Emotional self-reliance means that you can process your own emotions and do not require others to validate your experience and feelings for you. Learning to process feelings and emotions on your own means learning how to be introspective and look for less obvious reasons for feelings rather than taking things at face value.  This process can lead to insight about the root of your feelings and ways to you can begin to avoid negative feelings. Ways to learn how to be more introspective and thoughtful include professional therapy, self-help books, and certain religious teachings (e.g., buddhist teaching on identity and the ways that it can contribute to suffering). If you already feel emotionally self-reliant in your relationship, you should seek to keep that feeling, even in the face of a major change, such as expecting a new child. Often people respond to hurt feelings by engaging others to help them process the experience and to avoid talking with the person that hurt them directly.  The psychologist Murray Bowen calls these situations “triangles.” If there is something weighing on your relationship, express your anxieties and share experiences without allowing other people to heighten your anxiety, make your anxiety chronic, or trying to solve the problem for you.  Put another way, people should act as resources to one another, but should not make the situation worse, and should not replace an individual’s own thinking. When two or more people have a shared responsibility, individuals must be self-reliant by meeting their individual responsibilities in a fair way.   People must also be able to meet individual responsibilities without neglecting shared responsibilities. Each person in a relationship must remain confident of the loyalty and commitment of the other people, as well as their ability to meet their responsibilities. For example, if a couple has a baby, they will have shared responsibilities as parents and individual responsibilities as a worker or primary caregiver. If one person stays at home to...

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