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johnsrudets (Inactive) writes:

So one has to ask the question "Why do some teens become sexually active and subsequently pregnant while others don't?"

Biology plays into it of course, especially at that age, but the psychological element is much more powerful. Why do teen age boys believe that to be respected they must take advantage of a teenage girl who just wants to feel loved?

Fathers need to teach their sons what being a man is all about, not just being male. Mothers need to teach their daughters that they can be loved without submitting to the advances of the opposite sex and will more respected by their peers if they hold their moral ground. Teenagers have no idea what level of regret they will be facing if they become parents unexpectedly or pass deadly pathogens that have no cure. There is also the guilt, the emotional hurt, and the broken friendships caused by a few monemts of passion. And then there are the very difficult decisions.

Both parents need to teach their kids what a lifelong relationship is and that sex isn't just an act or a rite of passage. They both need to teach their kids what that gift really means.

It's the 'whys', not the 'hows' that kids have to understand.
