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25 / M / Straight / Single

Danvers, MA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 14, 2011
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Other, but not too serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Type
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Caught between Eastern and Western ideals, I find myself constantly striving for some kind of balance. Growing up in this Western lifestyle, certain things are ingrained in me and I accept my limitations-- I'm admittedly not always above being petty and materialistic, but I'm working towards controlling my thoughts and emotions and making the best out of every moment. I love to find something special in unconventional people, places, and moments.
What I’m doing with my life
I've always been an individual learner. I love to learn and I'm constantly looking for things to absorb. I love to pick and choose, because I can-- especially when it comes to religion or science. I enjoy being on the fence about a lot of big issues, for better or worse.

I am torn between two dreams that I see as conflicting. On one hand, I'd love to realize my full potential artistically and be able to share my music with the world, making enough money with it to tour the country with my best friends, learning and growing. On the other hand, I'd love to eventually settle down and have a family, preferably on a farm or some place where I'd have plenty of space to provide food for my kids, though close enough to be able to see my family. Nothing interests me more than living a life feeling truly connected to this earth and the people on it, and animal husbandry seems like the ideal job to fulfill that spirit, even though I'm not totally convinced I'm up for it yet... I'd love to try though!
I’m really good at
working with my hands, listening & observing, making fun of myself, writing (music, lyrics/poems, essays, etc), playing guitar, rhythm, being open minded, organization, consistency, understanding processes, debate
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm quiet! I don't always have something to say, and when I don't, I won't say something I don't mean. Nothing disinterests me more than blowhards, showoffs and people that say things they don't really mean. I may not always be outwardly confident or outgoing, but I value sincerity and loyalty much more highly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Lately I've been very interested in nonfiction, especially books on nutrition and our food system. I loved The Omnivore's Dilemma (Michael Pollan), Good Calories, Bad Calories (Gary Taubes); and Nutrition and Physical Degeneration (Weston Price). I respect the works of Milton Friedman, Ron Paul (I know, politics...) and other advocates for true capitalism. Also Food of the Gods (Terrence McKenna), Grow Your Own Drugs (James Wong), Higher Education? (Andrew Hacker), fiction: Life of Pi (Yann Martel), C.S. Lewis, Shel Silverstein, Theodor Seuss Geisel, Gary Paulsen


So many great movies out there... a few favs:
Waking Life
Pulp Fiction
Fight Club
Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas
The Big Lebowski
Wedding Crashers
A Clockwork Orange
Donnie Darko
Fantastic Planet

PBS & BBC Documentaries
Food Inc.
King Corn
The Corporation
Fat Head
Addicted to Plastic
The World According to Monsanto
The Money Masters
Generation RX
American Drug War
DMT: The Spirit Molecule

I don't watch a lot of TV, but when I do I love:
Adventure Time
Breaking Bad
The Simpsons
South Park
The Colbert Report
The Office

I stray toward the esoteric stuff but I'll listen to just about anything and love finding new music. I tend to enjoy a lot of technical music and think music can speak louder than words... but some of the best music is the simplest. I'm gonna try and keep this short.
Between the Buried and Me
Maps and Atlases
A Perfect Circle
The Mars Volta
Andy Mckee
Lamb of God
Red Hot Chili Peppers
Thomas Giles
Explosions in the Sky

I love to eat! Breakfast makes me smile. Eggs and bacon are tough to beat. Coconuts! Eggplant parmesan! Spicy foods! Not a big fan of red meat usually. I love chicken. Of course there are the comfort foods I try and pretend I don't love like spaghetti, pizza, ice cream, or even a bowl of sugary cereal.

I love to cook, even though I'm not very good at it. At least it feels like I'm constantly improving! I cook most of my food and don't eat a lot of fast food, processed junk, etc. Nutrition is important to me and that means there's a whole lot of food I choose not to eat, which is kinda tough but so worth it! I don't eat grains, starches, white flour or refined sugar and frankly I've never felt better.

For drinks I LOVE yerba mate, it's the best if you can handle the strong grassy taste. I love it so much it makes me want to visit South America! A good cup of coffee is fantastic, but I try to drink it in moderation. I like some other herbal teas too, but mostly I drink a lot of water. Boring, I know.

As far as alcohol goes I don't drink too much, but when I do I usually go for a mixed drink or a shot over a beer. I love gin & tonic, rum & coke, & tequila. If I reach for a beer it's usually a pale ale or IPA.
The six things I could never do without
1: My family. Cop out? Maybe, but it's true. I owe everything to them and I could never be away from them for too long.
2: My friends. I don't have a ton of friends, but I am super close with the ones I have, I've known them for years, and wouldn't trade them for the world!
3: Love. The most empowering and positive emotion, nothing keeps us connected and content like love does, platonic or otherwise.
4: Nature. It's so easy to feel disconnected from the natural world, and I think many of us yearn to rediscover that connection. I love being outside, going to parks and beaches, and breathing the fresh air.
5: Dogs. It's amazing that we have these domesticated companions to live with and keep us sane. Dogs are always in the moment, and remind us of the value of each and every day, and the importance of play!
6: Coconuts. Yes, coconuts. My favorite fruit, nut, and vegetable, a truly impressive plant that not only serves as food but has so many remarkable healing abilities. Yep... I'm weird.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Self-improvement-- I hesitate to call it meditation, but I like to be aware of my mind and the way it's conditioned. I'm always trying to control negative thought loops and certain emotions I'd consider 'cracks' in my personality: pettiness, insecurity, fear, jealousy, doubt, and obsession. The more I overcome these feelings, the better my life has been. I believe mental exercise is just as real and important as physical exercise, and it's essential to strike a balance, become OK with yourself, and maintain some sort of equilibrium.

The future of this country, "politics"-- Yes, I am interested in politics, sorry :P. It seems like atrophy has become so commonplace in our generation, and I truly think this is unfortunate. This country was founded by rebels fighting for true freedom, and to me it's a shame that we have such a cushy lifestyle we're allowed to take it all for granted. I'm not fully invested in politics myself, but I know where I stand and I'm always interested to hear from others on a lot of issues, from military spending to the economy to HEW (Health/Education/Welfare). It should be easier to have these discussions.

Our current food system and resultant lifestyle-- I am truly concerned about the state of our food industry. The amount of chemicals we consume, the government subsidization of grain and other poor sources of calories, the mislabeling and underhanded ploys of top-tier business executives-- it's truly shameful. As far as I'm concerned, the concentration of the food supply represents a huge threat to our well-being, and I find myself doing more and more to support local farming and food production, even dabbling in it myself whenever possible.

The health and welfare of my family and friends!-- It hurts to even think about losing the people I truly love, depend on, and care about most. Unfortunately it's a part of life, and I know I will move on and grow, but I can't help but worry about it from time to time.

I find it WAY too easy to worry, so I try to maintain a positive attitude. It's different than being in denial, if only by a slight margin ;D. It's tough to let go... but I'm working on it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually hanging with the guys. I've known the same six dudes for years and it probably annoys people how well we know each other haha, we're losers and we know and love it!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't look at sex like most other guys I know, or girls for that matter. To me, it's not a race, and I don't take it lightly. To me, sex implies a level of complication I'm just not excited to jump into until I'm serious about somebody. I've had a couple serious relationships, but outside of that I guess I could be considered a 'prude' and I take a long time to warm up to someone physically. Even then there's no guarantees... my friends tell me I act like a 13 year old girl when it comes to sex. Nieve? Maybe, but I wouldn't have it any other way haha.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–26
  • Near me
You should message me if
...if you'd like to chat, hang out, cook some food, walk/drive around aimlessly, go for a swim or toss around a frisbee!