Sleep Scandals: What Your Sex Dreams Really Mean


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So, about that time you slept with Ryan Gosling ...

What do you dream about most often? Personally, I dream about, at least as of late, BLTs more often than anything else. I'm not sure why that it. Perhaps, an undying devotion to bacon? But while I’m dreaming about food, it seems the rest of the world is dreaming about flying and sex. Are you one of those people?

An online survey of 700 people, 571 of which claimed to be lucid dreamers (those who are aware and control their dreams), found that the number one thing people dream about, and want to dream about, is flying. Well, obviously. Not too far behind were "physical activities like having sex and playing sports." I don't know the last time I dreamed about playing sports, but maybe that's just because I know that even in the real life, there's a far greater chance of me immediately taking flight by flapping my arms, than playing any type of sport.


But back to the sex end of things, what do our sex dreams really mean? While the survey found that those who could manipulate their dreams did so when they needed to change their nightmares into something good, the respondents didn't get into the details of what those sex dreams involved, and even more importantly what they mean. Don't fret! I did the research for you, and have found what it really means when you're getting down in your dreams.

1. You're Cheating.
To dream that you're cheating, can mean two things: 1. You're dealing with some guilt (but not necessarily guilt from cheating), or 2. You're experiencing some reaffirmation for the passion you have with your partner. According to Dream Moods, if those cheating dreams pop up before your wedding, and that's very common for people, it represents the "newness of your sexual passion." So, no need to worry there.

2. Your Partner Is Cheating.
There's a good chance that these dreams mean you're down in the dumps, feeling neglected and in need of attention in some way. It can also reflect some inner turmoil about your self-esteem and trust for others, not necessarily your partner.

3. Anal Sex.
Yikes. Not exactly a dream situation (pun!), but if you're dreaming about getting it in the butt, it can mean you're willing to be obedient and comply easily. Also that "you harbor concerns about revealing your inner thoughts and emotions to others for fear of experiencing pain." Because what's an anal sex reference without some acknowledgment of pain?

4. Sex With A Celebrity.
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Who hasn't had a sex dream about Ryan Gosling or Justin Timberlake? Although it's totally a harmless fantasy to dream about getting it on with someone whom you'll probably never even meet (I know! I'm sad about that reality, too!), if you do dream about having sex with a famous person it can mean that you have an intense desire to be successful and recognized for that success. Basically, you want to be a star, too.

5. Orgasm.
Have you ever been mid-sex dream and woken up only to realize that you were actually having an orgasm? No work, no effort, just a lying there in bed having an orgasm. If not, you're missing out! But even if you just dream you’re having an orgasm, that’s not too shabby either because it symbolizes "an electrifying conclusion to something." Yeah, conclusion to a good time. Duh. It can also mean that you simply need to get laid or get over whatever sexual hang-ups with which you might be dealing.

6. Sex With Someone Of The Same Gender.
If you're straight and dream about sex with someone of the same gender, there are two possible meanings depending on your level of comfort with homosexuality. If you’re totally cool with it (as you should be, because ‘live and let live’), then it can mean you truly love yourself and a have a strong sense of self-acceptance. If you’re one of those homophobes, to dream about getting it on with someone who’s the same sex as you can signify insecurities in your masculinity or femininity.

7. Sex Your Boss.

If only I had a penny for every time, I had a sex dream about one of the many bosses I've loathed over the years, what a wealthy gal I'd be. While at the time I thought it was sort of suppressed sexual desire for those particular men, it actually signifies "desires for authority and control," and a strong sense of empowerment. You want to be the boss.

8. Sex With Your Friend.
Similarly to having sex with your boss in your dream, doing it with your friend doesn't necessarily mean you want them either. It can just signify the closeness you share, and that tight bond is expressed in the form of sex. However, if you are attracted to your friend in a sexual manner, sleeping with them in your dream means you're not ready to express those feelings to them, so in the meantime you'll being working it out in your dream bedroom.

9. Sex With Your Ex.
Simply, and not so surprisingly, to have sex dreams about your ex means you’ve yet to let go. If you're with someone new, but still can’t shake those ex sex dreams, that means that maybe you have reservations about the new relationship or that "your current partner possess the same qualities that you had with your ex." Well, no wonder this type of dream can denote reservations. Who wants to be with someone who was just like the last one?

10. Oral Sex.
To dream that you're either getting or giving oral sex, means you’re on the right path, and to just keep going in that direction. It's also signifies your creativity, you artsy fartsy thing you! In contrast, if you're giving oral sex to yourself in your dream, it can mean you're craving to feel satisfied with yourself. I mean, why else would you be THAT flexible in your dream?

Looking for more dreams to dechipher? There's a new app called Dreamsphere, which does just that — dream dictionary included!

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