You should take your time to think about what you want from your spouse before you begin a conversation with him or her. Don't just start talking about the cheating and move on right to crying and making up. Instead, take some time to formulate a game plan so your spouse knows what you expect from him if he wants the relationship to continue. This shouldn't feel like a punishment, but like a plan to move forward together.  Let your partner know what he or she needs to do for you to continue the relationship. This can include going to counseling together and possibly apart, taking concrete steps to rediscover the things you loved to do together, making time for communication every night, or sleeping in separate rooms until you feel comfortable sharing a space again. If you're thinking about getting a divorce, you may want to retain a lawyer as early as you can. The sooner you do this, the better bargaining position you'll have. Even if you really feel ready to forgive your spouse or for things to get back to normal, you should know that it can take a long time to regain that trust and loving feeling you once had for your spouse. Even if you're both determined to make it work, it can take a long time for things to feel, for lack of a better word, “normal” again, and for you to feel fondness toward the person you married. This is perfectly natural. If you try to rush things along you may run into trouble.  You won't be able to forgive your partner or to feel like things are back to normal overnight. It can take months, or even years, to rebuild that trust again. You'll have to take it slow, too. It may take many days for you to feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed as your partner again, going out to dinner with him, or to enjoy doing the things you loved to do together. Be prepared for that. Let your spouse know what you're feeling. Tell him about the anger, the hurt, the betrayal, and the pain he has put your through. Don't keep your guard up and act like it wasn't that big of a deal; let him really see...

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अपनी माँगें सामने रखिए: उसे समय दीजिये: अपनी भावनाएँ सामने आने दीजिये: वे सवाल पूछिये जिनके जवाब चाहते हों: परीक्षण करवाइए: अपने जीवनसाथी की बात सुनिए: प्रतिदिन अपना कम्यूनिकेशन सुधारिए: तय करिए कि क्या आप उसे ठीक करना चाहते हैं: