To be fed up of having no money?

(54 Posts)
financiallyembaressed Thu 07-Nov-13 17:41:29

Regular on a name change. We literally are living off credit cards from day 10 after payday. We are up to our limit on our cards apart from one that will be soon. I don't know what we are going to do. Tips appreciated.

Dh works ft. I am a sahm looking for work but with 4dcs it's tough. I also have health problems and depression.

Feels like we are stuck.

ItsAliveItsElectric Fri 08-Nov-13 17:09:44

Unfortunately yes OP as in the process of putting the plan in place you have to offer the creditors a token payment which means they often serve default notices in the interim period as the full minimum payment is not received. However, after 6 years these are all wiped from your record. Its a pain as it may mean you can't get any more credit but that's a good thing I think. I would really recommend going with Step Change as uts free and they help you so much, its like a weight off your shoulders honestly x

popmusic84 Fri 08-Nov-13 17:01:43

I would imagine full time work with 4 dc may not make financial sense. Working around partners shifts would probably be better.
Good luck op.

ssd Fri 08-Nov-13 16:40:17

op, it would probably be better to ask them that direct, if it would have a negative effect on your dh's job

financiallyembaressed Fri 08-Nov-13 16:10:06

It's alive, did that effect your credit score?

Babyroobs Fri 08-Nov-13 14:28:23

Try to find a job which fits around your partners ( assuming he works regular hours), so weekends / evenings/ nights. As others have suggested care work/ supermarket etc. Can you transfer any of the cards to a 0% deal thus giving you a little breathing space?

ItsAliveItsElectric Fri 08-Nov-13 13:13:12

OP, I second Step Change (formerly CCCS). A few years ago me and dh had got into such a spiral of debt it seemed we would never get out. It was from student days, overspending, never thinking that one day it would all have to be paid back. It came to a head one day when I realised we had one large loan, 6 credit cards and 2 overdrafts between us and after we had covered the minimum payments on everything and essential bills we had barely enough to live. I sat and cried. We had £23, 000 of debt between us. I found the number online and called them straight away. You need your income and expenditure ready but they take literally everything into account, even haircuts, bus passes, newspapers, pet costs. ... After agreeing a comfortable figure they write to the creditors and tell them how much your offer is and include a copy of your budget. All of them without exception agreed it. They do recognise people struggle and are usually glad people want to pay them back so will freeze the interest too. Six years later we are debt free and I can honestly say I will never get another credit card or loan again. Good luck x

financiallyembaressed Fri 08-Nov-13 12:48:04

yesterday I know I'm sure I will. Plan to do that next, off to hand application in and go through income/outcome. I have finished my letter to the bank re charges.

YesterdayI Fri 08-Nov-13 11:30:57

You wil probably feel better when you have analysed your finances properly. Once you properly understand the situation you may feel a bit more relaxed, even if the situation is a bit grim.
You should be prepared that it may take several hours to do your financial analysis. It depends how organized you are. smile
That great that you are already handing in CVs

financiallyembaressed Fri 08-Nov-13 11:09:52

coca I'm going to advertise myself as a babysitter.

financiallyembaressed Fri 08-Nov-13 11:08:40

Morning. thanks for all the support and advice. I feeling a wee bit brighter today. Off to hand in an application form. Also going to try and start bank charges claim.

financiallyembaressed Thu 07-Nov-13 22:13:27


financiallyembaressed Thu 07-Nov-13 22:12:38

Mrs is snap an employers hand off if I was offered a job that paid enough for child are,

CocacolaMum Thu 07-Nov-13 22:11:47

do you have any hidden talents you could tap into to earn money from home? we were in this position 8yrs ago and I started making and selling things - I am still doing it and make a fair wage without any childcare fees!!

MrsOakenshield Thu 07-Nov-13 22:02:48

is there absolutely no way you could look for full time work? I appreciate it may well not be what you want, but for a couple of years it could get you back on track? Or why does your work have to be evenings and weekends only - do you have a newbie? Just right now, financially speaking only, it sounds like you being a sahm (or fitting work around being a sahm) may be an indulgence you really can't afford. Also, would working help with your depression?

katiemarnie Thu 07-Nov-13 21:52:02

STEP change used be Consumer Credit Counselling Service is free and a recognised charity - offers over the phone advice, based in Leeds. Do not pay for advice.

mumofweeboys Thu 07-Nov-13 20:32:44

Check out they have amazing forums who will talk you through your debt ect

financiallyembaressed Thu 07-Nov-13 20:31:41

I would seriously consider some sort of debt plan but dh works in a job where a negative credit score would see him out of a job.

financiallyembaressed Thu 07-Nov-13 20:28:34

Thank you all.., really helping just talking.thanks I have just filled in an app for a job working as and when, evenings and weekends. Will ring the bank re charges. Can't face going through income and outgoings tonite but will try tomm, my mental health is suffering.

My dh has spoken to pil who have very kindly offered to take over loan debt. smile

I want to retrain, been putting off until ds starts nursery when gets free place, will look into wether can do it sooner.

YesterdayI Thu 07-Nov-13 20:00:04

HERE is the link to the Money Saving Experts budget planner.

Mylovelyboy Thu 07-Nov-13 19:46:50

Blimey nightmare. Can you please post incomings and outgoings. Im sure between all of us on here we can try and help you out. Please dont be embarassed either. No one is judging. Ive been up shite creek before and its good to have outside imput.

YesterdayI Thu 07-Nov-13 19:17:03

I would visit MONEY SAVING EXPERT. There are lots of helpful people and lots of people in the same situation. You can post a statement of affairs and get advice about what things you can make savings on.

Try to see managing your finances as your new 'job' , set aside time to analyse exactly what your ingoings and outgoings are. Read and reread the info given on Money Saving Expert.

Every single pound that you save makes a difference.

Good luck.

ImperialBlether Thu 07-Nov-13 19:09:40

A friend of mine was charged £85 one month by her bank and she rang them to say she hadn't enough money for the month and they refunded it. They said they will do it once a year maximum - that was Lloyds, not sure what other banks do.

Badvoc Thu 07-Nov-13 19:04:42

Let's face it, no debt is a good idea but at times needs when our boiler packed up in the coldest January since 1963. Or when our conservatory roof fell in.
not bitter
We on,y have some cc debt ( see above) and it's on a 0% cc so we aren't paying to service the debt.
We hope to pay as much as we can off before the rate ends and then move it again (this is called being a card tart smile)

Badvoc Thu 07-Nov-13 19:02:11

Ok. know what you need to do.
Call cap or pay plan and get his sorted.
Ask your pil if you can delay/stop payments for a while. Obv depending in your relationship this may not be possible.
Can you go IO on your mortgage? It take a payment holiday?

financiallyembaressed Thu 07-Nov-13 18:55:01

Borrowed it off pil who took a loan out

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