Goals for the Gold


Today I was thinking about my goal-setting habits and realized that I need to refine this habit to be more productive and efficient for my short and long-term goals.  As I was thinking about goal-setting (or my lack thereof lately), I thought about the Olympics.  As much as I love sports, I’m not a fan of the Olympics but this past winter, I was intrigued by the 2018 Winter Olympics for some reason.  You would not believe which sport I watched and kept track of? Definitely not skiing. Bobsledding or as said in the olympic world ‘bobsleigh’.  I’m not sure why I was interested but I tuned in during my morning breaks to catch up or watch live.  I learned so many interesting facts about the sport:

  1. The first push of acceleration is very important.
  2. The pilot and brakeman have to be in sync with one another with timely jumps into the sled.
  3. Flexibility is key as you fit two bodies into a tiny sled. Some on their heels while the driver sits.
  4. Friction can slow you down and cause you to lose the race by hundredths of a second.
  5. The pilot sees everything.  One pilots said he never tells his teammates about what’s ahead and tells them it was a good trip.
  6. Physics plays a huge part in bobsledding. Sledders have to be very careful of their moves to avoid crashing.

So how does this relate to setting goals Tamika? Simple.

1. Pushing yourself to get started on your goals is very important.  The first push propels you; it gets your started.

2. Timeliness is important.  There is nothing like setting a goal to get something completed in a week and you haven’t considered your family, your work schedule, or other things you are working on as well.  Make sure you set realistic goals while considering other tasks on your schedule.

3. When hammering out your plan, be flexible.  If you set out to read daily for 30 minutes and something comes up, find ways to squeeze some time in or spread the extra minutes throughout the week.

4.  What are some things that bring hindrance to your life? Consider the “friction” and find ways to avoid it so that you don’t lose sight of your goal.

5.  This is my favorite one. Who is the pilot in your life? In bobsledding the pilot plays a huge role in the success of the team.  My pilot is God.  He sees everything that lies ahead of us.  He guides our path and gives us what we need to be successful.

6. You have the power to put things in motion.  Just put little force behind it, some motivation that is. We are already in August.  The third quarter of the year is coming to a close soon folks.  What declarations did you make over your life?  What daily affirmations are you telling yourself to push you closer to your dreams?  What goals do you need to set in order to end 2018 with shouting bang?

I know we live in an virtual, online world.  Shopping, chatting, connecting with people are all at our finger tips.  HOWEVER…. There is something about the power of writing.  The formation of the letters as you write.  Write out your goals. The pen, the paper and your brain will connect when you do this.  It’s powerful y’all!

In order to live your best life, you have to stop wishing and start working so take your first step toward your destiny.  Write your goals to win the gold!

Need help with goals for your marriage?  Check out our latest podcast Faith & Marriage: Making Time for Spouse & Self Episode 5.

Need a reality check about your progress? Check out Progress Ain’t Pretty.

Ready to celebrate some successes big or small? Read this post for some ideas/inspiration Celebration Time 4 You! 

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all!

Blessings, blessings, and more blessings to you!

Tamika W.


As I Look Back, I Can Move Forward

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Tamika W.



Progress Ain’t Pretty

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****Originally posted June 16, 2018 on http://www.mzimperfect.com as a guest post****

Recently a friend of mine started a bathroom renovation project. She showed us pictures of the bathroom before, during and after. On the first day of renovation, she knew that things would look a little messy but when she sent the picture to her girls, they were expecting something different. Every day she checked on the progress. Some days it looked fine and others it looked messy. But, there was some progress.

I am not sure who told me that taking on your dreams would be easy. That I would not be exhausted some days. That my patience would fluctuate. That my confidence would be tested. When chasing your dreams-an idea, a book deal, a business venture, a new career-you can organize your days, take a thousand courses, meet with expert after expert, but in order to succeed, you have to understand that your ability to bounce back will help you in the long run.

According to CNN Money, more than 44 million people have a dream (side hustle is their term) they are working. Even with all of the experts in your dream field, you’re going to get overwhelmed by the many one-size-fits-all dream routes. You will encounter naysayers. You will find that some days you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. Through it all, what are you expected to do? Push through it with courage and faith despite how tough it gets.

Having courage and faith is connected to your bounce back down the road. No matter what valley you may experience, trust me, there are resources and tools to help. I call those tools faith strengthening and conditioning because when you keep hammering your way through, your faith becomes stronger.

You condition your mind, body, and soul to do the impossible. With faith strengthening and conditioning you begin to position yourself as if it already exists. So where can you find these tools, you may ask. It’s really simple. Nothing you have to purchase. No video to watch. No list to subscribe to at this time. Real. Simple.

  1. Share your story. Your ability to climb the mountain to reach your dreams has a powerful story connected to it. Create a safe space for others to learn about your progress. Share the ups and downs, the highs and lows. People will tune in because you keep it real and because you are living proof.
  2. Celebrate the small successes. Often we look for big results and forget about the little steps along the journey that helped us reach the dream. Without those small steps, you may not have made it to the big achievement. Remember, success comes in all shapes, sizes and forms.
  3. Be open to change. Every day on your journey will not look the same. Your routines may change. Your circle of influence may change. Your dreams may even change. The best thing you can do prepare for the change by focusing your time and energy where you can have an impact.
  4. Highlight what works best for you. Refrain from always focusing on what is not working. Of course you’ll have to put what’s not working into perspective but the problem comes in when we constantly focus on the negative. Think about what is working for you and WHY it is working. Sometimes this will give us insight on our journey and believe me, it will help you push through the muddy days as well.
  5. Self-care is the best care. When you feel sick, take a break. When you are overwhelmed, press pause. Many times we can’t climb the mountain toward our dreams because we are physically and mentally worn out. There is only one you and you have to take care of yourself. Don’t be pressured to burn the midnight oil with a sore throat or with heavy eyes. How effective will you be with no sleep or if you can’t talk?

When you experience a low point, know that you have to bounce back. The bible tells us that God will bless us with the desires of heart but we are to not become weary in doing good. You can’t give up. You can’t rest too long in the valley. Chasing your dreams is complicated. You will experience burn out. The progress on your journey ain’t pretty but if you try those simple tools mentioned and keep sprinkling your life with faith, you will bounce back in time to enjoy the journey.

Remember, it’s a faith journey y’all!

Tamika W.

3 Ways to Keep Your Faith In Check







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