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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
I don't think sex is as important to a woman.   

Most sex I have had has been disappointing.   I rarely get an orgasm and even if I do I don't feel happy and pleasured.  I need to feel loved to be interested.   I need to feel desire for the guy and that is rare. 

One man knew how to do it.  Very romantic.   He could flirt.  If he would wear a condom I would not care about his harem.  

I have an FWB.  He's not horrible,  but, in the two years I have seen him, I have not orgasmed yet.  He does have basic understanding and I continue because he wears a condom without complaining.

I have toys.  I have sex to keep my vaginal walls from adhering to each other.  My toys are non penatrative
gpt
Sounds like you need to (1) find better partners who know how to please you and (2) communicate your likes and dislikes.