Ghosting: A New Way of Breaking Up Your Relationship

‘Ghosting’ often occurs when two people have been going on dates, and then one person starts responding less and less to the other. At some point, the former will stop all means of communication without leaving any explanation. Apparently, ghosting is believed to help in softening the blow of a breakup, but it doesn’t really work that way. To help you get a better understanding of this new craze, here are four reasons as to why it has become such an epidemic.


  1. It makes breaking up with someone much easier. Ghosting makes it easier for a person to slowly distance himself or herself from the person he’s or she’s been casually seeing. By doing this, you don’t get to face them and see how upset they’d be as you end your relationship. While this is really easier to do, it’s actually more cowardly than facing the person and talking about your feelings. Remember that just because it’s easier to do, that doesn’t mean that it’s the right thing to do.


  1. It saves time than personally seeing someone just to dump him or her. Seriously, who has the time to make plans with someone just to break up with them when you can just ghost them out? You can do it by stopping all replies to their snapchats, calls and text messages.


In fact, it’s even easier if you two haven’t met yet since you can use that as excuse to ghost the person out. Well, how upset can he get when you really haven’t even met, right? Wrong. Understand that just because you haven’t met someone in person that doesn’t mean that feelings haven’t developed within the timeframe that you constantly communicated.


  1. It plays down the chances of being insensitive or mean towards the other person. Breakups can be really messy and be quite difficult to handle at times – and I don’t want to believe that people would want to be mean, especially when it comes to the feelings of the other person involved.


People often forget that breakups doesn’t need to end badly and that it doesn’t have to be done in a mean way. In fact, it can be an honest conversation between the persons involved. You may think that ghosting someone out is nicer than flat out telling him or her that you don’t feel the same way anymore, but it’s really no excuse to exile someone from your life without giving any explanation.


  1. It makes it easier to hint that you already met someone new. Providing an explanation as to why you don’t feel the same way towards the other person anymore can really be harder than just cutting all your lines of communication altogether. But in reality, most people would still want to have an explanation since knowing that person’s reason will make moving on much easier. Not giving an explanation will just make that person think that you don’t want to be part of their life anymore.

Ghosting became frequent nowadays due to technology – but it’s not the technology’s fault. It’s the person behind the screen who needs to take responsibility of his or her actions. Remember that hiding behind your phones or social media accounts won’t solve anything. Just the person involved straight up as to why your relationship will no longer work, so that it’ll be easier for both of you to get over the things that has happened between you.


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