What's the creepiest thing a person of the opposite sex has ever done to you, thinking it was okay? by thundercloud417 in AskReddit

[–]Luliel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One time, I met this dude in a club while I was out with some friends. I thought he was cute, and we vibed a bit and ended up kissing. Y'know, clubbing shenanigans.

But then he got super weird after that, like seriously 0 to 100. He kept asking me to go home with him so we could go for breakfast the next day, because he worked in the film industry and was really busy and this was his only weekend off. I'd say no, and he'd say he would respect my decision but then would ask again like five minutes later.

When he realized he wasn't going to get a yes out of me, he would go to my friend and say stuff like "oh, why don't you let her go home with me?". I'd tell him I didn't want to go home with him that night, but that I'd text him and we would make plans soon. He would say stuff like he didn't believe me because all of his girlfriends had cheated on him, and he was such a nice guy. Obviously. Eventually I started avoiding him because he was making me seriously uncomfortable.

Later in the night, I was taking a break from dancing because I was tired and wasn't feeling super well. He happened to be sitting nearby (which I didn't realize when my friend and I sat down), and came closer. My friend told him to fuck off and leave me alone because what he was doing wasn't okay and he said something like she should stop being my guard dog and just let me go home with him. He did leave, but just went to stand across from the sitting area with his arms folded across his chest and stared/glared at me for like ten minutes. I left the club shortly after that. SERIOUS bullet dodged and creeped me the fuck out.

LPT: If you are always worrying if you did something after leaving home, like locking the door or turning off the stove, get in the habit of speaking out the actions as you do it. Saying "I'm turning the stove off." while you do it creates a more concrete memory and will put your mind at ease. by DaGoz in LifeProTips

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do this when I'm putting something somewhere safer than normal, because I often forget where I've put it when I do. So I'll say to myself "I've put my headphones under my seat" or "I'm putting my necklace in the side pouch of my bag". If I'm worried I'll still forget, I'll repeat it to myself once or twice. It helps a ton!

What is the most romantic moment you’ve experienced in your life? by PhinnishPharma in AskWomen

[–]Luliel 9 points10 points  (0 children)


Thanks Lizz, We are good guys by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Luliel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying that that kind of generalizing is necessarily okay, but I do think that people should try to understand where exactly it's coming from - because it's fueled by a lot of fear and hurt and pain. And understanding that pain will allow for a better conversation on it.


[–]Luliel 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I understand the sentiment that we shouldn't generalize, but this isn't at all what the movement/hashtag is trying to say. It's not trying to complain (just) about being treated badly by men in romantic contexts, but it's trying to highlight the general harassment and shit treatment women receive at the hands of (a lot of) men on a wider/day-to-day scale. Such as street harassment, workplace harassment, or generally being put into a situation by a man where we are afraid/uncomfortable, because literally every woman has experienced one or all of those things at some point in her life.

Which clothes/ shoes make you feel most confident? by hohohoho8484 in AskWomen

[–]Luliel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like to wear leggings or skinny jeans with thick heeled boots. I just like how the weight of the boots contrast with the fit of the pants, and the slight heel makes me feel tall and confident. Also, leather jackets. I feel like a badass in those

Are you more heels or flats tipe of woman? Why? by Maya7778 in AskWomen

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like both - if I'm just going to work at my part time job or playing dnd with friends I'll do flats, but if I'm going out somewhere for lunch with friends or any kind of social event I like to wear heels just because I like how they look with the outfits I wear

AITA for wanting my boyfriend to put some effort into his appearance? by kir-aii in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. It's not just about wanting him to look nice for other people, but as someone in a relationship you want your SO to want to look good for you as well. It makes you feel like you're worth some kind of effort. Maybe explain this to him as well. But also - there might be a reason for his newfound sloppiness, he could be depressed or stressed out about something. Maybe also check that everything is okay with him.

New witch - can you do magick to help others? by bauguau- in Witch

[–]Luliel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not the most experienced witch myself and I think that no two witches practise exactly the same, but I don't see why not! As long as you're clear in your intent to focus on him and use some kind of "token" or something (a hair, a picture of him, something related to him) to represent him in your spell.

A charm jar could even work quite well if you're looking to attract a specific kind of energy to him (luck, financial success etc) as he could keep it on him.

AITA for using a trick I use on little kids on adults? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I understand why your brother might be upset but I think he's overreacting by immediately leaving rather than talking about things. Panicked reactions are a thing and at the end of the day it's not that serious and isn't the biggest thing here. I hope your family comes around to your girlfriend!

Why do you want to be with your current SO? by blue_strat in AskWomen

[–]Luliel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because he makes it obvious how much he loves me and accepts me for who I am and makes me feel like the most special person in the world

[Spoilers C2E79] Marisha Appreciation - Positivity Please by Mixolot in criticalrole

[–]Luliel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty new to the fandom so I had no idea she didn't like these posts, did she say why?

What's the dumbest injury you've sustained from a seemingly harmless act or scenario? by Kamioni in AskReddit

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reached over for a bottle of water while in bed, fell face first into my side table. Had to get five stitches.

AITA for being annoyed that my gf got a lift from a guy? by CleanSoup in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Alarm bells are fucking ringing in my head right now, this guy sounds seriously creepy and I wouldn't trust him at all. He just happened to show up while she was waiting for her bus after finding her and contacting her on instagram? No way. But maybe approach the situation in a more sensitive way rather than from a place of anger, otherwise your gf will likely shut down and not listen. Explain to her how creepy this all is and how it definitely isn't a safe situation to be in, and explain that you're just worried about her.

We’re going to ignore the law by externalsecant in dndmemes

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does this mean my bright pink tiefling is technically rule compliant?

WIBTA - Don't look a gift horse in the mouth. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I feel bad for your little sister. Maybe after dealing with the situation you guys could organise an additional "wedding" photoshoot with some close friends and family and a better photographer? It won't be the same, but it will at least give her some nice pictures and memories to look back on

AITA for blaming my drug addiction on my mother in front of my family? by milkteacups in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Not only does she share blame in this, but the fact that she came to the family reunion pretty much ONLY to badmouth you (and for what? To make herself look/feel better) means that she more than deserved to be called out.

AITA for not eating pasta that my boyfriend spent four hours making? by throwwwawayyyayyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Also anyone who calls you an "ungrateful bitch" because they're upset with you is possibly someone you should reexamine your standing with.

WIBTA if I buy my girlfriend a cheap engagement ring? by SomeLlamasInPyjamas in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but that also partially depends on the kind of person your girlfriend is. If she's the type to value expensive jewellery then she might not like a cheaper ring as much, but personally I think it's the thought that counts. Getting a cheaper ring might also mean you have more money to take her on a nice proposal dinner or something like that if that's your intention. You've put effort into choosing a ring that you think she'll like, and I think that's very sweet and thoughtful and I think she will (hopefully) appreciate that.

My boyfriend said that i was suffocating him, what should i do? by gurlidontfuckinknow in relationship_advice

[–]Luliel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was involved with a guy who I felt I needed to tone down my "clingingyness" with and felt terrible about myself because I was constantly second guessing if I should be saying/doing certain things. Now I'm with a guy who I shower with affection as much as I can/want and who does the same for me and couldn't be happier. My advice: don't change who you are for anyone. Find yourself someone who appreciates the effort you put in and who will put in that effort right back.

AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend for defending herself? by ReachTheSky in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA. It's extremely common for people to pretend to be maintenence workers etc in order to gain access to a person's home and do something terrible. It wasn't her not liking someone, she was genuinely concerned that this person might want to break in and do something to her. Yes, pulling out a gun might have been an extreme measure, but if she was really worried then it was justified.

AITA for asking my girlfriend not to do nude photo shoots? by AliJungleOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]Luliel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH because I have friends who are into being suspended etc and I know that while it CAN be sexual, it really isn't always. From my understanding, it's an expression of creative freedom. I understand why you wouldn't be comfortable with this, but if this is a hobby you girlfriend has had for a while (especially if she's been doing it since before you two were together) you need to understand that asking her not to do it might make her resentful of you too. If you feel the need to, try talking to her and coming up with some sort of middle ground or compromise that you both can be happy with.

Is my relationship with my uncle weird? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Luliel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's weird at all. I have that kind of relationship with my mom. Maybe society would deem it a bit weirder because he's your uncle, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with your parental figure being your confidant. In fact, I think it can be helpful in a lot of ways - they have a lot more life experience with which to give you advice, and that kind of close relationship means you can get a lot more out of that advice cause you're both inclined to be open and honest about it. So I think it's really great that you can talk that openly with him!