15 August 2016







Cook your friend a meal.


Talya from Feeling Ostomistic suggested:


Tell your friend you're thinking of them.


Maree says



Buy/bring your friend groceries.



Put together a care package.




Lend out your TV subscription service.


I'm signing up to Stan myself now.

Ask what you can do to help.



Talya says:


Don't try to compare or give advice.





Respect your friend's boundaries.






Empathise that this really sucks.









  1. Great post Carly.
    I have been battling breast cancer all year and yes, these are the things we need to provide the strength and energy to get us through. Advice is a serious no-no!

  2. All of that is very good advice. My other tip is not to stop talking to them about your life. Respect their boundaries - as you've asked with the advocacy stuff - but if they it's ok to dump on them or debrief with them, then it is.

  3. Wish i could be there to cook for/with you both! I love cooking and would be very happy to help. I'm visiting Melbourne in late nov-dec, love to hang out together xx

  4. Do the practical! Don't just say you'd like to do something or ask if can you help. Arrive on the doorstep WITH something. Having to ask for help is so so difficult. Especially with chronic illness when you can manage it well most of the time. Love this article Carly!

  5. This really sucks! No, not the article. The article is great. The not feeling well and needing to open yourself up to needing more help from others? I empathize, and it sucks for me too right now. Thank goodness for those friends and family who come through to make the world better. Hope you feel better soon!

  6. Great post!! This resonates with me a lot. I have the odd flare up and many off days with my condition; today being one. Throw dealing with 2 small kids, 1 with ichthyosis and a husband that often has to work away from home into the mix and I'm generally knackered. If friends offer to cook for me, bring me food or just generally keep me company I'm forever grateful. Hope you're feeling better x

  7. Great post honey and I'm so glad you're surrounded by caring support and love. I have a friend who spends most days bedridden with Fibro and CFS, she is a single mum also and faces a lot of day to day struggles. I make meals, help with her kids, clean, buy her small gifts to brighten her day. She always says she wants to here about her friends lives as well as it gives her a distraction from how she feels. I'm just there for her and I'm at the end of the phone or there holding her hand if things are bad and falling apart.




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