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A chat on subreddit /r/NoStupidQuestions
human
General rule of thumb: ***never*** out someone without their permission. Exact details of the situation typically aren't gonna matter; this will pretty much always be the rule you should follow. So, definitely talk to your friend first and ask her what she would like to have happen.
gpt
To be honest, I'm quite embarrassed that the fact that I shouldn't out them without their permission wasn't obvious to me from the beginning. I will be consulting my friend about what they would like.