You've made your mind up to change, but how and why? Clearly identifying the problem, or the aspect of yourself that is leading you to seek change, is the only way it can be solved. What will changing result in?  It's best to start positive. Write down a list of what you like about yourself. If that's difficult, what do others say they like about you? Knowing your good qualities makes it easier to draw on them later to get rid of the habits you're trying to kick. In one sentence, state exactly what you want. Make sure it's what you want and not what others think you should want. If you don't actually desire change, it won't come. Next, make a list of reasons why you want this change. Seeing all the motivations written down in front of you--and referring to it later--will keep you on the right path. Making self-affirmations, or telling yourself positive things about yourself, may help you establish your core values and stay focused on the person you want to be.  While unrealistic self-affirmations (like “I accept everything about myself completely”) may not work because they could trigger potential argument with yourself, realistic positive statements like “I am a valuable person and a hard worker” may help you stay positive and even become a better problem-solver. To make effective self-affirmations, try the following:  Use “I am” statements For example, “I am a good person;” “I am a hard worker;” “I am creative.”  Use “I can” statements For example, “I can reach my full potential;” “I can become who I want to be;” “I can achieve my goals.”  Use “I will” statements For example, “I will become the person I want to be;” “I will overcome obstacles;” “I will prove to myself that I can improve my life.” Visualization is a kind of mental rehearsal that can help you imagine a different situation.  You can have an abstract visualization (all in your head) or a more concrete expression of your visualization, like a collection of images that represent what you're working towards.  Effective visualization can help you...

TL;DR in Chinese:
发现问题。 自我肯定。 将改变后的未来可视化。 做好遇到障碍的准备。 从表面的失败中学习。 耐心。