Author: kate

Who is Doing The Looking?

Non duality is not saying to be something, to not be something, to take action or not to, to make yourself feel better or not to. Non duality is not a recipe to improve your life. However, it may feel better to experience the recognition of what is, at the heart of the matter, being experienced or truly happening.

Non duality points to no filter. It points to absolute authenticity. It is the loss of an energy that is containing an “I”. The dropping away of the illusion that you exist, is a confrontation with a groundless, boundless, limitless presence. Yet, these are still just words that were constructed with language and concepts, underneath the reading and brain processes is a space in which this is all appearing. Yet, “you” could never recognize or see this, because there was never anybody there that could see it. You cannot look at it, because you are that which is doing the looking.

The object cannot exist without the subject, because the object is contained within the subject. To be seen, there must be something in which this seeing happens through. This is why you cannot find yourself, because you are that which is looking at yourself. To try to look for yourself, the divine, or God or whatever, is to experience the arising of thought.

There never was a you. You were never here. There was only ever a spontaneous expression of all of life.

Spiritual teachings around the law of attraction and oneness and self help are great! They will likely give you tools in which the body and mind can relax. This is a positive thing. However, for that which is interested in encountering the truth, you will find nothing here. IT will be completely boundless and mysterious, absolute uncertainty and total unknowing. This isn’t for everyone. Non duality is in fact an invitation into a death. But the mind says “Oh no, death is a terrible negative thing.” What this simple invitation is saying is that underneath your fear of death and of needing life to appear a certain way, there is an intimacy, a knowing, a dissolution that is more truer and more alive than any attempt at pleasure or gratification, or desperation for another day to keep seeking.

This invitation is not asking you to be or not to be anything. This invitation is the whisper of your true nature. That which is inviting you into it, is already here. It’’s right here. It’s THIS. THIS. THIS.


I can’t sell you the idea of awakening. I can’t give you a recipe to feel better, to become a better person. I can’t satisfy your dream.

Spirituality will tell you who you are, how to release trauma, how to raise your kundalini, it will sell you on the idea of life purpose, on some explanation of co-creation, on the idea that there is a God and a you, and that you have to do something to feel and experience love. It will tell you that love exists. It will tell you that you can vibrate in positive frequencies, and manifest more joy and more peace and that you have free will to choose whether your life goes this way or that way.

I can’t give you this story. I can’t sell you that lie.

Who are you?

That which wants the answer to this question cannot ever answer it. Because that which is seeking the answer is merely a thought.

Last night at dinner a man said to me that there would be no point in being identified as emptiness, as space. He said, “Where’s the fun in that?”

What’s being spoken about on this blog is not a thought about what emptiness looks and feels like. What’s being pointed to has nothing to do with that which believes itself to have free will. That which is being pointed to is choiceless. It does not choose. It is the choice itself.

That which is being pointed to is not that which is compartmentalizing and conceptualizing the meaning of these words, it is the awakeness being the brain activity.

If you were to sit in a pitch black room, thoughts would arise. And you might feel a presence. What is this presence. Where is it in the dark room?

You are not looking through your eyes, you are the looking. You are not creating thoughts – you are that in which thoughts are appearing, you are not feeling cold, you are the cold, you are not feeling anger, you are the anger. You are everything.

I can’t make that sink in. I can’t give you a prayer, a visualization or affirmation or recipe to wake up to this realization.

I can merely ask you “Who are you?” I can’t do more than that.

Chasing Dreams

Where is it that we’re trying to get to? Where is this imagined destination of a better future? Essentially, there is no you, there is no where to get to. However, the human’s goals, dreams and desires do appear. Giving the appearance of a seperate self, that has free will and is on it’s way to executing an imagined life of what it believes will bring it peace, joy and love.

How can anything bring you home to what you already are? None-the less, we are not all embodying these qualities and feel so distant from them, that they seem ethereal or unattainable. So here we are, most of society, looking in relationships, material possessions, fame, success and money to try and feel the liberation that is available to us right here and right now.

This isn’t saying don’t be a human and don’t express the human things. This is quite simply a gentle reminder that you won’t ever make it to peace, joy and love in time, because peace, love and joy is in the eternal presence of what you are in every moment. This is either heard or it isn’t. I can’t make that sink in – it either does, or it doesn’t.

The purpose of life is to exist. But I’m not saying be an apathetic blob, with no emotions pacifying your humanness with the thoughts “I’m not really here”. Hell no! I’m saying that true liberation is being just as you are in every moment. If you’re angry. Get really angry. If you’re in love, feel the freedom in that – be fully in love. This is about a life with no filter. This is about a life that’s happening full on! This is about complete and total unification. This is about the absolute. This is about every single moment being exactly what it is. The majority of humans reject this moment, and they completely miss the aliveness in it. This moment is constantly changing, it’s always on it’s way out. You can’t hold on to it. Everything is just passing through. These are visitors in the house of the infinite. These are just moments passing on through the infinite I amness.

Of course the human want’s to give life meaning. Weddings, deaths, births, birthday’s and achievements like graduation or the moving on to the next phase of life dominate our imagination. These life events take on a personification and a strong story and sense of self gets attracted to it. We get lost in the thick plots of life and this moment gets bulldozed over, it gets completely forgotten. And the whole time what one was seeking for was right here HERE HERE HERE!!!

What a strange life it is 😉

Life Is Impersonal

Life is impersonal. The choices others make and the way you feel about them has nothing to do with what is right and what is wrong. Everything that is happening, no matter how unpleasant it appears, appears in freedom. It has no preference for your desire of whether or not it should appear. The law of attraction won’t save you from feeling life. Horrible things might happen to you. There may be extreme injustice in your life, betrayal, overwhelming fear, disgust and grief. These painful feelings will manifest in physical sensations, tightness, pain, bloating, shakiness. This is undoubtedly an unpleasant experience.

You have no control over these reactions. Most people will read that and want to disagree. I don’t blame you. Feeling like you can avoid pain is a good feeling. To suppress and deny pain is to deny life it’s freedom. The personal self will claim this energy of pain and believe that it had a choice in how it appeared or manifested. Others will take offense to your pain. They will wish you were more understanding and spiritual. They won’t want to be with your painful emotions, because they can’t stand their own. Their story of what they believe will keep them safe, deserving, supported and loved will dictate how they react to your behaviors.

Here’s the truth: you will feel terrible things in this life. You will also feel extraordinary things. Don’t take these feelings for granted. Be with them. Fall in love with them. Go into them with extreme intimacy. You will be tempted to suppress, justify, ignore and run from this pain. Dance with it. Let it move through you however it needs to.

Last night after an extreme emotional disturbance, I put on a show on Netflix called the Wild Arctic. The documentary followed multiple animal species throughout the arctic as they adapted to the coming of Spring. There was a wild arctic caterpillar that lives for 14 years. It freezes after the short spring, and every winter it dies. Once it reaches 14 years of age it creates a cocoon and transforms into a moth. This is it’s cycle. It has to die and it did not choose these brutal conditions that life gave it and to which it must bow to. It adapts, unifies and becomes them. There were also walrus seals. The two most powerful males enter into a drastic courtship, fighting a brutal and bloody war to retain dominance. This is impersonal. Their violence is for the proliferation of a superior gene in the propagation of the species. My favorite part of this show was the penguins. They prepare for spring by building nests with loose pebbles. One penguin was so hardworking. She would bring these heavy rocks and create her beautiful nest, but a thief was lurking near by. This thief penguin would wait until she left the nest that the hardworking penguin was building and would steal her rocks for his own nest. The hard worker penguin knew something was up and eventually caught the thief red handed and the two squabbled and life moved on.

Life is impersonal. It is instinctual, spontaneous it does what it needs to do and it feels what it needs to feel whether you like it or not. You do not have a choice here. In a way you can choose to let life in, or you can shut it down. But this choice can only appear once you recognize the truth of what’s really, at the heart of the matter happening. Either way it doesn’t matter. You are just a thought and what’s happening is happening to itself, for itself and by itself in total and utter love. The feelings are moving. They’re on their way out to make room for other feelings. But this is the human experience. Don’t miss a moment of it’s beauty.


I’ve chosen to express a few pieces of writing about presence and compassion lately. However, I’d like to break down the spirituality in this allusion that we can become compassionate.

Who is it that wants the compassion?

Who is it that’s afraid to die?

Ultimately, everything that is sought by the seeker is so that the seeker can avoid it’s own death. It asks questions about how it can get to its imagined destination of compassion, peace and love, yet the answer won’t solve the problem of the questioner. The reason the seeker is seeking at all is only ever because it doesn’t want to die. Yet, that’s not the answer. It’s that “you” don’t want to cease existing in time. That is the real fear. You are not afraid to die, you are afraid of time. You are afraid of not having a tomorrow in order to continue the search for compassion, or money or love or whatever.

A collapse of the seeker is the eradication of the subject and the object relationship. There cannot be desire, if it is seen that the subject and the object are one. When that which is inside is still seen as seperate from that which is outside, the desire to acquire the object will still pervade the experience. There must be a seer for an object to be seen. In death, it is clear that the true nature is both the seer and the seen. Many non-dual teachers give the example of dreaming: The subject and object collapse when one is asleep and there is just the seeing happening.

It is so romantic to imagine that we can create peace, compassion and love in our lives. It is such a perfect story. It feels so good to tell that lie. But this post is pointing to beyond that which wants this story of hope for a better future. This is pointing to NOW, NOW, NOW. Spirituality feeds these stories to the seeker, giving that energy a false hope and a false sense of what it is. But the void in which this is happening, is motionless, empty, watching in complete and total stillness. This is so extremely beautiful. This is total innocence!

The seeking energy wants to avoid death at all costs. That is why it doesn’t know its true nature.

Spiritual Wake Up Call

It’s Impossible To Be “In the Moment”. The moment is everything that’s happening.

So many new age teachers teach about being present. This misconstrued teaching results in a misunderstanding of what the moment is. Most importantly, it falsely assumes that there is the possibility of non-presence.

Who is being present? Who are you?

We believe that when we pay attention, listen intently to another person, meditate and alleviate or slow down our thoughts, then we’re being present and thus capable of enjoying life.

This is the greatest trap, a complete illusion.

Nothing you “do” can ever bring you to what you already are, which is complete and total stillness: presence. How could you possibly “get to” the present moment if the present moment is all there is.

If that moment looks like thought, or agony or distraction, then that’s what’s happening.

If you associate being in the moment, or being present, with the non existence of your own humanness, you do not know who you are.

This flood of spirituality has given rise to so many misleading teachings. As someone who spent years following them, I can tell you that they will give you a sense of being able to control and improve life. They will give you seeming tools to acquire more abundance, love and joy. But this will lead you down a dark hole eventually. You will begin to think that you have to be someone or do something to “awaken your true nature”. THIS IS IMPOSSIBLE.

Your true nature is everything. It’s everything that’s happening. It’s the fly on the wall, the feeling of dread when you realize there’s a huge wait at the grocery store, or a major disagreement between you and your partner, or the cup of tea that spilled all over the floor this morning.

Here’s the wake up call: you are everything that is happening. You are all of life. This isn’t about getting to a better destination or making shit happen. This is about completely dissolving the energy that thinks it exists. This cannot be done with thought, this is beyond thought You can’t wake up, because you don’t exist. All of life is responsible for knowing itself, its true nature. This is either seen or heard, or it’s not. It makes no difference if it is seen or heard to all of life, which is what you are. Only that which believes itself to be seperate will want the validation of it’s “divinity”. Divinity doesn’t exist. To claim something is spiritual, divine or blessed is to claim that something is not. This is dual. This is a misunderstanding.

Chasing enlightenment is like chasing the sunlight. You can’t have it. It just is.


humanityHumans are conditioned out of this moment, out of the truth of what is. What is doesn’t change because of this conditioning. What is, is still, unmoving, empty.

Mostly everything that humans do, they do it to avoid facing this moment just as it is: simple, ordinary. It has to be sensationalized to be validated as life. It has to be exciting and positive. They don’t want the discomfort that’s appearing. They do everything in their power to avoid or run away from what’s happening. To run away from the stories, to run away from themselves. This energy consumes everything it can to complete the despondence that appears, not realizing that the discontent is a result of the non-recognition of the emptiness, the true nature of all forms, including its very self.

Every story that’s playing itself out right now is there, because it doesn’t want to face it’s own non-existence. It’s own dream. It will go to the movies and mentally get off on imagining it can get to somewhere better, richer, more beautiful, more peaceful, more fulfilling. It can’t. It never will. The homecoming is in the anger, in the pain, in the destruction, in the poverty, in the disease, in the imbalance and disconnects, in the boredom. The spiritual community is the biggest lie, propagating the saddest illusion: that there’s somewhere better than this. There isn’t – there’s just this. THIS. THIS. THIS. This moment. The light, the thoughts, the feelings, the sounds, the sensations are happening simultaneously to themselves and by themselves. Awareness is what is reading these words. Awareness chose to turn the computer on and awareness chose to see this message. Consciousness. Awakeness.

You can’t pray yourself into a better reality. If there is pain, suffering, sadness, the energy resisting it is the reason you are suffering. If you believe you can take your sadness away, you’re misunderstanding the intimacy, the beauty and the freedom of what is being written about. You might experience more pleasure from affirmative thinking, prayer and physical comforts like yoga, health food and sex. You might achieve satisfaction by making a majestic career, gaining a following of admirers, becoming loved and desired by millions of people. And life should have as many multi dimensional experiences of itself as it can. None of this is wrong. It’s fascinating that it’s even happening at all, but the character having this experience is a dream. It is not who you are: a male or female by the name of Kate or John who lives in the United States and works as a post master or writer and hangs out with these cool types of people and has 87 years to live: It’s all complete and total bull shit. It’s the biggest illusion.

You do not exist. Who are you?

Are you thoughts, memories or sensations? Or are you happening in thoughts, memories and sensations? Are you happening everywhere? The point I am making is that looking, hearing and tasting, repulsion and desire, sunlight and rain drops, the conversation or the lights flickering in the hallway is not happening to you, or even in you. You are happening in them. Because you are everything and everything is you.

This isn’t intellectual. This shouldn’t and can’t make sense. This is the most absurd, ridiculous reality, it’s so self-evident and because of that is why it remains so well hidden. To hear this message, to wake up to what is being pointed to is ecstatic. Once this is heard, you cannot leave this. This is IT!


presenceBecause our very nature is presence, it is presence that completes the part of us that is suffering or seperate. It is presence that relieves us of suffering, and it is presence that helps us to relieve the suffering of others. It is through presence that we give rise to compassion.

Compassion cannot happen without presence, without the opening up of oneself, of ones true nature, and the offering of it to the world, and most especially to places where there is suffering. Instead of calling compassion a practice, we can look at it as a continual arriving, a continual coming home to love through presence. We can come to the recognition that this love is only ever available to us today, here and now – that it cannot be sought in another moment, in another tomorrow. Peace must inevitably be born in a continual, unbroken presence to each moment.

We don’t have to “meditate” to get here. We can be aware of this as we walk down stairs, feel the porcelain of the tea cup or water running down our hands, or the words of our friends as we listen deeply. We don’’t have to lock ourselves away to sing a mantra for two hours, do yoga every day and be perfect humans to live in presence. Presence is who we are, and that recognition is enough for the falling away of all that is not true, all that is a lie to dissipate. As we become present to our own suffering and the suffering of others we will be willed by our very nature into the act of compassion. There will not be anger, resistance or resentment in the face of a ruthless love like presence.

Nothing is wanted or needed here, besides the very love that is born of presence. So, my call to you today is to ask “Where am I suffering? Where are my loved ones suffering? Where is the planet suffering?” Let your presence be brought into this suffering. This is the ultimate act of truth, the ultimate revolution, the final coming home. To live in presence is to fulfill the calling of everything that is, has been and ever will be sought. It is the most honorable act one can perform for mankind. It is in today’s times more than ever that compassion born of presence will change the world.

What We Can Expect in 2017

liesThe winds of change are blowing in. New opportunities are arising. As we gear up for these changes, the guidance is all about being true to yourself as the truth is always the bearer of light and the only way for us to continue attracting experiences that are authentic and in alignment with all of life.

The areas in which we are still living a lie and believing in the illusions, taking them to be truths are the real reason behind the disruptions, delays and the general falling apart of things. 2017 is completely about the dropping away of illusions and taking off the masks that we’re wearing. Lies no longer work in our experience and the new solar opening is all about complete honesty and transparency in every single aspect of ones beingness, in ones existence. In fact, the more true and honest you are with yourself and with those in your life, them more honest you are in your very beingness, the quicker life will shift to support that within you which is true. This is a very simple message and love is the bottom line.

To move into and with this energy, we must continually ask ourselves “How Can I Live My Truth?” In this question, we’re able to honor how life is appearing and, again, if life is full of disruptions there is some sort of untruth, false belief or illusion which is causing this to happen. We can’t want things to be true when they aren’t and we have to be willing to see what is really, truly, at the heart of the matter happening. To see the truth, we must see through appearances and we can only do this through inner feeling and inner knowing. We must be willing to question anything and everything.

In this transparency everything is blatantly expressing that which is not in alignment with what’s true. Things that are not in alignment with what is true, have not been seen yet and are asking you to see through the illusion. Let me write that again: Things that are not in alignment with what is true, have not been seen yet and are asking you to see through the illusion. If it doesn’t feel right – it isn’t, plain and simple. As the truth becomes seen the appearances change. Like a bolt of lightening, that which seemed so true and so powerful, so daunting and intense, suddenly dissipates like specs of dust floating in the wind. This is it, that’s enough – but the truth must be seen.

As we end the year, we’re coming full circle. We’re completing a powerful journey. We’re ending the war we’re having with appearances. We’re realizing that there are billions of different truths expressing themselves through individual experiences and we’re realizing it’s impossible for life to fit into our ideals. In fact, we’re facing that it was never about life falling into our vision, but rather us falling into the vision that life is having. We’ve heard that we need to give up control, but only the most courageous will actually do it. Only those who are really, truly willing to see and face the truth will fall through. Here, we’re no longer interested in making things appear and disappear, rather we’re coming into the peace that life is. In fact, accepting what life wants will help you come full circle.

2017 will be all about enjoying life’s pleasures and luxuries, but not the way we’ve done so in the past, through material satisfaction. For we know deeply now that that was once one of the greatest dreams, the greatest lies. Material satisfaction is no longer treasured as a luxury, rather we’re after intimacy and special moments with human beings. That is now becoming the answer to our prayers. Material satisfaction and the seeking for objects no longer even brings us temporary joy. Rather, a love for life itself is driving the show.

These shifts in focus will begin to draw us more deeply into an artistic creativity and expanding outside of “the box”. We’re becoming more interested in having a variety of experiences and we’re beginning to see the vast opportunities that lie beyond the appearances. Transformation is at hand now that there is no longer seeking. Here we are leaving the old life behind. Old structures completely dissolve with this realization that they are not and never were real.

In fact, all paths lead to one place and come from one source. The energy of life itself is it and life is only about the experience that is being had. This experience can no longer be about going somewhere and having something as there is only the seeing, hearing and feeling of what is happening. In this space, there is a continual letting go, an undeniable death of every moment, of every experience. Nothing is solid, everything is disappearing and only love is left. Only the silent, still, peaceful awakeness. Can we allow ourselves to realize that the seeing through everything is completely empty? That the core is the starting point, the ending point and everything in between?

Nature continues to symbolize our return to our own nature: that which is watching the watcher. Death and life appearing and disappearing is the dance and timing ever only existed for that which was seeking. That within us that always knew the truth is waking up and we realize that there is only ever experience happening, and that this experience is the gateway into the seeing beyond appearances and illusions that have been mistaken for the truth. In fact, as we notice them we also see right into the cause of our suffering.

2017 will be calling us to make our way backwards. From seeing our illusions to seeing ourselves as the greatest illusion of them all. Undoing all the lies is the journey back home. Once we arrive, we’ll be most pleasantly surprised. We encounter our own child like innocence, our own playfulness. In fact, life, like a small child, only ever wanted to play. Seeing this innocence, means loosing our seriousness. Life was never serious, it was only ever the forgetting of our childlike nature that created this illusion. How did this happen?

As a child grows their innocence slowly becomes suppressed by the primary adults in their life and then society itself. As the parental figures raise their children, they raise their children into “adulthood” taking that childlike nature away. We learn to stop being “immature”, “irresponsible” and “bad”. As adults shame the child of it’s child like nature, children begin to see the remnants of their true self as shameful or flawed. Adults very quickly begin expecting their children to grow up and be serious, yet it is this very seriousness that has clouded our imagination and freedom. As adults, we now enter the “real world” of responsibility and a code of acceptable societal behaviors and manufactured identities to match the structures that continue upholding the lies.

But, dear ones, the uncovering of this and many other lies is a continual pathway that we shall walk this year in grace, humility and love, for in every moment things are not what they seem and we may be in the garden of eden without ever knowing it.

This and That

Most people want to hear something that will help them feel in control of their destiny. They want a message that will resonate with their illusions. They’re not really interested in enlightenment. They want a message that will speak directly to how they can clean up their cages.

They want to be more abundant, peaceful, successful. They want to fulfill their life purpose, get the perfect lover. They want to end their suffering.

What is being written about on this blog is THIS, THIS, THIS. To quote one of my favorite films: It’s the endless space between the words.

I’m always tempted to write about the chakras and the kundalini and the astrological alignments, or to discuss a beautiful meditation and light work and healing modalities which rack up the most page views, but I can’t seem to do it. I only find myself being able to write about something that has nothing to do with words or mental understandings of things. As a professional marketer I’ve considered optimizing my site, promoting content, creating an online footprint. I can’t do it. The energy continually brings me into this emptiness and into a great desire to create words about it, which becomes harder and harder to do – frankly, impossible. The intentions I once had with this blog, to help people feel good, to help them fix their lives and know themselves seem completely abstract.

The greatest challenge for me is speaking about non duality in dual language, which is the language humans use to perceive reality.

Coming to this blog, you won’t get anything here. If you’ve gotten something from this blog, you’ve misunderstood what’s being talked about. This is about loss.

When I first began to perceive non duality, it felt like I was on drugs. It was euphoric. It was the bliss everyone spoke about. Then it passed and I had to cope with the actual realization. Without spirituality, which defined close to 10 years of my life, there was this sudden darkness. There was nothing to hold on to and give me hope anymore. In fact, what did it really mean that I didn’t exist?

There is a lot of sitting now, very little movement. I’m still a mess on most days. But it’s beautiful. What I found with the dissipation, is that there is no longer an energy that holds on to things. I’ve compared it before to holding water in cupped hands. Everything is appearing and dissolving almost immediately. Most interestingly, the past is almost non existent. As though there is no longer memory.

When a strong sense of “I” dissipates, there’s only this moment. It’s not even this moment, it’s the aliveness behind this moment.

Recently, after the awkwardness began to clear love became more and more apparent. This seeing of a perfect order behind things seemed to polish off any remnant desires to change, modify or control appearances.

This is the end of bullshit. You can’t pull any wool over your eyes with the hope of a better future. That energy that wants the better future is the greatest lie we believe. I still make decisions based on what I think is best, but this appears as a functioning. There is no “I” here. “I need” “I want”.

In fact, the love behind these words is astounding. It can’t ever be put into words. It’s crushing in it’s beauty. This is completely unknown. To claim to know it, is to claim to have gotten something. This can’t be gotten.

You are HERE. HERE. HERE. This is it.