Before you strike up a conversation you’re your spouse about having kids, take some time to examine your own reasons for wanting to have kids. Write them out in as much detail as possible to help you prepare for a conversation with your spouse. Consider whether your motivation is internal or external. Do you want to have kids because you think your friends and family expect you to do so? Or do you have an internal desire to have kids? How can you tell that your desire is rooted in yourself? Don’t approach your spouse at the end of a stressful day or when he or she is distracted. Instead, plan your conversation for a time when you and your spouse are relaxed and can devote your full attention to the matter. For example, you might plan to talk on Saturday morning after you have had breakfast. Make sure that you sit down face to face and put away all distractions (cell phones, laptops, etc.) when you have your conversation. Be honest and tell your partner why you want to have kids. Use the notes that you made to help you explain point-by-point why having children is important to you and why you want to do it now. State your case in a calm, clear voice and be as detailed as possible about your reasons. If your partner is not ready to have children, then it is important for you to hear about the concerns that he or she has about the process. Ask your partner to share his or her concerns with you and to be as honest as possible. Even if your partner is 100% against having children, it is important for you to listen to your partner with an open mind and to show that you respect his or her desires. Make sure that you maintain eye contact, nod to show that you are listening, and ask questions if your partner says anything that you do not understand. If your partner is in favor of having kids, then you will need to talk about your readiness and determine if there is anything that you need to do before you get started.

TL;DR in Vietnamese:
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