When he starts to let you get close to him, be friends first. There is no such thing as a girlfriend who isn't first and foremost a friend. In fact, the best girlfriend is one who is not always romantic, but one that is a friend. This does not mean betraying or belittling your own beliefs. Yours are every bit as important as his. Discuss them when you can.  Listen to what he has to say. Always hear him out. Take the opportunity to learn new facts about him. Respect what he says but form your own opinions about them. Have conversations with him. Attraction often starts when we have a great emotional connection with someone by really bonding with him. Try to have interesting, funny, playful conversations with him to establish that bond. It doesn't matter what you talk about. The important thing is that you have meaningful interaction.  Ask him about his background — his parents, his childhood, his siblings. These things are personal, so be respectful. Offer to share your own background to give him a better idea of who you are. Ask him about his goals — what he always dreamed about being, what he's interested in, what makes him happy. You can learn a lot about a person from his goals. Start thinking about your own goals so that you can share them with him. No matter how much you trust your friends, if they ever become mad at you they could go behind your back and tell him something you said about him.  Stick up for him if he gets teased or involved in a fight. Don't let him wonder whether or not you're his friend — make it absolutely clear. Don't gossip about him. Gossip has a way of spreading like wildfire. You don't want juicy stuff getting back to him quite yet. Shut down the gossip. Small talk is fine in the beginning; you don't want to rush into it, or else it will seem weird. But smile, be nice, and talk with his friends. He'll want you to get along with them. You might have to be the one who asks him, but if he agrees, it won't matter that you're the one asking him.  At first, hang out with a group of...

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当他开始让你靠近，先从朋友做起。 从他的意见与建议里寻找价值观点。 尝试勿在朋友群里说他的坏话。 尽量亲近他的朋友。 开始一起做事。