Some airlines do seminars for exactly that (for example Lufthansa ).
They explain to you beforehand
what sounds you are going to hear, what motions you feel, where they come from and what they mean.
Then, they take you on a short flight so you can experience it all with someone giving you live commentary on what is happening.
The advantage of those courses is that you feel less like locked into an aluminum can without any idea what is happening but rather experience a flight as an informed person.
There are also many other coaches and courses to combat fear of flying.
However, in the end, fear of flying - depending on the level - is a phobia just like any other.
It is safer to travel by air than by car for example.
The vast majority of spiders are completely harmless, too.
From the subject matter, it does not really matter so much if you have arachno-phobia or fear of flying, the psychological process of getting rid of that fear is just the same, but always depending on what works best for your brain.
There are many different ways to detect and to treat phobias, and once you determine if you just feel uncomfortable in turbulence or if you get a panic attack already when you step into the airplane, you can treat the issue accordingly.
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After more than a decade in the cabin crew business, I think it's time now to share a tip or two
I know:
Keep your mind busy.
Read a book, play a game on your smart phone, watch a movie, etc.
Take an aisle seat.
It will help you feel a bit in control when your anxiety peaks.
A little walk around the cabin can relieve it.
This is one of the cases where Xanax usage is legitimate, ask your doctor to prescribe some for you and use it shortly before the flight.
The first hour or so of the flight will be the hardest, fear will be less after that and it might start peaking again before landing.
Get enough sleep before the flight.
Do not force yourself to be awake for long time before the flight planning to sleep the whole flight.
If you have fear you know that you can't sleep, lack of sleep makes fear levels higher.
Sleep well before the flight to have a better mood during the flight.
No harm in telling a cabin crew member that you are worried about flying.
If you ever felt scared during the flight, look at their smiling faces, this will help you realize that things are ok.
Always remind yourself that flying is the safest transportation method.
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Visit your local airfield and take a flying lesson or two.
You'll better understand what's going on (Aha!
He's adding flaps
so the plane can fly slower!)
, and from then on the commercial flights might be much less scary by comparison.
And who knows, you might like flying.
Many flight schools offer free or low-cost introductory lessons.
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Distraction gives short-term relief while feeling fear during a flight.
I draw and paint flower postcards when we hit turbulence.
Big muscle activity helps to distract, but I must stay seated during turbulence, so at least my arms are in motion as I paint.
Then I give the postcards to friends and others who read my books about Constructive Living as proof that one can be scared to death and produce something constructively.
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Have you tried this website?: http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-a-Fear-of-Flying 1 - Face the facts.
Don't forget that the statistics are on your side.
One study found that it's 261 times safer to take a plane from New York to Los Angeles than to drive the same distance.
However, if this rational approach isn't doing much to address your irrational fear, then...
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There are non-drug techniques for overcoming anxiety that a competent psychologist can teach you to do on your own as needed.
There are a range of options that have been shown to be effective.
Two examples are hypnosis and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), but there are others as well.
A psychologist can help determine if these techniques can help you, and if so, which may be optimal in your case.
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I remember reading a great answer by a pilot on a Delta non-rev forum addressing fear of flying.
Can't find the link now, but basically it said that you need to think about the pilots as people, with families, life goals, etc, just like you.
They have had lots of training and experience, and like you, they have places to be back on land, and they will make 110% sure to give their best in order to get home safely back to their families.
Also, he mentioned about the extensive rules, maintenance schedules, and protocols that industry follows in order to keep everything running as smoothly as possible.
Not to mention all the amazing new technology that has made commercial flying super-safe.
Safer than driving, in fact.
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Are there tips and tricks for people with fear of flying that can makes them have a more pleasant experience when flying? I know drugs can do magic, and  we've previously had debate on pills vs alcohol . I'm ideally after official advice and recommendations, but other tips and tricks would be nice as well.
Are there tips and tricks to overcome a fear of flying?
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Some airlines (including Lufthansa) offer seminars for nervous flyers, and there are coaches and courses to combat this. Competent psychologists will be able to help you overcome anxiety associated with flying in similar ways to other phobias, and depending on the severity of the phobia. Ask your doctor whether anxiety  medication is recommended. When preparing to fly, get enough sleep beforehand and keep your mind occupied with a book, game or movie. Remind yourself that flying is the safest method of travel and don't force yourself to stay awake during the flight. You could also tell a cabin crew member that you are worried about flying. If you are afraid of flying, you can attend a course prior to your flight or practice some non-drug techniques to help you manage your anxiety. During the flight, it is recommended that you try to keep busy and get an aisle seat. It is a good idea to sleep well before the flight so your mood id better. Furthermore, you can tell the cabin crew of your fear, they are there to help. Xanax can be used to help. Finally, a flying lesson or two may help to allay your fears.
There are many courses and seminars to help people who are afraid of flying. There are also mnay ways to overcome phobias and non-drug techniques for overcoming anxiety. Tips for how to approach the flight include keeping busy, getting enough sleep before the flight, distract yourself and taking an aisle seat. Xanax may be used to combat fear of flying. The cabin crew can help too if you tell them. Always remember that flying is the safest form of transportation and maybe take a lesson or two to help you overcome the fear.