Having the Right Attitude When It Comes To Your Body Image

Body image is one of the biggest concerns that teenagers have. Issues such as acne, weight and the illusion of being perfect are often on a teenagers mind. This article aims to give you insight on the attitude you should have when thinking about your body.

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Acne is probably the biggest concern that teenagers have. Nearly all teenagers experience acne so dont stress. The good news is that acne eventually goes away.

I was on Roacutane when I was 19. I was so concerned about what other people thought of me. That was the delusion of being a teenager. My ex-girlfriend called me the other day  were now 27  and she asked me why I was so insecure about how I looked back then. She said that although I was on Roacutane and my skin was oily and peeling, no one cared. I was still a good looking guy and she still liked me.

The truth is that people are too worried about themselves to be concerned about what youre wearing or how you look. And when they do look at you, they are often comparing themselves to you. And when they say that youre fat or bonny or ugly, theyre just projecting their insecurities on you. This means that theres something which they dont like about themselves. They tease you in order to feel good about themselves. Its not you thats the problem. They are their own problem. This is something that you might not understand right now, but you eventually will.

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Many women are obsessed with their body image because of this.

Teenagers who are overweight often get teased. They call you fatty or some other stupid name. Well Ive got a trick for you. The next time they call you fat, just agree and say Yeah I am fat hey. Laugh with them. This is a very powerful mind trick because itll take away the fun from their teasing. When they see that youre not hurt by their words then theyll stop teasing you because it wont be fun anymore. Try it. It works!

Peoples bodies change over time. Some of the people, that I know, who were overweight in high school, have now gotten rid of their baby fat now that were in our mid-twenties.

The Media

A lot of teenagers are hung up on their body image because of the media.

The truth is that the people in the magazines, music videos and movies starve themselves to look that way. A lot of the models and celebrities that you see in the magazines and movies are very unhappy and have psychological problems because of the pressure from their jobs. They have to look perfect so that they can keep being the in thing.

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We put pressure on the celebrities because we wont buy their stuff or watch their movies if we dont think theyre cool, hot and perfect. And since they know this, they starve themselves and eat unhealthy diets in order to keep their jobs.

And then we not realizing that we are the ones putting this pressure on them, we look up to them and we obsess about our body image because we want to be perfect like them. So we put pressure on ourselves. And so what happens is that theres this cycle of delusion on being perfect.

There Is No Perfect

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If you went up to Jennifer Aniston or Brad Pitt or Will Smith and you asked them if theyre happy with their bodies I can guarantee you that all of them will say no. They would name more than 5 things that they dont like about their bodies. Apparently Brad Pitts has got skin imperfections and people still think hes good looking.

There is no perfect. If you keep thinking that there is then youre only hurting yourself. This means that your body image is not aligned with reality.

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Dont Compare Yourself

If theres one sure way to hate yourself, its to compare yourself to others. Im better looking than him. Ive got bigger breasts than her. Shes hotter than me. I wish I had blond hair like her.

When you think that youre worse than someone, it decreases your self-esteem and you get self-hate.

When you think youre the same as someone, you give up your uniqueness.

When you think youre better than someone, you develop a fault-finding mind and youre guaranteed to find someone who youll think is better than you in some way. Youll try to find something in that person that you think they dont have a crazy way of living. All of these are delusions that lead to self-hate.


Your body is unique and special. It should not be compared to some standard. There is no standard because no one looks the same.

If youre big, then youre big. If youre small, then youre small. If you dont have smooth skin, then you dont have smooth skin. Focus on what youve got because you cant have it all. Have a positive mind about your body image. No one is perfect. Work with, not on, the body you have.

Never compare yourself to others. Theres no perfect!

Theres a saying which goes a little something like this:

When youre 13 you think everyones thinking about you. When youre 40, you dont care what anyone thinks of you. When youre 80, you realize that nobody was thinking about you.

Love yourself and other people will love you.

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