Spirit Guides 101 | Kelli Miller

What are Spirit Guides?

Some spirit guides are persons who have lived many former lifetimes and chose to help you instead of reincarnating into this life or they have advanced enough they don’t need to.

Many guides have had lifetimes here on earth and just like you, they have their own unique experiences, gifts, and wisdom.  Most people believe that spirit guides are chosen on “the other side” by human beings who are about to incarnate and wish assistance. They are like your best friends on the other side. You’re not going to choose to come here to a difficult place and not bring some friends along with you!

Spirit guides are beings which we chose for ourselves before we are born. They help nudge and guide us through life.  They’re responsible for helping us fulfill the spiritual contract we make with ourselves before we incarnate and the lessons that come with it.

They too learn from our mistakes, that is part of the contract. But they help us to find courage to keep going and not to give up in a harsh, cruel environment. Yep, we have our own cheering squad helping us here on Earth.

Who are these guides?

Carefully chosen and recruited just for you, spirit guides are beings that are completely devoted to your personal, soul’s growth. Some guides will stay with you throughout your entire life, and others will pop in every now and again to help you with specific areas of your life or goals you are trying to achieve. Some may be highly ascended masters (such as Jesus and Buddha) and others might be your average spirit who just happens to be a master in a certain area.  They may appear to have a male or female energy, but on the other side gender is neutral (we humans like to put labels on gender and names). You may be the only person they are guiding, or they may be helping other people as well.  They might be deceased relatives, but that rare.  When it’s time for your spirit guides to help you, they tune in to your energy and help direct you to fulfill your earthly mission and contract you chose for yourself. Their only job is to support you and guide you as much or as little as you wish. Guides are perfectly suited to your highest calling.

What can’t they do?

First let’s get familiar with the general rules. There is a set of protocols known to all guides that were developed for us humans inhabiting Earth. As a result there are many things they can and cannot do.

They cannot affect your free-will. Because our planet is located in a “free will” zone, guides are bound by protocols that are designed to honor and protect our free will. In other words, your free will about your choices will trump whatever is suggested from your guides. Guides can give you advice but they cannot tell you what to do.


Guides cannot give you information on someone else without that person’s consent. They also cannot give information that is contrary to your belief systems without permission. For instance, if you are Christian they will not explain/show beliefs to you in Judaism.

Spirit Guides will NEVER ask, demand or put fear in their responses or reactions to you. If any response or feeling does not feel natural, loving, compassionate and acceptable to you, then you should stop immediately with contact.

You have to be very specific with the information to which you request. Guides do not understand intent. State any question clearly and precisely. Guides can only give you information that you request.


How to contact your Spirit Guides


Remember they cannot just come in and start interacting with us, without permission. Simply ask for them to help. They can help you from finding your lost pet, finding strength and courage for events in your life, landing the job for your best potential or for just peace and love. They can help in all directions in life. You have team spirit on your side at all times whenever you need them, just ask for help.

You can ask them for a sign of their presence. You can ask specifically for a certain sign, too. You can say ‘Spirit Guides, if you are real show me a feather.’ Usually within 48 hours you will see a sign from them. Know when they send you a sign, it will not be scary or fearful. It’s will be very easy and ‘coincidental’ (there is no such thing as a coincidence, it is called synchronicity).

Also know, that spirit knows what is in the best interest for you. Sometimes the outcome is not what you are hoping for or expecting. Those are called blessings in disguise. Let go of any expectations on outcomes and allow them to guide you. Yes, that means you have to TRUST them. Once you let go of how your mind thinks they should be and what you think they should show you, you then will open yourself up to receiving their guidance in ways beyond your expectations.

Lastly, don’t think that you are bothering too much by asking for help. It’s their job! They love to help you on your journey and understand the hardships of being here. You can never ask too much. They understand human doubt, fears and concerns.


Our guides are always at the ready to connect with us, however tuning into their frequency is sometimes not as easy as you may think. You must learn meditation to help with the communication pathways between the two of you.

Your right side of the brain is the intuitive side. In mediation, ask for your guides to come to the right side of you. You’ll be able to sense masculine or feminine energy. Once you determine if it is a male or female, ask what their name is. The first name that pops into your head is their name. Remember, your spirit guides don’t really care what you call them, they are happy you asked to meet them! You can repeat this process multiple times to really get to know all of your guides.


Dreaming is a fabulous way to connect with your spirit guides. Before you go to bed ask your guides to come to you as you sleep and ask them to help you remember it upon waking up. In a dream state, you may not be able to see their faces, but you’ll know it’s them. It feels as if you can trust them with your life, but you cannot place them with people that you have met here on Earth. Either that or it feels as if you are falling in love with someone that you haven’t met here on Earth. Love is the highest vibrational frequency there is and they are always vibrating at that level.

When you wake up, either write down what you can remember or verbally say out loud what you can remember and any messages. Just say or jot down anything that pops into your mind, regardless of how much sense it makes. You’ll be able to connect the dots later.

Keep note of any guidance, visions, dreams or intuitive hunches you receive. Connecting with your spirit guides requires you to notice and trust the intuitive guidance when you receive it. In writing things down it gives you a black and write record of what is so often evident. That’s when you get to see the dots connect.