Why Pretend?

Why put a mask?

A young executive with poor self-esteem was promoted but couldn’t reconcile himself to his new office and position. There was a knock on his door, to show how important and busy he was, he picked up his phone and the asked the visitor to come in. as the man waited for the executive, the executive kept talking on the phone, nodding and saying, “no problem, I can handle that!” after a few minutes he hung up and asked the visitor what he could do for him. The man replied, “Sir, I’m here to connect your phone?

Why pretend? What are we trying to prove? What do we want to accomplish? Why do we need to lie? Why look for feelings of false importance? All of these types of behavior come from insecurity and poor self-esteem.

Why pretend?

Our character can be judged by everything we do or don’t do. Like or don’t like. Our character is revealed by
·         The kind of company we keep or avoid.
·         How we treat others. Especially our subordinates, the elderly and disabled.
·         Our choice of books, music and movies.
·         The kind of joke we tell or laughed at.

Every action of ours gives us away anyway, no matter how good you are at pretending and how well you can pretend, that does not change who you are. So why pretend? I believe a person live with conviction, sensitivity and co-operation; he can move others with his effort. That person becomes worthy of self-respect. Always be yourself even if people don’t like the way you are it doesn’t matter, what matters is for you to be happy with who God made you to be. God planned where you’d be born and where you’d live all for his purpose.

Your race and nationality are no accident. God left no detail to chance. He planned it all for his purpose (act 17:26). So why pretend to be who God has not purpose you to be. Someone once told me that the reason why she pretends is because she has a very annoying character, so she always pretends to be cool and gentle. This what I told her- how long can you keep that up? You shouldn’t think of how to pretend to be a cool person but think of how to better yourself to be a cool person.

Here are some ways you can use to better yourself
·         Always have a positive mind.
·         Be a good listener
·         Smile and be kind
·         Quit complaining
·         Make positive friends and be a positive friend
·         Give honest and sincere appreciation
·         Discuss but don’t argue
·         Don’t expect to be treated nicely but treat people nicely
·         Avoid bearing grudges
·         Be understanding and caring
·         Always to like yourself
·         Avoid gossiping and gossipers
·         Practice humility and courtesy on a daily basis
·         Don’t put others down, either by words or by character
·         Be God fearing and show empathy
·         Remember God is in control.

These are just some tip to help you better yourself; you can read 12 THINGS CONFIDENT PEOPLE DO. When you have become a better person, you will be proud of who you are. People will want to be like you but remember I can only inspire you, not motivate you. To succeed in life you need to be motivated and only you can motivate yourself. Motivation is what gets you started; habit is what gets you going. Read ARE YOU MOTIVATED OR INSPIRED? Also read HABITS.

{You can do what anybody else can do, but only you can do better-Ben Carson}

So have positive self-esteem and not a negative self-esteem. Because it’s only you that will reap what you sow

Be true to yourself

Honesty means that you are always true to the very best that is in you. Being true to yourself is the starting point of developing a great character. This begins with you always living in truth with yourself; you don’t deceive yourself or play games with your own mind. You don’t try to believe things are completely impossible, nothing is impossible as long as your mind is in it. You don’t just hope and pray that things would be different than they are; you deal with the world as it is.

Face the truth

Living in truth means that you face the truth about yourself and the world around you. You face the truth about your work and your relationships. You look at yourself directly in the eye and you live consistently with the inner most convictions. You don’t play games with yourself or wish and hope that things could be different than they are. Integrity means that you accept that your world can only get better when you get better. No one is going to come along and change things for you. If you want things to change, you are going to have to make the changes yourself.
 Integrity means that-
·         You accept that your marriage gets better only when you become a better spouse.
·         Your business get better only when you become a better manager or executive
·         Your sales results and customers get better only when you become a better sales-person
·         Your financial life improves only when you become more intelligent and discipline about money.

So have a positive self-esteem. Don’t ever pretend, because it’s only you that will suffer the consequences of your action.

Positive self-esteem                            
·         Self-respect
·         Self-confidence
·         Self-worth
·         Self-acceptance
·         Self-love
·         Self-knowledge
·         Self-discipline

Negative self-esteem
·         Self-put down
·         Self-doubt
·         self-abuse
·         self-denial
·         self-deceit
·         self-indulgence

Why Pretend? Why Pretend? Reviewed by The news cable on August 30, 2015 Rating: 5

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