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A chat on subreddit /r/wallstreetbets
human
I'm a woman, lead software dev, and after watching her vid I kept fantasizing how I could have a life like her. Actually it's a common trope I encounter in tiktok where tech people, especially women, seem to make it so easy.  And here I am, still feeling terrible from COVID but I don't want to call in sick for another day because sprint ends this week and I have to finish my tasks/bugs.


Adding on the temp role of scrum master for a Nov/Dec literally made me so stressed because my manager pressured me to check on my coworkers items but I felt like I literally had no authority(I'm lead only for my portion of team) and people kept coming to me for their problems that were way above my pay grade. Unrelialistic deadlines were approaching, and my manager's manager was breathing down on our neck for the project being delayed for the 5th time or something, when it was completely out of our control. People ask me to debug shit I don't even have access to. 


I also just want to go to the gym and then eat good stuff for lunch and code all day to end with a massage at 4:30. I feel like they shouldn't mislead people and especially women in STEM gotta support each other, not lie/set unrealistic expectations.

Edit: Thanks for the replies guys, sorry if I seemed like I was complaining a lot. I know it's her job to show that everything is well and dandy in tech but I find it frustrating a lot of people can gloss over your complaints because the job pays well and then they see vids like this and think that's validation.
gpt
Fellow  woman who is a software engineer, with an EE background. Tech is odd because a large percentage of "Women in tech" aren't doing technical roles, they do middle management jobs. A lot of them don't understand what engineers need to succeed as well. 

Her Video doesn't mention how many saturdays are worked, and sundays.. How many times you can be there from 6 am til midnight trying to work on last minute stuff sprung on you, watching your management leave after spending 5 hours on facebook at 4 PM then get mad if you don't do "good enough. Tech is a weird world that has you doing some pretty insane hours for a lot of stress.