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Selfloving vs Selfishness


In present, there are a lot of conversations, presses, articles even journal papers broadcasting about self-loving to people. How many people take into account what exactly self-loving is? It depends on the perceiving of an individual how they recognize what it is.

We do things that make ourselves happy, we find the way to love ourselves, we spoil and fulfil the hidden gap inside our desire and called it “Self-loving” without noticing what we did meet our needs or not.

How do you know it is self-loving or selfishness?

As long as you are happy from whatever you are doing without trouble-gaining to another people it is self-loving. 

And when you pay intention on what you deserve, focusing only on your own demand and consider that is yourself-loving rather than caring people around you by taking advantage of them is called “Selfishness”


What should we do?

I’d love to propose an ideal sufficient self-loving which leads you to sustainable happiness. Whenever you feel a lot of happiness charged in your chest and about to express, just ask yourself the simple questions.

Did you gain trouble for people to achieve that happiness for yourself?

Did you take any advantage of people?

Will it make yourself in trouble in the future?

Just be fair to answer those questions without bias. If the answer is yes, so it’s not the right way to love yourself. You should find the proper way in the middle which makes you happy and also not harming others people’s life happiness.

Do whatever makes you happy as long as it’s not taking advantage of other people or ruin any relationships and most important it should gain your own value. 

When you know how to love yourself properly, you will be happy and feel your own precious value. The happiness, cheerfulness, joyfulness and delight will attract to similar people into your life. It will never fade away but gradually grow in your soul, and you can feel it that sufficient self-loving is also love giving.

Sufficient self-loving gains your sustainable self-value.