BackgroundLimited data exist regarding the type of support patients need when experiencing early pregnancy loss (EPL). The objective of this study is to explore how patients emotionally cope with EPL and to assess if there is interest in a peer EPL support program with a self-compassion component.MethodsWe conducted semi-structured interviews with patients who experienced EPL in the past two years. We evaluated the kinds of support that patients felt were most helpful, interest in a possible peer EPL support person, and suggestions for the creation of such a program. Content analysis was utilized to analyze the data and identify themes.ResultsTwenty-one individuals participated in the study. Approximately 52.3% (n = 11) of interviewees reported expectant management of their EPL, 23.8% (n = 5) reported medication management, and 23.8% (n = 5) reported undergoing dilation and curettage. We identified five themes: (1) therapy and in-person support groups are helpful when experiencing EPL, but are sometimes inaccessible; (2) social media support groups are initially advantageous for creating a sense of solidarity, but in the long term can be triggering; (3) support from a peer who has also experienced EPL is uniquely valuable; (4) developing self-compassion is important in emotionally coping with EPL; and (5) there is a demand for emotional and informational support following EPL.ConclusionsGiven the unique support participants identified receiving from a peer with shared lived experience, there is interest in a peer EPL support program with a self-compassion component for emotional and informational support following EPL.Supplementary InformationThe online version contains supplementary material available at 10.1186/s12884-023-05816-x.