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Granny fanciers

(47 Posts)
MagicWriter2016 Wed 29-Jun-16 17:40:58

I have had a few requests from strange men and women on Facebook. I just reject them all, am happily married, but a lot of younger guys do like older women. They assume we are all 'experienced' in certain subjects lol. I told one, we might look OK in a photo, but once we have removed the uplifting bra and the control pants, different story lol! Think he was young enough to be my son or even grandson!

Granof11 Wed 29-Jun-16 17:22:17

Simply had to reply to this one. Just this morning I took the decision to deactivate my Facebook page, not because of creepies getting in touch but because after a year's membership the only people ever to contact me were my sons and daughter and I prefer to chat to them by phone anyway. I'd been wasting so much time of late scrolling up and down through nonsensical posts. Don't know what happened to all those 'friends' who befriended me in the beginning. They certainly never responded to any of my posts.

GandTea Wed 29-Jun-16 11:54:34

Alea, "Every day of the week" now that would be ridiculous, I like to keep weekends free. grin

Solitaire Tue 28-Jun-16 23:48:53

My friend was using dating sites and one night when visiting her she showed me some of the replies and yes very obviously scammers. One was supposedly a senior officer in the US military and we made up replies which were very silly but made us laugh and kept us amused for a while.
I've been divorced since 1987 but never felt the need to join a dating site, or to have a permanent relationship. My friends think that's odd but I'm quite content as I am and too busy to fit anything more in to my life just now.

Nelliemoser Tue 28-Jun-16 23:32:26

I suspect a lot of these are attempts at scamming or younger men fancying their chances. I am a hard bitten cynic about any approaches like this on line.

Solitaire Tue 28-Jun-16 23:31:52

GandT you are incorrigible wink

WilmaKnickersfit Tue 28-Jun-16 23:25:21

Have we ever had a GN wedding? smile

Alea Tue 28-Jun-16 23:19:28

Goodness GandTea I read that as "every day of the week!!"
Moderation in ALL things!

WilmaKnickersfit Tue 28-Jun-16 23:13:15

Sorry, I should have mentioned that often it's about money laundering.

WilmaKnickersfit Tue 28-Jun-16 23:07:03

I saw a Dr Phil show about this kind of thing and it was a complete scam. It was actually very sad because these women did not appear to be particularly gullible, just lonely. The men are trying to groom you, not for sex but for money. They can be extremely convincing, using information about real people who have no idea their identities are being used in this way. The men can be targeting several women at the same time, all at different stages. They chat online and on the phone, and even meet the women. The FBI has a whole department dedicated to this kind of fraud which is really only made possible because of the development of the internet.

Elegran Tue 28-Jun-16 22:48:06

My Skype keeps getting friendship requests from generals in the US military (odd how there is no-one enlisted in the US army under the rank of general) They send photographs of distinguished-looking chaps in uniform and seem really keen to lavish affection on me.

I think it must be because part of my Skype username is the last two digits of the year of my birth, and they think that is my age. I just block them.

GandTea Tue 28-Jun-16 21:42:19

I certainly lust after one granny, and fantasise about her frequently, she is ....... (now that would be telling)

harrigran Tue 28-Jun-16 21:30:28

I have had 3 or 4 requests on FB, all nice looking men of about 40.I would bet my last pound that they are archive photos from a Web page and not really them.

kittylester Tue 28-Jun-16 21:23:47

There is a bloke here who fancies a specific granny.blush

Willow500 Tue 28-Jun-16 21:12:00

I don't get them on FB so much but have had a few on Skype from both men and women - I've no idea why they do it - instantly blocked.

Elegran Tue 28-Jun-16 18:34:35

I remember him, Phoenix and how he luuurrrved older women! but I think the messenger got the message eventually.

phoenix Tue 28-Jun-16 17:48:49

There used to be a very creepy chap on here who would allude to his proclivities and those of his "ladies"

GandTea Tue 28-Jun-16 17:43:07

When I was 18, I could never imagine myself fancying a granny let alone @@@@@@@ one. What a difference 63 years makes, give me a granny any day of the week grin.

aggie Tue 28-Jun-16 17:13:22

I never put a picture of myself on ! Don't want to break the internet !

aggie Tue 28-Jun-16 17:12:29

My name is non gender , so I get requests ( and suggestions ) from creepy men and daft women , I just block them

chelseababy Tue 28-Jun-16 16:24:27

No but a friend of mine had one from Canada who she messaged (?) a few times before she blocked him.

Bluecat Tue 28-Jun-16 15:51:40

Don't know if this question has been raised before, but has anyone else encountered granny fanciers on Facebook?

What I'm referring to is "friends" requests from strange men (strange, I guess, in both senses of the word.) I've had quite a few of these since joining Facebook and they baffle me. They're always quite a bit younger than me - in their 40s, to judge by their photos - and I've never heard of any of them. Some seem to have no connection to me whatsoever, but in some cases we have "a mutual friend," namely the sister of Linda, my husband's brother's late wife. I accepted a "friends" request from the sister in the aftermath of Linda's death because she seemed to need moral support, though I don't know her and I've begun to wonder, from some of her posts, if she's a bit odd. This lady is about my age (63.) Presumably she has accepted the requests from these men. I doubt she knows them personally, as they tend to be located far away, such as in the US.

Obviously I ignore the requests but I wonder about their motives. Are they scammers, looking for lonely old ladies to con out of their life savings? But my profile picture shows me with my arm around my husband, so why would they suppose I'm looking for a man?...Or are they granny fanciers? I find it hard to believe they swoon over my photo. I was never very alluring when I was young and I'm sure as hell not now!

I could ask Linda's sister about these men but we don't chat - I just read her posts, and perhaps she reads mine - and it would be difficult to ask her why these creepy men are her friends and want to be mine. And really embarrassing if she has some sort of online relationship with them....So I'm just baffled. Anyone else come across these peculiar gentlemen?