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How To Get Closer

Posted By Deborah Rosenbaum

Want to get closer to someone? The 36 questions below were used by Dr. Arthur Aron of Stony Brook University in New York (1997) to study the development of interpersonal closeness. Dr. Aron found that people who spent time answering these questions together reported increased feelings of closeness. So grab your partner, child or friend, and enjoy spending some time taking turns answering each one of these questions.




4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?











15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?


20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do loveand affection play in your life?


23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhoodwas happier than most other people’s?














 If you’d like help improving your communication contact Dr. Rosenbaum at [email protected] or call 617-487-5357. Check out Needham Psychotherapy Associates on Facebook.