What It Is Like to Date a Girl Without a Mother

Couple holding hands in cafe
Couple holding hands in cafe

She'll be a different kind of girl. She has experienced loss and knows what it feels like to be left, even if it was unintentionally. Every day, her heart will be hurting, even if she doesn't show it. Comfort her.

She will act tough. She will pretend she doesn't have emotions. She does.

They're tucked away deep down inside her broken heart. Let her know she is meant to be loved, and you want to love her.




"She will be very independent. There will be a lot of things she won't need you for. Be there for her anyway..."


These questions will open her up to you, even if it's only a tiny bit. Remind her every day that she is beautiful, and she was raised by a queen.

She will cry a lot, but you won't know it when she does. Let her know it's okay, and let her know that you want to be the shoulder she cries on. Let her know you want to be the one to make her smile through all the tears.

She'll want to take a lot of pictures. Memories are gold to her.


She will hide, she will not accept your love right away, and it will take her a while to realize she is more than deserving of it. She will hate the fact that she feels this way, remember she can't help it.

She will be very independent. There will be a lot of things she won't need you for. Be there for her anyway, but always give her space. She values her solitude but don't ever be offended by it. Take the time to understand why she likes to be alone.

She is not broken -- although it may seem she is -- so please don't try to fix her.

She is just finding her way in this world without her mother's guidance. She will guard her heart more than she ever has before, and you'll have to try very hard to climb her walls, but when you eventually get to the other side, it will all be worth it, because she will love you with everything she has left in her.


Jenna Rose Lowthert is the author of 'Life Goes On..?'

The post originally appeared on Just Jenna Rose.

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