Introduction — A deeper perspective on the shadow side of sex

The most popular article on my web site is on the Dark Side of Ayahuasca. I have a number of “Dark side…” articles, to share perspectives which may help liberate people from the entrapment of spiritual deception. Most of the darkness and unconsciousness within the human psyche (i.e., the soul) comes about through deception, misperception, and being blindsided. How else can pure and total consciousness experience loss of consciousness? Only through the work of deception, which is the dark-side twisting of perception.

The primary challenge of our times is that so many people are so massively deceived, en masse, that it’s become the norm, and we now base the majority of our collective values, objectives, activities, and world views on what is, in essence, an extraordinarily blind-sided state of being. We have literally become the blind leading the blind in almost every area of human endeavour. Spirituality is no exception, perhaps even more so.

Sex Mis-education

Sexuality is perhaps one of most important subjects for a human being to understand, and yet it is rarely addressed in a conscious and integral way. When it is address, it’s typically done so in a moralistic and artificial way. Many high schools (at least in New Zealand, and I suspect elsewhere) attempt some form of “sex education,” almost like a token gesture of vague acknowledgement that something about us is sexual and needs to at least be mentioned so the school can be seen as doing the right thing. Usually such lessons a poor attempt, at best, at addressing a subject massive and mighty subject.

Ironically, if people were less twisted and suppressed in their views on sexuality, the whole notion of an adolescent “sex education” program would seem absurd to most of us. How is it that men and women engage sexually—co-creating children through sexual intercourse, perhaps even some “love making”—and yet the resulting children typically remain clueless about this act until a few hours are spent discussing it with a bunch of virtual strangers in a prison-like school system? And, even then, the are still mostly clueless, and high mis-educated about it? Something so utterly natural, fundamentally normal—something every one of us is a product of—is a topic many parents feel uncomfortable, if not completely unable, to address with the very children that resulted from their sexual relations. Obviously, something about this picture is dysfunctional.

From 11 to 17 I attended an all boys school. Statistics from studies indicate the majority of my fellow students masturbated on a regular basis, if not daily or even multiple times a day, and yet few ever admitted it, not even to their friends. It was an act darkly enshrouded in guilt and secrecy, for fear of ridicule and social ostracism. This alone is a stark indication we’re dealing with a topic that has a shadow side—one that has been carefully obscured by moralisation, suppression, and denial.

The Modern Age of Sexual Liberation?

In a kind of backlash reaction to generations of sexual denial and repression, it’s not uncommon among the past couple of generations of men and women in modern society to feel they are more “liberated” sexually, than their ancestors. It’s a strange notion of liberation—as we’re about to see—to believe that being sexually unrepressed means “screwing around” with whomever we feel to, whenever we can, and whenever one or both participants feel, “Up for it”.

In my experience, it is common to meet “free-thinking” and “spiritually inclined” woman who have had at least 20 to 40 sexual partners, even upwards to 100 or more, by the time they are perhaps only 25 to 30 years old. Often when I ask a woman about their sexual escapades she will initially try to convince me that it was all just a bit of fun, and part of expressing herself, and that she has few, if any, regrets about how often she spread her legs to screw around with men who were essentially strangers. (I propose that knowing someone’s name, and what they do for a living, and having had a few hours of conversation, does not mean they are suddenly not a stranger—it can take months to really get to know someone, and the issues they are afflicted by). Often I hear sexually liberal women speak about being sexually free, and freely expressing and experiencing their Goddess sensuality. “Free,” I suppose, from what she felt was the only alternative—namely, a life of sexual repression.

Is this really freedom, for the spirit, to be exposed to all kinds of tricky situations and forces whilst the human body involves itself with a long list of sexual partners for a bit of fun, self-expression, and self-pleasing?

After some deeper and heart-centred enquiry it invariably comes to light that many (and I suspect most) sexually liberal women in fact feel deeply unsatisfied and unfulfilled by their long list of sexual partners. In their heart of hearts, they know it has left them more barren and depleted each time, rather than more enriched and fulfilled. It’s not uncommon they harbor deep sadness and confusion pertaining to their life and sexuality, although they may not have associated such feelings with their sexual escapades. I’ve heard similar sentiments of men, when they allow themselves to be vulnerable and heart-centred enough to notice and admit how they really feel.

In my youth, I tended to hold back when it came to sexual relations with women. This was mostly due to an overbearing sense of self-consciousness and self-uncertainty. Yet, between my late teens to early twenties, if a woman overtly showed interest in me sexually I would likely jump at the opportunity with only a limited amount of consideration. Fortunately, it was relatively rare for women to approach me on that level (it played out just a few times). At the time I presumed it had something to do with my hairy face, long hair, and what they perceived to be a somewhat intense, self-possessed, and yet socially aloof demeanor. In hind-sight I am aware that in each of the few instances where a woman directly approached me for sexual intimacy, they were strongly influenced by links to dark forces. This awareness came about through spiritually investigating what was really going on during those interactions. We’ll explore that topic a little in what follows.

Getting high, and hi-jacked

Here’s a secret pertaining to sex: Human sexuality is a force so powerful that over many thousands of years it has been carefully and systematically obscured, veiled and, subsequently, hi-jacked. We’re dealing with a power that can bring forth and sustain new life; a power that sparks new ideas and creativity; a power that both makes and breaks empires. Sexual energy is a power that, without exception, significantly impacts the course of every human being, for better or for worse.

In the energetic highs that typically come with strong sexual arousal and orgasm, the luminous body is particularly open and thus exposed to whatever happens to be around. During sexual highs, the soul is more vulnerable, and thus more prone to hi-jacking, if important precautions are not attended to.

Yet whom, or what, is mis-shaping something so profoundly natural, powerful, and beautiful, into something oftentimes so ugly, suppressive, perverted, violent, and heartless? It’s not simply “religion,” it’s not the prudes and puritans, it’s not the moralists, nor the sexually wounded. They all play their part, but behind these passing temporal façades are hidden forces intent on hi-jacking precious human energy for their own purposes. That’s the big secret hiding in the collective and individual shadows of human sexuality.

Ironically, the original basis for the pious and religious tendency toward caution in sexual matters was generally derived from the spiritual recognition that mis-use of this precious human capacity was prone to interference from dark forces, demons, and negative entities. Yet, over the past few thousand years, as spiritual blindness set into the human psyche, we were left with mere beliefs about how to approach sexuality, without direct perception of why, nor of how to navigate our way safely through this unavoidable terrain. Belief is only required for that which is not real—subjectively, not necessarily objectively—and thus dependance on belief in our relationship to life tends us toward elaborate abstraction, fantasy, non-reality, and eventually deception.

Where’s all the energy go?

Have you ever wondered what happens to all the energy released each time you orgasm? It is a power that has a long history of uniting and separating people, communities, and nations. A power that can bring forth new life. A power that the majority of people in modern society find so alluring they become obsessed with it, and need to release it on a regular basis. A power that numerous pragmatic spiritual traditions—like Taoism, Tibetan Buddhism, and various yogic traditions—say must be harnessed, cultivated, and consciously directed if we’re to avoid the major issues its misuse can cause in life. What happens to all that power during an indiscriminate orgasmic release? Where does it go? That’s not something adolescent “sex education” ever addresses, nor do most parents consider it, if or when they coyly approach the matter with their children.

Despite its rarity within human enquiry and conversation, this may be one of the most pertinent questions of all time. Where, oh where, does all that life-force go? Think about it. With an estimated 7.6 billion people on Earth, it’s probably safe to say there are at least a 250,000 to 600,000 orgasms occurring, on average, in any given second (ref:, and According to some calculations ( thats around 91 litres (24 gallons) of human seminal fluid being released every second, which amounts to around 7.8 million litres per day (2.08 million gallons), or roughly 2.8 billion litres a year (756 million gallons). We can likely add a few million litres per day of released female sexual fluids. If we had a way of measuring the life force released in the same way we can estimate the release of sexual fluid, the numbers would be rather eye-opening.

Large and somewhat interesting numbers aside, the focus here is on the life-force involved in this global phenomenon. This is not about getting moralistic, or prudish, or about demonising human sexuality. On the contrary, human sexuality is as natural as breathing, eating, sleeping, social bonding, photosynthesising (if youre a plant), and so on. Similar to how so many people in modern society are all but completely unconscious around what and how they eat (leading to a massive array of pathological disorders and diseases), and many people are severely unconscious in how they relate to other human beings (which also results in innumerable and, at times, pathological social conditions), the majority of modern human beings are also unconscious about what is taking place spiritual, energetically, with regard to their sexual energy. It is this unconsciousness around our sexual energy (an expression of human life-force) that gives rise to the dark side of sexuality.


I’ve had around 26 years of conscious relationship with my sexuality, and many years of working on a spiritual level with other people. My observation, and that of numerous people I know who have reliable spiritual sight, is that the vast majority of human sexual activity is powerfully influenced by dark forces. I think it is safe to say that the majority of sexual acts in the modern world are hi-jacked by life-degrading spirits, demons, and other malicious forces. The human participants may feel they are just having a bit of fun, or exploring a deep intimate connection with themselves or another person, and yet in the dimension of spirit there may be an entirely different scenario playing out.

What I wish to point out is that unless a human being is aware of where they are directing the sexual energy (i.e., life force) involved in their sexual experiences, and has established a clear intention for it’s direction, there is a high chance that energy is being hi-jacked by unseen forces. Most people will be oblivious to this, due to a lack of sensitivity to the spirit, and the sight to see behind the metaphysical backdrop of material reality. They are effectively blind-sided to the spirit, and the events occurring on that subtle level of reality.

As above, so it is below (and vice versa)

It is due to being blind-sided that a great many people—including and often especially, those with a substantial interest in spiritual matters—may find such a proposition hard to accept. So, let’s take a look at a similar dynamic on a more tangible level. Imagine you have pockets so full of cash and gold coins that they fall out around you when you walk, and you also have lots of gold and diamond jewellery on. Within your own home, this causes you no particular issues. Whilst hanging out with friends and family, this perhaps causes no particular issues, although it might. Now imagine taking a walk through a crime entrenched district in Los Angeles, New York, London, or Sao Paolo, or Nigeria. What are the chances you’ll be able to walk around, with gold coins and hundred dollar bills overflowing from your pockets, without someone with malicious intentions harassing you and stealing everything you have on you? Chances are, in many parts of the world, you wouldn’t make it out alive. This is such a well understood phenomenon it goes without saying. What’s less well understood, is that something very similar plays out in spirit with regard to human sexual energy and life-force.

Life force

Sexual energy is life force. We relate to that life force as “sexual energy” when it’s associated with our genitals and our sexual functioning. Human life force is an exquisitely powerful, precious, and magnificent power. In the form-side of life, we only perceive the effects of life force, but not the life force itself. Life force operates in the formless side of life, in the metaphysical causes as opposed to the physical effects taking place in our day-to-day experiences.

It’s important to bear in mind that you are first and foremost a living spirit, who exists in a multitude of spiritual dimensions and spaces. What we experience as our body and the personality are just a thin and rather frail façade, behind which exists a soul, and that soul is connected (hopefully) to your spirit. With this in mind, as we go about our daily events and interactions, to consistently ask, “Right now, what is occurring to my spirit?” This is a deep and important level of self-enquiry, without which anyone who thinks they are “sexually free” is just fooling themselves. Realise, that in your every action there is life force involved, and that it pays to ask, “Where is my life force directed or going in this moment?”

When a man and woman (or any couple) come together sexually, their luminous bodies start running and sharing sexual energy (life force), irrespective of whether they are conscious of it. If one or both of those people is compromised in their luminous body, there’s a high chance the compromising influence they are affected by will hook into the luminous body of the other person, and start affecting them to. Again, it can help to look at this from a physical perspective first.

Imagine you are considering having sex with someone you barely know. Chances are, you’ll give a least some consideration to whether or not they might be carrying a sexually transmittable disease. With this in mind, you may decide to only engage with them if a condom is used, or perhaps only after you have both done an STD / STI test confirming you’re both free of such infections. It goes without saying that this is because there’s a very real chance your physical body could be infected by a sexually transmittable virus they carry in their physical body. Exactly they same principle applies in spirit, when it comes to the soul, and to the luminous body. Yet how often do we consider what is occurring to us in spirit, as a soul, as an energetic being, before we engage in sexual interaction with someone?

With the above in mind, it should be apparent that when engaging with someone sexually it’s important to pay attention to the fact they may be carrying something in their luminous body that has the potential to infect or compromise your luminous body. In modern society, which maintains a great deal of unconsciousness around human sexuality, it’s not uncommon for a person to have a dark force hi-jacking their energy, and by opening yourself to them sexually you are exposing yourself to that same force, and can end up hi-jacked as well. It is accurate to say, that just one spiritually compromising sexual encounter has the potential to completely change the direction of a soul’s journey in a given life-time. This is especially true when people engage in intense sexual interactions under the influence of drugs and alcohol. One of the most potentially compromising scenarios is when one or both partners are barely conscious due to the effects of alcohol, and likely remember little, if anything, the following morning. This is sadly a relatively common scenario in today’s world, and yet potentially very dangerous to the integrity of the soul.

The effects on women

A woman’s luminous body is naturally receptive, relatively to a man’s luminous body. When a man and women engage sexually, her luminous body naturally receives and attempts to incorporate the energy (and subtle information) passed to her from the man. If the man has serious issues—mentally, emotionally, or spiritually—there’s a high chance the woman’s luminous body will be informed (impregnated) by those issues, and by their causes. The degree to which this plays out, and the level of influence this has on the women, depends on a great many factors which I won’t attempt to elaborate on here. It is enough to say that many a young woman is infected with malice and anger, and a great many other negativities, from poorly select sexual partners.

It is natural for a woman’s luminous body to attempt to incorporate into its structure the energy she receives from any man she has allowed to orgasm and/or ejaculate in her. Depending on her own strengths and weaknesses, her luminous body might reject or accept what she has received. If his energy is rejected, it’s akin to an immune response in which the physical body rejects infection from bacteria and viruses. A bit of reactivity might occur, but for the most part she will come away unscathed. If the immune system is weak or compromised, it’s possible it will fail to reject incoming foreign bacteria and viruses. Similarly, if the luminous body is weak or compromised, it may be more susceptible to taking on and being influenced by what is projected into the woman by a male sexual partner.

The effects on man

Because sexual energy typically runs in a circular exchange between a man and woman during sexual intimacy, he can also be prone to taking on things that are affecting the woman. Again, if the male is energetically strong his luminous body has a good chance of assimilating and transforming or integrating (in a healthy way) the energy he receives from a woman.

A considerable number of woman are infected or influenced by what could be referred to as the “dominatrix” energy. It’s an unconscious and dark force that will work through a woman in order to capture the life force of men they come into sexual contact with. To the extent that males and females embody the feminine, men and women can both be susceptible to the dominatrix, and both can infect another with it. It’s not always something overt and obvious when it plays out. The dominatrix energy is a significant aspect of the dark side of the feminine, being the primary cause of the feminine’s fall from Grace. This is a large topic, which I am just skimming over a few details of.

A man’s luminous body is naturally projective, relative to a woman’s. This does not, however, mean that he doesn’t take on energy and negative links and influences from his female sexual partners.

Infiltration doesn’t require penetration

It would be a mistake to think that a man and woman only share sexual energy and, therefore, potentially dark and light spiritual influences through penile penetration. Sexual energy runs and circulates between two people as soon as they start being physically and energetically attracted and aroused in relation (physical or imagined) to one another. The more intense the arousal, and the more intimate the connection, the more intensively their energies (luminous bodies) exchange life force. A person can be compromised and spiritually infiltrated, or take on negative demonic links and associations, etc., via a sexual partner even when no penetration occurs. That’s not to say this will always be the case, just that it’s possible and relatively common. This is worth bearing in mind for those who wish to protect the integrity of their soul from dark influences and impositions.

It’s a common and superficial understanding of human sexuality to think so long as there’s no penetration we’re somehow not exposing ourselves to physical and spiritual complications from sexual encounters. Just as you can take pathological bacteria, parasites, and viruses into your body by kissing a partner, or by putting your mouth in contact with their genitals, and end up with an unwanted infection, the same is true energetically. If you have a relatively healthy immune system, most of the shared bacteria, etc., will have little, if any, impact. Yet, even there are times when taking in those pathogens has life-changing effects, and we may never know where we picked it up from. The same applies to the spiritual dimension of non-penetrative sexual interaction.


Celibacy is a big topic, and not something I will cover in this article. Yet, there are a few cursory points I feel it’s important we touch on.

In my observation, there’s a lot of confusion and misunderstanding about celibacy. Typically what people have in mind when it comes to celibacy is little more than an idealised form of sexual suppression. This may have the effect of minimising the chances of a person contending with and being infiltrated by dark forces and demons associated with human sexual energy. Yet, if it’s not practiced correctly, it can have the effect of creating energetic debt, caused by a subtle misuse or misdirection of life-force. Sexual energy (life-force) always has a destination and function. To simply suppress one’s sexual energy will likely result in life-force not fulfilling its intended function, and accumulating in an imbalanced way.

The build-up of sexual energy that can occur when practicing celibacy in a suppressive way can cause mild to serious issues in the luminous body (often these will manifest as “psychological” and “emotional” issues). This energy accumulation can also make the person a target for dark forces intent on hooking into this reservoirof unused life-force.

The word celibacy means “to be unmarried”. We can take that as marriage to another human being, but also as marriage the material world and the corporal body and its passing pleasures. In true celibacy, one instead marries—which means, one creates a deep soul union—with the Divine Mother / Father. Life force, in the form of sexual energy, is then refined and directed into the many other functions it naturally has, aside from those of procreating and creating a loving bond with a partner. This is not a practice ordinary people—those without sufficient training and a suitable soul agreement—I would advise to attempt. Also, in many instances, it may only be advisable for set periods of time, during the course of doing specific spiritual practices, spiritual training, and spiritual work. That’s all I’ve got to say on this topic for now.

What to do?

My greatest encouragement to any human being is to be very aware of the ways in which they may be overly exposing their precious soul to unseen and unconscious dark and life-degrading forces, influences, and mis-associations.

In modern society I see three primary ways in which such exposure and soul-compromise is common. 1) Through the excessive use of alcohol; 2) Through the use of mind-altering substances, including cannabis and so-called “plant medicines”; and, 3) through compromising sexual interactions. It’s not without sound reasoning that most religions and spiritual traditions place a lot of emphasis on being very cautious about alcohol, drugs, and sex.

Does this mean it’s best that we repress our sexual energy?As mentioned at the beginning, sexuality is as natural as eating, breathing, sleeping, etc. Just as it pays to be conscious of what we eat and the quality of the air we breath, it’s also vital to be conscious of how, where, and why we use and share our life force through sexual relations. Just as it’s important to ensure the people you have sex with aren’t infected with an STD, it’s important to ensure they are not infected by some nasty demon or entity they are oblivious to the presence of.

Unconscious sexual repression and unconscious sexual expression are two sides of the same coin. What’s required of us is that we bring our sexuality and use of life force into consciousness, and into a place of impeccability with our spirit. According to the Original Living Wisdom of the Divine Mother, human sexual energy has very specific functions with far-reaching implications. That’s not something I can elaborate on through this written medium, as it requires training to really become conscious of in a balanced way.

Quotes on this subject

Whilst looking for an image to feature with this article, I came across the site of Bernhard Guenther, and his article Sexual Vampirism and Entity Attachments. Below are some quotes he included in that article, from other sources, which are very relevant to what I’ve shared in The Dark Side of Sex. Please take the time to read over these quotes, as some of them touch on important points I’ve not taken the time to mention in the above article.






There’s also a brief article here, which is worth reading, called Katutura’s rampaging horny demons.


This is a vast subject, and one that for most people requires some level of spiritual training to fully comprehend. My intention with this article was to take a brief look at some of the many aspects of sexuality that many people are blind-sided to. It’s by no means a thorough exploration of the topic. My wish is to simply draw attention to a few of the important dynamics that can play out through human sexuality, so that you can bring greater awareness to this extraordinary, exquisite, and potentially dangerous aspect of natural human functioning.

In Part 2 of this article we’ll take a look more deeply into some of what was covered above. Stay tuned, of join my page on Facebook for immediate update notifications.

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