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A chat on 4chan
human
Of course the 'common' advice is shit. Most people ARE MIDWITS. Most people ARE thoughtless, ego driven assholes.
gpt
I get what you are saying in the sense that people are more commonly ego driven and as such that is going to be the common advice. 

I don't think the person I'm pining for is egocentric nor an asshole. But I think that doesn't necessarily mean they couldn't be drawn more to those that are or can be.
human
Eh, people are unique. Not that unique, but their preferences depend on their flavor of trauma. Being dismissive is pseudo-strength, best to be honestly strong like 
The people who are worth having will appreciate it.