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OT: VENT - so irritated right now.

Last edited 11/20/2010

My Biological sister thinks I am judgemental because I judged these three things: 

 ~Smoking with a baby or around a baby

~Not going to see Harry Potter Because being Catholic. 

~And Tattooing your husbands last name on your forearm in huge letters so everyone will see it.

Ok. I hate it when I see someone smoking with a baby . Second hand smoke kills too. I mean I had/have a friend that did it in front of mine I moved away in the pool but I did not say anything ( it is her choice to expose her baby and herself to that) But exposing mine was not kool at all in my opinion. But Smoking with a baby is never ok in my book. There is tons more I would like to say.

My Sister Not going to see Harry Potter because her boyfriend is Catholic. UM this guy is obviously not catholic because: He does tons of illegal things: drugs, MJ( which he claims it is ok because it is natural and tons of catholic people do it) is it not illegal? So it is not ok. He gets plastered and drugged out and beats my sister and tortured a little kitten until it jumped out of a high story window and died to get away from him. ANd went to jail ANd because He doesn't like Harry Potter he pulls the I am Catholic and that is witchcraft card. 

And getting a tattoo on your forearm in big letters so everyone sees it of your husbands last name is stupid in my opinion.  I said to my once foster sister ( we still keep in touch) What I thought of it. I said I think if you get divorced ,you will never know what the future brings you will regret doing it I would of got it where no one will see it personally. She may not or will get a divorced have no idea but I think getting that done was tacky and just horrible. Then again I do not want a tattoo or piercing. 


I tried to stay out of things as much as I possibly can but sometimes I like to say what is on my mind. But when I do my thoughts always come out mean ( I have no idea why either) I guess when I was trying to communicate what I thought of those three things to my sister I wanted to be heard not ignored and I came/ come of judgmental. 

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Im sorry but I am Catholic and I read all the Harry Potter books and watch the movies. Its fantasy. Not Witchcraft. So in my opinion he's an idiot. Now Marijuana I have to argue with because I know 3 priest on Medical Marijuana and they do not see any problem with it. I also know of 2 priests who support the legalization of Marijuana so back off on that one. You don't have much of an argument there. As for drug use and drinking, do you know many catholics?


I used to smoke. When I am outside smoking by my pool I am not standing next to him smoking but I don't go to the other side of the yard to smoke, that would be stupid. Do you realize how many pollutants are in the air from your BBQ? Lots more than second hand smoke trust me. ON TOP OF THAT YOU DIDN"T EVEN SAY ANYTHING TO THE WOMAN SO YOU ARE AS GUILTY AS SHE IS. NO ONE SHOULD EVER SMOKE AROUND THERE CHILD BUT IF YOU DON'T SPEAK UP YOU ARE JUST AS BAD AS THE SMOKER!

As for Tattoos I have 11. I have a giant 9 inch celtic love knot that is the same knot used on my wedding band. My husband has the same tattoo on his shoulder(mind you it is only 3 inches tall). All of my tattoos can be covered by my tank tops or sleeveless evening gowns that I wear to charity events. I have done this because I believe there is nothing worse than seeing a beautiful woman in an amazing dress and then all you see is that horrid tattoo sticking out and in my opinion it doesn't look good. Just like your opinion is that someone shouldn't tattoo their husbands last name for the world to see. We all have opinions its how we express them that makes or breaks us.

For the most part I would NOT say you are a judgmental. I think you have opinions like everyone else does. As for example, I HATE when woman take their babies out in the winter not properly bundled up. It drives me nuts and there have been times where I stop people to tell them to bundle up their kids. So just like some people may not be as bothered about that issue as I am, but its my opinion. So be true to yourself. If that is how you feel than that is how you feel. We live in America where we are allowed to have any opinion we want. So rock on girl and next time you see someone smoking next to their child, SAY SOMETHING, you may just save that childs life some day!

Say what is on your mind, even if it doesn't come out right. I say stupid things all the time. It happens, its part of being human. Your sister is in a bad situation with that boyfriend though. I will say you might want to talk to your parents and her at the same time about your concerns. When anyone is in a relationship where there is drug abuse and domestic violence you need to step in for the safety of your sister. 

Well thats my opinion. Sorry for rambling on but I know how you feel. Sometimes people just don't get me either!


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I have to disagree with most of what the pp wrote. 

I do agree that HP is fantasy, not witchcraft.  I am Catholic and don't have a problem with it.  I don't think that Catholics are necessarily pro- or anti- drugs any more or less than the general population (just wanted to clarify - I know that the pp was just giving examples of Catholics who are pro-marijuana but I didn't want to seem like all or even most Catholics are).

I ABSOLUTELY DISAGREE that a person who witnesses someone smoking around their own child and doesn't stop it is just as guilty as the person smoking!  Seriously???  That is absurd!! 

I also disagree that you should say whatever is on your mind.  I think that is a matter of personality/opinion.  I believe there are plenty of things you should keep to yourself.  I find lots of things my family does annoying but I don't tell them.  I think it would be hurtful and rude.  Unless it is something that could harm them or someone else, I usually try to keep my opinions to myself (or vent them to my husband).  Of course, in your case, your sister is harming her child by smoking in front of him/her.  I would say something for my own piece of mind but know that it probably wouldn't change anything.  Same about the abusive husband; however, the tattoo is what you complained about.  Although it's probably in bad taste, it's not harming anyone so I wouldn't have anything to her about it.

Family dynamics are difficult.  I hope you can find a way to get along or at least tolerate each other.  I have found that my relationship with my sister is way better when I mind my own business and just vent to DH.

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The tattoo and not seeing harry potter because of being catholic is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. Stay out of it.  Why even bring it up, it has nothing to concern with you.  As for the smoking in front of a baby, also, like you said, not your buisness.  It happened in front of you, around your child, that was the time to say something ... not some random time afterwards.


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oh, and you are being judgemental. You even said you 'judged on these three..." 


Super Fabulous Most Awesomest Single Mommy of Arianna

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I think you are looking for a fight with your sister.  It's her life and her body, so how does it affect you?

FYI, I agree that if you see someone smoking around your child and you do or say nothing that you are just as guilty as the smoking party.  It's your responsibility to protect your child, and if your head is so far up your own ass that you can't say to someone "Please don't smoke around my child." because it might embarrass you, then you need to grow the fuck up.



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who cares if you are being judgmental?  those are all stupid things, so judge away...

Last edited 11/22/2010

I think it is okay to have opinions. I would pick my battles though and stir clear of the religion and tattoo ones, just my opinion. As for the smoking definitely speak up if they are doing it around your LO.

I have lots for example:

My SIL turned her DD FF at 6 mos old. So I commented on facebook (not to her but in general for everyone to read) that I thought it was weird how people turn their kids FF before they are legally able to be. She was 6 mos and like 18lbs. Well, my SIL jumped right on my post saying she "would love to keep Natalie RF but she was just to big and had to be changed to the big girl carseat. So I very nicely said "oh well Jaden is 33" and 22lbs and he still fits quite well RF". She is one of these people who feel that her kids is advanced for her age cause she is big (18lbs and pretty long). Anyway I left it at that. To me you are an idiot if you turn your kid FF at 6 mos.

I hate when I see pregnant women smoke. Risking your unborn childs life is stupid. I used to smoke but I quite 7 yrs ago. I know how hard it is but to me the life that is growing inside of you should be motivation enough to stop at least for 9 mos. Some of my family still smokes but when they come to my house they go outside. Also I don't go to family parties at anyone's house that they allow smoking in. I hate the smell and I will NOT subject my child to that. Yes, I used to smoke but even though my cousin's husband smoked in the house around their kids I always went outside. I never go to her house and she knows why. She comes to mine to see us. Or we meet out somewhere.

I have never been into tatoos either and personally will never get one. I think people who have a few or at least can cover them up is okay but to have them out for the whole world to view is just tacky. I think getting a spouses name is dumb. Yeah I said it, even if no one else can see it. I have a cousin who married a guy with that last name Money. So she got a money sign tattooed on her arse. Now she is divorced and remarried and he DH hates that she has a Money sign on her arse.

On the smoking thing again. I hate when people go out and spend all there money on cigs and tattoos and then runs back to mom, dad or their grandparents cause they don't have money for gas for the car to can't pay there bills. But they sure a hell can afford $5 for a pack of cigs and $100 on the new tattoo they just got. (Sorry this is at my DD's biological mom).


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