Help me make some menu decisions POLL

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Posted 12/18/2012

I think you said it best when you said "You can't be a parent when you're still trying to be a teenager." I know he's probably doing all of this because it's the only part of him that he has left (trust me..I've heard that excuse a million times), but you need to pick your stance on all of this and stick by it. If you're okay with weed but nothing more, explain that. I think that is a VERY fair compromise. Just don't explode on him. It's good that y'all have a relationship where he feels he can tell you these things..you don't want him to start doing stuff behind your back.

Posted 12/18/2012
The moment you let him bring weed, was the day he was ok with bringing anything else to your home. Your home should be your sanctuary..
Posted 12/18/2012
No way in hell. Get that shiz out of your house and away from your baby. If SO has to go with it, the so be it. That's flat out stupid and dangerous.
Posted 12/18/2012
Mmm wow! You have difficult situation. Well first of all you have to understand that He is an addict, that wants to experiment with more things. You turn a page and he didnt. You may want to look for profesional help before this get out of control. You are right of been mad. Good luck!
Posted 12/18/2012
I wouldn't be mad. Honestly, before I was prego, I experimented with drugs. Obviously now I'm completely sober and don't touch any of that stuff. But it's really not that big of a deal. If he's in a controlled environment with friends, and won't be out where he can get in trouble or do something stupid, id let him do it.

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Posted 12/18/2012

As a 30 year old hippy, I totally see where you are comming from.  My husband and I smoke weed on occasion and it has worked as great medicine for sleeping and migranes.  But acid is a whole new story.  I would not touch that stuff as it can really mess you up.  Fine if you are young and have nothing to lose, but as a father you have plenty to lose. I don't know how I would handle a situation like that, but it sounds like you can at least talk to him about whats going on and your feelings.


 Mother to wonderful Dennon, (August 6th, 2009) and Willow (August 11th, 2012)

 Doing my best to practice natural parenting, one step at a time!

Posted 12/18/2012
Either the acid AND weed goes, or he does. If you guys get caught with that in the house they can take your lo. He needs to choose. If that angers him, then hes obviously more concerned about getting high. U guys r just lucky that at this point uve not been caught.
Last edited 12/18/2012

You are not overeacting....I'll admit I was a 420 fan many, many moons ago  and dad dabbed in it as well but no longer.....there is a grave difference between passing a bowl and doing acid GRAVE difference.  Narcotics are a different breed and are a giant NO-NO.....he is moving on to bigger things and if he chooses that path you should not walk it with him.  I am 38 liberal (very open minded) and am parent to a 13YOS a 15YOD and a 4 month old boy.  I understand because I have been there but I never took it to the next level.  I owned real estate property at 23, ran a household with 2 toddlers a husband (that still likes to collect toys) a dog cat, worked full time and went on to finish my degree.  I get it, I did the partying and the puff, puff, pass but never missed a beat and NEVER took it beyond that.  Not only can he loose his job, he can loose you, the baby, his life.....it is NOT worth it- I would have taken it a step further and given him an ultimatum....the acid or us, not in between this is very black and white- its a yes or a no- stand your ground!!!!!!!

Posted 12/18/2012

In most states, weed is illegal. As is acid. It's not an issue of whether it's an acceptable drug to be doing or whether it should be legal. As of now, it's illegal. Losing his job isn't all that could happen if they do a random drug test and he comes up positive. I'm sure they'd have to report it to the police, and that would end up on his record, which could ruin other job opportunities for him. I'm assuming his employers are aware that you have a child and it's very possible that they'd have to report to CPS too, and you could end up losing your child over it. Personally, I don't find drugs a worthwhile risk when I consider what's at stake. 


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Troy - Aug 2012

Posted 12/18/2012
There are a lot of crazy responses to this.

1. If he must do the acid, ask him to do it outside your home, away from baby. It's your fathers house, have some respect - assuming your dad isn't cool with it. Know that acid high lasts a LONG time. 8-12 hours at a minimum. People do have bad trips so again, away from baby.

2. Weed consumption. I honestly have no issues with it as long as its done away from baby. But don't you think that it's a bit messed up that you guys are spending money on weed and not paying rent? You should be saving money for a down payment to purchase a starter home or at least 3 months rent. Sounds to me that the priorities are a bit backwards. And I wouldn't say this unless you had a child but you do.

3. Benefits. How do you afford healthcare? Do you receive benefits? Who pays? Just something to consider when you spend money on weed.

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