The TV host and producer, who was adopted shortly after she was born, is opening up about how she didn't meet her birth mother until she was 22.

"Being adopted was always part of the conversation," she told 9Honey, although it wasn't until she turned 21 -- and the laws changed -- that she was able to access information about her birth mother.

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At 22, Rochester was ready. Armed only with her real mum's name -- Kaylene Beverly Rochester -- she and her best friend sat down to try and track her down.

"We called all the Rochesters in the phone book until we found her," she explained.

And as luck would have it, it turned out Rochester already knew her mum.

"I knew her previously without knowing she was my mum," she explained.

"My best friend and I were actors in her theatre restaurant so when we met it was crazy because we already knew each other. It was so surreal that the woman I had spent my whole life wanting to meet was already in my life."

Ajay shared a photo of her first meeting with her birth mother, 22 years in the making, only to have her mum pass away just two years later.

"The moment I was reunited with my birth mother," the 38-year-old wrote on her Facebook page.

"She never got to hold me when I was born. I was taken from her as soon as she gave birth."

Of meeting her birth mother, Rochester said they only had two years together.

"When I found her, she owned Heidi’s ski lodge in Perisher so we would spend so much time down there. We’d go to lunches, I’d go and hang out with her and her two sons, and we talked on the phone a lot. But I only knew her for two years when she died suddenly. I thought I had years with her. Such a loss."

"I miss you darling mother. You and I are so much alike even though we barely knew each other."

Ajay said she can't help but feel sad, at this time of the year in particular. "Mother's Day makes me sad. I see everyone with their pics and it just makes me so mad. They literally stole my life when they decided that a single mother was not allowed to bring up a child on her own," she explained.

"Times have certainly changed."

Ajay claims her birth mother was forced to give her up for adoption, and when her mum asked to hold her, was told she'd already left the hospital.

Instead, the baby remained in hospital for two months before being picked up by her adopted family.

What Rochester wants most more than anything is for her birth certificate to state her true origins.

"My birth certificate is a lie. It is a legal document but has my adopted parents info on it," she told 9Honey. "I want to be able to petition the government to allow me the right to have my legal documents be the truth and not a lie."

The now LA-based producer describes the two years she spent with her birth mother as "crazy" and says the day she found her mum it was the "happiest moment of her life."

"She told me she was tricked into signing the adoption papers before I was born. She later changed her mind but was told I was gone," Rochester explained.

"Mother's Day is always bittersweet," Rochester explained.

While she loves her son Kai, 18, he has Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and isn't able to show his mum how much he cares for her any day of the year, let alone Mother's Day.

"I'm a mum with a kid with ASD which means he doesn't show that he cares, and it's also the day I am reminded my mother missed most of my life," she told 9Honey.

"This Mother's Day, cherish every moment because you never know when it will end."
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