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What Are the Differences Between Male and Female Orgasms?

The orgasm is usually the culmination of sexual activity — but it doesn’t always need to be. We can enjoy sex without achieving oragasm, and in some cases the experience can be even more enjoyable. But it’s always important for both people in a relationship to be in tune with the other’s sexuality.

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To satisfy one another is one of the most exciting and exhilarating journeys!

Whether you have a fuck buddy or a long-term partner, knowing how to please each other in the bedroom is crucial to your relationship. But here’s the best bit: learning how to satisfy one another is one of the most exciting and exhilarating journeys any couple can take.

The chances are you already know what your partner likes in bed. It might be extended foreplay, or it might involve rough, animalistic sex. Whatever you’re both into, understanding how each person reaches a climax is very important.

It probably won’t surprise you to learn that men and women experience orgasms in very different ways. For example, there’s nothing all that complex about a male orgasm. Rigorous stimulation on and around the penis eventually leads to climax and ejaculation.

Female orgasms, however, a far more nuanced and complex. They affect different parts of the body, and often deliver very different sensations. A lot has been said about the G-spot over the years — but does it exist? And if so, why is it often in a different place, depending on the woman?

Even today, there are differing opinions on exactly what constitutes a female orgasm, and what the liquid ejaculate many women excrete consists of.

Pay attention, guys! there is some very useful and interesting information ahead. Here are a few of the main differences between the male and female orgasm.

Female Orgasms Don’t Always Follow the Same Path

Have you ever noticed that the lady in your life climaxes in different ways — often with different stimuli? How and when women orgasm are complex questions. For some women, dirty chat and a lot of foreplay are essential.

For others, direct contact with the clitoris is needed.

Watch a movie, and you’ll see women screaming in ecstasy during penetration. But the reality of sex is very different. Only around a quarter of women say they climax regularly as a result of vaginal penetration.

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Did you know that your lady climaxes in different ways?

For many women, direct stimulation of the clitoris at the top of the vagina is needed. Or in some cases, a combination of penetration and clitoral stimulation is required. Throw the G-spot, cervical stimulation, nipple stimulation and sensory stimulation, and all of a sudden the female orgasm becomes a very complex beast indeed.


Experiment with a combination of the activities listed above to learn how to give your partner the best orgasms.

The Clitoris Needs to be Explored

A penis is a very straightforward organ. In most cases, rubbing, vibration or a period of stimulation will deliver the desired results. The female equivalent of the penis is the clitoris, and it’s far more complicated.

The clitoris has many more nerve-endings than the penis. Unfortunately for men, no two clitorises are made the same. There is a school of thought that regards bigger clitorises located closer to the vaginal opening are more conducive to big and frequent orgasms.

The nerves that extend down through the vagina from the clitoris are long and numerous. Whether the clit, the vagina or the G-spot are responsible for orgasms isn’t really known. It could be a combination of all three, or it might depend on the woman.


What worked for other women in your life might not work for your current partner. Ask her what she wants, as she’ll probably know the best route to orgasm.

The Female Orgasm is a Much Bigger Deal

Whether it’s a one night stand or sex with a long-term partner, the female orgasm is always a much bigger deal than the male equivalent. Most men orgasm relatively easy, and it only becomes a huge deal when that stops happening.

Women, however, have a much more complex relationship with their orgasms. Some women have accepted that they simply won’t have them, while others believe that an inability to climax through vaginal sex is abnormal.

And for many men, the ability to make their partner orgasm is worn as a badge of honour — very few women feel like this. And let’s not forget the faked orgasm. Seriously, have you ever heard of a man faking an orgasm?

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The Male Orgasm Usually Marks the End of Sex

A lot of women are capable of achieving the holy grail of sex — the multiple orgasm. But even if they aren’t, sexual activity after climaxing is still something that can be enjoyed. Of course, the same can rarely be said about men.

Far too many couples live sexually deficient lives because the man climaxes before the woman has had a chance to. This causes feelings of frustration and resentment, and can be a source of immense stress for the woman in particular.

One possible solution to this problem is to indulge in an extended period of foreplay first. If the woman can climax BEFORE penetration, the vagina is nicely lubricated for better and more satisfying penetration.


Men expend a huge amount of physical and emotional energy when they climax. Try foreplay without touching their penis to build things slowly.

Male Orgasms are More Functional

Male experience sexual urges very differently. The natural desire is to climax as quickly and as practically as possible. The process involved is far more straightforward than it is for women, but it usually stops sexual activity in its tracks.

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Is just about understanding the differences.

Women have a much more emotional tie to their orgasms. Climaxing with their partners is about love, intimacy or sharing — while it’s more about satisfying an all-consuming urge for a man.

Of course, these are generalisations, but understanding these differences can help both partners in a relationship to be more considerate and empathetic.

Understand the differences between male and female orgasms, and learn to accommodate them in your sex life. If you’re both in tune with the other’s sexuality, your love life will become more fulfilling than ever before.

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