Sunday, November 14, 2010

and so...

and so my journey continues as a student.
A student is a person learns...
lol.. dun need me 2 explain that.

Anyway, allow me to relate it with our current life.
Students these days...., (sounds more like kids these days)
From young they are spoon feed with knowledge.
Like a mother feeding her child.
I am not saying that it is totally wrong.
Yes, at the beginning of education for a child is to be spoon feed.
And suppose, gradually, hopefully they will depend less on people especially teachers.
As education goes higher, student are suppose to think more for themselves as in point of view.
Sadly, not so happy, that the education system lately not just in Malaysia, but in almost everywhere is based on spoon feed system.=(

Proof you ask me??
Most subjects in primary school and secondary school is based on memory.
Although some more practical type of subjects exists such as addmath, but most teachers made in away and tell students this,"You dun need to know why, you just follow only and you will get your answer".
Sounds familiar?
Thats why if you go around asking students about practical things.
most of them failed to answer it or gave a answer that is very theoretical.

Students are suppose to be educated or train to not just memories theories but also understand and apply it.
Yeah, you heard it.
To know is one thing, to understand is another, to apply is not easy.
3 general phases.

So, those student who especially in college complaining about lecturer and not doing anything for themselves are a bunch of lazy asses..
Come on, how old are you?
Still need people to feed you?
Go do your own research.
at least some complain but still put effort.
Dun give excuses such as "I am not like him or her, I cannot do it", "You think everyone is like you?"
Lazy Asses Making Excuses..

Now, some maybe thinking that if "I" the writer is just talking shit.
Oh ya, its my blog man, my world, freedom of expression.
As long as i put no names in here then its ok.
Dun take life so serious btw.=)
Just try your best and be happy you did try.

Saturday, November 6, 2010

wat a morning...

okay, this time dun ignore the topic.=)
its quite a morning..
whole body ache..
yesterday, i went to a dojo.
Inside there gt 4 masters.
so, i practice with them.
We was suppose to practice akikai(a branch of aikido).
end up gt jujitsu, kenpo and many more.
i kena hentam, throw, slam 2 the ground, spin spin..., lock.
frm 2pm++ til 6pm.

And that was why my body so pain now.
the way they do things also slightly different.
like the way they break a fall also(aka ukemi).
dun get used 2 it.
so i end up hurting myself a bit also.

it was fun though.
learn quite a lot.
get to understand the flow of force better.

hmm.., then this morning went to church.
I have a reason okay?
i went to ask the pastor some questions to obtain some info.
Since what i will talk concerns about god.
need to confirm some info.

Thursday, November 4, 2010

forget me not=(

Continuation from previous post..

Forgetting something normal like task is easy.
But ain't that easy when it comes to forgetting a person.
Especially if you do have feelings for that person.
Well, its worse if that person is your school mate or classmate.
Have to face that person everyday.
Cannot avoid one.haha..
No matter how satisfied you think you are to move on and get over that person, that you have to ask how to do it all, only will shows that it's going to be a painful process..

You might think you've gotten rid of that person.., only for you to start thinking about him or her after a year or two, you have feelings of pain and sadness again.
That's cause your heart is not with you. Its beyond your control.
That is your emotions that influence you.
But with emotions, that is what make us more human.
kinda sad right?

hoho.. agree with that?
for people who didn't face this might not get it.
for people who did, will.

oppss.., tersidetracked...
my bad..

okay, steps:

# Start liking someone else quick. In this position of depression, you are very vulnerable to emotional attacks. Liking someone else will distract you from that person. But when i said liking means not love okay? its like socialize with them. Get to know more new people.=)

# Cry out everything you have to cry about! When we get hurt, it's normal (and good) to cry. Don't ever think you're being weak for crying and don't feel embarrassed because of it! It's normal and it's good! you let go, when you cry. You can lock yourself in a room, if you want to, and put on some sad music...but let yourself feel the pain and cry so you can let it go.

# Its not easy but you have to know that friendship is friendship, relationship is relationship. Two different thing. Split this two. It will help you if that person is a close friend of yours.

#If you start to think about that person, then think about someone else. Someone hotter or better=)

#Spend time with your friends. Go out and have fun.

#If you are a student, get yourself busy with assignments and exams studies. Your degree is more important.

#Delete all those old pictures, sms, and chat history. This one is important. Coz the moment you see any of these, it will remind you.

#Take good care of yourself. Women tend to run for some kind of self-destruction when they're hurt. So if you're hurt, just try to use your pain for yourself instead of against you. Go to the gym, work out a lot, and use those energy of pain on something else.

#Last but not the best, you have to stop blaming you or that person for this to happen. You need to gain back your confidence. Do something that reminds you who you once were. Such as art, dance, workout, tweaking, positive observations..hahax..

thats all. dun wanna make it too long.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

one hand clap?

well, one hand clap.
wait, if its jz one hand, how to clap?
duh, obviously you need two hands to clap..
same thing goes to relationship.
okay, i think most people is getting a hang on what i am gonna rite on.
This is upon a person who requested it and shall be remain anonymous.
you guys still here??

so, its gonna be about 1-sided love.
coz tis is quie a big topic the next post will be on how to forget that person.
So, let us first go into about 1-sided love, what are the symptoms?

# You are the only one giving out compliments all the time.

# You are the only one telling him or her how adorable his or her is and it seems to bother him or her after a while.

# Goes out with friends, but never asks you out for a drink, dinner or movie!

# Doesn't call unless you call first and initiate the call, THEN he or she calls you back.

# Doesn't give you any news for a few days unless you are the one asking.

# Only will hang out with you if there are other friends there. Will avoid being alone with you.

# when you try to reach him doens't answer his phone. then, the same excuses: (that you always hear: "oops, sorry, forgot my phone at home, in the car, at work, battery is dead, etc, etc.)

# When you ask him if he wants to do something or go somewhere, the answers are never spontaneous. need long time to comes up with the answer(means doubts)

# He or she tells you constantly (to remind you and make sure you DON'T forget), he or she likes being single, doesn't believe in love, was hurt so many times in the past, he or she's not in a hurry, yet you find out a whiles later he or she's met someone new and is totally in love!!==

#Last but not least,he or she Doesn't say goodbye when he or she leaves...=(

wow..., is it jz me, or in my case, most symptom fit in?hahax..

most people are facing this one sided thing as well, many..
i assure that you are not alone.
That is why you need friends.=)
ur hommies, or whatsoever.

okay, so here on will be on the cause of 1 sided love.
1) Already seeing someone else.
2) Old wounds(due to past experience such as betrayal). aka fear of relationship.
3) Know that someone else like you already, so decides to give up on you.
4) just not the right time, not ready yet.
5) Seriously no interest in you.

The 1st one is quite obvious, don't need explaining.., you are 1 step slower.
The second one, needs explanation.
These are the few thoughts they have:
* I've had so many bad relationships and been rejected so many times in the past that I don't want to take that chance again!

* Sooner or later THEY always cheat on you...I'm not going to open myself up for that mess!

* I don't want anybody to have that kind of power over me and my happiness. I'm fine all by myself!

* Being in love makes you act like a fool, just stupid. I don't want to behave like that ever again. I was totally out of control.

Keep in mind that many people are just as afraid of success as they are of failure. They are ruled by fear from the past that haunts them especially being cheated or betrayed before by anyone.
Fear is a real killer of opportunity, success and love. Fearful people play it safe and never take chances or assume risks.
Thus, due to this fear, they choose to play safe and reject you.

Okay, bout the 3rd one.
Usually its about friendship.
He or she knows that his or her friend like you.
He or she doesn't want to destroy that friendship or whatsoever.
Thus, he or she rejects you.
Usually will go as far as to avoid you in this case.

4th one, this is slightly related to the 2nd one.
Just that it maybe due to personal perception that he or she may want to focus on something more important rite now.
Also maybe due to past experience.
But, sadly, quite a lot of people use study and focus on something for now as an excuse.
Concealing their actual reason. Coward i would call these people.
Dishonest if that person is not telling the truth.

5th one, is totally understood that person doesn't have interest in you.
So, just be friends.=)

While i was doing some small research on this,
i kinda remember some of my friends who face this as well.
And it reminds me a lot of things.
Made me notice a lot also.
Avoiding is usually the most common action taken by that person who conceals the reason who choose to be selfish...

So, next post will be on how to deal with it and forget that person.
miss u 24 7.

oh ya, almost 4got.
need 2 thank this few links.
and read more on it if you wanna noe more.
Symptom of one sided love
Fear of relationship