It’s not always easy to truly support someone you love?

SnowTigerWhenever we feel someone we care about needs support whether it be emotionally, financially or in some other way, it’s always a balancing act.
During difficult times it can be tempting to try and fix someone else’s problems by doing too much for them or telling them what to do. Although this may be preferable to leaving someone to struggle on alone, it can prevent them from the learning and achieving the growth that often comes from going through difficult circumstances that will help them to cope and deal with similar situations that could happen in the future.
It’s only natural we may feel negative emotion when listening to the struggles of a loved one because naturally, we want to see them happy, but helping someone too much can come from our own desire to feel happy by seeing the person we love feeling better.
In reality, every situation is different with both people having their own personal perspective about what’s happening and we can only ever do what we feel is best at any given moment. When emotions are running high, sometimes all anyone really needs is someone to listen to how they are feeling without judgement rather than coming up with 100 ideas on how to fix the problem. I’m not saying that some well considered gentle advice may not be a good idea if we strongly feel it will help, but when someone is in turmoil they are often not in the place to be able to hear or put into action any advice and instead it may cause them to become more confused or even worse, feel like they are being judged in a negative way.
Men especially like to fix things and when faced with an emotionally unstable female counterpart often use all their brain power to come up with as many actions as they can to try and rectify the problem as quickly as possible. Although much of the time this is coming from a place of caring, things can quickly turn pear shaped if one isn’t careful.
I suppose the moral of the story is most of us can and do sort our own problems out one way or another and often all we require is someone to truly listen to us without judgment and with compassion and love.
When we truly listen without taking on our counterparts negative emotions and feeling bad ourselves by making a conscious effort to stay in a neutral or positive emotional place, this is the best support we can provide that doesn’t dictate what should be done but let’s the other feel, express and possibly let go of the negative emotions they are feeling. When we understand it is through the thoughts and emotions we feel that creates our future life experiences, we can know what a great service listening to another can provide without the need to give any advice.
You only need to observe people to know it’s difficult to find someone who can listen to others in this way as most people have so much going on in their own lives that much of their thought process is taken up with what they are currently doing and dealing with depriving them of the ability to be able to truly listen to another. If we have had the good fortune to have someone who has been in the place to truly listen to us when we’ve needed it, we can know the great difference it can make to us as we move forward. Sometimes it’s the smallest things that make the biggest differences in our lives.

No one else can really solve our problems for us no matter what advice we’ve been given. It is always each individuals responsibility to decide what is best for themselves. It was never supposed to be someone else’s job to tell others how they should live their lives and what they should be doing, that’s what each person came here to decide for themselves. By just being there for someone and listening gives them the opportunity to get how they are feeling out and make space for healing and clarity to come in…….

And so it does…..











And so it is….

You’re giving me such Sweet Nothing…..








But that’s their choice though, not ours!!

And so it is….



But that’s just me….

And so it is….

Through adversity, we find strength….Don’t we???

That depends on how you react when adversity happens.
And a lot of how we react depends on how much momentum we’ve got going behind the thoughts that have created such circumstances, and if we’ve been aware we’re creating our life experience through what we think and how we feel. (Our vibration)
Firstly, the idea that some supreme being is “out there somewhere” throwing curve balls at us for no other reason than, “I think this wonderful person I created seems to be having too good of a time, let’s challenge them, let’s see how much they can learn from this not nice experience!” I must say is a pretty strange idea.
If you do believe in a loving supreme being, doesn’t it sort of go against the grain to then believe they are sending you unwanted, challenging experiences for the fun of seeing how you cope??
Which is it, a loving supreme being or an angry punishing not nice supreme being? For it is one or the other for both cannot be in the one.

If unwanted circumstances are not sent by a vengeful, punishing supreme being,(and they aren’t) how do they come?
They come through focused thought that has been maintained over time that we sometimes are not aware of, for we have often become use to feeling negative emotion for so long, we’ve numbed ourselves to it because we haven’t known we have the ability to bring ourselves into a better feeling place on every and any subject that is important to us.

Instead we may have felt helpless to do anything about what we have been observing, so may be “fighting a cause,” to try to get others to change their behaviour in order for us to feel better. Anger is definitely a better place to be in, in relation to the emotional scale compared to helplessness, but long-term, anger still creates many unwanted circumstances in our life and also needs to be moved to a more positive, better feeling place.

We may have also resigned ourselves to the idea, “When I’m feeling bad about a circumstance I feel I can’t change, there’s nothing I can do about it, so I must just accept the fact I will always feel bad about this subject.” (Ohh, that’s hard for me to even say!!)
It’s okay if we’re there though, because we can move to a better feeling place if that’s what we are wanting to do, and the more we do it, the easier it gets, that’s for sure!
The only reason someone would try or make the effort to move to a better feeling place, is if, through the living of ones own life experiences, we’re coming to understand how what we’re thinking and feeling is being magnified and reflected back to us in the form of manifestations by the powerful Law of Attraction.

If we are not seeing the link between what we’re thinking and feeling and what’s manifesting in our own life experience, it’s unlikely we will do what is required to move our thoughts and emotions to a better feeling place, for it is not that easy if we have lived for some time on this earth without knowing or exercising our ability to do so.

So, adversity comes from our own focused thoughts that the Law of Attraction is responding to in-kind, with similar feeling manifestations turning up in our life experience. They are an indication of what we’re doing with our thoughts and emotions, what we’re creating. There’s no judgement by the Universe or the Law of Attraction or whatever else you believe in, it’s purely an indication of what you are creating, I like to think of it as the Universe asking me a question, “Is this what you are wanting to experience? If the answer is yes, keep going with this line of thought, if the answer is no, maybe it’s a good idea to move your thought to something that feels better?”

So I would definitely agree that through overcoming adversity, we can find immense strength, but why is this?
If we have managed to bring ourselves from a not good feeling vibrational place,(problem orientated) to a good feeling vibrational place, (solution orientated) and have maintained that focus until improved physical manifestations turn up, how do we feel?

We start to feel the POWER that we truly have, the power of who we really are, the power to take control of our own life experiences, not by trying to control others or gain power over others but by making an effort to improve the way we feel, for this is what is attracting everything into our life experience, whether we are knowing it or not…

And so our journey together continues….


2. Mutual understanding between two or more people.
5. Compassion or commiseration.
6. A feeling of loyalty, support, or allegiance.





But what’s really happening during these interactions?





This is the true process of uplifting and positively influencing another.


And so our journey together continues….