Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Question: My husband and I have two children (5 and 7). We also own firearms, both for sport and personal protection. We are shining examples of how to do gun ownership right! We have attended safety courses, passed background checks, and are fully permitted. We also keep the guns safely locked away at all times.



Knowing about guns and how dangerous they are is good for kids! My kids have never been tempted to tamper with the guns, because they know the dangers.

I don't want this mother spreading gossip that I am a crazy gun-owning bad mom all over town! What can I say to her and her child?

Answer: You can invite the mother over to show her your setup, so she can make an informed decision.


Have her come look for herself. Then, discuss the gun issue as two adults who both believe you are protecting your kids, versus two adults looking to protect a viewpoint. Then accept her now-more-informed decision, even if it doesn't change.

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