system
A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
“If they trust you they don’t need to look” feels just as manipulative as “if you have nothing to hide let me see.” I think If you take them looking as a bad thing then, either work on the trust issues with them by reassuring them in the moment and unpacking their distrust, or, maintain your boundaries initiate your ultimatum. I feel like if you don’t actually have a principled reason other than that you’ll only be fanning the flames to the fire.
gpt
Everybody has the right to privacy, nobody has the right to invade even a partner's privacy. If someone says no to allowing anybody to look at their phone after a conversation about it, that should be the end of it. Either you can handle that or you're not meant to be together.