Marriage Killers

A week ago, I celebrated being married for eleven years. To the same man.

Depending on my audience, I get varied responses to that piece of information. Most people offer congratulations, some ask for advice, a few are shocked that anyone would choose to stay married to someone for that length of time. A couple have asked, “what’s the trick?“ 

I have not found any books boasting “3-steps-to-a-perfect-marriage”, and because every couple is unique, there will always be solutions as different as the individuals. There are, however, a few fundamentals that are necessary to keep the flames burning when we are faced with the realities of life. It is not easy work; it is not for the timid, or lazy, or half-hearted. In fact, what typically kills our marriages, is us.   

The following words first appeared on RELEVANT Magazine.


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