Counselor: Many people assume that personal conflicts are inevitable, but that assumption is just not so  Personal conflicts arise primarily because people are being irrational  For instance, people often find it easier to ascribe bad qualities to a person than good ones -- even when there is more evidence of the latter
If someone suspects that a friend is unreliable, for example, a single instance may turn this suspicion into a feeling of certainty, whereas a belief that someone is reliable is normally built up only after many years of personal interaction
Unlike a suspicion that a friend is unreliable, a belief that someone is reliable is normally built up only after many years of personal interaction.