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I created a fake account and bought VPN just to make these confessions. I'm scared. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]browniex742 Days 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You finally have a solid reason. That’s the difference. Having a legitimate reason you can believe in makes the whole experience of no-fap better. The reason you relapsed before was because your reasoning left room for compromise. This time there is no room to compromise. While confessing is healthy and I’m proud of you for doing it, and I want you to let go of your guilt, don’t forget about the way you feel now in regards to remembering what you used to do. If it disgusts you that deeply, remember that you don’t want to be that worst version of yourself again. Let it make you angry, furious, driven, motivated, and powerful. Be able to look at that old person and say “I will not let you win this war,” and every time you think of straying in your efforts remember where you once stood. Remember the cat, remember the dangers of your impulses with the water bottle, remember how it literally effected your work life. You can do this. It starts now.

Somebody just KILL ME!! Relapsed after 40 days!! Seriously guys, it's NOT WORTH IT!!! by SheerFocus2 Days in NoFap

[–]Mayafoe19 Days 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Calm the fuck down. "Kill me"?

Your problem is you don't understand progress at all

You're succeeding, but all you see is failure, not progress

You think you have to be 'perfect' to do this

But this isn't about 'win or lose' or 'all or nothing' or 'pass or fail'

This is a PROCESS

In the past you fapped every day, 365 faps-per-year (or worse!) ... for years

but now you can do 40-day streaks!

If your year ahead was made of 40-day streaks your faps-per-year would be reduced from 365 to 9!

FROM 365 TO 9!

That's a 97 percent reduction and you feel you're not succeeding?


Don't be discouraged because you're not 'perfect'

no one is perfect, not you, not me

You are totally not the every-day pornfapper you were in the past


Recognise the progess you have made. How has your life changed since before you started Nofap and you pornfapped every day?

Compare yourself to THAT, and simply go forward

You're in the middle of succeeding :) Your life is changing

YOU are changing it

So relax about 'kill me'. See the big picture. A relapse is not the end of the world, ever

this is a process

I'm depressed. by actualaravinda in NoFap

[–]2underrated212 Days 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One thing I've learned through my experience on this planet is this. People change. You change, everyone changes Nobody stays the same. What you feel now will change. It does not last forever. Here's my suggestion.

Regardless of your circumstances, regardless of your upbringing. Poor or rich, girl or female. You, your mind, not your brain the organ. Have the ability to manipulate the world you reside in based on your perception of it.


Well, the answers right in front of you. You feel depressed because your mother said those awful things. Anyone would feel the same way. I hope you also know that just because your environment is always depressing, that it does not mean you are depressed. It just means you are in a tough situation. How can you change your perception? Change what you value, practice what those voices go against even if it sucks; like going to the gym, going for a walk, studying. The point is you build up a tolerance, and those things start to over ride those negative thoughts.

anyway I could go on, and on about this.

Dont knock yourself down man. You are a smart man who is going to make great choices. No fap being one of them. Don't let anyone else tell you other wise. You don't need to measure up to anyone or anyhow. You are enough. You are great enough just the way you are.

May jesus bless you

I'm depressed. by actualaravinda in NoFap

[–]Victorious_Power8 Days 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Man that really sucks and I'm sorry to hear that you're mum feels that way. Parents can be shit sometimes. My own dad used to beat my mother and growing up he used to hit me too coz he was an alcoholic piece of shit.

I'm not saying that you're father would have been like that but I had a dad and he made my life hell. So unfortunately for me having a father wasn't all it cracked up to be. Also my mother ended up abandoning me to be with my father which is something I will never understand.

I've also gone through PTSD and depression so I know that it's a tough, uphill battle. Honestly, I hope that you're okay and that things get better for you.

All I can say is sometimes it gets worse before it gets better but if you keep fighting, it will get better.

So stay strong brother 🤜

Question regarding Medical anxieties by konection in NoFap

[–]SemenPatrol400 Days 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had something similar happen to me. I was a virgin before NoFap, and after around 6 months I met my current partner. When I had my first orgasm I realized it was also brown / red colored. It was also very painful. Like you, I never had any issues with this. This was my first orgasm in 6+ months.

After that I went to the doctor and did a few tests. All results came back perfect. I was ordered to masturbate a few times in the following week and he was right: the color gradually went back to clear white.

The bleeding happened once more but I pulled out quickly that time and saw that the blood was only added in the very last moment (e.g. the semen comes first, followed by a drop of blood which then colors the semen red). In my case it seems to be caused by friction at one of the veins below the head of the penis but I am not sure exactly.

It hasn't happened for a few months now, and I no longer have any discoloration (or pain for that matter). My overall sexual health is good and me and my partner can do what we want.

I suggest you try masturbating once a day for a week or so and you will probably see that the color will gradually change back to normal. The fact that yours was brown means that it wasn't a recent bleeding. The doctor (specialized in male sexual organs) told me that brown / red colored semen is a common case for him to see and that it is harmless in 99% of the cases. He also told me that more often than not they don't find any cause for it.

Good luck bro! You'll be fine but first do what I told you :)

365 day diary 3: a cold shower (or viking shower as i call them) story. (story in the comments) by KnightYuki21 Days in NoFap

[–]KnightYuki21 Days[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

cold showers and nofap go hand in hand, so i wrote a story about my feelings before and after the cold shower.

centuries ago our ancestors didn't even knew what warm water is. the vikings for example, showered themselves in the blood of their enemies and washed it off in a snowstorm. it was a dark and cold age back then. a saying goes " the cold northwind made the vikings". those guys were some tough men. they used the cold weather to feed their strength.

and here i am a millennium later, looking in the mirror into my eyes, recognizing the fear in them. im about to do it.

my heart rate drops as i undress myself. what a dumb idea. its 6am. im still a little bit sleepy. and want to go back into my warm bed

ok, so let's get into the tub, i look at the shower head. he looks at me like a dragon ready to spew his deadly fire. and im about to steal his treasure. my hand grips around the shower knob....

"what do you think you're doing?".... o shit it is him again. i turn on the shower before he stops me. "You mother******.........." his voice was instantly silenced. . . . . Pain surrounds my body. . . . . . . I want to scream, scream so loud that the whole city hears it, but I suppress it and watch my breath. . . . . . . the urge to stop and just switch to hot water is so strong. but like a mighty wall i endure it. . . . . . . . seconds feel like minutes and minutes like hours. . . . . . . suddenly the sensation changes. the water is still cold but i kinda enjoy the coldness.

i turn the shower off and feel like a great dragon slayer. nothing in the world can stop me now.

as i dry myself i look at the shower head "see you tomorrow"