Monday, October 05, 2015

New Life

And then suddenly, everything changes.


Then along it comes, and never quite what you thought.






Joanne Tomooka said...

Feeling for you as I read this this morning. Such a hard time for everyone. The only advice I can give is to take it really slowly - when someone in Japan dies it is such a stressful time that some things seem so vital at the time, but then as time goes by less and less so.
When Tom's Mum died we thought we would have to make lots of changes, and the first couple of months were pretty much hell - trying to work it all out, taking food to his house to eat with him every day etc. Then as time passed we all slipped into routines that worked for everyone and now he seems to enjoy having the house to himself and seeing us just once a day.
I really hope you can work out something that works for all of you. Stay strong!

Rachel said...

Yep, taking it real slow. The kids keep asking me what we are doing, I just say I don't know. Not making any decisions now! Hopefully the challenges will show themselves before any decisions are made.

Gaijin Wife said...

Big changes indeed!! How are you two weeks on? I imagine things are busy busy until day 49. If you would like me to come and talk to K about the downside of you moving in with his mother... .....

It sounds like she is very genki though? Quite capable of living on her own for a while. That said I'm leaning towards keeping Granny K until she can't cook for herself or it gets too dangerous and then packing her off to an old people's home! Must be difficult at the moment with you there and all your stuff back at your house!

Ganbare. xx

Rachel said...

It's a tricky balance, but not too bad as we are back here by just after 7 in the morning so we can leave everything here and all we really need to bring is whatever we are working on that night, plus clean undies if we have a bath (we just leave our jammies there and in the morning change into what we had on the day before to go home). There have been a few moment of doubling up though - folding the laundry here, going over there and folding another load! But she cleaned and put out and brought in that load, on a day I had to work all day long, so I was actually better off. And K annoyed me leaving dirty dishes at BOTH houses in one night, grr! I'm stubbornly staying put at home though, at least during the day. Going over there for dinner and to sleep is not all that bad really. Though I'm hoping to establish at least one night at home, just to stop the dust settling. Maybe we'll take turns or something. The final ceremony's date is chosen, 11/14 so I guess more actual decisions will be made after that.