

Broken families - wtf

(40 Posts)
daisygatsby Fri 16-Nov-12 21:21:29

Am at a wedding with dh family.

Dhs aunt came along and said - do you know aunt 'y' pointed out that all our children our with children from 'broken homes ' . I guess my dh and all his cousins happen to have hooked up with people whose parents are separated or divorced. And then the other aunt said 'well their with a good family that stick together now .''

Then Dhs mam said ' my friend thinks English people don't have as big weddings cos they think they're all going to do it again in a few years time.'

What the actual fuck.

OpheliaPayneAgain Fri 16-Nov-12 21:23:33

Some people have traditional values. Was she wrong in her comment ? or did you just not like it?

Spatsky Fri 16-Nov-12 21:24:26

You're posting on Mumsnet from a wedding?

ErikNorseman Fri 16-Nov-12 21:24:50

My family isn't 'broken' tyvm
Let it slide off like water off a duck's back smile

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Fri 16-Nov-12 21:25:56

But English people do have big weddings. confused They just don't feel the need to invite everyone they or their parents have ever met.

Really, there is no need for you to credit these comments with any intelligence. Just tune out next time you have to endure it.

Princesstwat Fri 16-Nov-12 21:26:04

Are they from a different culture may I ask?

daisygatsby Fri 16-Nov-12 21:26:20

I didnt like t for several reasons .

1. I don't think divorced parents is a 'broken home'

2. She implied that 'good ' families stick together

3. Mils comment - I have just married her son in a small wedding - does she think I intend to divorce him?

NoraGainesborough Fri 16-Nov-12 21:26:57

maybe they are attempting to piss you off as you are sat on your phone. grin

Are they Irish? My irish relatives think 'the english' divorce far to much.

daisygatsby Fri 16-Nov-12 21:27:07

It's the night before wedding

They're Irish, I'm English

Anonymumous Fri 16-Nov-12 21:27:24

We didn't have a big wedding because we don't have any friends. blush

daisygatsby Fri 16-Nov-12 21:27:58

I have only got only my phone as the inevitable singing began !

BridgetBidet Fri 16-Nov-12 21:28:32

Is his family not English then?

kim147 Fri 16-Nov-12 21:29:07

I hate the word "broken families" and especially the way it is used in the media. Families can separate but the parents can still work together for the good of the children.

And there's plenty of families who do stay together who make their children's lives absolutely hell.

Floggingmolly Fri 16-Nov-12 21:29:32

What is the definition of a broken home (what an old fashioned term) if not divorced parents, though?

daisygatsby Fri 16-Nov-12 21:30:43

outraged I know, I just couldn't believe the insensitivity of it. Plus the arrogance of we're Irish, we're good, we stick together.

Oh do fuck off

daisygatsby Fri 16-Nov-12 21:31:54

kim exactly my home was certainly not broken, even thought it didnt have a mum and dad in it

BridgetBidet Fri 16-Nov-12 21:32:22

Oh sorry, missed that. My husband is Irish, I'm English. At least they're not pointing out walls and saying they were built because all English people are bastards and you made the Irish build them in the famine.

Or that English people wouldn't have been welcome in their village 20 years ago.

Or that you are alright for an English person.

Seriously though, I wouldn't change my Irish in laws for the world, I think there is a whole bit of 'getting used to' with the whole English Irish thing.

I used to be dreadfully politically correct when they were saying awful things about the English. Now I just call them thick drunk bog trotting paddy micks and tell them to fuck off. This works very nicely and we all get along.

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep Fri 16-Nov-12 21:33:03

Wasn't divorce illegal in Ireland until 1990-something? That might explain the lack of divorces... hmm

kim147 Fri 16-Nov-12 21:33:56

I think David Cameron has his own meaning of "broken homes". People separate but the home continues and relationships between all involved can be really positive.

daisygatsby Fri 16-Nov-12 21:35:33

bridget oh there's a lot of your alright for an English person kind of thing. Ive kinda got used to that though. Especially since I can tell them their grandson is half English - of they like it or not

TiredBooyhoo Fri 16-Nov-12 21:35:46

well i'm irish and i can tell you now i know quite a lot of families that bloody well should have gone their separate ways for all the heartache and drama they cause. but no it's more fun to despise your spouse in public and make a joke out of your marriage that is like a fucking jeremy kyle audition hmm

i'm far happier having 'broken' my family for the sake of my sanity, and my dignity and to teach my children that you dont have to tolerate abuse just because you fell in love once as a teenager.

TiredBooyhoo Fri 16-Nov-12 21:36:56

1996 i think.

BridgetBidet Fri 16-Nov-12 21:46:21

Seriously though, give it back, if they can dish it out they can take it. Take the piss out of their fucked economy and their shit Eurovision entries.

Works a treat. Where are they from by the way. And how long have you been married? I took an awful lot of shit in the early years with my husband but have learnt to deal with it basically through the medium of taking the living piss.

RubyrooUK Fri 16-Nov-12 21:47:39

I understand why you get annoyed OP. My inlaws are very Catholic and they make comments about the poor children from single mums and broken homes.

I always say: "What, like me? I seem to be doing ok."

Then they go, oh not like you. And then sometimes if I am feeling really troublesome, I say how my mum did a brilliant job and made me the brilliant mum I know they think I am for their beloved grandson. Cue much nodding.

They are generally lovely - just very religious and have set ideas. But actually they do say it a lot less around me now anyway. And they do treat me like part of their pretty nice family so I leave it as a slight annoyance, not a big deal.

daisygatsby Fri 16-Nov-12 21:49:27

bridget we've only been married a few weeks, but have a kid and are together a few years. I would normally give as good as I get but I just thought this was a bit mean, tbh

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