

Young Husband Is Partier

I'm married to a younger man and we have a young son together. Lately, his friends keep telling him to come party with them. They use horrible language and the way they talk about woman is disgusting! They have been friends forever so he does not want to make them mad. This is causing huge conflict! Help!

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 ---Megan on 11/5/11
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I thought the saying was, "New husbands are like new boots, they hurt at first, until you walk on them a little and break them in." LOL. I'v tried to be a good boot to my wife and I hope I don't pinch her that much anymore.
---Poppa_Bear on 11/8/11

Megan, why don't you do this...tell your husband that he can go out with his friends one night a week and then you are going out with your friends another night a week and he has to babysit just like you do. Even if you just go shopping or have tea at a friend's house, get out and do something and leave him alone with your young son.

You know what they say about marrying young men, don't you? They're more trouble to train then they're worth..LOL! (kidding I think). still LOLing...sorry.
---anon on 11/8/11

Trish and Bill had some good advice. One thing to remember as a young wife or husband, nagging generally makes things worse. It doesnt mean you dont confront the problem, the thing is to confront his sinful behavior with respect, dignity and grace, if you say your going to put your foot down, do it and be consistent, unless you were wrong and hasty. Also, if you dont have a biblical foundation to build your marriage on, you are just skating on thin ice. As was said, bible study, consistent Church, older women to guide you through these early years, prayer, prayer and put Jesus before your husband, because no matter what your husband will never fulfill every area and you wont fulfill every area for him, only Christ can.
---Poppa_Bear on 11/7/11

Shira, do you see many roosters on hear bashing their hens? I think if we had a "My wife..." tab it would be used very little in comparison to the "My husband..." tab.
---Jed on 11/7/11


Ideally, both hens and roosters should cease their squawking, and rather have calm, fruitful, and rational discussions on meaningful subjects.
---StrongAxe on 11/7/11

If squawking hens have a blog, then we must in fairness create a blog for the colorful rooster. With all the color the rooster has must be a big distraction for the squawking hens. Maybe some hens have something to squawk about. Maybe their rooster is trying to strut to another squawking hen.
---shira4368 on 11/6/11


We need a special tab for the Hens. Title it "My Husband..."
---John on 11/6/11

A real man will put his wife and family before his friends.
---Jed on 11/6/11

Explain to your husband that he married you, not them, and their coarse remarks about women will sooner or later how he acts towards you.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/6/11

First question is, are you and your husband believers? Do you pray daily for him? Does he take the family to church, or do you go alone, or not at all?

My suggestion is to get yourself involved in a women's Bible study, and find a mature woman to mentor you, one who will show you how to be a Christian wife.

Then, buy a copy of Stormie O'Martian's "The Power of a Praying Wife," and pray daily for the man you married.
---Trish9863 on 11/6/11

Prevention is better. I don't mean you, Megan, necessarily, but plenty of people marry ones they do not belong with. They do not make sure with God.

However, even if they belong with each other, they can hurt each other, if they can sin against their own selves. So . . . if I'm going to trust someone, I need to be also ready to forgive anything.

I would say pray, first, and become fully able to forgive and be pleasantly patient, with God making you this way. Then see how things are clear to you, about what to do. Do you have mature Christian examples who can help you two?
---Bill_willa6989 on 11/6/11

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