The best advice I can give you is to ask yourself what do you want, then ask "what is true" - and then ask yourself "what should be done about it."
"Iseluleko esihle engingakunika sona ukuthi uzibuze ukuthi ufunani, bese ubuza ukuthi" yini eyiqiniso "- bese ubuza ukuthi 'yini okufanele yenziwe ngakho'.