The two words a man shouldn’t say to a woman


When I saw the headline for this story I was sure those two words were “you’re fat,” but I was wrong. That’s not it.

Thing is, the two words that this story says a man should never say to a woman make sense. I know if I’m all riled up and upset I certainly don’t want R to respond this way.

No, I want him to understand why I’m worked up, even if he doesn’t agree with my position (or thinks I’m batshoot crazy, at the moment.)

A friend of mine once said that she’s always been of the belief that is someone is upset to the point they’re crying or really distraught you need to be able to consider their feelings, even if they don’t mirror your feelings.

I’ve always thought that is an excellent point, and try to keep it in mind when dealing with people I care about.

Sure, I may think you’re being irrational, or acting emotionally. But, if the situation has upset you and your feelings I will not tell you to calm down.

I promise.

Categories: Dating
Kristi Gustafson Barlette

62 Responses

  1. Amanda Talar says:

    There’s always one man getting all in a tizzy because an article isn’t exploring the OTHER side of the man vs. woman issue.

    To that, I say…


  2. Shann says:

    My best friend and I used to tell my old neighbor “you’re crazy” that would always send her off the edge :)

  3. zzz says:

    I’ve never been told to calm down. Usually it’s the opposite, I’ve been told that I’m eerily calm & patient.

    As far as calming other people down, it depends on the person & the situations. Hysterical kids — ignoring works wonders. Close friends – lots of supportive statements using eloquent cursing. I’ve distract angry boyfriends in the middle of their tirades by flashing my hoots. :) Men don’t stay angry when flashed naked hoots. It’s a genetic thing, I believe. It works on gay men or straight men.

    I don’t advise that in the workplace with a histrionic coworker, but it definitely works in personal relationships.

  4. zzz says:

    & the key to calming anyone down who’s upset… making them laugh. People cannot stay upset for long if you distract them with laughter. And hoots. Hoots and laughter, the key to the universe.

  5. The BEST UKMA Uve ever had! says:

    If a man is getting in a “tizzy” his manhood should be questioned!:)

  6. zzz says:

    ummm Marlon, you get into a tizzy anytime someone questions your age.

    According to your logic, they should now be questioning other things as well.

    …just sayin’.

  7. doodle says:

    Ah….thank you ann and zzz for your stellar advice. I used to have a hedgehog and know exactly the noise you mean ann, so now I’m gonna hear that in my head whenever I feel angry.

    zzz, when I hear/have to deal with the histrionic co-worker, I’m going to laugh because I’m thinking, “Hoots and laughter, the key to the universe.”


  8. Roz says:

    zzz wins the Internet!

  9. “Men don’t stay angry when flashed naked hoots”

    This needs to be shared with the world… Also, you’ll see me pretending to be angry a whole heck of a lot…

  10. G™ says:

    Marlon has never had a tizzy fit! He and I don’t ever see eye to eye on anything but one thing I know about him is that he’s completely open and honest, as any mayoral candidate should be.

    Don’t believe me? Watch?

    Marlon, how old are you…as of today, April 18, 2013?

    Marlon, when was the last time you were in a committed relationship…with a woman?

    Marlon, who is your biggest threat for the mayors office?