Article in English: Obsession also prevents your personal growth and individuation. It isn't possible to get all that you need in life from another human being and trying to do so will smother the other person and will leave you feeling dependent and helpless. These are all negative outcomes for both you and the person you're in the relationship with. You love a person because of who you are, not because of who they are. This person cannot fulfill the things that lack within you; only you can do that. Being in love is a choice, not something that is visited upon you as some sort of salvation. Love isn't an excuse or a distraction from the challenges you're facing in life. Love isn't a way to hide from the hard task of growing up, maturing and finding your own pathway in life. While you are obsessing over one person, it is possible that you are failing to see the limitations of the relationship and its use-by date. Meanwhile, the person who would actually be more compatible with you might walk right on by while you're enslaved to an obsessive, one-sided relationship. By not obsessing over any person in your life, you free yourself to know that the relationships you are in are right for you, and if not, to start extricating yourself and looking for healthier connections. The person you're with may have priorities in his or her life that you just don't understand.  Becoming obsessed and hoping like crazy that your mere existence will be enough to change these priorities reveals a lack of understanding and suggests that you're in need of a reality check. People who change plans because of someone pushing them tend to end up really resenting that person. It may not show now but it will surface eventually, and it often happens when you're so deeply embedded that losing this person is like losing a part of yourself. It is better to be wise to the possibilities from the start rather than to fantasize, cajole and pressure this person into loving you. If you think this is the right person for you, remind yourself that they may not be in...

Summary in Vietnamese:
Nhận thức rõ nguy hiểm trong việc ám ảnh với một người nào đó. Tìm kiếm tình yêu chân thật. Bạn cần phải hiểu rõ là ám ảnh có thể tước đoạt mọi cơ hội của bạn. Cần nhớ rằng thời gian là yếu tố quan trọng và mỗi người mỗi khác. Thư giãn nhiều hơn.