5 reasons why it’s okay to leave a physically incompatible relationship

Love Sex   By Thu, Feb 7, 2019


The answer to the question: “What are you looking for in a partner?” will almost immediately be “Compatibility.” It’s the one word that encompasses several aspects, each of them essential to make the relationship work well. Often, in a relationship, women don’t speak up about physical compatibility as much as they do about the other things like intelligence, sense of humour, thoughts on money, likes and dislikes and so on. Since the idea of physicality has been taboo for many years, it gets swept under the carpet soon enough. So, do you opt out of a physically incompatible relationship? The answer is a plain yes, for the reasons listed below.


You are unhappy

If you are unhappy with your sex life, or anything remotely related to it, in a way that it cannot be fixed, you will be unhappy. And that unhappiness will then spill out on the other aspects of your life, including your professional life and your relationship. If you are suffering, and you don’t see the situation getting any better, perhaps you ought to think of opting out.


He is too demanding

If he is too demanding, even after you have spoken to him about it, then it becomes a one-way street. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex all the time, as long as both partners are up for it. If you libidos don’t match, or if he pressurises you to given in when you clearly don’t want to, you need to think more for yourself. The reasons could be varied—you’re not in the mood, you’ve already done it once, you don’t want to do it at a public place, you name it. When one partner says no, it should be considered a no.


He only thinks of himself

When in bed, and even before or after jumping into it, he is only thinking of himself. What’s more pleasurable to him, he wants you to jump in with him when he pleases, he is not as generous when it comes to pleases you, and often he doesn’t even bother to wait until you orgasm, let alone bringing you to it.


You are not sexually satisfied

Physical attraction and the want to act upon that attraction is a big part of any relationship. If the incompatibility arises on the count of both of you not being in sync, or you not being gratified by the act, it is a point to ponder on. If this is a common occurrence, which your partner is not trying correct, then perhaps it is always going to be that way.   


Thoughts of cheating have crossed your mind

This is akin to the last straw. If you are already imagining yourself with someone else to be satisfied, you are treading dangerous ground. It’s better to opt out gracefully from such a relationship rather than cheat.