If you two have chemistry, small talk will flow into deeper conversation. Allow yourself to shift from casual banter to more personal subjects. Take advantage of openings that allow you to get to know each other better:  I take guitar lessons too! Why did you pick guitar over all the other instruments in the world? You get your license in three months? Where would you go if you had a car? School break is only two weeks away! Where are you going for the holidays? She will only be as honest and revealing as you are. Most people don’t express their true feelings because they fear rejection, not because they aren’t interested. If you tell her know how much she means to you, she will feel safe to tell you the same.  Every time I see you my world lights up. You are the most beautiful girl in this city. I feel like you understand me better than anyone else. Frame questions so your girlfriend feels free to elaborate, provide backstory, and express feelings. Don’t stall the conversation with questions that she will likely answer with just yes or no. Don't: start with leading phrases like I bet you... or You must have...Do: use How..., Why..., and What... openers. Conversations are two-sided, and listening is as important as speaking. Don’t interrupt or talk over your girlfriend. Pay attention to what she says, and wait until she has finished her thoughts to ask questions. Encourage her to share more.  What happened next? How did that make you feel? Why do like In-N-Out milkshakes best? You want to be honest with your girlfriend, but you don’t want to offend her or make her feel uncomfortable. Gauge her enthusiasm throughout the conversation. If she sounds excited about a topic, explore it more. If she becomes quiet or unsure and says I don’t know, Maybe or I guess a lot, steer the conversation to more enjoyable territory.  Identify sensitive subjects as you get to know your girlfriend better and stay clear. You want your conversations to be positive experiences. Dredging up bad memories (her parents’ divorce, an...

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