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Q: My boyfriend and I are best friends and he is the only one for me in the whole school. Nothing could change that until Bridget came to our school and became popular and decided that she wanted my boyfriend. I knew before we went out we would have this problem because a lot of girls like him. Girls, mainly Bridget, act like my friend then they back stab me and try to take my boyfriend. He is a nice person and being rude to them is not in his nature. That's why I like him so much. I trust him but not her! How can I handle her with class, not become the joke of the school, and still have the man of my dreams?
- Too Trusting?

A: If you trust him, there really isn't anything for you to worry about. You don't have to "handle" Bridget. Let her know that you are aware that she's faking friendship and that you are disappointed. Then let her go. No need to get into a screaming cat-fight. Your boyfriend should be supportive of you and treat her the same way you do. People only get away with being fake when we let them.

You should make sure that you aren't incorrectly assuming that every girl wants to take your boyfriend. Just because they're nice to him, maybe even a little giggly and flirty, that doesn't mean they're trying to steal him. A lot of girls don't know any other way to behave around guys. They just naturally turn into babbling airheads. It looks and sounds like they're flirting, but they're really just nervous. Think about that before you act. Is it possible you have a jealousy problem? My friend is homicidal...she has an urge to kill. I'm her sole confidant in this and we're both scared. She has expressly told me she's not going to see a counselor, teacher, or anyone. Is there anything that I can do to help?
- Witness

It is your duty as a friend and as a human being to tell someone about your friend's problem. Whenever there has been a Columbine type tragedy, we hear about how other kids heard the killers talk about what they were going to do but nobody did anything and then it was too late. They always say, "I never thought they were actually going to do it." It's not your job to figure out whether or not she really means it and it's not your job to be her therapist.

You should tell your school guidance counselor or a teacher or tell your parents and have them talk to the school. Your friend will go to a therapist because she won't have a choice in the matter...and why should she have a choice? She's clearly not right in the head!

She may get mad and end the friendship, but who needs a friend who wants to kill people? And after she gets some therapy and works through her problems, she may appreciate what you've done for her. She's not happy now. After some counseling, she may be able to be happy in the future.
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