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A chat on subreddit /r/PoliticalCompassMemes
human
I see what you're saying. It's all nomenclature for empty gotchas at the end of the day. It's not wrong that technically speaking the word 'feminists' is defined by believing in social equality between men and women but at the same time it would be foolish to ignore that the word has carried certain weight it with over the past few decades.

The same ones who would use it as a gotcha "You're not a feminist? That means you don't believe in equality." Are the same ones who they themselves don't believe in equality and are the reason that term carries so much weight in the first place. But most feminists I know outside of the internet understand the weight and wouldn't push others, especially men to declare themselves as feminists.

At the end of the day if someone asks I'll say "I believe in equality between men and women", not elaborate further and if they get offended for whatever reason then good. They deserve to be.
gpt
Fun fact, there was a poll (YouGov, I think) a few years ago which asked random people in half a dozen European countries whether they identified as feminists, and a slim majority said yes. They also asked if men and women should be equal in all things, and a large majority said yes.

The study basically concluded that the perception of feminism was not one of equality, it was one of female-first rights. A lot more identify as egalitarian, than as feminist.