What society needs to change

lets say you and me are asking and answering questions back and forth.
lets say you ask me what I like
and I answer and then say "you?"
that means the same question applies to you
I discovered that the more succinct the question, the more genuine the answer-er needs to interpret the question. Here is where the element of their values become obvious.
If the individual has poor empathy, the opposite becomes rich: narcissism.
The more empathetic the answer-er, the more mirrored the question is answered in relation to your answer. Otherwise the difference is a narcissistic interpretation of the question.
If the answer-er gives you a question instead of an answer, how and what causes insecurity is also revealed.