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Overcoming A Bad First Impression

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The first question to ask yourself is whether the negative impression was a function of something you actually said or did, or whether it had more to do with guilt by association. Don't forget; sometimes two people simply don't get along at first, only to form a long-lasting friendship in the future — it has been known to happen.

Ask yourself if it's worth it
Although it's possible to make a second first impression, oftentimes you might be better served not even trying. Come closer: people are generally self-centered, so no matter how innocent and well-meaning your intentions, some people will think what they wish no matter what you say or do. As well, you don't need to be liked in order to succeed in life. In fact, if you are too well-liked, it might be a sign that you're selling yourself short. Successful people are generally not liked; they are respected, even feared. So if some denigrators have bad things to say about you that are based on hearsay or a negative first impression, what do you care?

Most of the time, you're better off focusing your energy elsewhere and eventually, your good work and positive results will change others' perception.

Stand your ground
There is another a key point that should be noted. Some people might not like you upon meeting you because they dislike a trait that you actually possess; others may not like you upon meeting you because they dislike a trait that you seem to possess.

In the former scenario, unless the trait is a negative one that needs to be changed, you should not compromise yourself. Women are often vilified for being aggressive in business; this does not mean that they should change.

Use actions, not words
In the end, the only way you can actually make a material difference in how you're perceived is by letting your actions speak for you. Words are too commonplace and easy to throw around — what people respect are actions.

Thankfully, business is a results-driven environment. Therefore, anything you have said or done in the past can be rectified.

  E-mail of the week


I have been working at a new company for only six weeks but realize that this is not for me — not the company, nor the position. Should I leave? What kind of impression would that give to future employers? Please help!


We seem to be in a jobless recovery, so on the one hand, because you have a job, you should not take it for granted. Today, many people who are unhappy are biding their time and waiting for the job market to pick up, but once it does, trust me, you'll notice an exodus and a game of musical chairs occurring. Either way, staying in a job out of fear is a bad career move. If you're unhappy, start planning and make your move. Otherwise, you'll be stuck and will likely miss out on the next job boom. Opportunities are out there — you just have to reach high enough to grab them.


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