Believe it or not, humans can “catch” emotions as easily as we catch colds. If you spend a lot of time with people who are happy and positive, you’re more likely to feel that way yourself. If you spend a lot of time with people who are focused on negativity, that will rub off on you as well. Surround yourself with people who care for you, respect you and others, and enrich your life.  Who do you spend your time with? How do they make you feel about yourself? Do you feel respected and validated by the people in your life?  This isn’t to suggest that your friends and loved ones shouldn’t offer constructive critique. In fact, sometimes we need a friend to point out when we’ve done something thoughtless or hurtful. However, you should always feel like your loved ones approach you with kindness and respect, and you should treat them the same way. Learning to  communicate assertively (but not aggressively) can help you feel stronger, more confident, and more fulfilled. Assertive communication acknowledges that both you and others have needs, and works to give everyone a way to be heard.  Be open and honest but don’t use judging or blaming language. If someone has hurt you, it’s healthy to share your feelings with him or her. However, don’t use language that puts blame on the other person, such as “You were so unkind to me” or “You don’t even care about my needs.” Use “I”-statements. Using statements that focus on what you are feeling and experiencing keep you from sounding blaming or judging. For example, “I felt hurt when you forgot to pick me up from work. I felt like my needs were not important to you.” Give constructive criticism and accept it from others. Don’t simply tell others to do or not to do something. Explain why you are asking. Invite others to share their needs and ideas with you. Use cooperative language, such as “What would you like to do?” or “What do you think?” Instead of automatically feeling a need to assert your own point of view, try saying something like “Tell me more” when you hear...

TL;DR in Indonesian:
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