When they tell you how incompetent that person is they mean 'I know that person is better than me but I want to ensure that at least you are with me.'
Uma bekutshela ezingasebenzi kanjani ngempela lowo muntu is they mean 'Ngiyazi ukuthi umuntu ungcono kunami kodwa ngifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi okungenani wena unami.'