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How to Get Rid of Anxiety
(15 Natural Ways That You Haven't Thought Of)

Welcome to Part 2 of our 2-part series "How to Get Rid of Anxiety Without Doing Drugs (15 Natural Non-Mainstream Ways)".

We are discussing several ways we can give ourselves an endorphin rush without reaching for a shot glass or bong.

Let's continue, shall we?

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#9 Play Around With Aromatherapy

When I say "Aromatherapy", I actually mean Aromatherapy.

It's not a codeword for "smoking weed" or "burning" (aka using) Kratom. 

I usually don't like recommending anything that I'm not 100% familiar and up to speed with, but Aromatherapy as a treatment for anxiety has gained considerable popularity in the past 3 or 4 years.

I definitely think there is potential to help stress levels and mild/moderate anxiety. Anything that stimulates the senses can help and it seems like every girl (and gay guy) in Los Angeles swears by it.

When I used to do the 'pick up thing', I actually did my own version of aromatherapy.

Basically I had a facial steamer and put some sort of fragrance in the water or used a candle to burn oil. I put it on when I got girls back to my place.

It was mainly to convince first-time girls to lay in my bed so I start my "massage game" and give both of us an excuse to lose our clothes faster than normal. Worked. Most of the time anyway.

It was fairly primitive, low-budget Aromatherapy setup and at the time (2008-2009) nobody was really pushing it (essential oils) as a viable treatment for anxiety.

This 2011 clinical study (interestingly enough, published in an Iranian peer-reviewed journal) says it's undeniably effective and highly underrated.

This article in the Huffington Post details -

Aromatherapies: The smell of vanilla and lavender has been linked with the production of endorphins. Studies have shown that dark chocolate and spicy foods can lead the brain to release endorphins. Keep some scented oils and some dark chocolate at your desk for a quick endorphin boost.

So it's worth a try if you like this kind of stuff.

Maybe it's a placebo effect?

But if it works, it's cheap and it smells good - it might be worth it.

It goes without saying, getting a massage is really good for anxiety too.

Personally I think massaging a girl's ass (if she has a bubble butt) is just as good. But that's just me.


#10 Jerk Yourself Off With the Fleshlight or Stick a G-Spot Machine Up Your Asshole (Doesn't Make You Gay)

Mainstream sites think they are being insightful and super edgy when they suggest "Have sex!" as a natural anxiety remedy.

Obviously that is a great endorphin release.

Obviously #2, not everyone has access to good pussy that they can fuck anytime they so choose.

It would be a slap in the face for me to suggest "Just have sex!" since so many of you guys are largely here to solve that problem.

What actually feels pretty close to intercourse is the Fleshlight with warm lubricant (heated olive oil is fantastic) - 

In fact, fucking a girl with a condom on and fucking the Fleshlight without a condom is almost identical in terms of overall sensation.
(sex without a condom is obviously better than both though)

That's why it's the best selling men's sex toy in the world.

As for sticking a machine up your asshole to combat anxiety, Fleshlight has some well-known, highly rated G-Spot (Prostate) stimulators.

To the 'never ever masturbate crew' - I don't believe in not jerking off. Call me crazy. But PORN ADDICTION is one thing (a very bad thing), but 'not masturbating ever' because it will increase Killer Instinct and give off pheromones that will attract girls is witchcraft and PUA seduction community nonsense. I jerk off (usually to porn) or have sex 1 time a day, 5 or 6 days a week. It's been this way for the past ~7 years and I've never had any problems with addiction, sexual indifference or erectile dysfunction.

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#11 Take Upwards of 30 Grams of Fish Oil a Day

Back in 2006, I was studying for the LSAT (Law School Admissions Test) during my final year in college.

I read a thread on the Internet in which an internationally known strength coach, Charles Poliquin, said that taking upwards of 30 grams of high-quality fish oil at day allowed trained athletes (assuming they had a past anabolic history too) to put on 15-20 lbs. lean mass.

I was highly skeptical of "steroid-like gains" even though I liked (and still like) Charles Poliquin.

I figured I'd just try it to see what would happen, I wasn't expecting anything other than my joints to feel better and maybe the fish oil (healthy fats) would help maintain my muscle and strength that I neglected because of my LSAT preparation.   

Long story short, I didn't gain any lean mass (obviously) but to my surprise, I had a perpetual state of well-being, almost 24/7.

This is because taking high doses of fish oil encourage optimal (almost unnaturally high) serotonin levels.

I can surely testify to that.

If you are going to do this, I highly suggest you use high-quality fish oil that doesn't expose you to any heavy metals or mercury. 

Since fish oil, in my opinion, is fucking disgusting - try one of the flavored types.

This entire line of flavored fish oil tastes absolutely incredible - you will seriously want to drink the entire thing all at once.

You'll see a noticeable 'sense of well-being' and calm. Your HDL or so-called "good cholesterol" will go up. Triglycerides will go down (good thing). Your joints and tendons will be able to support more resistance. Don't expect to gain a whole bunch of muscle however.

I've never taken 30+ grams of fish oil at once, so I'm not sure if that would have an immediate affect on serotonin (anxiety).


Video: The Great Fish Oil Experiment
(Taking 30-50 grams of Fish Oil Every Day)

barleans omegaswirl group 1#12 Check Out Personal Power Meditation

It's been a while since I've talked to my buddy Illuminatus at PPM, but I've tried some of his instant anti-anxiety drills and they definitely work.

His suggestions don't involve looking death in the face like some of mine.

For those that are curious - I don't know anything about meditation other than it probably works well if you can figure it out.

Although meditation would probably help me (or anyone), the suggestions in this discussion work for me.

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#13 Look On Groupon for a Cheap Acupuncture Session 

Before I get all generic on you and detail stuff you already know about, I'm just going to point you in the right direction so you can try stuff you always wanted to try but thought was too expensive.

Groupon, especially in larger cities, has good deal on acupuncture sessions and professional massages -

I encourage you to look up reviews on Google before you schedule your session too.

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#14 Go Tanning in a High Pressure Tanning Bed

It's no surprise that some people develop a 'tanning addiction'.
(sensationalized media obviously, but still true to a large extent)

It's not just for looks, sunlight encourages your body to dump endorphins into your system.

New high-end tanning beds almost entirely omit UVA rays (the good ones that [in moderation] won't burn you or age your skin) and minimal UVB rays (the bad ones that are awful for you).

Have a look at "Good Looking Loser's Guide to Tanning" if you want to know how it do it correctly and actually (in moderation) improve your skin.

It is very important that you use a high-quality bed and a high-end indoor tanning lotion.

It is not worth doing whatsoever if you can't have both. 

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#15 Just Go To Sleep (Last Resort)

This advice probably prevented me from becoming a drug addict.

As simple as it is, some of the best advice I ever got was to just [temporarily] give up if I am really pissed off or anxious.

If you have anxiety, whether irritability (fight) or fear (flight), you are probably in no condition to do anything productive, fun or even remotely positive.

Sure, it's great to be able to beat anxiety naturally - and you should try.

But rather than forcing things or shoving a whole bunch of drugs down your throat (I've never done this in times of isolated stress, I will choose to suffer than feed or prolong a hardcore addiction/dependence) - just call it a day and pass out.

When I wake up, I'm usually in at least a slightly better mood.

If you see no point in being awake - just go to sleep.

It's better for you anyway. 

sleeping bear

Pour Conclure 

So there you have it -

15 Largely Non-Mainstream Ways to Combat Anxiety that doesn't involve reaching for drugs.

Keep in mind, although "bouts" of anxiety can be random and unexpected, they are often a direct reflection of the rest of your life.

While there certainly are successful, wealthy, emotionally healthy and stable people that get panic attacks and frequent bouts of anxiety, they are not the norm.

The majority of people that have anxiety (certainly major general anxiety) spend a lot of time at home worsening (but not necessarily immediately aggravating) their state of mind.

A lot of anxious "red pill" people claim they don't watch the news yet spend literally hundreds of hours watching depressing 'anti-establishment' 'truth' videos and wonder why they are depressed and on edge all the time.

The next time the anxiety bully strikes, try to stand up to him and don't immediately retreat to the Internet or Xbox for a distraction.

Thank you for reading!

update July 2 2015 - 

We get 75-100 comments (100-125 comments, counting my replies) on posts and I just can't read or reply to all the comments or questions in an adequate or timely matter.

I encourage you to sign up and ask questions/contribute to our forum.

Your questions or thoughts will receive a longer, quicker response in the forum anyway.

I try to remain fairly active on the forum too.

I apologize to those who left comments on this series, contact me in the forum if you need me.

Anxiety Mon, 29 Jun 2015 21:11:00 +0000
How to Get Rid of Anxiety Without Doing Drugs (Part 1)

How to Get Rid of Anxiety 
(75 Natural Ways That You Haven't Thought Of)

Welcome to Part 1 of 2-part series "How to Get Rid of Anxiety Without Doing Drugs (75 Natural Non-Mainstream Ways)".

Over a year ago, I started to write up a post "How To Get That Endorphin Kick" on Lifestyle by Good Looking Loser as part of a non-mainstream list for guys with general anxiety or guys following the "Kratom Lifestyle" (also known as taking Kratom everyday by rotating multiple strains to avoid tolerance and significant dependence). 

For whatever reason, I never finished that list. 

I also had another list going called, "Orthodox and Unorthodox Ways to Combat Mild to Moderate Anxiety" (similar to "34 Orthodox and Unorthodox Ways to Get Motivation to Hit the Gym") too.

When I looked at both lists, I realized there were a lot of crossover suggestions that were equally useful for both. 

It's important, regardless if you have frequent general anxiety or follow the Kratom Lifestyle, to have natural endorphins flooding your body and brain on a regular basis.

It's healthy. 

If nothing else, those powerful underrated endorphins can help you combat bouts of general mild to moderate anxiety.

In today's 'desk chair' society, most guys only get a single daily serving of endorphins from masturbating to a .jpg or .mp4.

Women hardly get any at all. Especially women that neither go to the gym or do yoga. Most turn to sugar and buying clothes they don't need. 

Both regard alcohol and weed as the saving grace. 

Although very subjective and without a concrete frame of reference for comparisons to previous decades, the world's population is supposedly more anxious than ever. Not surprisingly, panic attacks and anti-anxiety prescription drug sales are also at an all-time high.

I think it's fair to assume both are true.

There's also no shortage of generic useless "How to Naturally Combat Anxiety!" or "10 Ways to Naturally Kill Anxiety!" (Call a friend!) (Be Positive!) (Laugh Out Loud!) (Watch a movie!) lists clogging up Google. 

I'm going to try to give you some ideas that I've done that you might not have considered.

Although there's some softcore natural things you can take, such as L-Theanine, Kava Stress Candy or Yogi Tea that are reasonably helpful to take the edge off, I'm going to largely focus on NOT TAKING ANYTHING and beating it with your mind and body.


You know...

The natural way.

Whether over-the-counter or by prescription, whether natural or synthetic - I don't believe people should be reaching for a substance when mild or low-moderate anxiety strikes.

No really - I think and do that for the most part. 

Although it's more of a challenge, being able to overpower your anxiety (rather always having it overpower you), is very empowering and key to controlling your emotions.

In my experience, there's 2 types of general anxiety - 

  • I want to hide in my room anxiety (fear)
  • I want to murder someone anxiety (fight)

The suggestions below are for mild to moderate bouts of both those types of general anxiety, not for social, performance anxiety, major chronic anxiety or substance abuse withdrawal-induced anxiety. Some of these ideas, however, will certainly prove useful for all 4.

Natural Ways to Get an Endorphin Rush to Lower Your Anxiety

And away we go... 

#1 Do Bodyweight Squats and/or Pushups Until You Fall Over or Feel Lightheaded
(Takes About 2 or 3 Minutes)

Guys who don't exercise tend to have more anxiety, lower testosterone and plenty of unused energy.

Exercise or physical activity, especially daily resistance training that is aerobic enough to raise your heart rate above 125 bpm, gives you an endorphin kick.

This isn't anything you haven't heard before, but that doesn't mean you have to go to the gym for 90 minutes to reap the benefits. In fact, some people have a really hard time getting to the gym, since "gym anxiety" (a form of social anxiety) can heighten pre-existing general anxiety.

You do, however, have to focus and exercise hard for about 2 minutes. 

Walk over to a well lit area (possibly one with a mirror) and start to do bodyweight squats (squat down low) or pushups.

Count in your head as best you can.

Your heart rate will shoot up and your body will demand more oxygen.
(do not do this if you have any sort of cardiovascular condition, speak to your doctor before beginning any sort of exercise program)

It is absolutely critical that you DO NOT STOP when muscle and psychological fatigue begins to set in.

In fact, FOCUS on the burn.

Picture your brain releasing natural pain-relief endorphins to combat the lactic acid from muscle fatigue.

Try to regard the pain as an opportunity to fuck with your brain and distract it from all the negative thoughts it has been dictating to you.

Keep squatting/doing pushups until you literally cannot do another rep.

You should be exhausted, lightheaded and breathing very deeply.

Notice that you no longer have anxiety.

Your mind and body is focused on firing endorphins and utilizing oxygen to keep you from passing out.

The anxious feelings might come back, but won't be as strong. 

I've always done this type of thing for anxiety and irritability.

About 2 years ago, I was inspired to implement the 'physical and psychological exhaustion threshold' by NFL Pro Bowl strong safety, Laron Landry.

Landry supposedly tries to reach the point of 'near unconsciousness' during all his off-season workouts to challenge his mind and body.

I suggest you do too, your anxiety will go away and stay the fuck away if you handle it this way.

 landry laron biceps 450Laron Landry (Left)
He looks more like a bodybuilder these days.

#2 Ferociously Hit a Pillow Until You Can Barely Breathe
(Or the Pillow is Unconscious or Dead*)

Similar to the first suggestion, beating a person pillow to death is an effective and convenient way to kill your anxiety quickly. 

You are encouraged to scream at the pillow while you beat it inches from taking its life.

Tell that pillow how/why you are murdering him with your bare hands.

Teach him/her a fucking lesson.

You should be absolutely exhausted and laying on the ground (not bed) next to the pillow.

Intense bouts of cardiovascular exercise are really the best thing for both your mind and body (fat loss).

You are welcome to hit a body bag, but not all of us have a 150 lb. body bag hanging from our ceiling. 

* for the .0001% of people that are total pussies and think that hitting a pillow like this "encourages domestic violence", it does just the opposite. It is a healthy alternative to killing someone and prescription drugs. 

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#3 Clean Your Room or House
(Remodel It If You Have the Time and Desire To)

Not as "alpha" as the prior 2 suggestions, but this one works for temporarily anxiety relief.

As I mentioned in "21 Things You Can Do Today to Stop Being Negative", for some reason, I always feel much better when I clean up my room or office.

If you want to go the extra mile, move the furniture around in your room.

Put your bed in a new spot.

It will feel like you are starting fresh.

Funny how that works.

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#4 Order a Shitload of Sushi
(With Wasabi and Pickled Ginger aka 'The Pink Stuff') 

Another outside-the-box suggestion.

I discovered this one by accident a while back in college.

I had a 'date' one night (I did actually Get Laid at times in college) and I had taken a pre-workout stimulant and gone to the gym. 

The gym closed early that night and I was bouncing off the walls from the ALRI Hyperdrive (absolutely amazing defunct supplement).

alri hyperdriveThe best Non-Ephedra Fat Burner
(banned long ago)

When I got home, there was nothing in the refrigerator, so I ordered $45 of sushi, which was a lot of sushi/money for 2003.

Long story short, the sushi was fantastic and the wasabi (Japanese horseradish) was super spicy - which is odd for delivery. The endorphin rush from the wasabi, the mini-glucose kick from the white rice and the general amazing taste of sushi brought me back to earth.

It hasn't failed me once.

I suppose eating sushi counts as "taking something" but I'm making an exception here.

Fun Fact
Interesting story on the 'pickled ginger' (the pink stuff that comes with your sushi).

When I was ~7 years old, my Mom was having a dinner party for other "higher-ups" in the United States Marshal Service and Department of Justice (you know, other establishment/illuminati members that meet every 4 months to discuss how to further systematically enslave your disenfranchised ass).

On the buffet table was something that looked a lot like smoked salmon. I like smoked salmon, so I stuffed several huge pieces in my mouth. It turns out it was ginger, super strong ginger. I wasn't expecting this and ran into the bathroom to puke. I felt like I was going to die and my eyes wouldn't stop watering for the entire night.

My parents encouraged me to go sit in the basement for the remainder of the night so I didn't embarrass the family and get our NWO VIP membership revoked. I didn't touch anything ginger-ish for another 20 years. Not even gingerbread cookies. I like ginger now though, I think it gives some sort of a baby rush too. Apparently, this is correct.

 pickled sushi gingerPickled Ginger That Comes With Most Sushi Rolls
Looks Like Your Vagina

#5 Dress in Several Layers and Do Cardio
(or Lift Weights)

I have to laugh whenever I see some bodybuilder goober at the gym who is so insecure that he wears several layers of clothing like he is part of the Taliban. 
(yes, some muscleheads dress in multiple layers if they are over 12% bf)

But the fact of the matter is - sweating is healthy.

Put on a long-sleeve t-shirt and a hooded sweatshirt over it and jog outside or on the treadmill.  

Although it doesn't work quite like this - picture your anxiety and excess liquid stress and energy dripping off your body. Get all that shit out of your system.

You'll feel better soon enough and better than if you just did normal cardio.

You want a recipe for instant sleep?

  1. Do intense/semi-intense long cardio in several layers
  2. Come home and jump in a hot shower
  3. Take 5 mg of melatonin (and gaba, if available) once you are out
  4. Lay down in your bed in complete darkness and jerk off
    (keep a towel in your bed so you don't have to get up to wash your wash your hands)
  5. zzzzz.....

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#6 Take a Hot/Cold Shower
(or Jump Into a Cold Pool, Hot Tub or Sauna/Steam Room)

Although I don't talk about it here since I don't partake very often, you've probably heard about the benefits of cold showers (see #18).

It gives you an endorphin kick.

Those Jesus-Christ-It's-Fucking-Freezing-Why-Am-I-Doing-This endorphins kill anxiety.

I find that hot showers give a similar result, albeit as a more relaxing sensation. 

I can't remember one time when I was stressed but didn't feel noticeably better after taking a hot shower. I have this waterproof bluetooth speaker (not an affiliate link) in my shower.

Remember breathe deeply while you are in the shower.

If you have access to a sauna (or especially a steam room - hotter!), it can accomplish the same type of positive mindfuck.

Stop sitting at your computer feeling sorry for yourself and go fuck with your body temperature - your mind and body will thank you.

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#7 Use a Deadly Weapon (Without Killing Someone)

Although I've never quite "blown off steam" by shooting guns like others testify to (I own semi-automatics solely for protection from Internet marketers), I do know that it works for a lot of people.

Whether you are experienced or have never shot a firearm, indoor or outside, it may be an exhilarating experience if you can get yourself to leave the house.

I'm not against putting up pictures of people/things you hate and shooting them, but it's simply in-lieu of killing them in real life.

I actually think the physical exertion of swinging an axe, sledge hammer, machete or sword is both more fun and better for stress relief.

Take a blade into the forest and cut the shit out of thorny bushes and other 'undesirable' flora.

Not recommended if you live in an apartment complex or in a neighborhood with a bunch of younger kids whose parents will confuse you for a guerrilla fighter.

Although it's not likely that your gym/backyard/apartment complex has this, this is as good as it gets for stress/anxiety relief and a sense of well-being -


#8 Do Something New For Once
(Good Looking Loser's Life or Death Test)

You know what your real problem is?

You sit around too much and you're an easy target for the anxiety bully. 

- When was the last time you had fun?

-- When was the last time you did something new?
(going to the gym and doing a new exercise doesn't count)

--- When was the last time you even looked forward to something in your life?

If any of those answers is beyond 15 days ago - you aren't participating in life.

Take this test and apply the simple principle (schedule and do something new every 2 weeks) -

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Our 2-part series continues here -
(if you have comments or questions - please drop them in Part 2)

Anxiety Mon, 29 Jun 2015 12:07:00 +0000
The Comfortable Life of the Undersexed Male (Why Most Guys Won't Get A Lot of Pussy)

The Reason Might Surprise You...

Despite popular school, underachievement is not caused by the usual suspects - lack of work ethic, lack of opportunity or lack of talent.

The reason most people don't succeed with women (or much in their lives) is far more obvious and far more pathetic.

I know what your biggest obstacle is.

It's the reason why you'll never get your sex life together or reach your "dating goals"
(whatever that means)

In fact, I'll go as far as to say -

It may be the same reason that you never have much financial success, never transform your face/body into a package that girls ask to take pictures with, never experience fucking a 19 year old hottie with a dick undeniably too fat for her pussy, or may even explain why you don't really have much fun with your life.

We'll discuss that another time though.

It's not just your problem.

In hindsight, it was my biggest obstacle too.

It was something I struggled with and still do this day, although to a far far lesser degree.

It's the reason I was a "late bloomer", the Lonesome Bodybuilder, remarkably content for being in a perpetual state of mild depression.

We need to acknowledge the cause so you don't waste your 20s and 30s and wonder, "What Happened?"

At the very least, you'll know what to blame if life doesn't work out for you.

I wish I heard it in my 20's, I would probably have 5 years of my life back.

The Comfortable Life of the Undersexed Male
(Why Most Guys Won't Get A Lot of Pussy)

So What Is The Problem?

As you sit in the comfort of your own home or apartment
reading this blog (and many others)
enjoying the free conveniences that would be considered unattainable luxuries just 5 years ago
often pondering your sexual past, reality and future...

It's time you are told the truth of why large amounts of pussy (via cold approach) will continue to evade you.

Believe it or not -

For most guys who read Good Looking Loser, it has little to do with a lack of sex appeal (Looks, Style), Social Freedom (Killer Instinct), Swag Factor (Social Skills/Status), or confidence (Sense Of Entitlement).

The problem is -

You live a comfortable life.

Admit it.

Perhaps you have big dreams that stress you out from time to time or some monthly bills that further irritate this anxiety. 

Perhaps you may have even successfully convinced yourself that you are deeply insecure, or at least more than most guys, even though the fact is - you simply just take life more seriously.

Regardless of your socio-economic class, with a few exceptions, if you were resourceful enough to explore far enough into the deep/creepy part of the Internet and find Good Looking Loser - I'm willing to bet that you live a fairly comfortable life, with an excess of conveniences/distractions that you regularly indulge in despite vowing to be productive.

Good Looking Loser, after all, is admittedly - a distraction from what you should be doing.

Your life is simply too comfortable for you to make the necessary physical and psychological changes to really make big time changes in your sex life.
(let alone entire life)

Why stress yourself out when you can just jerk off to a girl hotter than anyone you could speak to?

Why test your self-esteem when you know it's fragile?

Why leave the house when staying home makes you feel like less of a loner?

For age 20 and 30-something men, 21st century mediocrity isn't particularly uncomfortable.

In fact - many secretly enjoy it. 

A day in the life of Mediocrity

Beating AA is like Beating AA
(Beating Approach Anxiety is like Beating Alcoholic's Anonymous)

Long ago, in "This Process Will Strip You Down and Make You Confront Your Real Issues", I wrote about how the otherwise simple process of walking up to the random hot girls and asking them out/trying to sleep with them will cause ALL your problems to surface and uncover how you really feel about yourself.

The Fear, though it eventually dies, will challenge your soul, it is a direct reflection of how much of a man you are or aren't.

It's just like getting sober if you've spent a half-decade or more under the influence and temporarily self-medicating your problems away - especially with hardcore drugs.

It's raw.

And It's so true.

Our highly unorthodox version of "self-improvement" surfaces your deepest feelings of:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Low Self-Esteem 
  • Lack of Confidence
  • Regret
  • Self-Doubt
  • Insecurities
  • Inferior Complex
  • Childhood Trauma
  • Anger/Hatred
  • Social Ineptitude
  • Resentment Toward Women
  • Past Bullying
  • Trust Issues
  • Substance Abuse
  • Sexual Inexperience
  • In-Crowd/Mainstream Social Rejection
  • etc.


The people best equipped to deal with the coming storm - already have most of their shit together.

Yet, "cold approach" is most appealing with the most fragile guys with the most problems.

They literally have no idea what the hell they just got themselves into and often "take a break" (give up) very quickly.

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Mike aka "SquattingCasanova" (who I think is a really good role model, especially for Asian guys - I don't care if he talks "PUA") really understands this issue really well too.
(fyi - SquattingCasanova is not "Mike Chang", the equivalent to human spam)

He discusses a "3 month window" in which ~90% of guys will dropout or "quit".

Some will return, only to dropout within the same window. I was guilty of this 2 times (7006, 2007).

I concur with his numbers - they are completely accurate.

That is one of the reasons our Approach Anxiety Program starts off with such laughably easy drills that I demand you DO NOT SKIP the first few weeks - you need to experience successful baby steps and moral victories if you have any chance at getting good at this stuff. 

Otherwise, you'll just be another statistic.

Be prepared for numerous temptations to stop or postpone talking to the bare minimum of 20 women a week. There will always be a seemingly justifiable reason.

I don't know anyone like Scotty who left his house 7 years ago to pick up girls and only returned home to fuck them or eating some protein. Literally, I don't know anyone as devoted/crazy as that. He's an outlier, a .0000001% case that hit on 30+ women a week for 7 years straight.

So just listen to me on this - your first 90 days (and entire first year) is absolutely critical.

When I revamp/upgrade the Approach Anxiety Program, my goal is to get that 90% dropout number down to about 67%.

Perhaps wishful thinking though.

9 out of 10 guys aren't successful at anything in life and having sex with 20-30+ random women a year is a game only played by the top 1% of guys. 

But 9 out of 10 guys aren't reading this blog post right now.

They are busy being comfortable.

Related: "Can Everyone Beat Approach Anxiety?"

So Why Mess With a Good Thing?

Back to my point. 

Instinctually and logically, your mind tries to keep your life as stress and pain-free as possible. Frankly, your mind and body won't even want to go to the gym or healthfully exercise until you program it to.

To your brain, it makes no sense to face your demons when you can comfortably suppress them.  

If you have the time to read Good Looking Loser - your life is pretty comfortable.

Even if you aren't overly privileged and often the source of most of your own anxiety, you probably live a comfortable life - provided that you don't live in some failed socialist utopia.

You might argue otherwise, citing your job that you don't love or a boring social life, but overall - you know your life is pretty comfortable.

There's plenty of entertainment and material consumption to keep you from hitting rock bottom which would otherwise really force you to be accountable for those hours that just seem to fly by.

You are just comfortable enough to do what ultimately amounts to nothing and be happy with your effort.

In fact, that's the story of most people's lives.

I believe that most people actually have a decent work ethic, but are lazy at the same time.

This paradoxical life-destroying blend ultimately destroys all their dreams, one by one. 

That type of comfortable approach to life isn't going to cut it if you want to be on top (and reap the benefits). And It sure isn't going to transform your mind and body to where you will get regular hot pussy.

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Pour Conclure

Being scared and walking up to hot girls one-by-one (and thinking about it later) will sober you up to reality really quickly.

Every insecurity, issue or problem, past or present - will surface if you continue to proudly resist fear.

The Comfortable Life, perhaps even one that you've admirably earned, is the same reason you will never be anything but.

We've applied it to putting together a sex life so you can sleep with 2 or 3 hotties a week (my initial goal), but it's really just a metaphor for life.

To quote a wise man - 

It won't be a lack of opportunity, a lack of work ethic and won't even be a lack talent that will kill most of your dreams - it's the highly comfortable, mediocre life that you are accustomed to.

- Me

In this case - 

It won't be a lack of sex appeal, Social Freedom, Swag Factor or confidence that will prevent you from having all the sex that you want - it's the highly comfortable, mediocre life that you are accustomed to.

- Me again

Your life is comfortable.

You don't have to do anything heroic to survive.

And That's why you are stuck in this never-ending quagmire.

You get it now.

When mediocrity is intolerable Kent Healy

What To Do?

So now you know why most dreams don't come true.

And That's half the battle.

You have to be hungry and more importantly - stay hungry.

Try your best to embrace our concepts of "Nothing in Moderation", "By Any Means Necessary" and acquire an authentic disdain for the comfortable majority.

Personally, I don't really care how you do it when you start.

Maybe insecurity is your #1 motivator

Maybe validation is your #1 motivator.
(that was probably mine, come to think of it)

Maybe you are one of the lucky ones who hits rock bottom.

Although rare for newbies, perhaps the authentic masculine joy of getting good pussy is genuinely your #1 motivator.
(eventually this will have to be if you are going to survive/get really good; pure validation only takes you so far)

It doesn't really matter.

If it motivates you, keeps you disciplined and ACCOUNTABLE - it's all good in my book.

It's whatever makes you tick.

Keep an accountably log in our Forum, if it helps.

Avoid Good Looking Loser at all costs, if it helps.

I don't directly teach motivation.

I don't know how.

If you aren't motivated to acquire endless streams of pussy and money by the time you are in your mid 30's (attainable, promise) - there's nothing that I can tell you that is going to convince you to really go after it.

If I think of something to say, I'll tell you though.

Get Laid Thu, 19 Mar 2015 06:42:00 +0000
Remembering Those Lonely Saturday Nights When I Was By Myself (Comfortable Depression)

Saturday Nights (2002-2006) Were Worst Nights of My Life

This post is meant for those in their 20's who stayed home alone tonight, seemingly so far removed from the social scene and a sex life, comfortably marinating in self-doubt.

This is for you.

I've been there.

"Lonely Saturday Nights"
(Me, Myself and Reality - Living Together in a One-Bedroom Apartment)

(there some content in the video that isn't in the post, and vice versa)

Saturday nights were the hardest.

Saturday nights were the worst.

My favorite distraction (the gym) was closed and everyone else was out with their friends and having a life - and I knew it.

But me?

I was sitting in my apartment, by myself, playing on the Internet or watching ESPN and seeing how much fun other kids were having at college football games.

I used to tell myself that I was doing the right thing and "those kids" that were partying were wasting their lives.

I would tell myself -

I'm going to come out on top in the end!

But in reality -

I sat there just wondering where I went wrong and if I would ever have a much of a sex life - something that I thought would be the hallmark of my 20's rather than long-streaks of unwanted abstinence and mild depression.

Regardless of what other people were doing and how I rationalized why my life was supposedly better - I wasn't where I wanted to be, socially or emotionally. And I was well aware that my life was seemingly becoming one big, otherwise comfortable, disappointment.

But the loneliness really ran deep on Saturday night.

I hated Saturday night.

It was the night that I knew I should be doing something else other than being lonely.

The best case scenario would be for me to fall asleep early on Saturday night and wake up early on Sunday morning to go to the gym while ALL the "irresponsible" hungover kids were sleeping.

But that rarely happened.

More often, I just sat in front my television or laptop, listening to the sometimes unbearably irritating short spurts of noise from kids that were enjoying their lives and the bass music from passing cars that were headed to parties.

I hated hearing other people's Saturday night parties and music.

In sheer frustration (although to this day - loud music irritates the shit out of me when I don't want to hear it), I'd often call the "non-emergency" police number and report the apartments spewing the loud music.

Sometimes, I would literally call 10+ times.

I didn't want to hear my neighbors, I didn't want to hear their voices, I didn't want to hear their music - I wanted to be alone in silence so it seemed like I wasn't missing out on life.

I lived in a college town (Gainesville, FL.) but I was nothing more than a kid that simply went to class and used the school's gym.

Far removed my senior year of high school and Freshman year of college (Emory) where I was semi-popular and at least had girls talking about me - I simply sat alone in my worn desk chair on Saturday daydreaming of what my life would be like when all my hard work in school and the gym paid off.

Was I depressed?

To this day, I don't really know.

If I was - it was a tolerable, comfortable, high-quality of life depression.

The kind of depression that isn't bad enough to make serious life changes.

I had my own nice apartment, my own new car and plenty of distractions to treat mild depression whenever it would show its face.

But I remember -

Saturday Nights were so lonely.

At times - emotionally unbearable.

It was on Saturday Night that I would start to wonder if my entire life wasn't going to work out.

This was a terrifying thought because I always lived in either the past or a more promising future.

Perhaps my hardline "loner by choice", "I know what I'm doing" isolated lifestyle had finally caught up to me.

And more terrifying - perhaps there would be no return.

I Hate Saturday ... said no one ever.

Why Didn't You Just Go Out Alone?

I guess I had the option of going out alone.

After all, Gainesville was a college town and there was plenty going on.

But I would always find an excuse -

  • I have to eat my 6th meal of the day at 1 am.
  • It's too warm/cold.
  • It's only worth going out if I drink.
  • I don't like that place.
  • I'm too big.
  • I'm too small.

Regardless of whatever excuse I gave myself on the rare occasions that I somewhat considered going out by myself, having a social/sex life just wasn't one of my goals at the time - and the only reason I forgive myself for this self-imposed lonely, comfortably depressing era of my life.

I was fully certain that my efforts in the gym and the classroom would pay off in an infinite sex life after I graduated.

Besides, doing steroids, going to the gym to get all pumped up and eating grotesque amounts of food was fun at the time.

Still, whether consciously or in subconscious denial at the time, one inescapable truth remained that I never wanted to admit -

I was scared to go out alone.
(very few guys in their early 20's are able to do this though...)

Beyond "being nice", I was scared to really talk to hot girls I didn't know.

And Even when they liked me - I didn't really know how to handle it since I played it so safely.

My inexperience and lack of courage was breeding MORE inexperience and MORE timid behavior.

A lack of a social life (or even friends), inexperience and a bloated juicehead appearance with no killer instinct - it was surprising that I got laid at all during these years.

At the time, given my highly volatile psychological, emotional state and self-esteem, going out alone (which I tried a few times) and not getting completely discouraged was highly unrealistic.

I had high anxiety, no experience with cold approach and no gameplan if I wanted to.
(I didn't find the "pick up community" until my final semester in college - in 2006)

Perhaps going out alone was an option, but it sure didn't seem like one at the time.

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Escaping the Lonely Saturday Nights

If these 'Lonely Saturday Nights' are all too familiar to you, there is plenty of hope if you are willing to do something about it.

Perhaps there was hope for me, I'm sure there was, but nobody encouraged me or told me how to fix it.

Besides, besides the Lonely Saturday Nights, my isolated, anti-social, highly-comfortable existence was highly tolerable.

But I'm encouraging you and going to give you a few easy options that you can apply on Monday morning.

If you are in college - get a "social" job.
(see this college post for further information about how to break in/social opportunities)

The ideal thing is become a bartender at a popular bar or club.

These jobs are highly sought, so you might have to be persistent or apply at the middle/end of Spring semester because much of the staff goes home for the summer. If you are good looking or have experience, the former being more important, you can usually find a way in.

If you can beat the shit out of people - becoming a doorman or bouncer is also a decent way to get an immediate new group of friends/acquaintances meet some new people.

You might have more in common with the other meatheads, but use the opportunity to become everyone's friend - the "normal guys" generally offer more social opportunities than the other bouncers/doormen. Befriend them and tell them to come train with you at the gym or help them if they ask for fitness advice, they'll hook you up socially.

If bartender jobs are simply not to be had, or you can't bring yourself to at least try to put yourself into "the scene", try to get a job as a server at a popular restaurant or get a on an campus job.

I worked at the University of Florida recreation center (the gym) and met a lot of good people. Even though most of the social circles were closed, I made a lot of friends and even hooked up with a few of the younger girls on the staff that had the job because they disliked the party scene.

At the time (my last year in college), this was really good for me, I went from having absolutely no social life (with little or no daily social interaction) to having some friends. I appreciated this time a lot. If nothing else - it kept me from going totally insane.

The "social job" is certainly an option for non-college students, but chances are you already work a job or just don't have the time.

More realistically, if you can't go out and meet people (or vehemently dislike "the scene"), online dating is an easy way to meet girls. Try to secure some girl(s) for the weekend on Thursday afternoon/night.

Laugh if you want, but I have some friends that nail 20-30 new girls a year from online dating.

That is more than 99% of guys.

Back in 2002-2006, online dating wasn't really an option for me unfortunately.

There was no major dating sites such as 'Plenty of Fish', Tinder or OKCupid and there was a strong negative stigma to online dating. I met some girls on Myspace, AOL, HotOrNot and the earliest version of Facebook ( even slept with a few of them, but online dating wasn't really a big deal at the time.

If you have no social/sex life or haven't lost your virginity, you are NOT too cool for online dating.

Drop the attitude please.

Sure, most of the girls you meet online are looking for boyfriends and you'll find yourself on some dead-end dates, but it's better than a Lonely Saturday Night. Being a Serial Dater beats being without a sex life.
(use this basic technique to do some safe screening to find the more DTF girls)

ANYTHING is better than a Lonely Saturday Night.

keep calm and have a sexy saturday

These Days...

I'm turning 33 this year, it's been years since my main goal was to get fresh pussy on a daily basis.

It's been even longer since college.

Still, I remember those Lonely Saturday Nights very well.

It was a very dark part of my otherwise unexciting, comfortable college experience.

Some Saturday Nights - I legitimately hit rock-bottom and was totally depressed.

Other weekends, I used to make the 5 hour drive from Gainesville to Naples, FL (and back). to hang out with my Dad because I didn't want to be all alone in my apartment thinking of how average my life was turning out.

Had it not been for those Lonely Saturday Nights that eventually led me to the "pick up community" and a relentless pursuit of freeing myself from self-doubt, loneliness and inconsistent pussy - I never would have ditched Law School and dedicated 4 years of my life to trying to Get Laid and becoming a man.

Without the Lonely Saturday Nights (and the fear of living them again), there would be no Good Looking Loser community.

I suppose that is a happy ending.

Yet, I legitimately get emotional about my self-inflicted isolated life of underachievement that I had created for myself in my early 20's.

I don't want you to experience any more Lonely Saturday Nights than you have to.

That's not how your life is supposed to be.

You can fix it.

You don't have to try to become some sort of social butterfly/leech if your naturally introverted tendencies have left you without a social/sex life.

You can absolutely have the sex life without having the major social life.

I am a Loner for life.

Even though I have an older brother and sister, I was basically raised as an only child, hardly ever seeing my older siblings aside from holidays. I never had more than a handful of close friends or the major desire to meet people for social benefit. I've spent more weekends in my life completely by myself than with other people. The 'Loner Lifestyle' is more natural and comfortable for me even though the social repercussions became obvious.

I knew the consequences and accepted them a long time ago.

I wanted to be the 'Successful Loner' who has a massive sex life. I thought that was possible.

But for several years, 2002-2006, especially on Saturday Night, I really started to believe that my persona was the wrong one and I'd never have the life that I thought I would have.

Even worse, those Lonely Saturday Nights made me question a lot more about myself than just my immediate sex/social life.

I often questioned if my entire life was meant to be just one big disappointment where going to the gym would be my only escape.

The Lonely Saturday Nights were really deflating. It was just me and reality in my one-bedroom apartment.

I remember it well.

It would be YEARS before I really fixed my life or even be able to go out alone and have a legitimate chance at taking an attractive girl home, but it was totally worth it.

These days, on Saturday Night, I do whatever I want.

I usually stay home (not necessarily alone), but it's finally by-choice and not out of fear.



Depression Sun, 08 Mar 2015 04:07:15 +0000
Your Mental Problems Are Everyone Else's Normal (You Aren't a Big Mess - You Just Care More)

You're Fucked Up, But At Least You Admit It

Unlike in my early/mid-20's, in my wise old age (32), I'm not a huge fan/believer in "teaching" or "learning" motivation.

Why I Don't Really Focus On Trying to Motivate Guys

I used to be all about motivation. 

I used to be the kid searching for motivation in bodybuilding magazines, based-on-a-true story-but-exaggerated movies and later downloading and re-watching primitive 240p YouTube videos.

I used to be that "motivational" 'Just Do It!' guy among my friends and peers.

In 1999, my Montgomery Blue Devils Bantam level ice hockey team made the playoffs as the 6th and final seed.

We had a subpar losing record (13-15-1) in the regular season.

We were a two-man show, just myself and this kid that we'll call "Binstock" who somehow got high before games.

We had no business even being in the playoffs. 

In the locker room before the first playoff game, I gave a legendary speech that would have made Dr. Martin Luther King (or Benito Mussolini aka Il Duce, whomever you prefer) proud.

Our team responded and pulled 2 major upsets (against the #1 and #3 seeds) before advancing to the Montgomery Hockey championship (which we lost in 4-3 in double-overtime).

I'm not that motivational give-and-take guy anymore though.

For one, I'm always plenty motivated these days and when I'm not - Kratom gives me more motivation than any single person should be allowed to have.

For two, I don't really think that my "feel good" speeches will convince the average indecisive person to leave his comfortable-yet-mundane life and really go after his dreams, money or pussy.

And While some people have told me that advice from Good Looking Loser has been highly motivating, there's very few discussions that have the sole or even primary goal of motivating you.

Although we maintain a highly positive environment, there's very little "You can do it!" or "You're awesome but you/everyone can't see it!" stuff here.

We laugh at that fluff.

In a positive way, of course.

I prefer to focus on applicable steps and not fluffy high school junior varsity football coach speak.

In fact, the only obvious motivational post I can even think of is "She's Probably Already Fucked a Guy Uglier Than You".

There's a 3 reasons for this -

#1 Motivation (from a blog, video, otherwise) is a highly temporary thing for 99% of normal people. Normal people have trouble committing to their goals, let alone even making goals. Very few people adopt any sort of sustained drive that it takes to accomplish big things from surfing the Internet.

You have to have the 'seeds' of motivation within you and YOU have to cause them to germinate.

What feels like motivation is usually just simply entertainment. I call this the 'Good Movie Effect'.

You live your life differently for 2 weeks, but it wears off and you are back to where you started.

#2 Aside from infrequent slumps, what you need is Long March self-discipline, not instant coffee motivation. Many people seeking motivation simply have poor discipline or a half-willingness to even commit, let alone endure. Sometimes their "search for motivation" is actually just their latest form of procrastination. 
(self-discipline > motivation is a familiar concept, but it's true)

#3 The best motivational blog has already been written. But, to me, Victor successfully motivates through example, somewhat moreso than by "typing the correct words" or pushing your right buttons. As he'll admit - the guys he motivates are the ones born to succeed, not losers that are on the fence, constantly seeking a fix of synthetic digital motivation. 

#4 Lastly, if I really need to convince you to get excited about getting to the point where your life is full of pussy, money and [insert here whatever you want], then you are probably depressed and need to address that first.
(more on depression at another time)

Despite all of that...

You might find this discussion to be somewhat motivating. 

If nothing else - you'll realize that maybe you aren't all that messed up after all.

"Your Insecurities Are Everyone Else's Normal"

* I have a new apartment - but I have lived alone in LA before (2009-2010ish)

Your Issues Are Common. 
You Are Just More Insecure Because You Care More.
While the Average Person Gave Up Long Ago.

Despite the differences between yourself and those that will never read this post, you are actually quite similar. 

Every guy wants to be able to Get Laid when he wants to, eventually finding a hot and loyal girlfriend that supports his every dream. 

Every guy wants to look good and have sex appeal. 

Every guy wants to be beyond financially secure and have some "toys" or higher-end entertainment to play with.

Every guy wants to 'stand out' in a positive way and not just fit in with the average people.

Every guy wants to feel warm and fuzzy when groups of girls talk about how his dick is better than other guys.

Every guy wants to win at life.

Or at the very least - win more than other guys.

Real men want to be successful. 

Any guy in his 20's or 30's that says his one and only goal is to simply "be happy" has quit on himself a long time ago.

You Aren't Unique.
Your Issues Aren't Unique.
You Are Just More Insecure About Them Because You Have Higher Expectations. 
(and that's why you will fix them...)

Similar to your masculine desires, the obstacles ahead are generally no different than the average guy.

Civil rights leader and People's Champion, Michael Cernovich, dug into this issue a little bit recently on Danger & Play.

I commented - 

GLL danger and play comment

Over 50 times a month, we have guys explain why they have a unique issue or special problem and don't know how to fix it.

Obviously it's rarely true.

They know how to fix it.

They are just asking for permission to try and the lack of a time/money-back guarantee concerns them.

That's fine, I felt the same way when I was younger, I had to get permission to talk to women I didn't know.

Even though I thought my "I can't talk to hot girls I don't know" issue was a special, unique problem that originated from not being invited to all my friend's Bar mitzvahs and growing up as an only child despite having a brother and sister - it was normal too.

It was called 'Approach Anxiety' and the solution to fix it was the same as it is for everyone else -


After I stopped inventing complex solutions, I eventually fixed the easy, common problem. 

That Fact Of The Matter Is


You know it and I know it.

So What's The Difference?
(Your Mental Problems Are Everyone Else's Normal)

The difference is -

You have high expectations and you haven't quit.

You aren't afraid to admit it. 

Normal people are afraid to admit their insecurities and that's their problem.

The difference is - 

Your insecurities motivate rather than discourage you.

You fight to bring your issues to the surface rather than to repress them for the pending midlife crisis.

The difference is that you admit it and won't accept it.

Take this example - 

Every guy wants to be able to talk to pretty girls.



For you, if you can't muster up the courage - it makes you want to kill yourself or at least beat yourself down.

You feel like a total pussy.

You literally feel like you aren't a man.

I know that's how I felt.

But for normal people, not having the balls to talk to hot girls isn't a problem because they have long accepted that they are a pussy. That ship has already sailed.

Approach anxiety is common, I don't know any guy (even the experienced ones) that could just walk up to any/every hot girl unless they earned the social freedom via exposure therapy.

Yet, only about 1% of guys (yes, it's that rare when you look at the real world) have the courage to engage a hot girl they don't know in a somewhat of a meaningful dialogue while being in a sober state.

But only YOU care if you can't do it.

You feel you should be part of that 1%. 

That's a good thing because normal guys don't think they belong.

They would be correct.

The difference is -

For normal people, its totally normal and acceptable to feel like a coward.

For normal people, its totally normal and acceptable to act like a coward.

For normal people, its totally normal and acceptable to be a coward.

Normal people try to 'accept themselves' through various denial methods while you try to FIX yourself.

Don't get diverted by this "accept yourself" crap.

If you want big things, you'll never be able never accept mediocrity anyway.

That's for normal people.

Pour Conclure

Newcomers, not-yet-accomplished guys -

What you perceive as an insecurity or problem is exactly how 99% of guys feel about that same issue but are too scared to admit.

You just care more and that's the same reason you will be able to FIX and not just "accept" yourself.

Your problems are not unique.

Neither are the solutions.

Compared to other guys, you are not any more or less insecure about most issues. You just CARE more while normal guys have quietly thrown in the towel many years ago.

While I can't guarantee everyone massive success in all walks of life, I can safely say - if you really (and I mean REALLY) focus on your goals, one-at-a-time, in your 20's and don't give in, you will easily be ahead of the average guy within a few years.

If all else fails - at least you'll have a better body and bigger penis.

I've been able to make a living on that. 

Confidence (Inner Game) Sun, 08 Feb 2015 02:24:00 +0000