and forget. After the initial phase of shock and grief has passed, you’ll find yourself in a place where you can let things go and remain cool. When you forgive your ex for everything that happened, the forgetting can start. That’s okay; it’s the natural cycle. Remember: forgiveness is something you do for yourself, not the other person.  One way to forgive someone is to start by remembering what it is you want to forgive. Recall how it made you feel. Notice your thoughts about yourself and about your ex.  Reflect on this experience. What can you learn from it? Perhaps there are things you would do differently. Perhaps there are things you hope the other person would do differently. What will you look for in the future? How will you use this experience to grow? Remember that forgiveness isn’t an excuse for bad behavior. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to reconcile with that person, or that you’re saying s/he was “right” to do what s/he did. It means letting go of the burden of anger. Forgiveness makes you free. Remind yourself that you cannot control how others act. The only thing you can control is your own actions and responses. Tell yourself that you forgive the other person for his or her mistakes. And remember that it can take some time for you to fully feel forgiveness -- that’s okay. Right now it’s likely that you’re dwelling on the past. Why is that? You can’t change it. It won’t do "future you" any good. What if you thought about the future? That would definitely make thinking positive much, much easier. Spend a little time reflecting on what you’ve learned from the situation, and then take some time to plan for the future.  Use this time to consider what you can learn from this relationship to take into the future. What will you do differently? Make a list of things you learned didn't work in the relationship and things that did work. Then write down the attributes you would like your new partner to have, what type of person he or she is, physical attributes, characteristics, and so on....

TL;DR in Vietnamese:
Tha thứ và quên đi mọi việc. Ngẫm nghĩ đôi chút về quá khứ, nhưng sau đó hãy suy nghĩ về tương lai. Tìm hiểu về con người thật của bạn. Thúc đẩy bản thân rời khỏi vùng thoải mái. Cho phép bản thân có thời gian để vượt qua mọi chuyện.