Preserving Your Emotional Real Estate

When you or a friend finds yourself stuck on emotional and relationship repeats, Your mind recycles old stuff, seems as though you’ve lost your intuition to take care of yourself, you’ve become more reactive than in control, and you just can not trust anyone, then you may be in need of some take back your emotional real estate strategies!

Strategy #1

Lighten up on yourself; everyone goes through Emotional Overload from time to time. You are not the only one who falls into the black hole of emotional turmoil. If you give yourself a break and see it for what it is, just temporary, then it is likely to pass as fast as it showed up.

Strategy #2

Do not react to quickly. Remember emotions are masqueraders much of the time. They dress up as something they are not, they love to appear as one thing and be another. They (many times) cannot be trusted, nor relied upon. Sometimes they are like vapor; they appear for a moment and just as quickly disappear.

Strategy #3

Emotions are sustained and cultivated through our thoughts and words. The power of emotion is controlled by the way we think and speak of them; they exist within the frame of our perspective, which creates perception.

No person other than yourself has control over your emotions. Our perceptions of people and how they are supposed to treat us, determine our emotions. Therefore when we change our expectations of how people should treat us, then we begin to take back our emotional real estate. When we bring our view of people into line with reality, then we can begin to regain control of our emotions.

Strategy #4

Liberate people and predicaments from your version of life. One of the greatest reasons we lose our ability to be emotionally healthy is that we want everyone and everything to perform to our version of how things ought to be. Allowing people to be free from our vision of how things ought to be will result in taking ownership of our emotional real estate.

Strategy #5

Observe life through the lens of a learner rather than a lamenter. Viewing the events of your life through the proper lens is critical in taking back your emotions. Emotions are your servant, not the other way around. Begin today to ask yourself more “what am I supposed to learn” and less “why does this always happen to me” questions. When you ask the “why” question, begin to frame it like this; why is this happening and what am I supposed to learn or adjust in my life?”

This seemingly small adjustment of asking what and why questions will have majestic results on perception and perspective resulting in a life giving emotions rather than a life taking emotions.

Strategy #6

Validate the time people and predicaments get to park in your thought life garage. You are the owner of the parking garage of your thought life. Determine how long people and situations get to stay there. You decide who is in short-term parking, long-term parking, and who gets to park in the VIP section. After their time has run out; have tow them out!

No longer validate the parking pass of anyone or anything you do not want in your thought garage.

Those you allow in your thought garage will become what you think about. What you think about, you will begin to talk about. What you think about and talk about you will eventually experience emotion over, and act upon.

Strategy #7

Elevate through elimination. There are people, processes, and predicaments that we allow to become part of our everyday life that do nothing to bring elevation in our lives. Once we commit ourselves to personal elevation then these people, processes, and predicaments will be eliminated. Some will disappear quickly and some will vanish over time.

The purpose of the slow vanishing of your three “P’s” is to test your resolve for personal elevation. Your life is yours to decide how you want to live it. It takes commitment and stamina to stay on course to personal elevation.

As you begin to use these seven strategies they will do three things for you. One, is they will increase your soul’s strength and stamina through difficult situations. They will increase your souls defense system in recognizing who and what gets the privilege to be in your VIP section, and they will give you the courage to embrace the elimination of those people, processes, and predicaments that do not elevate you and your life.

When I can be a servant to you in deploying these strategies, just ask. You can reach me at, call or text me at 916.708.8103.

For further discussion on this subject plan to call my Tuesday Morning “Thought-Filled Coffee/Tea Chat” at 6:30am (California Time). The phone number is 805.399.1000 and your participation code is 593915. The call is just 35 minutes long and will be packed with insightful suggestions and all seven strategies in preserving your emotional real estate.