Month: April 2014

Cures of Physical Touch


I saw an interesting tweet this morning that said cuddling can be a cure for pain just as pain killers are. Hmmm, I don’t know about you but it makes sense to me.

Like babies or a small child, when they hurt themselves or are feeling “under the weather”, seeking comfort from their caregiver adds to the recovery process. They feel safe and secure that whatever the issue is he or she will be fine. I feel this applies to grown-ups as well.

If you are not feeling well rather it be physical, mental or emotionally, seeking the arms of a companion, friend or family member can put you in better spirits. Sometimes, words are not needed to know someone is there for you during a challenging time. Just the embrace of feeling safe, secure and wanted speaks louder than any “I’m sorry this is happening with you” comments.

How does physical touch (hugging, cuddling) make you feel?

What do you look for in a partner?

hey peeps!

As the older we get, many of us begin to want to have a companion/partner/bf/gf/spouse. Many people don’t like to start anything serious with someone else until their careers are in order, or simply because they are not ready. When the time does come for change, when you are ready to share yourself with another, what do you look for?

I’m sure these answers vary from women to men and many confuse needs and wants when choosing a mate.

Basics-Face Value/Appearance
When we meet someone, what is the first thing you think of or see? We see their face and if we establish if we are attracted to them. Many may say it’s shallow to think about looks but let’s be honest, if you have not associated yourself with the person to get to know him or her, how else can you make a judgement?

Do you think education matters? Does this person have to be a high school graduate or is having a higher degree a necessity? Does it really come down to where you are professionally? Do you feel they have to be on the same level or better than you?

Socio-Economic Status and Salary
Does what economic class he or she falls under matter? Does how much money he or she earns play a role? I know this is definitely a touchy subject because by this point if you know this much about a person, there is a possibility that you may be fond of him or her. So if you figure out that this person doesn’t meet your standards, is that a deal breaker?

This can be family dynamics, job history, substance abuse and even crime history. I know the history of a person can be debatable because people do rehabilitate and can change for the better however, its possible that old habits can linger around and people may not have the patience for that.

Many people have different family customs and traditions. The practice of a different religion can be a major reason for people to grow closer or apart. Political views/positions can seal the deal on a perspective mate.

These are just a few decision makers for people in the dating game and partner search. I recommend knowing Your value, knowing what you NEED in a partner, and knowing what you WON’T tolerate or ACCEPT in a potential mate.

Good Luck!!!

Dance in the rain





Later friends
Nikki Rob., MA

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