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Today I want to talk to you
about the mathematics of love.

Now, I think that we can all agree
that mathematicians
are famously excellent at finding love.

But it's not just
because of our dashing personalities,

superior conversational skills
and excellent pencil cases.

It's also because we've actually done
an awful lot of work into the maths

of how to find the perfect partner.
Now, in my favorite paper
on the subject, which is entitled,

"Why I Don't Have a Girlfriend" --
(Laughter) --

Peter Backus tries to rate
his chances of finding love.

Now, Peter's not a very greedy man.
Of all of the available women in the U.K.,
all Peter's looking for
is somebody who lives near him,

somebody in the right age range,
somebody with a university degree,
somebody he's likely to get on well with,
somebody who's likely to be attractive,
somebody who's likely
to find him attractive.

And comes up with an estimate
of 26 women in the whole of the UK.

It's not looking very good,
is it Peter?

Now, just to put that into perspective,
that's about 400 times fewer
than the best estimates

of how many intelligent
extraterrestrial life forms there are.

And it also gives Peter
a 1 in 285,000 chance

of bumping into any one
of these special ladies

on a given night out.
I'd like to think
that's why mathematicians

don't really bother
going on nights out anymore.

The thing is that I personally
don't subscribe
to such a pessimistic view.

Because I know,
just as well as all of you do,

that love doesn't really work like that.
Human emotion isn't neatly ordered
and rational and easily predictable.

But I also know that that doesn't mean
that mathematics hasn't got something
that it can offer us

because, love, as with most of life,
is full of patterns

and mathematics is, ultimately,
all about the study of patterns.

Patterns from predicting the weather
to the fluctuations in the stock market,

to the movement of the planets
or the growth of cities.

And if we're being honest,
none of those things

are exactly neatly ordered
and easily predictable, either.

Because I believe that mathematics
is so powerful that it has the potential

to offer us a new way of looking
at almost anything.

Even something as mysterious as love.
And so, to try to persuade you
of how totally amazing, excellent
and relevant mathematics is,

I want to give you my top three
mathematically verifiable tips for love.

Okay, so Top Tip #1:
How to win at online dating.
So my favorite online dating
website is OkCupid,

not least because it was started
by a group of mathematicians.

Now, because they're mathematicians,
they have been collecting data
on everybody who uses their site
for almost a decade.

And they've been trying
to search for patterns

in the way that we talk about ourselves
and the way that we
interact with each other

on an online dating website.
And they've come up with some
seriously interesting findings.

But my particular favorite
is that it turns out
that on an online dating website,

how attractive you are
does not dictate how popular you are,

and actually, having people
think that you're ugly

can work to your advantage.
Let me show you how this works.
In a thankfully voluntary
section of OkCupid,

you are allowed to rate
how attractive you think people are

on a scale between 1 and 5.
Now, if we compare this score,
the average score,

to how many messages a
selection of people receive,

you can begin to get a sense
of how attractiveness links to popularity
on an online dating website.

This is the graph that the OkCupid guys
have come up with.

And the important thing to notice
is that it's not totally true

that the more attractive you are,
the more messages you get.

But the question arises then
of what is it about people up here

who are so much more popular
than people down here,

even though they have the
same score of attractiveness?

And the reason why is that it's not just
straightforward looks that are important.

So let me try to illustrate their
findings with an example.

So if you take someone like
Portia de Rossi, for example,

everybody agrees that Portia de Rossi
is a very beautiful woman.

Nobody thinks that she's ugly,
but she's not a supermodel, either.

If you compare Portia de Rossi
to someone like Sarah Jessica Parker,

now, a lot of people,
myself included, I should say,

think that Sarah Jessica Parker
is seriously fabulous

and possibly one of the
most beautiful creatures

to have ever have walked
on the face of the Earth.

But some other people,
i.e., most of the Internet,

seem to think that she looks
a bit like a horse. (Laughter)

Now, I think that if you ask people
how attractive they thought

Sarah Jessica Parker
or Portia de Rossi were,

and you ask them to give
them a score between 1 and 5,

I reckon that they'd average out
to have roughly the same score.

But the way that people would vote
would be very different.

So Portia's scores would
all be clustered around the 4

because everybody agrees
that she's very beautiful,

whereas Sarah Jessica Parker
completely divides opinion.

There'd be a huge spread in her scores.
And actually it's this spread that counts.
It's this spread
that makes you more popular

on an online Internet dating website.
So what that means then
is that if some people
think that you're attractive,

you're actually better off
having some other people
think that you're a massive minger.

That's much better
than everybody just thinking

that you're the cute girl next door.
Now, I think this begins
makes a bit more sense

when you think in terms of the people
who are sending these messages.

So let's say that you think
somebody's attractive,

but you suspect that other people
won't necessarily be that interested.

That means there's
less competition for you

and it's an extra incentive
for you to get in touch.

Whereas compare that
to if you think somebody is attractive

but you suspect that everybody
is going to think they're attractive.

Well, why would you bother
humiliating yourself, let's be honest?

Here's where the really
interesting part comes.

Because when people choose the pictures
that they use on an online dating website,

they often try to minimize the things
that they think some people
will find unattractive.

The classic example is people
who are, perhaps, a little bit overweight

deliberately choosing
a very cropped photo,

or bald men, for example,
deliberately choosing pictures
where they're wearing hats.

But actually this is the opposite
of what you should do

if you want to be successful.
You should really, instead, play up to
whatever it is that makes you different,

even if you think that some people
will find it unattractive.

Because the people who fancy you
are just going to fancy you anyway,

and the unimportant losers who don't,
well, they only play up to your advantage.

Okay, Top Tip #2:
How to pick the perfect partner.

So let's imagine then
that you're a roaring success

on the dating scene.
But the question arises
of how do you then convert that success

into longer-term happiness
and in particular,

how do you decide
when is the right time to settle down?

Now generally,
it's not advisable to just cash in

and marry the first person
who comes along

and shows you any interest at all.
But, equally, you don't really
want to leave it too long

if you want to maximize your
chance of long-term happiness.

As my favorite author,
Jane Austen, puts it,

"An unmarried woman of seven and twenty
can never hope to feel or
inspire affection again."

Thanks a lot, Jane.
What do you know about love?

So the question is then,
how do you know when
is the right time to settle down

given all the people
that you can date in your lifetime?

Thankfully, there's a rather delicious bit
of mathematics that we can use

to help us out here, called
optimal stopping theory.

So let's imagine then,
that you start dating when you're 15
and ideally, you'd like to be married
by the time that you're 35.

And there's a number of people
that you could potentially
date across your lifetime,

and they'll be at varying
levels of goodness.

Now the rules are that once
you cash in and get married,

you can't look ahead to see
what you could have had,

and equally, you can't go back
and change your mind.

In my experience at least,
I find that typically people don't
much like being recalled

years after being passed up
for somebody else, or that's just me.

So the math says then
that what you should do

in the first 37 percent
of your dating window,

you should just reject everybody
as serious marriage potential.

And then, you should pick the
next person that comes along

that is better than everybody
that you've seen before.

So here's the example.
Now if you do this, it can be
mathematically proven, in fact,

that this is the best possible way
of maximizing your chances
of finding the perfect partner.

Now unfortunately, I have to tell you that
this method does come with some risks.

For instance, imagine if
your perfect partner appeared

during your first 37 percent.
Now, unfortunately,
you'd have to reject them.

Now, if you're following the maths,
I'm afraid no one else comes along
that's better than anyone
you've seen before,

so you have to go on
rejecting everyone and die alone.

Probably surrounded by cats
nibbling at your remains.

Okay, another risk is,
let's imagine, instead,

that the first people that you dated
in your first 37 percent

are just incredibly dull,
boring, terrible people.

Now, that's okay, because
you're in your rejection phase,

so thats fine,
you can reject them.

But then imagine, the next
person to come along

is just marginally less boring,
dull and terrible

than everybody that you've seen before.
Now, if you are following the maths,
I'm afraid you have to marry them

and end up in a relationship
which is, frankly, suboptimal.

Sorry about that.
But I do think that there's
an opportunity here

for Hallmark to cash in on
and really cater for this market.

A Valentine's Day card like this.

"My darling husband, you
are marginally less terrible

than the first 37 percent
of people I dated."

It's actually more romantic
than I normally manage.

Okay, so this method doesn't give
you a 100 percent success rate,

but there's no other possible
strategy that can do any better.

And actually, in the wild,
there are certain types

of fish which follow and
employ this exact strategy.

So they reject every possible
suitor that turns up

in the first 37 percent
of the mating season,

and then they pick the next fish
that comes along after that window

that's, I don't know, bigger and burlier
than all of the fish
that they've seen before.

I also think that subconsciously,
humans, we do sort of do this anyway.

We give ourselves a little bit of time
to play the field,

get a feel for the marketplace
or whatever when we're young.

And then we only start looking seriously
at potential marriage candidates

once we hit our mid-to-late 20s.
I think this is conclusive proof,
if ever it were needed,

that everybody's brains are prewired
to be just a little bit mathematical.

Okay, so that was Top Tip #2.
Now, Top Tip #3: How to avoid divorce.
Okay, so let's imagine then
that you picked your perfect partner

and you're settling into
a lifelong relationship with them.

Now, I like to think that everybody
would ideally like to avoid divorce,

apart from, I don't know,
Piers Morgan's wife, maybe?

But it's a sad fact of modern life
that 1 in 2 marriages in the
States ends in divorce,

with the rest of the world
not being far behind.

Now, you can be forgiven, perhaps
for thinking that the arguments
that precede a marital breakup

are not an ideal candidate
for mathematical investigation.

For one thing, it's very hard to know
what you should be measuring
or what you should be quantifying.

But this didn't stop a psychologist,
John Gottman, who did exactly that.

Gottman observed hundreds of couples
having a conversation

and recorded, well,
everything you can think of.

So he recorded what was said
in the conversation,

he recorded their skin conductivity,
he recorded their facial expressions,
their heart rates, their blood pressure,
basically everything apart from whether
or not the wife was actually always right,

which incidentally she totally is.
But what Gottman and his team found
was that one of the
most important predictors

for whether or not a couple
is going to get divorced

was how positive or negative each
partner was being in the conversation.

Now, couples that were very low-risk
scored a lot more positive points
on Gottman's scale than negative.

Whereas bad relationships,
by which I mean, probably
going to get divorced,

they found themselves getting
into a spiral of negativity.

Now just by using these very simple ideas,
Gottman and his group were able to predict
whether a given couple
was going to get divorced

with a 90 percent accuracy.
But it wasn't until he teamed up
with a mathematician, James Murray,

that they really started to understand
what causes these negativity spirals
and how they occur.

And the results that they found
I think are just incredibly
impressively simple and interesting.

So these equations, they predict how
the wife or husband is going to respond

in their next turn of the conversation,
how positive or negative
they're going to be.

And these equations, they depend on
the mood of the person
when they're on their own,

the mood of the person when
they're with their partner,

but most importantly, they depend on
how much the husband and wife
influence one another.

Now, I think it's important
to point out at this stage,

that these exact equations
have also been shown

to be perfectly able at describing
what happens between two
countries in an arms race.

So that -- an arguing couple
spiraling into negativity

and teetering on the brink of divorce --
is actually mathematically equivalent to
the beginning of a nuclear war.

But the really important term
in this equation

is the influence that people
have on one another,

and in particular, something called
the negativity threshold.

Now, the negativity threshold,
you can think of as
how annoying the husband can be

before the wife starts to get
really pissed off, and vice versa.

Now, I always thought that good marriages
were about compromise and understanding

and allowing the person to
have the space to be themselves.

So I would have thought that perhaps
the most successful relationships

were ones where there was
a really high negativity threshold.

Where couples let things go
and only brought things up if
they really were a big deal.

But actually, the mathematics
and subsequent findings by the team

have shown the exact opposite is true.
The best couples,
or the most successful couples,

are the ones with a really low
negativity threshold.

These are the couples that don't
let anything go unnoticed

and allow each other
some room to complain.

These are the couples that are continually
trying to repair their own relationship,

that have a much more positive
outlook on their marriage.

Couples that don't let things go
and couples that don't let trivial things
end up being a really big deal.

Now of course, it takes bit more than
just a low negativity threshold

and not compromising to
have a successful relationship.

But I think that it's quite interesting
to know that there is really
mathematical evidence

to say that you should never
let the sun go down on your anger.

So those are my top three tips
of how maths can help you
with love and relationships.

But I hope
that aside from their use as tips,

they also give you a little bit of insight
into the power of mathematics.

Because for me, equations
and symbols aren't just a thing.

They're a voice that speaks out
about the incredible richness of nature

and the startling simplicity
in the patterns that twist and turn
and warp and evolve all around us,

from how the world works to how we behave.
So I hope that perhaps,
for just a couple of you,

a little bit of insight into
the mathematics of love

can persuade you to have
a little bit more love for mathematics.

Thank you.


【TED】ハンナ・フライ: 愛を語る数学 (The mathematics of love | Hannah Fry)

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