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I have relatives who have a special needs son in his 30s. He probably can’t live completely independently. They adopted a child 12 years the son’s junior for the sole purpose of taking care of the special needs son. They were very forthcoming about this
gpt
they're horrible people. like unabashedly horrible. Yes they're in a rough spot and wanting to make sure your child is cared for is certainly a strong and valid want, but adopting someone (or having a second child otherwise) simply to fulfill that purpose is robbing them of a childhood, an adulthood, a truly loving family, and autonomy over their life. I am the child of people with a kid who had a disability, they didn't have me for that purpose, she isn't incapable of taking care of herself and *can* live independent, and still I suffer negative impacts of being the non disabled sibling to one who is. I can only imagine if that was the only reason I was in my family how horrific and terrible life would be. I am only okay because I love my sister, she loves me, and our parents love us both, we understand the situation and what position they were in causing the unintentional favoring and preferences that were sometimes required in our household. those people are disgusting choosing to put a child through that with knowledge their parents only have them around because of what they will do to help and their love for their first child, not because they're wanted, loved, or anything to do them.