Make sure you know what is most important to you in order to live your life they way you want. Things you want need to be consistent with those values. If they aren't, you may not be able to accomplish them, or you may lose something important in the process. These conflicts aren't always apparent at first glance. For example, if your goal is to start a business, that will take up significant amounts of time. If one of your values involves spending lots of time with your family, those ideas may come into conflict. Broad goals like "make more money" or "get healthier" are good starts, but you'll want more detail. Define success clearly, and with some clear measurable signs of progress. This can help you get a sense how you are doing, and the steps you will need to take to get there. For example, rather than a broad goal like "get healthier," pick a specific benchmark like "be able to run a 10K" or "lose 20 pounds." Include your reasons for wanting it. This can make your desire seem more concrete, and give you a reminder of what you want. It can also help to clarify if this is something you really want, or if there is something more. Many people, especially women, don't ask for things because they feel they are inadequate or undeserving. Think about why you might feel this way.  Examining and acknowledging your fears can clarify what you need to do to get what you want. Don't worry about other people's wants and concerns. Your life, boundaries, and desires are different from others, and that's okay. Recognizing what you want, and how it is unique to you, is an important step to getting what you want. Sometimes, there are things out there that you didn't even know you wanted. Be open to new accomplishments, jobs, and experiences, anything that could potentially broaden your horizons and change your perspective on the world. Listen to other people's suggestions for new things to try, like taking a class, or exploring the outdoors. You may find a new hobby or life goal that you hadn't previously considered.

TL;DR in Chinese:
明白自己的价值观。 明确自己的目标。 写下你想要的东西，包括你想要的原因。 告诉自己，这是你应得的。 尝试新事物。