Article in English: Define your pain and label it for what it is instead of letting it define you. A major disappointment or an unexpected hurt can be hard to accept. It may be so painful that you can barely stand it. Still, acknowledging your pain can help you heal and move on.  Take a few moments to just breathe and think about your feelings without trying to judge or analyze them. For example, you might think, “I'm feeling sad and angry because of my fight with Shirley.” Naming your feelings will allow you to separate those feelings from who you are as a person. Remind yourself that it's okay to feel however you feel—your negative emotions do not make you a bad person, a failure, or any less of a person. Don't try to ignore your emotions or deny what you are feeling. Ultimately, this will just make it harder to deal with them. If you've experienced a major hurt, you may need time to feel sad, frustrated, confused, or angry. Depending on what happened, you may struggle with these feelings for months or even years. Remind yourself that it's normal to experience negative feelings after a loss or betrayal, and don't try to force yourself to get over it or move on before you're ready.   When you're grieving, you may feel sad, angry, confused, hopeless, or even guilty about what you are feeling (or not feeling). You might also find yourself focusing or obsessing on the bad event. You will likely experience ups and downs, feeling much better one day and then worse again the next. If you feel like you can't cope with your grief or that it's making it hard for you to function from day to day, talk to your doctor or a counselor about what you're going through. You may not be able to ignore or change the emotions that you feel after being hurt, but there are ways to manage them. Emotions are an important part of being a human—they allow you to feel for yourself and others. Still, they can also take over your life if you let them. You can gain control of your emotions by trying a number of strategies:  Try taking a positive action. If...

Summary in Vietnamese:
Thừa nhận và chấp nhận điều khiến bạn tổn thương. Cho phép bản thân đau khổ. Kiểm soát cảm xúc. Thực hiện một phương pháp giúp bạn khép lại trải nghiệm đau thương. Tránh bám víu vào quá khứ.