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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
Exactly. I don’t move on to PIV ‘til my wife has orgasmed. When her needs/desires are taken care of my own don’t get neglected. 

Now, on rare occasion this approach can backfire. A guy recently posted in r/marriage that in an attempt to get his wife to show more interest in sex he started going down on her every night. He’s done this now every night for 6 months. 6/7 times she rolls over and goes to sleep after orgasm. He eventually asked her about it and she admitted that she’s still not interested in sex but was using his interest in giving oral essentially as nightly masturbation. So he stopped. Three days later was his last post and she was super irritable &amp; cranky, pouting and kicking random things. She seems to want to have her cake &amp; have HIM eat it too.
gpt
Well yeah, he should have stopped doing it or left long before 6 months. That’s nuts.