Breast cancer bone metastasis has become a common cancer type that still lacks an effective treatment method. Although epigenetic drugs have demonstrated promise in cancer therapy, their nontargeted accumulation and drug resistance remain nonnegligible limiting factors. Herein, we first found that icaritin had a strong synergistic effect with an epigenetic drug (JQ1) in the suppression of breast cancer, which could help to relieve drug resistance to JQ1. To improve tumor-targeted efficacy, we developed a hypoxia-cleavable, RGD peptide-modified poly(D,L-lactide-co-glycolide) (PLGA) nanoparticle (termed ARNP) for the targeted delivery of JQ1 and icaritin. The decoration of long cleavable PEG chains can shield RGD peptides during blood circulation and reduce cellular uptake at nonspecific sites. ARNP actively targets breast cancer cells via an RGD-αvβ3 integrin interaction after PEG chain cleavage by responding to hypoxic tumor microenvironment. In vitro and in vivo assays revealed that ARNP exhibited good biodistribution and effectively suppressed primary tumor and bone metastasis. Meanwhile, ARNP could alleviate bone erosion to a certain extent. Furthermore, ARNP significantly inhibited pulmonary metastasis secondary to bone metastasis. The present study suggests that ARNP has great promise in the treatment of breast cancer and bone metastasis due to its simple and practical potential.Supplementary InformationThe online version contains supplementary material available at 10.1186/s12951-023-01939-7.