I enjoy my wife’s lactating, but she wants to wean our kid.

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newuser1239 347 2019-05-09 02:02:09

My wife and I had a kid around a year and a half ago, My wife Breastfed and honestly I love it. I nurse from her every time we have sex, and truthfully almost every night before falling asleep. It is sexual for me, but it’s also just really comforting.

Our kid hasn’t been nursing as much (I have no sexual feelings about her nursing our kid, I just also like drinking from her in private) our kid is down to one feed a day and my wife wants to wean.

I nurse from my wife almost nightly, even when we don’t have sex, if i keep doing that will she keep lactating indefinitely?

I’m not sure what it is about it. both nursing during sex, and just before bed came about organically, one night during sex we were on the couch and one just started spraying, so I put my mouth over it and came harder than I have in a long time. Another night she was in bed when I got home, and she sleeps naked, I was really upset about something and she was just kind on holding me with her head on my chest, and it was just there so I went for it.

I’m not ready to give it up, my wife is fine with me nursing from her, even after we wean our kid, she just said she won’t pump or anything to keep her supply up (our kid typically nurses once in the morning, and with me drinking from her at night that’s twice a day) I’m just worried she’s going to dry up.

Anyone else enjoy nursing from your wife? How long did it last after the kid was weaned?

haulabacha 933 2h31m

Sorry, it looks like you're gonna get weaned too!

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Pelufers 6 16h42m

This made me smile and lol

invicta92 707 2h36m

Regardless of what happens, let it go if she can’t continue it. I loved it too - but my wife didn’t and couldn’t keep it up. It’s a great fantasy to look back on, but her wellbeing and physical / mental health is 100x more important.

AlarmedLand 42 3h46m

well said

sssucka101 32 5h21m

Agreed, well said but 'x' and 'times' after 100 means the same thing.

cool_chrissie 5 5h42m

You the GOAT!

sssucka101 12 5h44m

I spoke up only to get rid of the eye twitch reading that gave me.

cool_chrissie 3 16h45m

I still think your comment was GREATEST. OF. ALL. TIME. Despite all my downvotes.

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TheBoogyMan_ 2 12h3m

a goat* ......jokes. It is a joke.

cool_chrissie 1 16h44m

Make sure its obvious or you get downvoted. Jeesh. I thought my comment was clever.

invicta92 5 14h5m

Yeah you’re totally right - I was also pretty drunk last night! My bad.

newuser1239 -13 6h0m

I will let it go if I have to. She is okay with me doing it, and said in continue as long as I want or there is milk. Right now her breasts get stimulated twice a day,’I’m just wondering what the odds are of being able to continue if they are only being stimulated, once, by me at night.

vivalavulva 166 6h58m

She is okay with me doing it

You know, nowhere do you say that she actually wants this. Does she?

MAK3AWiiSH 44 9h51m

That’s the thing for me. Being okay with it and wanting/enjoying it are two very different things.

Darkangelmystic79 26 10h5m

This. As a mom I get totally OVER being touched. I nursed all three kids for 1-2 years. So I get it. She may just be doing this because it makes you happy. Let it happen.

Exhilario 75 7h34m

Your wife says she's ok with it, but her supply is not there for you. Have you actually asked her if she's okay with you doing this every night? Because there's a difference in doing it once every now and then or every night.

It sounds like you're not really willing to compromise even though it's your wife health at risk.

T0xicati0N 11 7h56m

Wait, there's a health risk? Somebody please tell me, I feel stupid now.

Naltoc -3 8h53m

Considering there are lots of people that literally do this for their kinks (ANR), I highly doubt there are ANY issues apart from the regular lactation worries- clogged ducts and chafed nipples etc.

Exhilario 43 9h2m

I'm not just talking about her physical well-being but also her mental state.

But chafed nipples do suck.

Naltoc 2 9h19m

Fair enough, two different things. At that point it just becomes a case of communication- some adults do this stuff for sexual pleasure entirely (ANR and HuCow fetishes for example). If she's fine with it and it's his kink, I say go for it. If it weirds her out or whatever, then it's a discussion to be had between two married people and sort it out however they see fit.

thirstynurse 22 9h6m

That and mastitis which can be quite serious.

Naltoc -6 9h18m

Again, something entirely expected as a possible outcome of lactation. It's just me being pedantic perhaps, but I feel it's worth noting that regular lactation and induced/prolonged are not different in risks :)

thirstynurse 23 9h26m

I mean you're not wrong. I just think OP may be being a little selfish wanting his wife to continue doing this at her expense for what seems like something only he is into (she "lets" him) but I could be wrong.

Naltoc 3 9h37m

Sounds like he discovered a fetisch. Hardly any mention of whether she likes it, doesn't care or ahtes it. If she hates it, she should stop for sure. If she likes it, continue. If she's ambivalent, it's just like so many other things in a relationship- you may do something for your partner that just because you don't really get off on it, if they do, you do it for them and they do the same for you.

I mean, if she continues having to use those milk-soaking pads and has cosntantly tender breasts, I'm fairly sure I'd be the first one to call it quits, but if it doesn't really affect her much and he likes it, it seems like one of those "give and take" things we all do for our relationships.

newuser1239 -2 9h52m

She doesn’t hate it, I wouldn’t do it if she did, we’ve been doing it a while and she says she like laying in bed cuddling and I do it, I dont hound her or anything. Her breasts aren’t tender.

slainascully 1 1d9h9m

And the physical toll that breastfeeding takes on women.

newuser1239 -21 9h49m

How is her health at risk? She’s well established, her nipples arent chaffed. She’s really okay with it.

WalkAMileInMyUGGS 41 11h3m

You sound like you’re more trying to convince yourself. You realize she’s warning you, not asking you. Just stop doing it, she’ll really appreciate that you respected her body (more than you actually seem to).

justgetinthebin 7 14h46m

based on some of the responses here, i think you should have a discussion about this with your wife to find out how she REALLY feels about this. put your feelings aside and listen to her. she might just be doing it to make you happy but she doesn’t actually like it. if that’s the case, enjoy the time you had but let it go. otherwise you’re just being selfish.

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Keep the kink shaming out of this sub if you want to stay part of it.

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sheilastretch 110 44m

Breast gave me really sore nipples. If she wants to stop, that's her business.

That said, I'm still lactating after over a decade later at this point. It's not an entire breast-full any more, but it's enough to have a little fun with. I can go quite a while in between playing with them without drying out, so if you suckle whenever you have sex that should probably be often enough to help keep her going.

Best of all, it won't be so much that she needs bra pads or has to deal with constantly chapped nipples like we do when the babies are still feeding.

cowsarehotterthanyou 69 8h11m

Hey I noticed you said you’re still lactating over a decade later. After you’re done breastfeeding, you should definitely have stopped lactating at some point. I showed this to my brother who is a doctor since I thought it was strange and he said you should consider getting your prolactin levels checked as an increase in prolactin can be culprit.

If there’s no harmful cause, that’s good! But sometimes it can be a symptom of something bigger.

Good luck with everything :)

Naltoc 20 8h55m

Prolactin is literally the hormone that causes lactation, if she's lactating it's guaranteed to be there. It's generated by nipple stimulation as well as late-stage pregnancy. If she keeps the flow stimulated like she says, and has a body that actively produces above-average levels of prolactin OR reacts to proactin more than on average then it's perfectly normal.

cowsarehotterthanyou 26 8h59m

Yes this is true, however the part where she said she can go quite a while without drying up is not necessarily normal. I added at the bottom of my comment that it could be nothing and that’s great, however it could be a bigger issue that is leading to increased prolactin even in the absence of stimulation.

Better safe than sorry, especially when some of the causes for increased prolactin can be concerning. Again, if nothing, wonderful! But the general population can’t go quite a while without drying up and so it should be looked at.

Naltoc 7 9h21m

Fair enough :)

I just speak from my own experience with quite a few friends with kids etc (and a rather... open group, when it comes to talking) and I know one whos toddler still breastfeeds every few days and that's enough to keep her flow going, another who literally pumps every evening because she likes the bigger cupsize ^_^ of course, there are others that couldn't even produce properly with prolactin supplements after childbirth, so the pendulum swings both ways.

yumi17 5 12h23m

I'm glad I could witness such a positive discussion between you two.

sheilastretch 7 14h8m

I always assumed it was because I milk myself now and then to see how much I can get out. It's certainly only a tiny amount, but I'll bring it up again next time I talk with my gyno.

A few years after I would have thought I'd stop naturally we actually got a bunch of tests done to make sure it wasn't anything serious including a breast cancer screening, but that was probably over five years ago at this point.

meltallica82 99 1h9m

If she doesn't want to do anything to keep her supply up then I guess you just continue on the way you are and if the time comes when her milk dries up then you try to move on from it. It may still be comforting and arousing without the milk.

newuser1239 11 9h53m

I’m sure it will be, I loved sucking on her breasts before laceration as well.

Galaxyan 94 10h15m

laceration? find that girl a doctor

Your_Bank 14 12h58m

Uhm, slight spelling error there buddy.

melellebelle 59 3h48m

Well, let her be done if she wants to be done. Breastfeeding is fantastic, but it's emotionally taxing. Don't make it be about your sex life. That being said, she probably won't dry up if you're still "nursing" but there will probably be less than before.

newuser1239 2 15h35m

That’s okay with me, and her. She said I can keep doing it, and it’s really okay, but did say the milk slight down.

hafsies 56 8h26m

I think it's only fair you do the lactating now.

jhavens7621 7 11h37m

I know, men, right?

ShortEngineer 54 12m

Some women keep lactating for years after weaning. And it's common for women who do extended breastfeeding to feed their kids once a day or every few days and still have some milk. You'll likely get more protein rich milk (than fatty milk). But if you don't care about that, she should be able to wean the kid just fine.

OddOliver 47 5h28m


No judgement, just 😳

EngelsMeisje 27 6h25m

I stopped breastfeeding a year ago and I'm still making milk, so quite possible you could continue

frankfrichards 23 25m

You're not alone man! I also love nursing/breastfeeding from my wife. For me it is sexual and also very comforting and relaxing as well. As long as she is okay with it, I think such a tender and intimate act can only help the bond in your relationship grow stronger. Enjoy!

newuser1239 2 16h24m

Glad to hear I’m not freak most of the commenters are saying I am. Can I ask how long you and your wife have been doing it? Is she still nursing a baby too?

frankfrichards 3 23h7m

Slightly over a year. She's not nursing our baby anymore so it's only me :)

newuser1239 3 23h20m

That’s awesome. Can I ask you how often you do it? She still produces? She didn’t feed our kid today, but today was the first day, she still nursed me, during sex and just cuddling before sleep.

PantyPixie 18 9h53m

Can I ask... Why do you enjoy this? And Does she get aroused by it too?

I can't wrap my head around this kink.

newuser1239 16 9h58m

I’m not sure why I like it during sex I always liked her breasts, I had left them alone after she had our kid, but one night she was riding me on the couch, and our kid was still young so she had a lot more milk and it started spraying, so I caught it... and I loved it. The comfort nursing? One night I was really upset about something and we were lying in bed with my head on her chest and it just kind of happened.

PantyPixie 6 12h28m

Thanks for answering my questions. :)

I have others if you're interested in answering more, no bother if you don't want to :

Does she get off on this kink too?

Does it taste like dairy milk? (warm milk would make me gag) I assume the stuff your wife is putting out is 98.6degrees. That's like..a really hot beverage. (hot meaning temperature) do you like the taste?

Do you get kind of jealous when she's breast feeding the baby?

Did you ever think you had this kink prior to this pregnancy? Like have you ever been turned on by your own mom? (I don't mean to sound like such an idiot asking this)

Do you consider this a man baby fetish? Like are you into her baby talking to you, wearing diapers, calling her mommy etc?

I bet many men try this out just for fun and curiosity with their pregnant gfs/wives. I just never knew of anyone who had openly said so. Do you know of any of your male friends that also enjoy this?

Ok I'm done now. 😂

newuser1239 15 15h31m
  1. I don’t think she gets off on it, when the baby was younger and she had more milk she like it during sex because during sex they sometimes got fuller and I took the pressure off, now her breasts are less full, she doesn’t get off on it, but she likes how much I get off on it.

  2. Not like cows milk, it’s sweet, it does come out warm, I agree dairy milk would make me gag too.

  3. I do not get jealous when she nurses the baby. I don’t want to constantly be at her breast, I just find it sexy during sex, and relaxing when we’re ready for bed at night.

  4. Never had this kink before, it literally just started the day she was riding me and started spraying. Never been attracted to my own mom.

  5. No baby kink, I think I’d be turned off with baby talk, zero interest in diapers.

  6. A couple of my friends with kids have admitted to trying their wives milk, but not to the same enjoyment as me that I know of.

PantyPixie 9 15h40m

You're so awesome for not balking at all my dumb questions! Thank you for writing back. Enjoy your treat while it lasts! Best to both of you. (3 of you)


monkeyballs2 15 4h33m

I think breastmilk is so sexy, i hope my man wants to drink it every night once my baby comes.

curiousgirlforlife 9 5h56m

I wonder if this is related to the inner child in all of us. It's so interesting reading how all these men take deep comfort in nursing from their wives.

Htom_Sirvoux 5 14h59m

I have always been able to see myself getting into it. It could be the inner child, but for me, being aroused by pregnant women, engorged breasts, lactation and the like is more about it carrying this intense feminine womanly energy to me - the perception of fertility and womanhood just stirs something really primal inside. When my wife and I play with creampies and impregnation in our dirty talking etc I feel so masculine and protective of her, and find her utterly irresistible when she's begging me to give her a beautiful baby during sex (it's just been play for years til now but we're trying soon!)

So yeh, could also be because of that sort of thing :).

curiousgirlforlife 2 15h4m

Interesting! I can see how that would be hot. I have never tried that, maybe I will one of these days.

Htom_Sirvoux 1 15h14m

We love it! Just clear it with your guy first, don't want to scare him haha!

curiousgirlforlife 2 15h19m

I'm single anyway so this is all hypothetical right now lol.

hirollermik 8 7h47m

I had no idea this is an actual fantasy..I’ve never breastfed before but I heard it can be sore and uncomfortable?

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lynx_and_nutmeg 2 1d17h54m

I believe it shouldn't be painful when done correctly (except for the initial let down, maybe?), but most babies aren't doing it correctly at first, they need to learn and get the hang of it, and need to be guided. Ideally you should immediately take them off the boob if they're doing it wrong and repeatedly let them re-latch while guiding them until they latch correctly, but I imagine it's not so easy in practice. Many mothers probably don't have the heart to take the baby off the boob if they're doing it wrong, and many babies might not take kindly to it... And I imagine it can only take one time of bad latch feed until the nipple is damaged and then it takes time to heal, and keeps hurting no matter how you breastfeed and takes a long time to heal because it's constantly irritated by contact.

newuser1239 3 15h33m

When our baby was young she had some pain, I never tried it then. Once they got established she said it wasn’t painful or uncomfortable.

MissQuickening 8 17h23m

I don’t see anyone saying it, so here it is: r/adultbreastfeeding might have some tips or feedback for you as well.

poetic_vibrations 2 34d13h0m

Well that sub is fuckin weird...

MissQuickening 2 34d20h53m

Yeah... I mean... I scrolled through the whole comments section to see if someone had offered that resource before I did, but it seems that was my burden to bear. :) This is a nonjudgmental kink community, though, so I might prefer saying it has some very interesting content.

poetic_vibrations 2 34d20h59m

Oh yeah, its definitely a pertinent resource for OP and a reasonable kink. It just caught me off guard. I've never thought of breast milk in any kind of sexual way so seeing it for the first time was a little bizarre.

[deleted] 7 23h56m

I’m the wife in a situation similar. Our daughter is just over two, she and I couldn’t figure out breast feeding together. Sex was a struggle because I had a physically traumatic birth and took literally months to heal. Around 3 or so months pot parting I was ready to give up breast feeding, my husband asked if he could try some. Ofcourse I said yes. I remember laying in bed with him, just scratching his head while he nursed from me. It was really intimate and lovely. The next night I asked if he would do it again.

Our kid is over 2 years old, I haven’t nursed her since she was 4 months old, I still lactate ( not as much as when I was trying to feed her around the clock), and I still nurse my husband every night. We both really love it. I have no plans of asking him to stop. Since we started having sex again it has become sexual as well, we both love it.

If you and your wife are happy then keep it up.

nerdforeverrrrrr 1 1d6h16m

I hope you don't mind me asking, why did you want to give up breastfeeding?

[deleted] 3 1d7h35m

Like stop nursing my kid? It wasn’t working, her latch was terrible, we saw 4 different lactation consultants. She would get exhausted trying to nurse then fall asleep, then wake up screaming because she was hungry. I’d give her a bottle and she’d settle. I tried pumping, but hardly got anything from that.

I still breast feed my husband though.

nerdforeverrrrrr 1 1d12h39m

Oh, okay. Thanks for the reply!

[deleted] 6 10h12m

Breastfeeding is a supply and demand process. If milk is being drained it will continue to be made in her breasts. For example, even if your toddler was just drinking at night, there would be milk there. Her breasts won’t discriminate if it’s just you drinking from them.

queenofn0thing 1 20h27m

This ^

nicola93uk 6 12h8m

yikes not sure I'd be comfortable with this but whatever floats your boat.

Unfortunately for you, it's her body and her choice. I'm actually pretty impressed you have an active sex life after having a baby, well done to both of you. My friends always tell me how tired they are all the time!!

Enjoy it whilst it lasts and maybe you'll get another chance one day.

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katyyo 25 4h59m

If you’re gonna be this closed minded, maybe you aren’t mature enough to be in this sub?

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katyyo 5 10h42m

Lol, just let the people enjoy their non-vanilla sex

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DreadfulLove 1 12h5m

Very fair. Everything is weird relative to something else. It’s a subjective thing.

Kovitlac 1 12h53m

No one is stopping them.

alittlebirdy1 5 12h50m

Limits to what? Who is being hurt here?


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katyyo -1 5h23m

Yes thanks ha

amediocreidea -4 12h19m

It seems the easiest way to farm karma on this sub is to accuse someone of being closed minded.

This fetish is objectively weird, as are most fetishes.

This relates to a mother-son relationship as the core purpose of breastfeeding is nurturing a child.

And it is a slight turn on of mine for some of those obscure reasons.

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_mermaid_from_venus_ 5 7h0m

It’s supply and demand. I bet if you keep snacking on them your wife’s boobs will continue to lactate a small amount for a long time. I breast fed my kids until age 3-4 but the last year or so was basically a bedtime snack, my milk supply was adequate for the purpose and I could extract tiny amounts for a year after they quit completely.

whatsupmynameisSofia 4 16h23m

(20 F) I don’t know why but for the past year or so I’ve dreamt about this. I don’t want to be pregnant right now but if I ever do get pregnant I hope my s.o will find pleasure or comfort in this. There’s something so connecting and pure about it for me. ❤️ But yes, have a discussion with her about it putting your feelings aside for a bit. Then come back to us and give us the update (:

TripletMAHma 3 17h35m

Honestly its probably partially a hormonal thing for you. Could link back to childhood and the comforting feeling. Might release serotonin. Theres a few different reasons. bF releases hormones for the woman/child too so it wouldnt surprise me for a man to experience it. (Im not a dr, just breasfed)

Taste may change and milk may not be 100% like it is now. But you'll still have milk for a bit. Even if there is no milk you can still suck on her boobs :)

1971roxy 3 19h45m

Mothers naturally ween babies for many reasons. Sharing the night feeds with husbands so they can get more rest, so they can drink or smoke or just feel ready to stop. If she said that she is fine with you nursing than go for it. It will not hurt you if she has a drink and you nurse. If you do it on a regular basis she should keep producing milk. If she starts to slow down on milk production and you both want to keep going? You may have to start nursing a bit more like morning and night.

steviskinard 3 21h16m

My wife and I would do a lot of this, as well. She really got into me drinking from her, or squirting her milk on me during foreplay, and she loved it when I nursed from her, and I enjoyed it a ton as well. Even from a practical standpoint, when she was engorged or just uncomfortable she would have me help out and drink some.

If she doesn't mind continuing to lactate, then yeah, breastfeeding once a day will keep her supply more or less there, but not as much as it was when she was nursing more often. Many women, even when they have weaned their kid, end up producing a small amount of milk years after. My wife can still, when she wants, squirt some milk out. It's super salty and nowhere near enough to actually drink, but she still gets a kick out of doing it every now and then.

I did have a lot of fun with it, and I do miss it, especially because we're done having kids and I know it will (probably) never happen again. But I enjoyed it while it was an option and made peace with it being over. Lactation can cause a lot of complications for women, from engorgement, milk duct complications, and more, and I know that my wife, as much as she loved it, was very much ready to have it be done when it was time to wean our youngest. Just make sure your wife is cool with it if you really want to keep it going.

pandapets 2 13h16m

I (24F) have never been pregnant. My boobs just naturally lactate, and it use to drive my man (30M) crazy... After an entire year + of it, he still likes it, but the novelty has wore out.

Sofuckingintune 2 19h5m

This is awesome. I wish I could have done this when I was lactating. I just didn't know about ANR back then. Research it, share your research and thoughts with the wife. And enjoy the hell out of it for as long as you can.

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Oxytocin is released when breastfeeding and during orgasm, gutted I didn't try this when I had milk :(

betsybraddock 2 21h3m

So I'm not a mother, or the husband of one, but she'll either dry up as your kid weans or it'll turn out that you are enough to keep her going. Some women continue to lactate (small amounts, but still) for years after weaning with no stimulation at all, others dry up even while their kids are still trying to feed several times a day. There's no way to know if she'll be able to keep it up after the kid fully weans. She's going to have to wean him off completely eventually, and now is as good a time as any. If your kid is down to one feeding a day he's going to naturally stop pretty soon anyway, even if your wife does nothing to wean him on purpose. This isn't something you can or should do anything about. Keep doing what you're doing, let her wean if that's what she wants, her breasts will either keep producing or they won't.

newuser1239 2 21h8m

Oh I’m not asking her to keep feeding him to keep her supply up, they’re her breasts, she decides when he (and I) stop feeding from them.

nerdforeverrrrrr 2 1d6h0m

Ask her if she wants to try ANR/ABF.

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SB-1 1 20h56m

Fuck sake.

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MAK3AWiiSH 10 9h55m

Yeah honestly reading this made me feel sick. I’d have to re-evaluate my relationship and potentially part ways if my husband/partner wanted me to nurse them.

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issaishaaasingh -8 10h14m

The only other option is to get another baby into the equation

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Rosegin 9 10h3m

The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding for two years at least.

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alittlebirdy1 2 12h51m

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QualityCucumber 3 9h59m

It's actually linked to a higher iq in children who breastfeed up to two years old. In Europe some women even breastfeed as snacks until 4-6 years old.

newuser1239 2 10h1m

Not all the time, usually just once in the morning, but my wife wants to wean him.

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mute_nostril_agony -39 2h6m

I wish I had your "problem."