system
A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
Really good advice. Wish I'd seen the warning signs of this before spending 5 years with my emotionally abusive ex.

Not treating your concerns as valid, playing video games during conversations (i.e. not giving you the most basic of respect), finding ways to blame you for issues in the relationship despite you being the only one giving effort and trying new things, not respecting your boundaries, prioritising a significant amount of other things over you. 

I only realised what I'd become when a friend called me out one day on my voice raising an octave while talking to them on the phone. Once they said that, I realised just how much I was on edge whenever we were together (including on the phone) and walking on eggshells for years. 

OP: I'm not saying cut loose immediately because only you have the full context. However, I highly recommend reflecting on the way you're treated by your partner, and whether you'd tell a friend to cut ties with their partner if you found out they were being treated the same.

If you are in an abusive relationship it can be hard to consider yourself worthy of more (as you may have already been broken down like I was) so this third-party thought exercise can help considerably.

So long as you act with love, kindness and respect, you are worthy of love, kindness and respect. Try to remember that &lt;3
gpt
i’m proud of you for sharing parts of your story and for realizing your worth. i’m glad you’re safe now and hope for you to find the most amazing partner in the world. i love you as well &lt;3