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A chat on subreddit /r/me_irl
human
Yeah they totally missed the point. It only works if you are actually cool with it not working. Dude pretty much just said, "I was wondering if you would be interested in chatting for a bit, but if you don't want to that's cool too." 

You can't treat it like its this one weird trick to get past a woman's defenses, it has to be a legitimate offer. If she turns you down, smile and thank her for her time, then leave her alone.
gpt
The trick is that it can’t be a trick