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Updated: Jan 24, 2019, 12:37 IST

Here’s Why Getting Over An Almost-Relationship Is Harder Than You Think


‘Almost’ is the worst way to love someone.  ‘We almost made it’, ‘It was almost enough’-- There’s not a sadder word in the dictionary. Almost-relationships mean being close, but not quite there; it means having to accept that everything you ever wanted is right in front of you, but can’t be yours. It’s like the universe is playing a joke on you – showing you just what you need, where to find it and then taking it away from you. However, because of its unrequited nature, this is exactly the kind of love that stays with you much longer than you’d expect it to… whether as a regret, as a “what if,” as a fond memory or simply as the long, tired sigh in the midst of your everyday life.  Getting over an almost-relationship is one of the toughest things to do and not many understand that. To all those friends who said “You weren’t even with him…” here’s why it’s not that simple to “get over it”…


1. It’s impossible to get closure and move on when you aren’t exactly sure what it is you’re moving on from. Because it isn’t something you can label.

2.  He knew how to love you. He knew what to do, what to say, and when to do it. He made you feel loved and that was the best feeling in the world.


3.  You walked into it knowing that this is how it might end… but you took that risk because it seemed worth it. To love something without having to own it is selflessness. The kind that is glorified but hurts nonetheless.

4. He became the person you compare everyone to. Because he made you feel the way he did, you look for that in other people… but it’s quite never the same!

5. In order to truly move on, you must want to let go. Many of us seem to hold on to the hope that somehow, someday, things will fall into place.


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