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Why Don't Women Like Shy Guys?

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No spontaneity
Once you're dating a woman and you think she might be falling for you, you can really make her fall to her knees by planning a spontaneous date, without worrying about how she feels and what she thinks. Pick her up and don't tell her where you're going, take her hand in yours when the moment is right, and swing her in your arms when you feel like doing so. If a man is too shy, chances are he'll always be on his tiptoes trying to please her, rather than let loose and show her how lively he can really be.

Always asks for permission
Along with a lack of spontaneity comes a constant need for approval by asking a woman before doing anything, from kissing her to putting his hand... It is chivalrous to ask her how she feels about physical intimacy and gauge whether or not she's ready to go further, but sometimes you have to rely on your instincts. There's no need to map out where you're going to kiss her next. If she wants to be kissed, you'll know — and if you're wrong, you'll probably just get a taste of her cheek.

A large part of shyness can stem from insecurity, which is a major turnoff for many women. Your lack of confidence can reflect itself in your coyness. Let's be honest: how many egomaniacs do you know that are shy? ( Anyone? Anyone? ) If you don't have the confidence to approach people and initiate conversations, can you imagine how many possibilities for romance you're missing out on? And why would a woman — or man for that matter — want to talk to a guy who doesn't think he is all that interesting himself? There is a fine line between confidence and cockiness though, and you have to make sure not to cross it.

Needs a caretaker
No woman wants a guy that she has to worry about when she's out with her friends or in any social situation, nor wants to be a guide every time they get intimate.

say goodbye to mr. shy guy

So you know that your shyness might be turning women off; well, here are some tips on getting over your bashfulness. If you're strictly reserved when a girl is in the picture but outgoing overall, then your coyness will probably subside as the relationship progresses. Once you gradually break out of your shell, your new attitude will surely seep into every area of your life.

Becoming a more socially outgoing person might seem scary for a guy who has known no other way, but chances are you've wanted to get over your shyness before.

Work on your confidence
Being more extroverted could in turn make you appear more outgoing (without being obnoxious), but you have to start from the inside out. Making your self-esteem pour through your actions and attitude will be easy once you know how much you have to offer. Show yourself how great you are by making a self-worth checklist, citing all your accomplishments, the character traits you love about yourself, and the greatest moments in your life. Once you do an inventory check on how much you have to offer, it could help your pride shine through.

Get over your coyness...

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