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Ladies of Reddit, what's something a guy you were previously uninterested in has done to change your mind? by doot_dootin AskReddit

[–]qidud 0 points1 point


My boyfriend at the time was an asshole. For example I spent a full week preparing for a huge birthday surprise for him, and he never said thanks, in fact later on in the night he completely bitched me out for making our team lose when we were playing some video games together :-/ there was a guy who had been interested in me for a long time but I never really felt attracted to him. We'd been doing lunch every so often though, because my bf had gotten so controlling that I could barely see any of my friends, and I could meet him near where I worked to hang out for a bit. One day I arrived before he did, he mentioned he hadn't had much money and probably wouldn't be eating anything in the text he sent. So I decided on the spur of the moment to buy him something along with my lunch. He was sooo thankful and let me know about 20 times how much he appreciated me paying for his food. That really should have been the wake-up call for me to get out of my shit relationship and date nice people, but it took a bit longer. It's all good now though, I'm dating my awesome lunch buddy :D

How did you stop hating yourself and start kind of liking yourself? What did it take? by [deleted]in depression

[–]qidud 3 points4 points


I stopped feeling so much guilt mainly. I remember I was having dinner with a friend and explaining why I felt so down on myself by telling him about everything I felt was contributing, (relationship failures, not being able to support my mother through her emotional issues, never having money to go out with friends). About halfway through my laundry list, he stops me and says "You realize none of that is your fault, right?" I realized he was right, and that I'm actually kind of decent as far as people go.