Please flame me, I've been a bitch!

(55 Posts)
HerrenaHarridan Mon 22-Apr-13 12:44:50

I just asked someone if she was pregnant and she said no! I would never normally do this but she was fairly skinny with a well formed and fairly pronounced bump. It just came out!

She is the waitress in the cafe so now I have to sit her and squirm until I can leave.

It is a lovely local cafe and I am never coming back!


OhTheConfusion Mon 22-Apr-13 13:32:53

These things happen, don't beat yourself up.

My aunt once asked an old school friend if she was pregnant... she wasn't. She then met the same woman a year later, heavily pregnant with twins, and felt too embarrassed to comment blush.

HazeltheMcWitch Mon 22-Apr-13 13:34:10

I used to commute on the train to work: the train was always packed and horrid. I had to have quite a lot of surgery, and had been off for a while. In my first week back, the train was once again a nightmare, and I was packed like a sardine in the 'vestibule area', and was really feeling dreadful and in a lot of pain.

Ticket lady pushed through and said 'if you're pregnant, you can sit in 1st class'. I replied shamefacedly 'I'm not pregnant, I've just had a kidney out so I'm all swollen'.

She GLARED at me, and said 'Well, you can't sit in 1st Class then, can you?', and swanned off.

Readers: I cried.

HeffalumpTheFlump Mon 22-Apr-13 13:36:50

I'm 4 months pregnant and my friend who's not looks far more pregnant than me when she eats cheese. It's quite funny really she looks about 6months ish and we call it her cheese baby. I wouldn't blame someone for asking her!! Don't feel so bad OP it was just a mistake... Just don't do it again lol :p

Snowfedup Mon 22-Apr-13 13:38:40

My dh was chatting to an old friend at antenatal clinic so you would think safe ground - when I was finished I came out to find him quite red on the face and rushing to leave - it was November and he commented that it would be lovely for her to have a Christmas baby - she replied actually I am not due for another 6 months to which he replied is it twins then ? No

thebestpossibletaste Mon 22-Apr-13 13:40:06

Someone once asked me this and I'd just had a miscarriage a few weeks before, can't describe how sad I felt. People really should think before saying that to anyone. I would never, never say that, even if I was sure she was pregnant.

ChairOfTheBored Mon 22-Apr-13 13:40:20

My step dad is a wee bit younger than my mum. They were down to visit, and we went to church on Sunday morning.

The vicar was utterly horrified by the awkward silence which followed his welcome to my Mum and brother...

StuntGirl Mon 22-Apr-13 13:43:25

My neighbour asked if I was pregnant. I am not, just fat sad

This is why I never, ever ask someone else if they're pregnant!

Brunocat Mon 22-Apr-13 13:46:58

I was asked last week if I was pregnant, I do have a tummy but am otherwise fairly slim. Luckily it was a student that said it to me in class and I was able to make him wish he had never been born. I think I taught him a valuable life lesson and all the girls in the class said that he will never ask anyone the same question again!

roofio87 Mon 22-Apr-13 13:47:19

Alexreid a nurse once asked my dad, 'will your mother being coming in with you?' it was not his mother, but my mum and his wife. she was mortified. that way round is far worse!!

Lucyellensmum95 Mon 22-Apr-13 13:52:21

Oh i did similar to this, i asked one of the girls in my old department when her baby was due, even said, "you must be due anytime now" shock she had him THREE months ago she said!! THREE MONTHS FFS!! To be fair she was wearing a really tight fitting dress for some mad reason but she looked 9 months pregnant - i could have died on the spot!

HerrenaHarridan Mon 22-Apr-13 13:57:11

I know I shouldn't of said it, I have explained to people before why they shouldn't do it!

It just slipped past quality control and now I feel like the biggest arse in the world, to be honest I thought she was very attractive so this may if had something to do with the primal urge to put my foot in it.

Now I don't feel like I can ever go back to the only nice cafe in our little village with the pretty waitress.

Is there ever any way back from here, is it possible to make amends?

I'm such an idiot! blush

HerrenaHarridan Mon 22-Apr-13 13:58:27

Thank you so much for sharing your faux pas, I may be an idiot but at least I'm not alone smile

butterflyexperience Mon 22-Apr-13 14:09:04

Don't worry
I've made that mistake once too...
Never again though shock

DeskPlanner Mon 22-Apr-13 14:17:51

This is why I never say anything, even if someone looks like they are about to drop. I just wait until they mention being preg first.

toffeelolly Mon 22-Apr-13 14:45:55

This is the reason why i would never ask anybody this, do feel for you!

Madlizzy Mon 22-Apr-13 16:33:17

And today I was asked if I was. I said no, I'm just fat and asked her if she wanted a shovel.

floatyfloni Mon 22-Apr-13 16:53:10

Twice, on seperate occasions, people have thought I was his mum. He is 25 and I am 23.

First occasion though I was only 18! dp was rushed to A'n'E one night. After about 3 hours they moved him from emergency onto a different ward so I had to go, was 4am! I sat in the bustop until about 7am so could catch a bus home (25 miles or so), got home, packed him a bag and caught another bus straight back over for visiting hours. When I got there, a nurse said how lovely it was for his mum to come visit! I could've cut her head off...

floatyfloni Mon 22-Apr-13 16:53:48

Dp's mum just to clarify!

lustybusty Mon 22-Apr-13 17:02:56

I've always found "how's things?" Works quite well in many situations- weight loss/weight gain/preg/haircut. If they want to comment on it, it's an opener, if they don't, they won't...! grin

YouDontWinFriendsWithSalad Mon 22-Apr-13 17:04:51

My lovely friend was asked by her colleague if she was pregnant. My friend said no and was a bit upset.

About six months later the same colleague asked her the same question. She wasn't then, either!

OHforDUCKScake Mon 22-Apr-13 17:08:10

Ive had people I know-ish eye up my stomach and I know what they're thinking.

I do get a rounded sticky out 4 month looking stomach when Im due on or eaten loads of bread. I think it becomes even more obvious if you're not overwheight.

My son asked if there was a baby in there again recently. Little bugger.
I cant deny it though, for a few days each month I look pregnant.

Wannabestepfordwife Mon 22-Apr-13 17:14:46

avondale that reminds me of dp daring me to buy a pregnancy test at 37 weeks. The look on the woman's face it was priceless.

hazel that's awful you should have been allowed in 1st class for your kidney

McPheelingTheSpring Mon 22-Apr-13 17:16:39

Maybe she needed a poo

JamieandtheMagicTorch Mon 22-Apr-13 17:17:18

It's nearly as bad when you don't notice someone is 7 months pregnant.

HerrenaHarridan Mon 22-Apr-13 17:35:17

shock Fuck Jamie!

If we are also rude not to notice wtf are we supposed to do?

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