It’s a Struggle!

We are on today and tomorrow we are off! Sometimes we are somewhere in-between and to stay afloat, we struggle. We know what we want out of life and how we intend to get there. Some of us even have step by step plans to get us to where we think we need to be. Splendid! Fantastic frame of mind. But how many of us have things going for us the way we planned. Do we always have our desires granted at the time that we wish them to be? Is life ‘on point’ ? Are we moving through life at the pace that we envisaged we would? Are our scheduled expectations of life being met or are they being cut short! I could go on and on! So many questions we are not eager to answer because the answers may not be encouraging.
I know a few people, myself inclusive (mainly me, or maybe just me) who were confident that having made sure to put things in place like a ‘good’ career choice and getting married on time, life was bound to flow nicely! Well…………Shocker! (Eyes popping). The amount of strategizing is not directly proportional to the level of success or fulfillment. That is a theory of life! (Chuckling). That is not to say I am not grateful, because I am indeed grateful. I am grateful because though I am not where I want to be, I am definitely not where I used to be. I am not stuck. And that is always good news!

Plan and Prepare Anyway!

Back to the subject matter at hand. So I know we are supposed to plan anyway, so as not to fail. Planning is not one of those things you do so that things can go the way we desire. If it were that easy, we would probably have a whole lot of people planning their lives. No, we plan so that we can absorb most of what we think will come our way in the future. We plan so that we don’t live life without focus and direction. We plan so that we can establish a relationship between where we are, what we have to work with, where we want to be and how we intend to get there.I am an advocate of planning. I love well laid out plans for use of resources. However, I think we need to always remind ourselves that our planning and preparing does not automatically guarantee us a smooth sail.
So what happens when things don’t go according to plan? How do we cope when we are thrown off course and off-balance? How do we react to not getting the things we yearn so much for? How do we keep our sanity if we find ourselves lacking or lagging behind? How do we find hope to go on till we either get what we want or things change for the better?
Do I have an answer? I don’t know. Let me get back to you on that. I do have my own coping and survival mechanism and it may not the best approach. While I try to put it into words it would be nice to hear from other people. Better still it would be great to hear your views or answers!

Struggle or Retreat?

Mobolaji Peace

Mobolaji Peace Olagbemiro is a Civil Engineer with bachelor's and master's degrees. She is writer and editor on her blog . She is a wife and mother and loves crocheting, reading, cooking and supports her husband at his football academy (YAFA) in Abuja, Nigeria.