Sandy Henise was just hanging out, watching Netflix, Friday morning when she got a text message from her daughter, Parker Faircloth-Henise.

Parker, who will be a junior at York Suburban High School in the fall, was on her way to a basketball camp at West Virginia University when she heard the news and texted her mother.

"The Supreme Court ruled states can't ban same-sex marriage anymore," the message read.

Sandy texted back, in part, "Party time!"

The timing was serendipitous. Henise and her partner, Julie Cunningham, had just picked up their marriage license Monday. The wedding is this coming Friday, an event that had been planned since January, scheduled to coincide with the anniversary of the date they met.

Henise joked that they waited for the Supreme Court to rule before saying, "Hey, let's get married."

Cunningham said, "At first, when we thought about getting married, it never occurred to us that it would be legal. It's been a long time coming."

Henise, 50, and Cunningham, 51, first met at a National Education Association convention in Washington on July 1, 2008. Henise teaches seventh and eight-grade math at York City's Jackson School. Cunningham worked in special education in rural Minnesota.

Henise was asking directions to a meeting of the association's LGBT caucus when Cunningham approached her and asked whether she needed someone to walk her there. Henise replied that she didn't need anyone to walk with her, but if they were heading to the same place, they could walk together. Cunningham, a Midwesterner, was immediately smitten with Henise's eastern accent.

They spent the rest of the convention hanging out. When it was over, Henise asked Cunningham if she wanted to date. Cunningham wondered how that would work, what with her living 1,000 miles away.

"For a year," Henise said, "we did the 1,000-mile thing."

They pretty much knew right away that they were meant to be together. They Skyped and talked often. Cunningham visited York frequently.

In October 2008, during one of her visits, Cunningham proposed to Henise, something that, at the time, seemed unlikely to happen.

In June 2009, after school let out for the summer, Henise flew to Minnesota and they drove back and moved in together. Two months later, the bought a house in Spring Garden Township, a neat little rancher near Parker's school.

They discussed getting married. They could have flown to Iowa, or driven to Maryland, two states that were early adopters of marriage equality. But Henise said, "What would be the point if the state we live in doesn't recognize it?"

Then, last May, a U.S. District Court judge ruled that Pennsylvania's ban on same-sex marriage violated the constitutional rights of gays.

"We thought, 'OH, OK, we can't keep putting this off,'" Henise said.

They wanted to be wed on the anniversary of the day they met, or as close as possible, and July 1, 2014, fell on a Tuesday. "Who gets married on a Tuesday?" Henise asked.

Besides, they had little time to plan a wedding between May and July. So they set the date for July 3 this year.

Then, Friday happened. The historic Supreme Court ruling.

The wedding would be a celebration of their love. And of the fact that others in the same situation would have the right to wed.

They began planning the wedding in January.

When they began looking for someone to officiate at the wedding, they kind of fell into it. They know the wife of the mayor of McSherrystown; she's retired from the Lincoln Intermediate Unit, where Cunningham works. And when he heard about the wedding, he agreed immediately.

The wedding will be at Highpoint Scenic Vista and the reception will be at Victor's Italian Restaurant. It had to be there because that's their neighborhood bar and when they first met in Washington, they went out for Italian just about every night.

It will be a small wedding, just 28 people. "I think we're going to be the only gay people there," Henise said.

They adapted standard wedding vows, going over them with the mayor. The major sticking point was at the end, when traditional vows call for the couple to be introduced as "Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So." They are going to introduced simple as Julie and Sandy Cunningham-Henise.

Another change was to remove any reference to "holy" from the vows. As Henise said, "It wasn't God who kept us from being married. It was the state of Pennsylvania."

When they got the final copy of their vows, they read them together and wept.

"This means something," Cunningham said. "These vows really mean something."

They are doing a lot of the traditional things. Last weekend, friends of Cunningham threw her a surprise bachelorette party, picking her up in a Hummer stretch limo. They went to a pole dancing class at a Lancaster exercise facility and then, went out to dinner.

"I kept thinking, 'This is something people get to do. This is great. It was so surreal to me."

They've already been on their honeymoon. In June, Cunningham rode in a 100-mile bike ride at Lake Tahoe to benefit leukemia and lymphoma research. They coupled that with a family trip to San Francisco and a honeymoon to the Napa Valley.

They never thought the day would come that they could get married.

"Back in the '80s, when we first came out, it didn't seem like a possibility," Henise said. "Now, it's real."

And it's meaningful, and just not to Cunningham and Henise.

When Henise got the text from her daughter, she texted back with a portion of Justice Anthony Kennedy's majority decision: "Without the recognition, stability, and predictability marriage offers," he wrote, "their children suffer the stigma of knowing their families are somehow lesser."

After Friday, their family will no longer be somehow lesser.

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