First, read the English article below.

One of the biggest changes to make is to let go of trying to control the outcome of every situation. Realize that the only thing you can control is your reaction to a situation, you rarely (if ever) can control the situation itself. The need for control is rooted in fear, and if you're acting from a place of fear, you are not loving life.  Ask yourself what you're afraid of if you relinquish the need to control the outcome of a given situation. As an example, if you feel your girlfriend forgetting the wine for a big evening is going to ruin the evening, question that assumption. Will it actually be ruined? It could be that your attitude will actually ruin the evening, rather than the lack of wine. For example: If you're just embarking on a relationship (or just looking), it's fine to plan ahead for where you'd like to see the relationship go, as long as you remain open-minded to the fact that it may not end up how you originally planned or envisioned it to be. Another example is if you have a health issue (of any kind). Instead of holding a constant anger about the situation, remember that you can't control the health issue (although you can do things to help or make it worse), you can only control how you act about the situation. This doesn't mean that you can twist your body into a pretzel shape, this means that you are open to different possibilities. It ties in with letting go of the need to control the outcome because if you aren't acting in a flexible manner towards life, you're going to come up against something that will break you. Be okay with changing plans or leaving some things undone if necessary. If you are rigid in your approach to most things in life, you can create resistance which will stop you from enjoying the present moment. Always thinking about others is loving and living your life. Do what you want to do as this life is yours and you have to operate it. Do not be distracted by anyone in your life with your aim. Regardless of whether you are at a high or low point in life, try to live... 

Now, please write a short abstract for it in Chinese. Abstract:
抛开控制欲。 灵活一点。 多为自己着想。 无论生活是好是坏，都要坚持自己的价值观。 直面问题。 放松。