Why does the opinion of the One become more important than the 100?

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So we have all done it have we not? had so many people customers, work associates, friends or family, say we are good at something. It is such a good feeling to believe you have found your purpose, something that resonates with you, something you adapt to quickly and easily and being of service in your area of expertise can bring such self-esteem.

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Then……we get that one!  Yes I am sure you know that one! that one complaint, that one harsh comment, that one who feels the need to advise on a better way or solution, that one who says, “don’t get me wrong but”.

Now don’t get me wrong! hahaha see what I did there? I am not saying that feedback is not good, I am not saying that everyone’s opinion does not count, I am not saying you should not take on the feedback and see how you can better yourself, product, service etc…However I am saying

Why do we let that one opinion bother us sooooo much?  why do we allow this opinion of one to override all the opinions of the 100?

What do we do? we over think, we feel like giving up, we shut down, we feel we are not good enough, that we have been “found out” all because of that one!

Now lets think about that one?  Are they an authority on you and what you do? have they been by your side and seen everything you have done, do they know your job skill profession knowledge inside out, to have a valid opinion on you? I suspect not.

Lets take this further, how much do you know about this one? Are they feeling well, have they just come from an argument with their spouse? has their car just broken down? are they worried in some way, is their personality one of joy and light 24/7. Is it possible that their opinion is tainted from other areas of their life? Is it possible that they are not an expert of you? is it possible that they are not an expert in your field?

Now for the 100, well do I really need to say more? I think you get the point. So instead I will finish with a story, enjoy and remember you are unique, love Wendy 🙂

Once, a youth went to see a wise man, and said to him:


’I have come seeking advice, for I am tormented by feelings of worthlessness and no longer wish to live. Everyone tells me that I am a failure and a fool. I beg you, Master, help me!’


The wise man glanced at the youth, and answered hurriedly: ’Forgive me, but I am very busy right now and cannot help you. There is one urgent matter in particular which I need to attend to…’ — and here he stopped, for a moment, thinking, then added: ’But if you agree to help me, I will happily return the favour.’


’Of…of course, Master!’ muttered the youth, noting bitterly that yet again his concerns had been dismissed as unimportant. ’Good’, said the wise man, and took off a small ring with a beautiful gem from his finger.


’Take my horse and go to the market square! I urgently need to sell this ring in order to pay off a debt. Try to get a decent price for it, and do not settle for anything less than one gold coin! Go right now, and come back as quick as you can!’


The youth took the ring and galloped off. When he arrived at the market square, he showed it to the various traders, who at first examined it with close interest. But no sooner had they heard that it would sell only in exchange for gold than they completely lost interest. Some of the traders laughed openly at the boy, others simply turned away. Only one aged merchant was decent enough to explain to him that a gold coin was too high a price to pay for such a ring, and that he was more likely to be offered only copper, or at best, possibly silver.

When he heard these words, the youth became very upset, for he remembered the old man’s instruction not to accept anything less than gold. Having already gone through the whole market looking for a buyer among hundreds of people, he saddled the horse and set off. Feeling thoroughly depressed by his failure, he returned to see the wise man.


’Master, I was unable to carry out your request’, he said. ’At best I would have been able to get a couple of silver coins, but you told me not to agree to anything less than gold! But they told me that this ring isn’t worth that much.’


’That’s a very important point, my boy!’ the wise man responded. Before trying to sell a ring, it wouldn’t be a good idea to establish how valuable it really is! And who can do that better than a jeweller? Ride over to him and find out what his price is. Only don’t sell it to him, regardless of what he offers you! Instead, come back to me straightaway.’


The young man once more leapt up on to the horse and set off to see the jeweller. The latter examined the ring through a magnifying glass for a long time, then weighed it on a set of tiny scales. Finally, he turned to the youth and said:

’Tell your master that right now I can’t give him more than 58 gold coins for it. But if he gives me some time, I will buy the ring for 70.’  ’70 gold coins?!’ exclaimed the youth. He laughed, thanked the jeweller and rushed back at full speed to the wise man.


When the latter heard the story from the now animated youth, he told him: ’Remember, my boy, that you are like this ring. Precious, and unique! And only a real expert can appreciate your true value. So why are you wasting your time wandering through the market and heeding the opinion of any old fool?’


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