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31-10-2007, 06:04 PM
My little angle is born without left palm and she age 3+, now she starting curious and asking about why she difference from others, sometimes when she is playing with others kids, they will asked her the same question "why your hand is like that?"
Well, usually other kids parent will shout & scolded them not to ask that stupid question. How will I do to educate or guide her when this situation happening?
Some parent advised me to seek help on Psychiatry but I'm thinking is it really that worst? Is there anyone out there have the same situation with me? your expirence and guidance really matter to me.
If not, anyone knows where could I seek any parenting couselling with disable child available in Malaysia-Melaka?
Any reference or help is really appreciated.

02-11-2007, 10:25 AM
Hey Charlie...

I really wouldn't know where to start, having no experience dealing with matters like this. But I would guess that you have to make your little girl know that she is still a very special girl, even though she is little different from others. She has to understand that being without a palm does not mean she is any less important or will it hamper her in doing what she wants in life. No doubt she will face some difficulties but you have to instill positive thinking in her.

Kids can be "cruel" at this age, without meaning to. They are just inquisitive and innocent. Maybe teach her to answer the other kids "I don't have my palm because I am special and my mommy and daddy love me because I am special"? Charlie, I am just grabbing at straws here... I really have no idea.

But one thing I am sure of is this: shower her with lots of love. You can't go wrong there.

16-11-2007, 04:17 PM

I was attending the playgroup at SS19 Gospel Hall church (It is at the inner part of SS19 where surrounded by houses). The Wed group got a few disabled kids and maybe you can contact the parents.

But, the playgroup already over for this yr. THey start in Jan 2008 again.

Keep it up and definately you need a support group to help you.

God Bless You, your child and family!

Ullas Sahadevan
16-11-2007, 07:35 PM
hey Charlie, Just adding to what Sherry has said, it is very important to make her realize that she is a special kid or a little different from others. It's actually a good idea to make her learn a quick witty replies when other kids ask her about her palm. Not to make less of the fact that she doesn't have a palm but humor is sometimes the best way to deal with such situations.

Also most importantly, never make her feel that she is any less and keep reminding her of her positives and good qualities that will take her mind off the disability. Instill her with self-confidence and pride and guide her in a manner that she doesn't see her disability as a deterrent to do anything in life. Since she is still very young those initial words of encouragement need to come from you and your family. Sensitize everyone in your family on these needs and strongly back her whenever someone makes fun of her and her abilities.

All the very best and I hope your lil one grows up being one of the best! :)

17-11-2007, 09:00 AM
How about trying to explain to her through story books? Of bring her to a special needs centre where there will be children similar like her, perhaps its easier for her to relate it to her question.
Just my idea....

29-07-2008, 01:23 AM
Hi Charlie, you are a wonderful, capable and brave mother! I have a different child too! My boy has genetic disordered problem. He is now 4. Although physically he is ok, but he cant play eccessively nor sport activities. He is under medication since 1 year old. Formerly 3 times a day, now 2 times. He asked lots of questions too such as why cant he sports? Why cant he continues his active hide & seek games with cousins? Why should he take medication? Why not stop taking medication just for today please? and etc. As his parents, my husband and I have been 'educating' him that he is a special one. Telling him the truth since he was about 2 yrs old (such as he is different than others, he need to protect himself from any push from friends) makes him understand very much now. Hope this little sharing will help. Cheers!