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Why do people hurt the most the one they love?
Dating / 3:04 PM - Monday August 10, 2009

why do people hurt the most the one they love?

- Asked by zarry1, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Who Cares?

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The closer you are to someone, the more they can get to you. Because feelings are involved. If a stranger on the street yells "I hate you, you asshole" youprobably won't care that much. No feelings invested and you'll brush him off as an idiot. If your brother will tell you the same thing, you'd probably care a lot more. Feelings are wonderful, but they complicate things.


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Because they ARE the closest people to them. How can you hurt someone you don't love??????


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Because real feelings are involved they love you and if you "screw up" that causes pain. You can only hurt those who truly care about u with ur negative actions, everyone else really dont care.

- Response by unpredictable45, A Career Woman, Female, 46-55, Managerial

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emotional pain is a mental trait. It's only painful if you feel it's painful...

- Response by shadow21, A Hip Hop Guy, Male, 29-35, Self-Employed

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cause people are selfish. and they don't consider's anyone else's feelings when they do things.


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people hurt the ones they love because they take advantage of being loved and use it for whatever love is beautiful but sometimes love is blind

- Response by qenuiinemamiix0, A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 22-25, New York, Other Profession

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sadly it's because a person feels "safest" with the ones they love, and so they let their ugly demons out to be seen. with strangers we all wear social masks that we hide behind. all of us need healing in some form or another.

- Response by feralberyl, A Creative, Female, 56-65, Columbus, Other Profession

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I think it's because we consider them to have the same feelings that we have towards them to be returned. You can get into a disagreement with a friend, even a close friend, and if that disagreement is resolved, or not, it's easily closed. The one's we hold close, the one's who hold us close...that's different. They will listen to our rantings, and we will listen to theirs, but we rely on them more, as they do us. We know that our rants are not taken to heart.

- Response by tortureu2, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Other Profession

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Because those are the ones who won't press charges. Hurting strangers or people who don't love you may result in revenge or legal drama.

It is much safer hurting someone you love.

- Response by A Creative, Male, 18-21, Phoenix, Who Cares?

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I have never agreed with this statement. You don't hurt the one you love or you don't love them. People who love someone who doesn't love them usually are the ones who get hurt. rosey


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The people you most love is the people you sometimes hurt the most. This is, I think, because you feel that the people closest to you should and must tolerate you. And certainly the people closest to you and that love you will forgive you. We are not dumb, when we want to give a good impression or make friends we are sweeter and tolerant because they will not bear with us. It should not be this way but sometimes it is.

- Response by rosybarreto, A Married Girl, Female, 56-65, Teaching

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