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Spying on me???

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Posted 11/29/2012

ITA with Blessed. None of his explanations make sense. They all sound like complete bullshit! Also, his past is relevent since he is acting the same way as he did in the past.



Maybe my DH is just weird but I think he would leave me if I showed him a video of my bloody vag every time he paid the bills. -vegasmommy702 

Posted 11/29/2012
The fact that he's doing everything in his power not to discuss this shows you the priority of yr relationship to him.
Also if he opened an account just to spy on you he'd have just asked someone else (ie nephew) to look for you under their account.
His excuse that it was nephew that opened is bs. He just used one of nephews pics of him because it was easy and there. And font believe that he wasn't looking to cheat cuz there's no msgs etc, he used it to look at other woman's profiles etc.
Posted 11/29/2012

He claims he asked nephew to deactivate it the day he found out from me it got opened. The account was deactivated that night while I was asleep. SO claims to have never left the house but I have no way of really knowing that.

Nephew's GF claims he wasn't on the computer that night, but he does have a smart phone so I guess it's possible he could have deactivated from there. The GF and nephew aren't getting along right now so I'm not sure how much she really knows. He is apparently doing a lot behind her back.

The profile pic was from his nephews profile. And he is the only friend, which makes me believe he could have been the one to open the account. But I don't believe he would have done that on his own at all. That's just a little too unbelievable to me. And the fact that the login was under the cable box and not just laying around strikes a cord with me. He intentionally made sure it wasn't in plain site. Like he intentionally filled our house up with company last night.

SO is home every night after work. If he wants to visit, he has people over with us and doesn't usually leave the house unless he's making a run to the store or to get food when I ask him to. The account was pretty new, so I wonder if I just caught something before it really happened.

When I sit down with nephew, what should I ask to open this up without leading to something else?

Posted 11/29/2012

Blessed, I wonder if he opened it to see what exes were doing, (in relationships etc.)?

Posted 11/29/2012

My thoughts were to start this like "Why did my SO ask you to open a FB account for him?"

What do you guys think?

Posted 11/29/2012
I personally wouldn't confront nephew. For what purpose? If he tells you he opened it would you even believe him?
Start believing SOs actions. If he was really worried about what you thought he'd of called nephew right in front of you at that very moment to tell him to deactivate it. Plus why wait until you discovered it? Why didn't he tell nephew ASAP when he found out? He's just giving you a bone and hoping you forget about it.
Posted 11/29/2012
Personally, I think it's fruitless to involve the nephew. They're obviously in cahoots and will cover for each other. The fact that you even need to involve him is a giant red flag flapping in your face.


*If my postings have no spacing, that means that my MacBook's private browsing ate them...

Posted 11/29/2012

If his nephew opened then account then why is the login and password at YOUR house? Shouldn't it be with the nephew?

My thoughts on confronting the newphew is to do it in front of SO. You can tell a lot from their reactions and interactions of they're lying. If the nephew agrees to having opened it and your SO is over there sweating like a pig...then you clearly have your answer. Or if your SO jumps in and prompts nephew what to say...If you confront the nephew then that's telling SO that "hey, your stories is shady as s*** and I don't believe you"....and it's bringing other people into the situation.

You can try talking just to SO but that's already proven to be fruitless. He's shown you that he knows he can get away with whatever he wants because he knows you'll just believe him because "things have been going so great lately".

If you know he's not being honest your options are to leave...or to find a way to get him to be honest with you.

You're getting nowhere with talking to I'm in full support of confronting all guilty parties at one time. What are these parts websites they're claiming they're going to? I bet if we looked they wouldn't have a need for logins and emails and such...

Last edited 11/29/2012

I think this is ridiculous to even have to deal with right now. My SO is 34yrs old. His nephew is 22. I can expect this behaviour from the nephew, he seems a little immature for his age, but I have much higher expectations of my SO. I'm 26 and I don't behave like this.

*Edited the typos

Posted 11/29/2012

Oh, the email story to me in the first place is BS.

As far as the login, it was written on a peice of paper and it wasn't my SO's handwriting. I can completely see SO asking nephew to set something up because he knows he won't tell. But nephew didn't do this without direction. No freaking way.

What's on your mind?

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