Monday, October 16, 2017

Is busyness normal-and should it be?

It seems like just yesterday that eclairs were made, St. Francis was celebrated, and October was welcomed in with brisk air. Here we are, halfway through the month, and I am wondering where exactly the time has gone (especially as I think about all of the blog posts I meant to write, but didn't even start).

Years ago, I learned an acronym: BUSY-Being Under Satan's Yoke. The idea behind this is that when we are busy and preoccupied with various matters, we do not make time for God, and we may fail to live peacefully in accordance with His will in the present moment. We recall the passage in the Bible when Jesus visited Mary & Martha, and ponder how Martha was "anxious and worried about many things" (Lk 10:41)-and we resolve to be more like Mary, rejecting the busyness and anxiety of Martha.

Yet, as much as we decry the status of being "busy," we still uphold this as a good thing. How many times have we heard (or taken part of) the following conversation?

"Hi! How are you, and how is your life?"

"Oh, you know, busy, but good. And you? Are you keeping busy?"

In my own life, I've found that treating busyness like a good thing can come from a desire to feel needed and important. If we're busy, it can be because we're doing good things for other people-and this makes us feel valued. No matter what stage in life we are-single, married, parent of teenagers-we can justify busyness somehow.

I don't think we should continue to accept this narrative. I don't think we should promote the notion that living in a state of preoccupation and busyness should be normal. While there are circumstances and short periods where yes, this makes sense (ie: Vacation Bible School week at church), we need to stop making this the standard for normal life, day-to-day, 24/7.

I'm finding that a weekend or month may be full of activities, but it still does not necessarily need the mental preoccupation and chaos of being "busy." Instead, I can make peace a priority and calmly accept whatever God sends my way. Instead of saying, "Oh, life is good, I'm keeping busy, how about you?" I've started using a different response: "Life is full."

Full of joys.
Full of struggles.
Full of sorrows.
Full of adventures.
Full of love.
Full of grace.
Full of beauty.
Full of peace.

There is so much depth to my day-to-day life, and regardless of whether I'm bouncing from library-to playdate-to errands or simply spending a morning at home, if I let God's peace truly overcome my life, I'm not really "busy" or overly preoccupied. My heart is full, and my soul is at rest.

Even so, there are still days when I fight the temptation to become busy, preoccupied, and anxious. In these moments, when I start to feel myself into "keep ALL the plates spinning!" mode, I like to grab a piece of paper and just start writing. I write down whatever commitments or tasks are colliding in my mind, and I start delegating these to different days (one per day). After I do this, I'm able to see that everything I think I need to do "urgently" is not really a pressing matter, and there will be time for it all.
Together, let's stop living the "busy life," and begin upholding the "full life."
Posted by AnneMarie at Monday, October 16, 2017 Labels: Oklahoma Living, Spiritual Life Hi! I'm AnneMarie. Let's talk about literature, liturgical living, and the epic adventures that happen in the routines of daily life.
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