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FolxyWhite writes:

in response to hystericalsociety:

I agree that LGBT Persons should live whatever life-style they choose. Until LGBT persons start questioning me about what I do in my bedroom, it is none of my business what they do in their bedrooms. (Probably not much difference between their recreational activities and mine, anyway).

However, the LGBT persons employed by UT knew they were establishing their homes and relationships in a narrow-minded backwater when they moved here and set up housekeeping. They cannot say they are surprised and outraged now, because they had adequate forewarning. Or, at least, they had the opportunity to research this area and become forewarned.

I wonder why more LGBT couples don't simply circumvent the system, rather than banging their heads against the wall in attempting to buck the system? If Annie and Janie wish to live together as a couple, with legal rights pertaining thereunto, why don't they simply choose to adopt each other? If Annie earns the paycheck and Janie keeps the home fires burning and does the laundry and shopping, it would be relatively simple and quite legal for Annie to "adopt" Janie. Thus, Janie would be legally allowed to inherit Annie's assets, and have some legal say-so in Annie's health-care decisions, and vice versa. They could purchase property together, with rights of inheritance assured in such cases. They could nominate each other as beneficiaries on life insurance policies (which they can already legally do).

Admittedly, this does not address the "family/spousal" health insurance coverage issue, but then, not everyone in America has health insurance, whether they are gay, straight, or asexual. Health insurance coverage (or not) is not a "sexually oriented" problem, nor should it be. It is an economic problem, crossing all demographic lines.

However, I still advocate adoption to solve some of the immediate problems GLBT people encounter. If I were a member of a demographic which was considered "perverted" or "second-class", I'd sidestep the system any way I could, and be grateful for any degree of immediate relief I could obtain. And I'd be busy as all get-out, lobbying for changes in the laws which I might perceive as "unfair".

That's what Americans (of any sexual-religious-political orientation) have to do, in order to "set things straight". It takes time, and it frequently requires a great deal of cunning.

I look forward to the day when our sexual choices and activities do not dictate our positions in society.


I've never really thought about it, but I don't think your post makes much sense because I don't believe an adult can adopt another adult. I assume you are talking about 2 people over the age of 18, i.e. legal adults. I'm certain adoption is used to establish a legal parent/child relationship where none existed before. I've never heard of adoption being used to establish one adult as the parent of another adult, nor do I think it’s legally possible to do so. And, adoption establishes different legal rights and responsibilities on the parties than does marriage and/or domestic partnership agreements.

Bottom line: it's not so simple to "simply circumvent the system", as you suggest.
