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Xbox Live = Homophobia Heaven.

Gay bashing on anyone and everyone since 2004

Oct 07, 2009 7:31AM PST

Tags: Xbox 360

Warning: I needed to vent about people on Xbox Live who disrespect people jsut because they can. I also wanted to see if there is anyone else who agrees with my point of view or not.

I'm writing this little piece because I'm extremely disappointed by the gaming community on Live as of recently. My disappointment sprouts from yet again another game of Gears of War online. Once again I'm playing some Gears 2 with my wife. This time we are playing a casual game of Gaurdian since we wanted some sort of mix up from the normal Wingman we play. After completing the game our team comes out on top. Me and my wife though are the two lowest scoring players on our team. I have two kills and she has three.

One of the guys from the other team decides to send me a message saying that I'm garbage at playing Gears Of War since I got two kills, 10 downs, and died 7 times. First of all people like that, who disrespect other gamers immediately piss me off.

I'm here to play and have fun. Sure I get competetive and like to win, but I like to enjoy what I'm playing more. Also I have been playing Gears online since the first one, I played through the story on both games too. So what I hate is that because the online server setup for Gears gives the host an unfair advantage over other players. Sometimes I end up with 2 kills because my connection just isn't that great. I don't think a game should be set up so that one person has a smoother connection than others. To me that is a flawed game, but I do love playing Gears with my wife since it is one of the few games to allow two accounts on XBL off the same console.

Since we have two people on Live on one system we never get host. When we do both my wife and I rock the house. Shotguns for the WIN! What I don't get is why someone has to let me know I'm shit at a game I have actually beaten on the second hardest difficulty, and I have also put enough time in to have almost every achievement. So here is where this exchange of words gets completely stupid.

Guy: 2 kills Ur TRASH F*****!

Me: ?

Guy: F***** TRASH!

Me: You're gamerscore = garbage lol

It should be mentioned here that I value how good a player is if he/she has put the time into playing the game and has gotten a decent gamerscore overall for the games he/she has played.

This guy has about ten games on his list and only has 60 points from Gears 2. I pretty much know where this conversation will go. Essentially this guy is a troll that likes to make fun of less skilled online gamers. Yet like I said I don't think the server system for Gears is legitimate enough to decide how good I am at this game. So the conversation continues like this and evovles into something very different. 

Guy: Ur gamerscore = no life lol

Me: My job, wife, and family would disagree with that statement. When I play I go through the game trying to get all the achievements I can.

Guy: lol between ur awesome life dont c how u have time to put hours upon hours into video games i guess it just makes it easier 4 ur wife to cheat on u get a life

Me: Actually she is usually sat next to me playing most of the games I do. Plus it really isn't hard to get the Gamerscore I have since I've been on XBL for 3 years.Oh and are you this disrespectful to everyone you meet on the streets, just wondering?

Here is where I get upset with his response. Through this whole thing I haven't really disrespected him. Other than making a jab at his Gamerscore. Yet he replies to me with this.

Guy: lol do i care all i know is that u need to get a life if u only go after acheivments 4 fun wich r meaningless grow up fag

Me: You know this whole time I've tried to be respectful, and have a conversation with another human being. Since you obviously have no respect for anyone I'm going to leave you alone. Oh and the next time you try to flame a married man, maybe stay away from calling him a fag. It makes you look weak minded and childish if that's the best you can come up with.

Guy: lol u to just make sure u stop lying over the web and chek up on ur imagenary wife im pretty sures shes cheating

Me: What?

Guy: its easy to lie over the web and even if u did have a wife that doesnt change the fact that ur immature and u have no life

Me: So me having a wife, job, and family makes me immature and have no life according to you? How does that work?

Guy: cuz ur gay

He sent this one on Monday. I have been offline for a few days and went to check who was online today and got that in my message box. This little message pissed me off mainly for the fact that it's completely disrespectful. I should mention here that all these messages are coming form a guy who's avatar is black. Yet never once did I go down the racist route. I have no reason to disrespact any other human being on Live. Yet he wants to tell me that I'm gay. I'm apparently a faggot because I like to play games for fun and I get self fullfilment from getting achievements. Also this makes me immature because I'm not a hardcore gangsta bad ass who goes around slagging people off online. WTF!

The thing that bothers me even more though is this. What if I were gay? What the hell does it matter. There are so many people in the online community that still like to say "Oh that's soooo gay," or "Wow nice one fag!" I don't get it. Those words are synonomous with stupid and dumb. Please get that through your head!

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Comments (11)

  • BlackEssence
  • I know how you feel...

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  BlackEssence

    I havent reached that point of being gay bashed, which is so wrong in so many ways. But, I have hit the racial bashing rank, which you can read about here. Most of these haters range from teens to people in their early 30's...yet the mentalities are still the same. Of a 5 year old. *Shakes my head*

  • Dcill
  • Don't get it.

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  Dcill

    Thanks for the comment BlackEssence. It's nice to see someone has read what I have written. I don't get why anyone is disrespectful online. I just like playing with new people and sharing a fun experience with someone new.

  • BlackEssence
  • Thats the same reason why I play on live....

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  BlackEssence

    I play for that very same reason, and there are people in my friends list who play for that reason as well. We just want to have fun. Its not abou rank or how many kills you can get in x amount of time. Its about having fun, screwing up, and then laughing hard about it. lol! Getting to know each other's personalities and just having a good ole time! lol!

  • Dcill
  • Games like Sports

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  Dcill

    I feel like a lot of the people that play in a hardcore manner are the same guys who did make the sports team. So instead of being a jerk on the basketball court or football field they do it online. Seriously a lot of those guys I think are way more nerdy than I am. Mainly because I understand IT'S A GAME. Also I believe that not having local multiplayer are all games takes away some of the comradery that old games on say like the N64 had. Just some other add on thoughts for why there are so many assholes out there.

  • BlackEssence
  • Exactly!

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  BlackEssence

    I stay away from sports games. My bro is a sports game player and he vows to NEVER play online with other people and hes 30yrs old! lol! He feels its taboo to play with people with games like that. I just couldnt do it...bleh!

  • TexityTex
  • To be honest...

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  TexityTex

    It seems your mistake was continuing to engage this person further. I have an extremely happy Xbox Live existence. The same can be said about World of Warcraft, and Star Wars Galaxies. The block/ignore feature is my friend. I have embraced it like Sidious to the Darkside. In fact in Star Wars Galaxies my ignore list *500 people max* was capped out at one point, and I had to partake in the tedious task of removing some names that I was sure didn't play anymore.

    The same can be said about Xbox Live. The minute someone starts acting like a tool, you throw 'em on ignore, and continue with your leisure time.

    Tolerance is great an' all, but there's no point in tolerating abrasive crap like that.


  • Dcill
  • Reply to Texity Tex.

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  Dcill

    Oh I totally understand where I went wrong. I guess it mores comes from the urge to try and understand why this person was acting the way they were is really what kept me going. Nothing got under my skin until today when the response I got was just plain childish. That's when I knew this wasn't going any where. I wroet what I did because this guys comment just sparked an idea I felt should be shared is all. In most cases I just hit the mute button, or completely ignore the person. I guess I'm just trying to bring more awareness to how people treat each other online, and why it shouldn't be accepted.

  • Dcill
  • Reply to jrostick

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  Dcill

    I loved your comment. Mainly because at first I was like "Why I outta... Oooooooh he's joking." I didn't mean to be offensive with the whole sports thing. I merely meant it as people who take sports too  seriously, now seem to do the same with games. Think of things like the MLG. I remember playing baseball up until the point where my coaches wanted us to win more than I wanted to just enjoy the game. So maybe that is how I should have approached my annology. In some ways gaming has gotten to this point, where apparently it is more about winning then having fun with friends.

    Anyways I do agree that if you just demolished a whole sleu of people. Credit is deserved, and I think bragging rights are fine. I just think it's funny how people on Live (depending on the game) can be such sore losers. I mean my wife and I have instances where she will two piece someone with a shotgun, and they quit the game. We mainly think this is due to the fact that after they die, they check her profile and quit because they were just beaten by a woman. Not saying this actually the case, but it does happen more often than not; for me to suspect that everytime it isn't just someones connection going bad. 

  • Trolls

    Posted: Oct 07, 2009 12:00AM PST by  DTJAAAAM

    Man, they suck. It's kind of why I don't play too many online games. If I do, I'll usually make sure to disable voice chat if there's such an option.

  • Dcill
  • See but this is the point I'm making.

    Posted: Oct 08, 2009 12:00AM PST by  Dcill

    People shouldn't feel they have to play with out voice communication when online. I feel that it should be a fun experience for all. Where everyone can enjoy the company of other people that like playing similar games. Isn't that what online multiplayer is supposed to be or meant to be? So why allow people to ruin the experience? I'm writing these to help people find others that aren't rude or jerks who also like playing for fun. 

  • SongBird2103
  • SMFH....

    Posted: Oct 08, 2009 12:00AM PST by  SongBird2103

    My XBL is cancelled, but, if and when I decide to get it back up and running, I would hope that I don't encounter such behavior.  The only game I play online is Dead or Alive 4.  The worst I get on there is, "You've just been OWNED!" or "You've gotta try better than that."  NEVER have I EVER received harsh commentary about my race or sexual preference.  Being both African-American and gay, I suppose I could easily take offense to either.  For some reason, it annoys me more when people talk s**t online instead of having the balls to say what they're feeling when they're not a thousand miles away from someone.  Still, it's better to brush hateful banter off your shoulder.  Ignore and/or block that person and leave them feeling like the jerk-offs that they are.  

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