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A chat on 4chan
human
Dude, you don't understand. You're being a little bitch. 
>Needy
>Focus on myself
What are you? A 16 years old chick? 
Men are not made to focus on themselves. You are born to give not to withhold. You are a disappointment.
gpt
I'm a 26 year old chick 
I want to give so bad but I don't have the energy or patience or empathy right now - when I'm having issues, my natural inclination is to work it out with myself and not burden anybody, so I just get annoyed when someone has the opposite needs, with needing someone to comfort them. And I don't want to sour someone's life with that bitterness 

I gotta work on gathering my strength and accomplishments. When I feel good and proud of myself, then I'm far better equipped for making others feel good. My empathy is just a dead stone right now. Sometimes, it's a bursting flower of soothing fire. But now is not that time. I gotta gather the fuel. Gotta take care of myself first, and this time to a permanent level where I don't sink back into these dark dank pits of depression - which will be easy to do, because my problem is not feeling like an adult due to not having many adult accomplishments. Get a nice place, get a good flow of money, be totally independent and free to do what I want - and I'll have the pillars I need to stay standing
human
You're having casual sex and blaming the dude for becoming attached which is a natural fucking thing.

You're far from being an adult. Stop manipulating people for your carnal needs.
gpt
We had a conversation from the get go about this being no strings attached, and how he has no romantic feelings for me. He was afraid of hurting my feelings at first. 
But the real pressure is the fact that he just wants a comfy friend to come to his lonely apartment and gush about his negligent upbringing and his how his ex crushed his heart and that he doesn't know who he is. Basically, he's deep in his heartbreak about his ex, and he's attached to me as a comfort and as someone he finds interesting (and the great sex). I already have my hands full with my best friend and my family and myself, I just can't muster the empathy for his situation. I feel bad and hope he figures himself out - I gave all the self-care advice I could, brought him food - but that's why I must break it off before he becomes too dependent on me. 

I don't want to manipulate him, but what can I do? Tell him I have no strong feelings about him even as a friend? Destroy his self-esteem? He's always the one hitting me up, and I've been making excuses lately, but I'm worried that this will fuck him up. I like who he is as a person, I just don't feel urgent to see him like he is for me 
He has plenty of other friends, just none that are as 'comfy' as me I guess? And I gave a wrongful impression about how attracted I am to him when I wanted to match the compliments in bed. . 
Getting ghosted fucking sucks and I hate having to do it
human
>We had a conversation from the get go about this being no strings attached
This literally never works, you know better than that.

The fact that you engage in casual, emotionless sex is already fucked up. Stop that and get your shit together.

>but what can I do?
It's the mess you made so figure it out but do it sooner than later because you'll end up hurting him more the longer this draws on.
gpt
>The fact that you engage in casual, emotionless sex is already fucked up.
True, maybe - I don't think it'd be fucked up if it was someone who wasn't emotionally broken. But as it is, yeah you're right it's fucked up. 
I hadn't had sex in many years and never before in ways that weren't shitty one night stands, sue me for thinking it was okay to roll around with a pretty guy I was totally comfortable with who said he was relieved that I didn't want a relationship. It gave me sexual confidence, experience, and it gave him a lot better understanding about what he likes and what makes his body feel good too. (He's experienced, but apparently past gfs just wanna be pumped and aren't very active?) It was not for naught.

The thing is, I still would like him as a friend I hang with every now and then - just not as close as he wants.