欢爱本是件轻松有趣的事，不要把它搞得那么严肃复杂。 和她谈心之后，等待她主动与你口交。 让口交慢慢成为你们性生活的一部分，但是不要过分强调这件事。 让她能对自己的身体有所掌控，按她的节奏和速度来。 做完之后，问问她喜欢什么姿势或者有什么想要尝试的。 你要明白口交是极为亲密的行为，双方可能需要一些时间磨合才行。 你得明白她可能永远也无法接受或享受口交。

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Ignore the movies, which portray sex as a deeply serious act of soul-wrenching power. More often than not, especially in committed relationships, sex is a fluid, often-awkward, and always fun activity that only you two share. Having a light-hearted attitude may seem like useless advice, but people are way more willing to try something new when they can laugh off any initial issues or awkwardness  If you like something in the moment, let her know! This is the best way to build comfort, trust, and a great shared sex life. If something goes "wrong," simply smile! If something goofy happens, like you fall off the bed somehow, don't be afraid to laugh -- it won't kill the mood. Successful sex lives are about feeling calm and comfortable, and no one is more at ease than when smiling and laughing with their significant other. " Never make demands, get upset, force her to give you oral sex, or blatantly ask for it, especially as things are heating up. You've said your piece, and she's said hers, and there is no need to start pushing it now. When she's ready, she'll initiate things herself. If you've discussed ways to bring oral sex into your relationship, and several weeks or months pass without any change, you should bring the conversation back up during a quiet, respectful moment. Not all oral sex has to be to completion. A good way to make her more comfortable is to bring oral sex into foreplay, then moving on to positions you're both more naturally comfortable with. This can help her start to find her comfort level and keep the conversation alive and find a level of compromise. She needs to feel completely safe. Make sure she knows, if you hold her head or her hair while engaging in such intimate relations, you'll always maintain enough control of yourself to be able to avoid restraining her head in the heat of passion. It's fine, and can even be desirable, to hold her hair out of the way, or place your hand on her head or shoulder, but it should be in a way that's very gentle and comforting to her. If she...