Body Language Part 1: Just The Facts




How to Build Confidence In Three Simple Steps





Eye Contact Part 2: The Secret Language of Attraction

We’ve all seen it before. Two people meet eyes across a crowded room. All the distractions of the environment seem to fade out. The focus on each other is intense. A Carpenters song starts playing in the background. This is Hollywood’s cliché way of reproducing a moment that happens a million times a day all across the world. Yet when it actually does happen to us it feels magical and exclusive, a moment destined to be. What many of us don’t realize is that this moment is happening all the time, only we fail to recognize it.

Eye contact is traditionally how people first reveal their attraction towards each other. Sure there are plenty of interesting and clever, if not cheesy ways to meet that stranger we are attracted to, yet a dance of intimate glances followed by a basic introduction is still how most people connect. It works just as well today as it always has, and why shouldn’t it? The attraction mechanisms in our brains predate internet dating, singles mixers, happy hour, nightclubs, pickup lines, dowries, or even language by a long shot. Sometimes simple, tried and true traditions work best.   Read the rest of this entry »

What Your Eye Contact Says About You

As the famous proverb goes, the eyes are the window to the soul. We feel the truth in this statement whenever we look into the eyes of another and emotionally connect to their passions, intentions, loves and fears. There is a sense of exposure when we gaze into the eyes of another, as if we are standing naked in front of them, confronted with our vulnerability. Like the picture that says a thousand words, our eyes are able to express our entire emotional palate and reveal our true inner state.

In a world full of disconnected and non-confrontational means of communication, the ability to hold strong eye contact with another person is one of the most important and yet overlooked social skills. This is tragic as it is the most powerful of all our nonverbal communication elements (which make up more than half of the messages we are sending) and how most people reveal their attraction towards one another. Here we’ll explore a three-part discussion on eye contact, specifically how it is used in our everyday interpersonal interactions, in creating attraction, and in developing greater intimacy with your partner.   Read the rest of this entry »