: If your uncle loves to bring up politics but you’d rather not discuss it, don’t engage the conversation. Make an effort not to bring up politics when in this family setting. Even if your uncle brings it up and tries to egg you on, it’s up to you how you respond. This goes for competing sports teams, universities, or cousin rivalries. Say, “We can agree to disagree and leave it at that” or “I’d really rather not get into that here and I’d prefer to have a great family gathering without this argument again.” Your cousin may say something really offensive that you immediately want to fire back on or correct, but take a breath and decide whether it’s worth engaging or not. If your grandfather says something offensive, ask yourself whether your comment will alter his perception or if it will spark a debate. Sometimes you have to grit your teeth and say, “You’re entitled to your opinion" and move on. Live and let live. If you can’t stand your relative due to a conflict, see if you can resolve the conflict between you and your relative. You may need to find time to sit down, be honest with each other, and clear the air. When approaching your relative, be kind, compassionate, and non-defensive.  The sooner you resolve conflicts, the less resentment will build up. Be willing to forgive. You don’t have to ignore the situation or pretend it didn’t happen, but learn to forgive so that you can release the hurt in pain from within yourself. If you have a relative that seems to want things from you (money, free labor, a place to stay, etc.), don’t be afraid to say no. Remember that you have the right to say “no”. If you want to consider things before you immediately say “yes”, you also have the right to wait and think things over before you agree to anything. You don’t have to justify your response or give an excuse. Just say, “I’m sorry, I’m unable to do that.” You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Perhaps your difficulties arise because of certain passive aggressive remarks from your relative comparing you to other...

Summary in Indonesian:
Hindari perdebatan yang terjadi berulang-ulang. Bertindaklah dengan bijaksana. Selesaikan masalah yang terjadi. Katakan “tidak”. Hindari taktik manipulatif berupa perilaku pasif-agresif. Berpeganglah pada peraturan keluarga. Kelola situasi yang menyulitkan sebaik mungkin.