The Oil of Gladness

For the season of Lent, Bondings 2.0 introduces a new scriptural reflection series for LGBTQ people and allies, entitled “From Ashes to the Oil of Gladness.” The series is part of our growing library of scriptural reflection exercises catalogued in our “Journeys” series.  During Lent, we will provide a new reflection and prayer exercise every Sunday.  These resources are suitable for individual reflection,  for discussion with a spiritual friend or counselor, or for communal reflection in a parish, school, or other faith community.  The series installments will first appear here on Bondings 2.0, and then will be catalogued on the “Journeys” webpage

We pray that these resources will aid your personal journey with God.


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The Oil of Gladness

In the Gospel story of the woman who anoints Jesus’ feet (Luke 7:36-50), two characters are pitched against each other: Simon, the Pharisee, and a woman of low reputation.

As a Pharisee, Simon likely had acquired serious theological acumen and a mastery of scripture. He would have exercised rigorous self-discipline and tithed meticulously. His time “serving” God  was probably validated by the respect he received as a godly man. Yet he did not “love” God. His hospitality was cavalier and his appraisal of Jesus contemptuous.

By contrast, the woman was nameless, weighted with sin and pronounced of low repute. Yet she emerges as a model of extravagant worship.

Read on to discover how a sinner’s repentance becomes her saving oil of gladness.

SCRIPTURE: Luke 7:36 -50

36 One of the Pharisees invited Jesus to dinner. Jesus went to his house and reclined at table. 37 A woman who had a low reputation in that town came to the house. She had learned that Jesus was dining with the Pharisee, so she brought with her an alabaster jar of perfumed oil. 38 She stood beside Jesus, crying, and her tears fell to his feet. Then she dried his feet with her hair, kissed them, and anointed them with the oil.

39 When the Pharisee saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would have known who this woman is who is touching him, and what a low reputation she has. 40 In answer to the Pharisee’s thoughts Jesus said, “Simon, I have something to say to you.” Simon answered, “Say it,Teacher.”

41 “A certain moneylender had two debtors. One owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. 42 When they could not pay, the moneylender cancelled both debts. Now which of them was more grateful? 43 Simon answered, “I suppose the one who owed more.” Jesus said, “You are right.”

44 Turning to the woman, he said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I entered your house; you gave me no water to wash my feet, but she has washed them with her tears and wiped them with her hair.45 You gave me no kiss of greeting, but she covered my feet with kisses. 46 You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with oil. 47 Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven – for see how much she loves. But the one who is forgiven little, loves little.”

48 The Jesus said to the woman, “Your sins are forgiven.” 49 Those who were also at table began to say among themselves, “Who is this, who even forgives sins?” 50 Meanwhile, Jesus said to her, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”


  1. If faced with criticism for who you are and how you worship, how do you make your way over to Jesus? Who or what obstructs your path?
  2. As an LGBTQ person or ally, do you feel like you have to seek Jesus in more unusual spaces than recognized houses of prayer? Where have you found spiritual nourishment to seek Jesus?
  3. What talents or gifts do you still keep bottled in your alabaster jar? What would be an opportune moment for you to break open your jar and perfume the room with your LGBTQ “extravagance?”
  4. How would you explain the “tears” of the woman? Would they be tears of unimaginable joy, a sense of holy peace, or untold sadness? As an LGBTQ person or ally, what causes you to weep? Who dries your tears?
  5. What would be some of your debts that God has cancelled? How have you forgiven others for debts owed to you?
  6. Could the nameless “woman of low reputation” be used as a metaphor for the LGBTQ community? Why or why not?


Merciful God, you forgave a sinner and made her an example of humility and extravagant love. You raised up her human body, alleged of sin, and deemed it worthy to bless you. By allowing her to anoint you, you ordained her a priest in the company of men.

Continue to lift up our LGBTQ family for even though we may be deemed of “low repute” in the eyes of many, we know that we have a place by your side. Through our extravagant love and anointing oils may we draw others to you so more may experience your healing mercy and leave your presence with the faith that saves.



Like the unnamed woman who fills the room with exquisite perfume as she anoints the feet of Jesus, in the song clip below, Lillie McCloud, brings a voice that also fills the room with passionate praise of Jesus.

Singing “Alabaster Box,” McCloud, an American dance and Rhythm & Blues singer, pours her love on Jesus like oil from a broken alabaster jar.

Dwayne Fernandes, New Ways Ministry, April 7, 2018


2 replies
  1. John McDargh
    John McDargh says:

    Thank you for sharing this meditation.. By way of thanks, may I share in turn that this story came to have power for me for the first time many years ago when a very wise Jesuit spiritual director on an eight day retreat assigned it to me for meditation and then made the transformative suggestion that if I felt called to do so, I should give myself permission to make the public sinner at Jesus’ feet a young gay man rejected by his town.

  2. Mike Walsh
    Mike Walsh says:

    Thank you for this moving and insightful reflection on the Gospel passage on the woman of low repute. I thought of various categories of people who feel more comfortable seeking Jesus outside the church community when we are less than welcoming.


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