If there's a loving man who's ready, keen, and capable of contribute to a child's life, why not encourage him, rather than pushing him away?
Loko mutswari lowun'wana ngopfu-ngopfu tatana, a pfumeleriwa ku tshama ni n'wana, a ri ni vutihlamuleri naswona a tsakela ku ku pfuna, ha yini u nga n'wi kombeli leswaku a ku pfuna hi swin'wana?