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46 / M / Straight / Single

Windsor Locks, CT

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:32pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats

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My self-summary
I'm not looking to date or for a girlfriend. I'm taking care of my mother for a while. She has the dementia and can't live alone anymore. So for now she's hanging w me.
I do want good conversation/laughter and to hang out w cool/nice folks that don't need a label. I don't have the ability to emotionally committ right now. I still have emotions and want friendship mostly...I'm off the romance thing at the moment because honestly, it rarely works. So no guarantees here. Ultimately I want to be in love w my best friend...she's going to be a person that i love before i fall in love but once seen, my eye will always go to her. She will have lived life in interesting ways, have been non conventional and not regret the past. She'll have a great mind and live/think off the beaten path but know where and how to live in both worlds.
Sex will be both play and transformative. For however long id like it pretty mono but i am open to poly .
Theatre, music, books, art, good and bad film, weird is a good thing unless its just stupid, amateur attempts of all the above are generally respected.

Ok, so I do want something, somewhere down the line, but I refuse to do it the same old way.



― John Lennon


-- Miguel Ruiz

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to make more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is in reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.

-- Margaret Young
What I’m doing with my life
Finding good music, art and books. Really, that's my anchor right now. I do other things, some of which pay in $$ and some that pay in pleasure.

I just took the Okcsluttest
I'll tell you mine if you tell me yours ;) lol I prefer the term ethical slut which denotes a woman's sexual power and embracing it from a feminine perspective of empowerment rather than a male dis empowering subjugating dominance. So let the freak flag fly, but really, sexuality takes introspection and fully embracing the mind and body. Love, passion, desire....kink, fetish, curiosity. All should be explored in a way that promotes sex positive mind sets.
A person once asked if I was" up for anything" the answer was "no"
But I'll have any conversation. So there you have it.

I love my mind and take quite a bit of time wondering about in there. Last nite as I was trying to go to sleep I saw Indians standing on each other's shoulders as far into the sky as I could see. I decided to tell my friend a story about how totem poles came to exist and it sounded pretty credible, that's why I love it. Imagination and creativity mixed w enough reality to stay grounded... Oh, and you can't fall in love w me. I'll be loved but not in loved, in loved is generally all those wonderful ways I make you happy or visa verse. That's great but it's not the love that last. So I'm learning how to hang on to myself so I have something to give away.

Music update.
Loving my Pandora lately, sultry, deep women singing like Leonard Cohen, Nora jones, Rachel yamagata and misc Latin Cuban fusion... So rich.
I’m really good at
Procrastination is my strong point, Filled with moments of great accomplishment.
Being me, I have a face w a view.
The first things people usually notice about me
Is the 20% that shows above the water line.
There's really no way you'd expect what's inside this one. But like momma said....

I'm a big guy. I take up space and have a laugh. I can be very quiet in new company or certain company. Gregariously shy...not one to push an opinion to change someone mind but love a good talk.

Update; That's somewhat bs, I'm also forward and will speak to strangers often. It's just small talk which turns me into a wrist cutter ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The spiritual practices of Rumi.
Carlos Castenada's writing's.
The Shack - I didn't really like this book.
Bhagavad Gita
The erotic mind -
The passionate marriage -
Following Atticus
Glass castle
Tom Robbins still life of woodpecker and more.
edward sharp and the magnetic zeros
intereference irish
glan hansard - marketa irglova
Sufi radio
Chuck Prophet
Florence and the Machine
Joan Armatrading
Jai Uttal
The talking heads
Annie Lenox
Nina Simone
Rachel Yamagata
Zaz - french singer from that movie w the English kid in the train station and the animatron.
Zena warrior goddess.
Update, 6/1/13 the following still definitely applies.
No! No Led Zepplin or Pink Floyd or the other blonde guy with leather pants and a bandana tied around his thigh screaming into a mic...sorry.
The six things I could never do without
Water w lemon
Good pizza
Real connection, conversation.
Scratch a dog behind the ears once in a while.
Massage -
a nice long hot/cold shower,..
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life Lotto and the American way of
con-sumerism. Credit cards (Evil Incarnate)
Lgbts&m whatever the acronym's time straight folks came out too!! Be yourself and all. Think they are?? I don't.
When the things I know and my human condition will stop fighting w each other.
Am I an old soul or new? I think newer as time goes by.
How are we moving from a tribal model to a universal model. What current evolutionary brain changes are happening now and how can I push my brain further in my areas of strength.
How far I have to go.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing what the M&M won't.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Liberty or is it Libertine
I'm different than anyone you've known.
Someone on a dating site once asked how big my (you know) was, my reply was 6. 1"
I prefer essential oils over cologn/perfume, except agent provacator, that is pure sexiness.
I kissed a boy but didn't like it. I still like him though :)
I have to deal w depression at times.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You have a brain, a heart and courage.

I like to send out nice little messages on this site. So many people seem to think we should just ignore each other if its not a match but I think a hello, nice profile good luck, hey what you said about such and such was cool is a good thing once in a while.

~ I'm much more likely to write you back if you share something about yourself and note something specific in my profile or journal entry that inspires you, so we can start a conversation.