Hubby's run off with internet lover

To leave a good marriage and two small children for a woman he has only met a dozen times is foolish.

Talking over the internet can make people feel extremely close but the reality of a full-time relationship might be wildly disappointing.

If he is going through a mid-life crisis and is depressed he could be blaming his disappointment with himself on the marriage rather than recognising where his true frustrations really lie.

Ask him to explore this with his counsellor and not to make any irrevocable decisions while he is depressed.

As you had a good marriage and there are two children, ask him if he would also have joint counselling.

A counsellor would try and see if the marriage could be saved but, if that is not possible, they could help you both work out how to help the children through such a difficult situation.

It is so important that fathers have lots of contact with their children after a divorce otherwise the children can feel rejected, so he really does need to think seriously before moving abroad.