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Posted 07/20/2012
I think when you make it taboo that's when they want to know more and are going to do it behind your back.
DD is almost 15. We let her taste different things when we have a drink. Luckily she does not like any of it. Except Margaritas and at most parties in my younger days all you saw was beer. Maybe a few wine coolers.
But we have stressed that we know it will be at parties and if you drink CALL US!! We will not be mad you will not get a lecture we will simply come get you. That was the same thing my parents did with me. I never drank. I'm like PP. I don't like that out of control feeling or feeling like crap the next day. I was always DD for all my friends.

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Posted 07/20/2012

Why do people assume that all of us teenagers drink? I'm 17 and there's no way in hell that I'll have a sip, despite how much my idiotic "friends" insist. When I was a kid my dad would occasionaly give me some at parties. It tastes awful, makes me think without common sense, and causes me to do stupidities. Most of my uncles are alchoholics, and I know exactly how it can affect a marriage and children. I refuse to drink anything at all, and sure as hell don't want my daughter to try it either.

I be alchoholics didn't think that a litle try would bring them so low huh?

Posted 07/21/2012

We've had the conversation with our daughters about what to do if they are at a party where there is drinking, and that they should never be afraid that they will get into trouble if they ever need to call us for a ride home, especially if they have been drinking. 

Our girls are 16 and 14 and we do not allow them to drink in the home, nor condone underage drinking at all.  However, we are not putting on any blinders either...we want them to feel safe to call us if they are in trouble of any kind.  So it's a tricky balance. 

I believe the legal drinking age should be 18, and when our girls are out of high school, I have no problem giving them an occasional drink on special occasions, such as camping or the holidays.  But I would never condone binge drinking and partying in my home of any kind.  No matter what their age.  16, 18, or 25. 

Posted 07/22/2012
I don't want my son to drink, but I know he will at some point. Most teens will at least try it once. My husband tried his first drink at 14 and didn't know anything about drinking responsibly and overdosed on alcohol. He drank to fast and he had to go to the hospital. It could have killed him. But his mom sheltered him and thought she was doing a good thing by it. Instead his lack of knowledge backfired for her and for him. I will teach both my boys that while I don't condone drinking, there are responsible ways of going about it. I don't want it to be taboo and I want them to come to me if they find themselves in a situation where they need a ride home or heaven forbid, medical care.


Posted 07/30/2012

Well dss is only 13 and he still has to be in the house by 9 pm rarley spends the night at friends most the time they come here he does get to hang out with his friends alot but the evening is for family time :)

  On things like new years we give the kids like 2 tbs of champagne to toast with us...every once in a while we'll let the oldest dss have 2 tbs of red wine and when I let him have wine its normally a dessert wine with a very low percentage (it is legal in my state that as long as in the home and supervised by parent/gaurdians its legal and of course it also has includes the difference between giving a minor a sip and getting them drunk)

I do think it is smart to talk to them we've also disscussed that just because you may not act ridiculous at party when drinking doesn't mean that your body can handle it that as your still growing your still developing things like your stomach and such at least thats what my dr told me back when I was 16 and diagnosed with an ulcer which was caused by binge drinking I was always safe never drove stayed the night where I drank called my parents if I needed n e thing and dealt with the lecture later but getting drunk still weakend my stomach at 16 I was put on a bland diet and on my 21st bday I was allowed 2 drinks and that still hurt me... yrs later here I am ulcer gone but I still have a weak stomache and a ton of problems so we try to stress that just because you can be responsible about it doesn't make it a good idea that it can cause permanent problems inside you just from binge drinking in the teen years we have explained all this and more to ds and I'm pretty sure he doesnt drink except for when we give him a sip of something at home but I do worry about when he's 16/17



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Posted 08/05/2012
My kids aren't interested in drinking. They know the legal age limit. I don't think I would mind them drinking at home with parental supervision. I have already told them that if ever they have a drink at a party...just call and tell me and I will pick them up at a specified punishment....just call. Of course I don't want them to get drunk either...I will continue to ask them not to drink however, I know they will so better to be ready and available.
Posted 08/13/2012

I don't think ALL teens drink.  Besides having a little wine in my soda at the dinner table when I was a kid, I didn't have a drink until I was in college.  OH no, I was at a party in HS and tasted a rum & Coke.  (Hated it and didn't finish it).  But I think we have to be aware that most teens will at lesat be exposed to beer at a party and mibht be curious and cave into peer pressure and drink.  I don't think my 13 year old has done so just yet.  And I think if you ask him right now he would say he has no interest and wouldn't be lying.  BUt I also know that things can change very quickly.  Right not he and his friends seem to still be most interested in playing sports and video games at each other's houses.  Friday night they all go to an indoor sports copmlex to play Dodge Ball and I've neve seen anyone bring alcohol into that place.  So, I think at this point he just hasn't been exposed to it yet.  But he tells me how kids in his school (not his friends) talk about drinking beer and sneaking thier parents drinks when they're not home.  And I'm just hoing that DS doesn't do the same.  He knows all about the dnagers of alcohol and how it's illegal.  We've spoke about it andhe's heard it in school.  But like I said, things can all of a sudden change.

Posted 08/13/2012

Also, I'm on the fence about drinking it in the home.  We haven't introduced this to DS in the home, but Dh and I aren't drinkers so it's not like we really had the opportunity either.  Part of me thinks that by not making it taboo they won't have the desire to go out and get drunk with their friends.  But there's still the peer pressure end of drinking.  I'm sure there are many kids that don't desire to try a drink, but do so because of peer pressure.  ANd I'm not sure that introducing it in the hope can do anything to stop that.  ANd I also fear that what if you do introduce it in the home and your kids likes it more than they thought.  I guess there are just no guarantees.

Posted 08/20/2012

I'm just kind of shocked reading this that many of you knowingly allow your kids to drink alcohol.  Not judging, but I'm just shocked, as in extremely surprised.

My feelings about drinking by anyone under 18 is that it is a bad thing.  I do have very open lines of communication with my kids (who are 6 and 12, almost 13).  And my DH and I do communicate to them things that we  think are wrong.  We are not rule and discipline people (well I'm not) but there are certain things that are just not done here and drinking by kids is one of them.  My DH drinks at home occasionally, I swore off alcohol many years ago (tendency to abuse it).  Of course my feelings may change as they get older; but as of now I will tell my kids all the reasons they shouldn't drink and shouldn't let other kids talk them into things that are wrong like alcohol and (other) drugs.  Alcohol is legal for people over 21, but it is still a drug.  I don't think a person under 18 is mature enough to decide to drink.  For an 18 to 20 yo, I might be more open to their maturity level, but would still keep in mind and remind them that they are breaking the law and the consequences could be serious.



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DS Ross 9/15/99
DS Alex 1/11/06

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Posted 08/22/2012
No drinking in our house. We've talked to the kids a lot about all the problems alcohol caused in our family. We're also Christian and most people in our church don't drink so our kids are being raised that not drinking is normal rather than the other way around. None of their close friends drink and it hasn't been an issue. They have been finding constructive, healthy options for entertainment that don't include alcohol at a party. I'm thankful they have higher expectations for themselves. It's hard to be an athlete when you're hungover.

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