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Sometimes you want to have sex standing up, other times you want to lie back and let your partner work their magic. On other occasions, you want to try a kinky position, or one that lets your partner go really (really) deep. Then there are those times when you just want all the control. When those dominant feels strikes, there's just one course of action to take: get on top.


1. Face-Off


How to: Your partner sits on a chair or the edge of the bed; you face toward him, seated on his lap.

Why it's great: From this position, you're totally in control of the angle and depth. Plus, your hands are 100 percent free to do as they please–whether it's show your clit some love or get fun and handsy with your partner.

2. Cowgirl


How to: Your partner lies down, and you kneel on top. Push off your partner's chest and slide up and down the thighs.

Why it's great: This classic woman-on-top position puts you in total control. Try adding a little spice by playing around with the width of your knees, incorporating a couples vibrator like Eva, or holding your partner's hands above their head (or tying them up...).

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3. Cowgirl's Helper

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How to: Similar to the Cowgirl position, you kneel on top, pushing off your partner's chest and sliding up and down the thighs. But your partner helps by supporting some of your weight and grabbing your hips or thighs while they rise to meet each thrust.

Why it's great: This sex position puts less stress on your legs, making reaching that sweet, sweet orgasm way less strenuous. You can also try alternating between shallow and deep thrusting to target different parts of your vagina.

4. Reverse Cowgirl



Why it's great: This is a great variation on classic Cowgirl. Again, it lets you take control of the pace and angle of thrusts. Plus, if you have your partner bend their knees, it creates the perfect surface to rub your clit against during sex. Yes, please.

5. Champagne Room


How to: Your partner sits down on the edge of a bed or in a chair and you sit on top of him, facing away.

Why it's great: Again, this position helps you regulate just how fast and intense you're going to go. Plus, your hands are free to roam and stimulate your clit, your partner's inner thighs, or even their anus.

6. The Om

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How to: Your partner sits cross-legged, you sit in his lap facing him. Wrap your legs around him and hug each other for support.

Why it's great: If you want to slow things down and have intimate, sensual sex, opt for the Om. Try rocking, rather than thrusting in this position—not only will it stimulate your clit, but it will also gradually build up to an epic finale for both of you. Not to mention, you get some seriously sexy eye contact with this one.

7. Lazy Man

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How to: Place pillows behind your partner's back and have him sit on the bed with legs outstretched. Now straddle his waist, feet on the bed. Bend your knees to lower yourself onto your partner. Just by pressing on the balls of your feet and releasing, you can raise and lower yourself as slowly or as quickly as you please.

Why it's great: This position puts you in control, and maintains plenty of intimacy. Think of your partner's pelvis as a masturbatory tool, something to rub and stimulate your clitoris with and against.

8. Hovering Butterfly


How to: Straddle your partner by placing your knees at his ears. Hold onto a wall or headboard for support.

Why it's great: Not only is this an amazing way to experience oral sex, but it puts you in control of your partner's pressure and movement. Try having your partner hold his tongue firm while you move your hips as you please.

9. Waterfall


How to: Have your partner lie off the edge of bed while you hop on top.

Why it's great: From this position, your partner is totally at your beck and call. Plus, since the blood will rush to his head here, it will create a mind-blowing sensation as they reach orgasm.

10. Pole Position


How to: Have your partner lie on his back and bend one leg. Straddle the raised leg with a thigh on either side and lower yourself onto him, with your back facing him. Hold the knee and use it for support.

Why it's great: In this position, you can press your clit hard against the upper thigh, for amazing stimulation. You can also try looking backward and watch your partner enjoy this hot position.

11. The Spider

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How to: Sit on the bed with legs toward one another, arms back to support yourselves. Now move together and onto his penis. Your hips will be between his spread legs, your knees bent, and feet outside of his hips and flat on the bed. Now rock back and forth.

Why it's great: From this position, you get to watch all the sexy action. Plus, you can also try taking it a step further by placing your legs over your partner's shoulders, which will make it easier to thrust and move your hips in circles.

12. Cowgirl 69


How to: Have your partner lie down, flat on his back. Then climb on top, so you're facing away from your partner. Your vagina should be lined up with your partner's mouth, and his genitals with yours.

Why it's great: When you're on top in 69, you can control the intensity of your personal oral stimulation by lifting or pressing your pelvis.

13. Magic Mountain

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How to: Have your partner sit with legs bent, leaning back on his hands and forearms. You do the same and then inch toward him until you make contact.

Why it's great: This position helps you feel really connected. Plus, you have complete control over how much your partner's pelvis rubs against your clit.

14. Golden Arch

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How to: Your partner sits with his legs straight and you sit on top with bent knees, and then you both lean back.

Why it's great: You'll be the one in complete control over the depth, speed, and angle of the thrusts. From this position you can also easily lean back farther for some extra G-spot stimulation, and you (or your partner) have easy access to your clit.

15. The Chairman

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How to: Your partner sits on the edge of the bed and you sit on top, facing away. Unlike with the champagne room position, here, try leaning forward. You can even bring your knees closer to your chest, supporting your feet on the bed.

Why it's great: This sex position is great for that G-spot love. Plus, your hands are both free for some sexy stroking.

16. Woman Astride

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How to: This position is just like cowgirl, but with a slight twist. Climb on top and have your partner enter you. Then, lean back and place your hands on the bed for support, creating a 45-degree angle with your partner's legs.

Why it's great: The angle adjustment helps target your G-spot, while still giving you ample control over the speed and depth of thrusts. And, from this reclined position, it's an obvious invitation for your partner to stroke away at your clit.

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