Why is it that We Love the Chase and Bore of the Prize?

They say it’s human nature. I say it’s just part of the game…hence the chase. Then when you win the game is over…much like love or the pursuit of love these days. But it doesn’t have to end. We are constantly playing games in love, work, leisure, etc. What is the prize in the end of capturing love? So if love is supposed to be the prize then what keeps love from dying if it was so sought after in the beginning?

This conquest of love seems to change as the years goes by. It’s like the prize can be created by yourself as you progress and as you experience; if you choose so. Often people wonder why they keep attracting the same person over and over but if it’s not what you want then change your prize…Calgarians, pick your prize just like as if it were Stampede. So when you get to the finish line we often reconsider…is this really what I want or is this really what I thought I wanted? And when the chase is over, the excitement is gone maybe because the actual medal was a distortion of the authenticity of the gold that it was and ended up being gold plated. Yikes! But you won’t know unless you get to that point or shall I say unless you ‘jouyz le jeu’.

If there wasn’t a game then there wouldn’t be any players. Just in the last few years I have come to terms with the word “player”. A player isn’t someone who has many interests on the go and is sleeping with all of them and being dishonest…that’s just a jerk, but a true player is someone who is testing the waters, being true to themselves and their interests and going through the numbers until they find someone that they want to devote their time to and be exclusive to without selling themselves short or settling. Even at that point you are still in the game. In the whole grand scheme of things it is the game of life and love is a small but crucial part of that game.

It isn’t all about winning…it’s about having fun while chasing. Finding out that the person you are chasing isn’t the one is not a complete loss, or loss at all, but an experience to take on the next and not to have it confused with being jaded (that’s another article). But finding someone that keeps you interested in after you win is the pot of gold, or platinum if you wish. The victory I am going say is continuous interest and attractment. But just like any other play it’s the love of the game. You win some you lose some but it’s all about the experience and fun that you had while doing it. I can’t wait to get into a game but this time before I chase I will select the prize that I want. Have fun and keep chasing until you find you reach your victory. But for now I’m glad I can run in heels.



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4 thoughts on “Why is it that We Love the Chase and Bore of the Prize?

  1. Russell Small says:

    Great posts Rina,

    You have a great and natural writing style, how long have you been blogging?

    Especially enjoyed your post on “Why is it that We Love the Chase and Bore of the Prize?” and your definition of a player.

    Question: What in your opinion creates the ideal environment for a relationship to have continuous interest and attractment, or is that something that natural chemistry is supposed to provide?

    • Miss Rina says:

      Thanks Russ and I do apologize for not replying sooner…
      To answer your first question I haven’t been blogging for very long nor very consistently as you may have noticed. Lack of time would be my excuse as I’m always doing 5 things at once or trying something new. Writing is one of my favourite past times that I wish I definitely had more time for and will now make time for as I need to get into the habit so I can finish my book that I’m writing!!! Yes, there is never a dull moment in my life!

      I really enjoyed writing “Why is it that We Love the Chase and Bore of the Prize?” I remember exactly what I was going through during that time and remember that was pretty much the number one reason why I was reluctant to get into a relationship because usually the first 3 months is always good and then when the chase was over then came the boring/comfortable phase. And I don’t do boring. Now to answer your second question, what creates the ideal environment for a relationship to have continuous interest and attraction? Just keep doing what you’re doing! You know that song ‘You’ve Lost that Loving Feeling’? I think the reason why people lose that feeling is because they aren’t doing what they used to do when they first met. They start to get lazy on the courtship. Now I’m a huge fan of courting but only if it continues…forever. I can’t believe the guys that court just because of the chase and when win the lady they then stop what they’re doing (women do this as well). Courtship should be forever. If you don’t open doors normally then don’t open doors all time at the beginning. Or if you only open doors sometimes then only open doors sometimes! I even got to the point where I would only date people for 3 months and dump them no matter how great it was going because you know that in between 3 ro 6 months it starts going downhill so when you would dump someone after 3 months you would always leave on great terms and would always have the best memories of them. But that didn’t go over so well.

      So when it starts to get boring I think people should go back in time and do what they used to do for each other to make each other feel loved and wanted and make time to do the date things too! I don’t agree with date nights…every night should be a date night. It doesn’t have to be over the top but date night is like Valentine’s which is a four thumbs down for me because every day should be Valentine’s in a couple’s world. Anyways, I hope that makes sense or helps you understand more about me…it may not be for everyone but it works for me! Russ, thanks for taking the time to read this and keep your status updates rolling! I love them!
      w/♥ Rina

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