How to Kiss Somebody Who Is a Different Height

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You make a cute couple, but there must be at least a foot between you when you are standing. Don't fret – there's a way to pull this off. To kiss someone who’s a different height, try the following techniques.


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    Make yourself taller or shorter. Try these subtle ways to reduce the height difference:
    • If you’re short, get a boost. Take advantage of curbs, steps, slopes, stools, and even chairs to correct for the height difference. Wear heeled shoes if possible. High heels are an obvious choice, but heeled boots can be useful for men and women.
    • If you’re tall, give your shorter partner the advantage by standing on lower terrain whenever possible. If you’re in the early stages of a relationship and/or your partner is self-conscious, try to do this inconspicuously.
    • For a sexy pose, spread your legs and lower yourself on a wall, letting your feet grip the ground and your partner stand between your legs. This will let both of you interact on more or less even footing. However this should only be done when you feel that you are in an intimate enough relationship. Alternatively, rest your weight on one foot away from the wall, lean back, and bend the other knee to strike a cool, James Dean pose. Note that this will leave your partner to do most of the work.
    • You might also want to have a seat. A bar stool or other tallish object is ideal for this. (Most normal chairs are so low that this will create a height discrepancy in the other direction, but then again, at least your partner will get to feel tall for a change.) If the situation is appropriate, pull your partner onto your lap and kiss each other sitting.
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    Meet in the middle. If your partner is a little bit taller, if they're comfortable they may let you stand on their feet. If you’re shorter, lean back a bit and reach up. Stand on your tiptoes if it's comfortable. If you’re taller, bend forward; while you’re at it, spread your feet apart a bit to not only make yourself shorter, but also give the other person a place to stand.
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    Stabilize yourselves with a hug. Holding each other close will give you both leverage, making it easier to stay balanced and gauge which height to aim for.
    • When not kissing, the shorter partner in a hug may turn his or her head to the side and rest it on the taller partner's chest or shoulders.
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    Kiss in other, more accessible spots. If it's appropriate to do so, kiss your partner on the forehead, neck, chest, arms, shoulders, hands, or belly. Not all good kisses land on the lips or cheeks!
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    Use the height discrepancy to make your kisses more passionate. Gone With the Wind contains some of the most famous onscreen kisses precisely due to the fact that Rhett was significantly taller than Scarlett; instead of trying to compensate for the discrepancy, he pulled her close, tilted her head back, and kissed her from above like an eagle swooping in on its prey. If you do this, make sure to hold the back of your partner’s head to make sure his/her neck doesn’t start aching. (Since this is an aggressive pose, tall gals might not want to do this to guys who are self-conscious about their height.)
    • If you’re short and your partner is strong enough, jump into their arms so that your faces are level, or do the "Notebook” position by wrapping your legs around your partner’s waist and kissing them from above. This usually applies to a girl jumping into a boy's arms, but if the girl is strong enough, it might work the other way around with a bit of luck!
    • If you’re tall, lift your partner. While you’re at it, spin them around as an extra romantic way to kiss. You can also raise your partner slightly above you, allowing them to wrap their legs around you if necessary.

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      • A good idea if you're shorter is, if your partner is wearing a jacket with strings, tug on them playfully to pull him/her down to you.
      • If you're too short, just put your arm around their neck and gently tug down. This will show that you're ready.
      • Don't be afraid to experiment. Find out what works and is comfortable for you and your partner.
      • Have fun! If something doesn't quite work, share a good laugh and agree to make a point to practice some more.
      • If you want more of a sexy way to tell your man or gal that you're ready, whisper to him like you have to tell him a secret, then tell him/her "I want to kiss you." Especially if done to a girl, she'll be happy to indulge you.
      • Always remember that your partner is trying to get with the kiss first.
      • If your shorter partner has to arch their neck during a long kiss, hold the back of their head or subtly move so they can rest their head against a wall.
      • If you're younger and this guy is shorter than you, this may be awkward, but ready yourselves in a position where he is on a small wall or ledge so that you are face to face.


      • If you are lifting somebody, lift them safely, bending your knees and not your back.
      • Don't tug on the Shorter person’s shoulders or back, because it may result in pain or physical damage.

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      Français: embrasser quelqu’un qui ne fait pas la même taille, Italiano: Baciare Qualcuno di Altezza Diversa, Español: besar a alguien de estatura diferente a la tuya, Português: Beijar Alguém de Estatura Diferente da Sua, Русский: целовать кого–то, кто другого роста, العربية: تقبيل شخص مختلف عنك في الطول, Deutsch: Jemanden küssen, der kleiner oder größer ist als du, Bahasa Indonesia: Mencium Seseorang yang Jauh Lebih Tinggi atau Pendek, Nederlands: Iemand kussen die korter of langer is, 日本語: 身長差のある相手とキスをする

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