Before you can learn to love others, you will have to learn to love yourself. This isn't the sort of vain, self-absorbed love; it's the love that accepts you for the person you are, that delves deep to unearth the skills and values that truly make up who you are and embraces these. Remind yourself that you are a kind, compassionate person and most of all, that you're worthy. Coupled with virtuous and kind actions, this will help you to be more self-accepting and understanding.  Try writing about your experiences from the perspective of a totally loving, accepting friend, rather than from your own point of view. Studies suggest that getting this kind of distance can help you process negative emotions rather than ignore or repress them. Acknowledging your feelings is a key component of self-compassion. We're often far kinder to others than we are to ourselves; show yourself the same acceptance you would a loved one.  Give yourself small moments of self-compassion throughout the day, especially when you notice that you're experiencing something unpleasant. For example, if you are really behind on a project at work, you might judge yourself or work yourself into an anxiety attack. Instead, first use mindfulness to acknowledge your stress: “I'm feeling stressed right now.” Then, acknowledge that everyone experiences this from time to time: “I'm not alone in this.” Finally, give yourself a compassionate touch, such as placing your hand over your heart. Repeat something positive to yourself: “I can learn to be strong. I can learn to be patient. I can learn to accept myself.” Take time to appreciate your talents and best features, whether they are physical or internal. The more hostile you are toward yourself, the more hostile you are likely to be toward others.  Begin by keeping a record of when you experience negative thoughts about yourself. Note what the situation was, what you thought, and the consequences of those thoughts. For example, you might create an entry that looks something like this: “Today I went to...

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