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Should I have a baby shower for my SECOND CHILD?


I had a baby shower for my first child which was a BOY. Im pregnant with my second child and now it's a GIRL.Im debating on wheter to have another baby shower or to just go out and buy what I need? Seeing that it will be everything cause I dont have anything for a girl? What should I do?

Posted: 10/22/2007 by Jessica Escalera

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Having your 1st child is a milestone which should be celebrated with friends and family. The original purpose for a baby shower is to celebrate 1st time motherhood with the female family members who share with the new mother what to expect. The idea here is to help with purchases for the new mom and new baby. An invitation to a baby shower is an obligation to those invited to purchase a gift. Subsequent pregnancies and needed purchases for that pregnancy are the responsibility of the new parents. If friends and family members wish to purchase a gift for the new arrival on their own, thats their perogative, however to solicit gifts by throwing a baby shower is simply tacky. If you can't afford things needed for new baby perhaps subsequent pregnancies should be postponed until you can.
posted 03/05/2010 by Jlynneb40
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Why wouldn't it be ok to have a baby shower for your second baby? Not everyone can or does keep everything from their first baby. Now if you have a third and go to register for baby things such as a swing or carseat...that's probably not cool. I'm not the type of person who wants my baby to wear ALL hand-me-downs from 6 years ago. The fact is, use your head about it and don't get greedy. Remember, it's a BABY shower.
posted 03/01/2010 by a BabyCenter Member
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I think it's funny that people are getting angry over people's answers or calling them "cold". It's their opinion and they have a right to it. It doesn't make them cold. It's not like they hate the babies. Geez! I always thought you only had a babyshower for your first baby or if the babies are 5 or more years apart or different genders. Either way, who cares! Do what makes you happy. If you (or your friends/family) want to throw a shower for each child, go for it. Just be mindful of the things you're registering for and only register for what you really need. You don't want to seem "greedy" especially when a lot of people are struggling. My sister-in-law is having her 3rd babyshower and I'm happy to go and celebrate the new baby. I have a 4 year old and if I have another baby, I'm not sure I'll throw another babyshower myself; but if my friends want to, I won't object ;) Yay babies!
posted 02/21/2010 by marsfireballs
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I think you should and all babies should be celebrated...Some ppl that are unsure have diaper parties too if you are unsure of having a shower. I have a girl and pregnant with a boy and my friend insists on throwing me a shower.
posted 01/21/2010 by a BabyCenter Member
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I am 21 weeks a long with my second one and they are different sexes so I am having a baby shower but I dont need big ticket items except for an exersaucer but everything else is just little things like girlie because I had all boy stuff so I believe there is nothing wrong with a second baby shower if it is the opposite sex. But like everybody else says be tactful with the gifts.
posted 01/19/2010 by Beth94
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I currently have a 18 month old daughter and am pregnant with another lil girl but since taylor was born in june and hunter is due in march all of her clothes are out of season for the time of year and everything that is two years old is either on the recall list or taylor is still using so i am having a shower and i havent had anyone act or be upset towards me because a) alot of people didnt get to celebrate taylor b) this is about celebrating a new baby c) people want to celebrate and be a part of happy times d)a registry is a suggestion of what you would like not a list and they dont have to buy you something off your registry if they dont want to e) after all the door prizes cake and food at my shower i spent as much as i got but it gave my friends and family an excuse to get together and enjoy each others company so my advice is if you want to have a baby shower have one and if you dont want to have one dont but dont make good people feel guilty about celebrating a new life!
posted 12/03/2009 by zander628
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This is my second baby. My first is a girl and now this one is a boy. My MIL and Great Aunt are throwing me a "diaper shower" vs a "baby shower". I think it is ok to have a shower since you do not have the things you really need for a girl. I have some clothes that are gender nuetral, but most of the clothes I had are "girl clothes. Hope I helped.
posted 11/19/2009 by sun_shine1862
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I am pregnant with my 2nd child and my Best Friend is throwing me one...I don't think its tacky...My family and friends are happy to celebrate a new baby...This time I won't register like I did last time and keep the basics on it and cheaper items...Times are tough for people , but I think its a personal choice to have showers for ea kid, not tacky
posted 11/04/2009 by LeaAnn2424
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Look into your own family to answer this question.My family gives a shower for each and every child. Some people do not agree with this and think that there should only be one shower for the first child. I don't agree. I have never asked anyone to give me a shower, they offer themselves, we all pitch in and have a great time. We celebrate together. And after the baby is born we gather to celebrate again. I have a wonderful family who would not have it any other way!!!
posted 09/24/2009 by a BabyCenter Member
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Some of these answers make me angry. EVERY baby deserves a shower. If YOU don't want to take part in giving a shower, DON'T OFFER, if you think it will cost you or bother you. If YOU don't wish to give a gift,DON'T and DON'T GO! My family gives a shower for EVERY new baby, and I am usually the one that gives it. I do not expect anything in return! I am having my second child, (5 years apart) and I will be having a second baby shower! Offered by FAMILY!Anyone that does not want to attend or anyone that doesn't want to bring a gift does not have to. Times are hard, and you being there would be enough. People who love each other like being together, gift or no gift!I did not ask for this shower, but it is helpful, and we like to have a good time. so , if you are thinking about whether a shower is okay for each child, just look into your own family for answers. My family is supportive, along with my friends, and a second shower is right for us and all of our unborn children. Jaime
posted 09/24/2009 by a BabyCenter Member
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