Ask your mother-in-law out for coffee or lunch and explain that you don’t want any bad blood and that you respect her. Calmly explain that you feel like she argues with you a lot and ask what you can do to help resolve the issue. You may not like her answers, but you’ll get some insight into the underlying problem.  If your mother-in-law completely denies the fact that she argues with you, she may simply have no idea that she’s doing it. This could be an indication that she isn’t actively trying to criticize you. Drop the topic and see if her behavior changes after you’ve brought it to her attention. If your mother-in-law simply says she doesn’t like you, there isn’t much you can do. Show her that you’re a worthy partner for her child by staying out of arguments with her and agreeing to disagree. If she can’t even discuss the problem without starting a fight, enlist your spouse to talk to her. Ask him to calm her down and open up a channel of communication with her. She may simply feel uncomfortable talking to you about her grievances. If she won’t communicate constructively, don’t engage in an argument. Your mother-in-law is likely trying to pick a fight and this will create a vicious cycle where you’re rewarding her by giving her what she wants. If your mother-in-law comes at you when you’re in front of your spouse or children, show her that you won’t let her treat you unfairly by standing up for yourself. Use a firm and respectful tone to point out that she’s behaving irresponsibly and focus on her behavior instead of the content of the argument.  For example, if she says something like, “You’re so bad at keeping track of things. Why are you such a disorganized mess?” Respond by saying, “Ms. Smith, I don’t know why you think it’s reasonable to try shaming your child’s partner, but it’s unacceptable. Please stop.” Point out that there is a time and place for tough conversations. Say, “We can have an adult conversation about this privately, but I’m not going to sit here and argue in front of our guests.” If...

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Nói chuyện với mẹ chồng để tìm ra nguyên nhân vấn đề. Đề nghị chồng nói chuyện với mẹ chồng nếu bà không cởi mở. Đứng lên tranh đấu khi mẹ chồng chỉ trích bạn một cách công khai. Biết khi nào thì nên vùng dậy để chứng tỏ mẹ chồng là người gây ra vấn đề.