Simple Strategies for Living Life Well (with Pets): Q&A

Over the past few weeks I have had several people ask questions related to their pet’s behavior. Below are two of those questions and my responses. Although each situation is unique, and I certainly don’t know everything, I have had positive outcomes with the methods suggested.

Question 1: What do you do when your cat doesn’t use the cat box?

Answer: Cats instinctively want to do their business in dirt or sand and even very young kittens climb into a cat box, dig a hole, go potty, and cover it up. On occasion though, I have experienced cats not doing this. A very simple and effective strategy is to take their feces and put it into the cat box. This has solved the problem of kitties not using the cat box because they smell their feces in the box and I assume they say to themselves, “Oh! That’s what that’s for!”

We do have a cat that periodically urinates outside of the cat box which is very frustrating. The first thing we did was rule out a medical condition through a visit to our vet. The second thing we did was evaluate her living situation. We evaluated the size of the cat boxes to make sure she wasn’t too big resulting in her going potty outside the box and determined the size was fine. After further observation, we soon realized she was being picked on by her litter mates while using the covered cat box. It became clear that she was afraid to use a covered cat box because of this. We solved the problem by removing the lid.

Question 2: We rescued a puppy that is obsessed with our cats and seems to want to eat them. What do we do?

Answer: Sometimes pets don’t get along with other pets. Depending on their background, it might be necessary for them to be in a one-pet-only household. Before you decide to re-home your pet or surrender it to a local shelter, contact me or another rescue for feedback and suggestions.

In most cases, especially with puppies, using keywords, praise, and consistency to redirect their attention to an activity that is appropriate is all that is needed. What I have found to be very effective is the “Yours and Mine” training. This is very similar to what I wrote in the Power of Toys article (November 29, 2018) but with a few additional commands.

First, get the puppy very interested in a new toy that is just theirs. It doesn’t have to be store bought, it can be handmade. Once you have introduced the toy, say the puppy’s name and show the toy. Let them play with it and say their name and say “Toy—this is [puppy’s name]’s toy”. Be upbeat and make it a happy drama so the puppy is excited about their toy. Use this technique consistently. Then introduce the second phase which is the “Mine” keyword. Use something that the puppy is not supposed to play with such as car keys or gloves. Begin the training with the two objects, the puppy’s toy and your object, then show the puppy their toy and say [puppy’s name]’s toy then show your object and say MINE. Repeat several times then let the puppy play with their toy without your interference.

Repeat this process consistently for several days using a couple of different objects for the MINE portion but never use an object that the puppy is allowed to play with.

Finally begin the process with the cat. This can be tricky because the cat is enticing to the puppy so it is best to do this the first time when the puppy is at their lowest energy level. Let the puppy smell the cat and say MINE then let the puppy smell their toy and say [puppy’s name]’s toy letting them play with it. Repeat several times at each session and over several days. Praise lavishly and use treats!

Soon you will simply say MINE and the puppy will understand that it isn’t theirs to play with. This is not a perfect process. Some days your puppy will do better than other days. Consistency and patience is very important when working with pets, especially puppies!

Stay tuned for more Simple Strategies for Living Life Well (with Pets) when I talk about the topic of grief.

Until then, remember to purr often, wag without hesitation, and nap in the sun at every opportunity!

Meet-Up: Each Sunday morning at 11:30am (weather permitting), we will meet for casual conversation about pet related topics at Daymaker Café. We would love for you to join in the conversation!

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