Scales measure weight only, not how much you should love yourself.

How many times have you heard, "love yourself" and thought ok sounds like a great idea, I'll do that and then stepped on the scale and shuddered?

What goes through your mind as you wait for the number to settle? What feeling do you get when you see what it says? Do you depend on it to tell you if you are good, ok, need to do better, or just awful?

Health is important. Yes. And to be healthy it is important to be within a certain weight range -- not too low, not too high. But one pound or five pounds is not the life or death of you. You don't need to punish yourself mentally and emotionally if that number isn't what you wanted to see.

Did you know that thoughts and emotions that cause those self-punishment thoughts also trigger stress responses in your body? And that stress responses include holding on to weight because one of the only stresses we have biologically is starvation? Those thoughts and emotions that are punishing you are also hurting your ability to achieve that which you would rather see.

Can you just accept you, I mean really, fully, completely?

Who do you do more for, someone you love or someone you can't stand?

Who do you make efforts for, someone you don't believe in or someone you do believe in?

See why you have to love and believe in yourself before you can make any real progress? It doesn't work the other way around. You can't wait until you have the proof before you feel good because that will be harder and will only last short term.

You know when people believe in a diet and they try it and it seems to work for a short term and then doesn't? It's that belief that's driving it. But the belief in yourself (or lack of belief) is stronger than the belief in anyone, anything, any shake or pill that comes along and you believe in.

When you love someone, you want the best for them. Long term.

When you believe in someone, you encourage them if they are ever down and you know they are capable. They don't have to prove it to you before you believe it.

Make a list of all the things you've accomplished in life that anyone ever said you could not. Little things, big things, things you had no doubt and things you doubted a little bit. There's your proof. Stop doubting yourself. Stop punishing yourself. Start loving yourself and do what is best for you.

-Doe Zantamata


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