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Is there a subreddit for connecting with people for research purposes? by RobotGetsBoredin writing

[–]Onate 0 points1 point

Ha, I actually need to do some research on the RCMP on how they would handle an extra-terrestrial threat. Let me know how it works out for you!

What TV or movie cliché drives you insane? by pannenkoek2012in AskReddit

[–]Onate 1 point2 points

In My Big Fat Greek Wedding, the main character meets her future husband pre-makeover, but they don't start dating until afterwards.

There's also Miss Congeniality, where Sandra Bullock plays an FBI detective that undergoes a makeover to enter a Miss United States pageant.

Is there another way to phrase this sentence? by Correct_My_Englisin writing

[–]Onate 0 points1 point

"I take long showers, according to every woman I have ever dated."

/r/toronto Gardeners... what are you growing? What's working for you this year? by so_redditin toronto

[–]Onate 1 point2 points

I'm so jealous! I was finally geared up to plant stuff on our balcony this year, but was just informed that because they're just renovated the balconies, we can't have planters on the railings. :(

Husband was a real dick when the window alarm went off tonight. by Knotty_By_Naturein TwoXChromosomes

[–]Onate 5 points6 points

I don't know your whole marriage situations, but from these two examples, it sounds to me like he's taking issues that affect you and making them about him. “If you were raped, I don’t think our relationship would ever recover.”?! Well, he thinks he's going to feel shitty about it, imagine how badly you'd feel! And then he laughs at you for trying to make yourself a little bit safer.

Talk to him. Tell him about the stalkings, about how this new neighbourhood isn't the safest, about how these issues affect YOU. Explain that you being emotional about this doesn't make it any less true (this was something that I had to explain to my husband once as well. Just because I started crying in the middle of an argument, it didn't mean he was right. Crying is just an outlet for an excess of emotions for me.). Your needs for safety are valid and his belittling the issues doesn't make anything go away.

On another note, can you buy new alarms? If the stickiness on the old ones suck, then just get new ones.

Parents of Reddit, what's something your kids do without realizing that really hurts you? [SERIOUS] by Madclapperin AskReddit

[–]Onate 0 points1 point

I hardly call my mom, even though I know she really would like me to. Our conversations always start off nice enough, but somehow they delve into a lecture about some aspect of my life that she's not satisfied with. It just really pisses me off. I'm 26 and married; you'd think I'd be done with her trying to control my life. If she'd cut them out, I'd probably call more often. Maybe just be more conscious of what you're saying to her and she might call you some more.

My buddy never tells random hookups his name or any other info, in case she gets pregnant. I found out a girl he banged is pregnant (probably his). What should I do? by needsexadvice69in sex

[–]Onate 8 points9 points

They are both idiots. What person allows a random hookup (of whom I assume you know NOTHING about) to have sex with them without a condom? What, did they go to the health clinic for STI tests as foreplay?

They both need to be scared into reality. Sounds like she's having hers at the moment, but now your friend needs his. Give her his info. Real name, number, maybe address.

Well it turns out he was right to be paranoid

No he wasn't. He would have had a right if he wrapped up his cock in a condom and THEN she got pregnant. If he was so fucking paranoid, he would have taken measures. Condoms are like $0.50 a pop to protect yourself from STIs and uteruses from pregnancy. Hell, you can even get them for free if you look in the right places. I'm just amazed he hasn't contracted an STI yet.

Dump your friend too. He sounds like an asshole that will bring you down one day. I've had experience with people like that, and they only cause trouble.

Man, people like them just piss me off. Let's all squander our health to experience an increased 2% of pleasure!

Getting my(M 20) first sex toy. What do You recommend? by joeyjackingin sex

[–]Onate 2 points3 points

Look up a comic called Oh Joy Sex Toy (I'm at work, so I can't link it right now). Erika Moen does a fantastic job reviewing sex toys and such not only for products for clits and vaginas, but her husband helps her review products made for penises and prostates. The two of you can check it out together!

I love how the cast is friends outside of shooting. Here's Rupert and Tom. by kirbyfoodin harrypotter

[–]Onate 19 points20 points

Tom's expression of pure glee is the second cutest thing I've seen on reddit today (Baby moose is #1).

What can I do in future situations like this? (street harassment) by skintakerrrrin TwoXChromosomes

[–]Onate 26 points27 points

I wish I knew the answer. My 16 year old sister-in-law is becoming terrified of taking public transit by herself because every single time she does, there's an older man hitting on her.

Boyfriend came inside me without my knowledge, his intention was to get me pregnant, when I have stated that I do not want anymore children, advice? by adorkable4eyesin TwoXChromosomes

[–]Onate 9 points10 points

While I know condoms work well, I think you've missed the point. If he's going to refuse condoms and she decides to stay with him regardless (though I agree with most of the replies saying to DTMFA, but she has to make the call), she should protect herself.

I want a lady to join us in bed- but I don't want a threesome. by throwmeintoacanin sex

[–]Onate -5 points-4 points

You want to sleep with a woman so badly that it's affecting your sex life. Your bf gives you the go ahead, but you still feel like it's cheating.

Just go out, fuck a woman, and see if it fixes your libido back home. If not, your bf is your problem.

So I had The Sex Talk with my 7yo by TheBananaKingin sex

[–]Onate 0 points1 point

Many 7 year olds are just understanding the concept of the passage of time and many kids as old as 8 still believe in santa claus.

Let me tell you a story of two schools. In the middle of Grade 3 (so I would have been 7-8 at the time), I was transferred from a school where I played house, tag, and Sailor Moon with my friends to one where the girls obsessed over designer clothes, knew how to wear mascara, and talked about who kissed who the other day. Yes, you acknowledge that each kid is different, but if they're old enough to ask the questions, they're mature enough to handle the answers.

In your "should have waited" category, you bring up sexual orientation, saying he might question his identity. I wish I could find the blog post of a man that already knew in kindergarten that he liked other boys "in that way". Who's to say he isn't already questioning it? Now the boy knows that he doesn't have to want girls and that it's okay if he doesn't. As well, he is more likely to be tolerant of others that deviate from heterosexuality. OP did a good job for talking about it.

Consent was another topic on your list, but consent can be applied to other situations. A 6 year old boy was suspended for kissing a girl on the hand. He had kissed her once, gotten a warning, then after kissing her hand, he was suspended. I would bet anything that this was an issue of consent. The girl didn't want to be kissed so she told an adult, and when the boy failed once again to respect her boundaries, he faced the consequences. Consent isn't just about sex, it's respecting other people's boundaries.

And for your absolute no-no list, you claimed that various attitudes and hangups in society was too complicated. If he hasn't already, soon, that boy may hear words like "F*ggot" or slut used in a derogatory way. He needs to understand that when he hears those words in connection with another person, it doesn't lower a person's worth or dehumanize them. They're still people, whether or not they deserve those labels.

I believe 100% what OP did was the right call. Again, if they're asking the questions, then they can handle the answers.

I hate when life dumps shit on you unexpectedly. by Onatein TwoXChromosomes

[–]Onate[S] 1 point2 points

I think in Canada, you do get like a "baby-bonus" until the child turns 18. When my hubby moved out (he was either 16 or 17, too), they sent the checks directly to him. But of course, he doesn't remember that now, so we'll have to look it up.

The counselling is a good idea. She's already been to two different psychiatrists for her ED and anxiety, but she hated it so much that she stopped because they were doing more harm than good. I find counselling to be different. I wish I could take her to the one at my university, but alas, it's for students only.


[–]Onate[S] 1 point2 points

My brother-in-law is 22, so he's old enough to take care of himself, which he kinda doesn't do. We also called Children's Aid before we moved her out, but in Canada, there's a weird rule that while anyone 18 and under is a minor, your parents/guardians don't have to be responsible for you after 16 (which is why you an legally drop out of school without parental permission or rent a place by yourself). The good part of this is she can become legally emancipated from her father without involving the courts.


[–]Onate[S] 0 points1 point

Yeah, one of the things I was hoping to do on our camping trip was to write out our expectations (chores, room and board amount, etc.) before we talked to her about them. It looks like now we'll give her a free pass on things until after we get back.

As for the guardianship, in Canada, a minor 16 and over can legally emancipate themselves without involving courts, so I think that's the route we'll take. We want to teach her independence, and now is of good a time as any.


[–]Onate[S] 0 points1 point

We actually tried to after he told her to leave, but Children's Aid can't legally do anything once she's 16, which IMO is stupid. We're also trying to teach her how to become more independent, so we'll be charging her for room and board (though not right now, since there's no room, so to speak). She'll also be responsible financially for her spending money and her cat. I'm really hoping that we can impart some life lessons to her that will help her for when she's ready to live on her own.


[–]Onate[S] 0 points1 point

Thank you! While we're okayish for money (I know how to tighten my belt when I need to), it's mostly the waiting period to upgrade the apartment that's killing us. I can understand why they'd want to inspect our apartment first, but then we have to wait for one to become available, which according to the rental agent, doesn't look like anytime soon!


[–]Onate[S] 0 points1 point

Thanks! Once we get the bigger apartment, I think most of the headaches will be over, but until then, we all just have to sit tight and try to get along. :)

Can parents force their 16 year old kid to pay rent? by Onatein ontario

[–]Onate[S] 0 points1 point

He's on ODSP, would it affect that?