



My message to him and others like him?












Well guess what.


















That Ridiculous Idea That Genes Underlie Behavior











Here’s what’s really going on.









A Key to Healing – Rather Than Blaming A Disease, Take Responsibility and Make Changes

I have heard this type of thing time after time, “Such and such disease makes you weak.”

Wrong. There is no such thing as such and such disease making a person weak, or numb, or tired, or shaking.


So what’s doing it then? Why are people weak, or numb, or tired, or shaking, or whatever?

They and the people around them are making things that way, that’s why.

So a key concept in healing is getting to feeling responsible, and in control, of what is going on with your health.

For instance, in one case I dealt with, a guy diagnosed with als was talking about biting his tongue. He thought that als somehow makes a person bite his tongue. He felt out of control.

So I suggested he look at it differently, that rather than als making him bite his tongue that actually he himself was somehow making him bite his tongue. That put things into a whole different perspective. Now he felt much more in control and as if he could find a way to solve the problem.

Another one I have heard is that multiple sclerosis makes a person weak. Nah. Multiple sclerosis is not doing anything. Multiple sclerosis can’t do anything. Why? Because multiple sclerosis is just a name someone made up. What makes a person weak is people’s making choices that result in a person’s immune system attacking the person’s nervous system. Then the nerves don’t transmit signals and the person feels weak.

Diabetes does not make it difficult to utilize sugar. People make it difficult for themselves to use sugar.

Parkinson’s disease does not make people shaky. They make themselves shaky, by stressing themselves out and repressing emotions and doing other things that cause their systems to break down.

Adhd does not make it difficult to focus.

Alzheimer’s does not cause memory loss and dementia.

Asthma does not make breathing difficult.

Whatever a person has going on, the key thing to realize is that it is just a logical consequence of ways of living and choices the person is making.

Then it is clear what needs to be done to make things better.

If you want to be stronger, figure out how to get stronger. If you want to stop biting your tongue, figure out why you are doing it and make some changes. If you are getting shaky or are having trouble remembering things or if your cholesterol level is sky high, just get to work making changes that will make you healthier.

It was you, with the help of others, doing it all along, and it is you who can solve the problem.

Knowing Better and Still Not Doing It – “That’s the sickness.”

A week or two ago I called a friend, Diego, to see how things were going with his blood pressure. He had had really, really high blood pressure, so high that a doctor seemed concerned about even letting him walk out of the office. Diego also had come up with a pretty solid plan for solving the problem, one involving things like diet changes, weight loss, exercise and changing the way he handles life issues.

Hey. That sounded like a great idea for a story, maybe called “My Friend Diego Solves Insanely High Blood Pressure. Here’s How.”

So before writing it I wanted to confirm that he had gotten the job done.

“It is lower.”  He told me.

So it was fixed, solved, the pressure in some kind of normal or healthy range?


I told him about my story idea and he told me that I could just wait, maybe give him another month and all would be well and I could write about it. He said he was psyched, that the idea of the story was even a good incentive for him to get on with it.

So I called him today to see how our little project was going.

The answer? No progress.

“That’s the sickness” he said. Then he noted the similarity to what his mother had done, when she had basically chosen to die rather than taking advantage of healing resources he had provided for her, and he suggested that instead of writing about his success I should write about his lack of it. “That’s the sickness.”

Not a bad idea. What he said is so right on, and what he has going on is so common. It’s a level of sickness, one in which a person knows basically how to solve a problem and for some reason, inertia, unconscious issues, or whatever, leaves the problem unsolved.

Me personally, I don’t get it. I mean, sure I get it. I understand psychology and habits and things like that. Still, I don’t get it.

For one thing, being sick can be a total drag. In Diego’s case, for instance, he has real reason to be concerned about the consequences of continuing to live with what is still rather high blood pressure.

For another, solving things can be so straightforward. Losing that eighty pounds of extra weight, for instance, seems simple. Just eat less than you burn.

So between one thing and another, staying sick, especially when one has at hand an actual plan for getting healthy, seems insane to me.

Solving back problems, lowering bad cholesterol, solving diabetes, solving cancer, resolving relationship issues, any kind of thing, a person can do it, if the person just gets through the knowing what to do level to the actually doing it level.

Sickness Addiction, Maybe the Worst Addiction of All


That was pretty much the last I heard from her.



What do I mean?









The ALS “False Hope” Thing – One Spouse’s Strong Opinion








I keep hearing people defending the doctors and it amazes me.
In our situation ANY hope is welcome.
To tell us there is NO hope is irresponsible!!

Spontaneous remissions happen.  They don’t tell us that.





They should be held responsible for that.





Enough said.

Scent to the Emergency Room – The Perils of Air Freshener and Other Masking Approaches

What I saw happen last week was a classic case of non healing approaches creating a cascading downhill path to a crash.

It started off pretty simply, with a woman whose house had air quality issues, including those caused by someone’s smoking. She also had some other stressful things going on in her life.

So what did she do? Did she heal the situation? Did she do something about the underlying issues?

Oh no.

She whipped out a can of air freshener, and blasted away, a classic example using of a masking approach, one which covers up problems without really solving them.

“good for me” she said.


Now with the air quality issues buried under a haze of probably toxic chemicals made to smell good and other issues still causing stress in her life, sure enough the woman developed a heavy cough, which kept her up at night.

Did she react by dealing with the underlying issues and healing the situation? To a degree she actually did. She started working to get some of the stress and air quality issues dealt with.

At the same time she hurried down to the local pharmacy to pick up some medication. Once again she was choosing a masking approach.


At one point after taking the medication, she lost her footing somehow and somehow was not even able to break her fall.

Slam, she planted her face on the floor, hard, possibly hard enough to crack her skull, and that’s why she decided to go the the emergency room.

The whole thing seemed connected. Was it the lack of sleep, or an effect of the medication or what that had caused her to fall in a way that she had not fallen in years.

However exactly it worked, it seems clear that masking issues rather than resolving them once again led to a crash as it so often does.

Let’s Face It. Western Medicine is Way Off Track.

A while ago, a person working with me told me that a doctor had recommended knee replacement surgery. Her knees were not working so well and new knees would be just the ticket. Just one thing. She was way overweight, so overweight that she was worried about him succeeding in dealing with all the fat when performing the surgery. Uh, do ya think maybe before she had her living knees replaced with prosthetics that it might be a good idea to see if the living ones worked better once she lost some weight? Seems rather obvious that that would be a good question and yet somehow it was totally ignored.

Another crazy case I saw involved a person who had gotten his weight up so high that he had not gotten out of bed for years. A doctor recommended surgically altering his digestive tract to help him lose weight. Let me get this straight, a guy who cannot even get out of bed needs surgery to lose weight? Uh, how about if his parents were to just stop supplying him with so much food. There must be some serious psychological issues in that household and using surgery to lose weight just perpetuates the whole thing by changing one factor without dealing with those issues.

This type of slashing at one thing while ignoring huge parts of the picture madness pervades the medical system and the people who use it and the whole system is way off track.

It figures that Barack Obama, a person who only recently quit smoking, somehow jammed the support of this insanity down all of our throats. He is clueless about what it takes to be healthy and now laws have been passed to get everyone else to participate in the same nonsensical system he has bought into.

Lately I have been working with people experiencing the neurodegenerative problem called als. Western medicine has been typically clueless here too. Anyone with two eyes can see that the reason these people are sick is that they have been living in ways that end up killing them. The only thing that is really going to change this for them is their changing the ways they are living. What’s western medicine’s answer to als? They are looking for a medical cure, by doing things like torturing mice by the thousands. Holy moly. Are you serious? The western medicine concept of als is that it is kind of random, that for some reason things in a person’s body sort of spontaneously go haywire. Gimme a break folks. Als is not random and you will never ever solve it as long as you cling to that illusion.

This spontaneous development conception of disease seems to be the common theme with western medicine, one that involves the premise that people have little control over what goes on in their bodies, even in their minds, and that things go wrong on their own and can only be solved by somehow adding ingredients to the mix, pills, surgery, and lately bits of chopped up babies even. None of this is correct and none of it will ever really work. Why? Because none of these things really are random and out of people’s control. People whose bodies fall apart on them are living in ways to make that happen. People whose minds are split, who have difficulty functioning socially or who have other mentally focused issues have created those problems as well. What this means is that basically you can throw all the medication, surgery or bits of babies you want at these problems and they are going to persist as long as the people keep doing what they are doing and living the way they are living.

Kids will keep having learning problems, digestive problems and immune system problems as long as they are stressed out, eat junky food and have parents and teachers that use little common sense in working with them. Drugs are not going to help and using western medicine style medicine is just making things worse for them.

People will keep developing health issues as long as they keep living in basically unhealthy ways. Whether they have been diagnosed with anorexia, autism, Parkinson’s disease, heart disease or dementia, their genes and biology are not the problems. Their ideas and lifestyles are the problems, and western medicine’s coming up with all kinds of nutty genetic and biological theories as to why they are sick is not helping at all.

Until people in medicine see the basic errors they have made, that the foundation of all they do is unsound, they will continue to miss huge parts of the picture and to look for cures for things that neither require cures nor can be cured medically, and as a group in all fields they will continue to be way off track and perpetuate misery. That’s just the way it is.

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