Nobody Is Listening







24 thoughts on “Nobody Is Listening”

  1. HG,

    I was hoping if you could give me some insight on a clear way to know if my partner is a covert Narcsist. I was almost 100% convinced that he was because our relationship had been an emotional rollercoaster. I even gave him the nick name my-Rollie within the first few months of us dating. He has done the love bombing, ghosting and silent treatment anywhere from a few hours to a few days. Moreover, he breaks up with me often behind dumb shit and I’m the one that begs him to come back. The only thing he hasn’t done in the year that we have been together is devalue me. The reason I am hesatent to believe that he is a Narcissist is because he is an Ex soldier that has been diagnosed with C-PTSD & TBI . We all know that most Mental health disorders ofyen display similar signs and character traits. Please if you can share some of your expertise on the matter.

    Thanks in advance

  2. Thanks so much HG 🙂 It is not my goal to talk ill of my ex but if I have to explain some of the smearing he has done of me-then it becomes necessary to have cold hard facts-not emotions.
    Thanks again!

  3. HG,
    Spot on-as always. After reading this article I realized that prior to finding you nobody would have believed me which is why I never said anything to my family and very little to my friends. If I did not understand what was happening how could they plus his facade was so real to me and others. However, now, after HG, which is how I explain it, I can speak the truth and because I have the knowledge to back it up, people are listening and understanding. I will even forward some of your articles-I hope that is OK with you, and thus far, people are amazed at both the content and the author(with how clear and blunt you are about explaining that particular topic)
    Do you think HG that after gaining the knowledge we have through your works, people are more apt to listen? Especially since their is not anger behind our words, just facts from the expert-You.
    Much appreciated 🙂

    1. I think you will be able to present in a more meaningful way and to the people who are more likely to listen than to those who won’t at all.

  4. Hi HG. My ex reaches out to me daily for the last week and a half. No lovebombing but casual chatting. No triangulation or malignnese. But is reminding me sometimes why we would not work as a couple. Obviously the reason why he is reaching out is for fuel. Is there another reason he is talking to me daily? Is he in devaluation phase with his PS? Is he trying to keep options open? Wanting to change to lovebombing later? Your thoughts please?

    1. It will be that he is devaluing the current IPPS and he is therefore testing the waters with you. As you identify he is hoovering for fuel but because he has an ‘investment’ in you, he will be looking to promote you, if you merit it of course and at this stage he is seeing how the land lies with you. Do you feel any need to engage with him daily?

  5. I am so lucky that he has little control of himself and exposed himself during the smear campaign and continues to with his new victim, playing the same games.
    His close family already knew. My family knew. My close friends knew.
    The fact that most of his family still interact with me is telling. So do his friends. If they believed his bullshit about me they would have wiped me out of their lives. The only members of his family that wiped me out are the ones that are scared of him. I don’t hold it against them. I know the feeling of fear he casts upon people. And I would still be there for them if they needed me.
    Thank God he’s a mid range and not a greater. It sounds so scary!
    Thanks HG for another informative and interesting article.

  6. I didn’t need to tell anyone. Apparently everybody else knew but me. They were just waiting for it to end, laughing at me behind my back – waiting, knowing. Only after I was discarded did they tell me what they knew, yet they watched me walk alongside this man for almost three years so happy and proud, thinking I had found the greatest man alive.

    He showed me off to his family like I was a toy, yet when I spent nights at the house with them, he would tell me to go to the room, and wouldn’t let me engage them except in passing down hallways, etc. He compartmentalized us to keep his lies and deception going. They knew who he was, they were his blood/siblings, and had seen him unmasked, but not me. Not until months post discard. In my case, I was blinded by love, and they knew it, everyone did, so they kept their silence for fear of me getting mad at them for destroying my fake happiness. In my case, I wish THEY had climbed rooftops and shouted it, attached it to bricks and threw it in my window, or strapped messaged to pigeons. It would have spared me so much pain and embarrassment.

    Great article though.

  7. Bullshit ! My friends saw it and believed it and helped me escape. Eventually you come undone ………. you make mistakes after years of trying to appear normal. Little mistakes. Big mistakes. You are so grandiose that you really start to believe the shit you spin. And you actually believe that other people believe it too. But they don’t. At first they notice something is off. But then it really starts to show. And then people start saying they don’t know how you put up with it. And then ……. even when you’re going around telling people that we are actually the crazy ones you start to come undone. Because. If like I , you have managed to maintain close personal friendships through all of the adversity, they will not believe him. If you are well liked. They will not believe him. They know you and they will help you. Even your family knows. They’re scared of you , but not enough to not talk to me. Fuck you. You nearly destroyed my life. But you didn’t. And now you are left with people you pay to be your friends. Enjoy that. They did not believe you.

  8. there is no “telling”. it has to be proven with undeniable proof and even then, they still buy into the lies

    1. Yup! His wife for one. He cheated on her. Had a double life with the other girl for almost two years. It destroyed her. Then she took him back anyway. Here I sit, jealous that he’s hers and not mine. 😔

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