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Silverfish Sat 31-May-14 16:25:28

Is it just me but I seem to see such a lot of waste by the younger generation, older ones too but not so much. For example, I was visiting DD the other day and on each side of the fence were lots of kids plastic toys just left in the rain, when my DD was young I brought the toys in and kept them clean, either putting big toys in the shed and smaller ones in the house.
This also seems to happen with clothes, I see neighbours with clothes on the line for days on end often trailing in the mud, I often see kids trainers in gardens. Do these people not realise that much expense can be saved by looking after things. After all you can sell good condition stuff on e bay or a car boot sale. I kept toys from my DD for 25 years and have given them to DGD when she stays, does no-one do that anymore.
I was also asked by a charity for clothes that DGD has grown out of, while I did donate some, I kept most just in case we have another little one. I know of at least 2 mothers, who, every Xmas, take a binbag and dump every toy in the house and the kids get new ones but surely they get attached to some toys and I think this is terrible. Any comments or is this just me being me

Tegan Mon 02-Jun-14 15:27:22

I'm still having my 'clear out' and have completely filled my bin for tomorrow, but I am a bit worried that I've put things in the black bin that I'll get in trouble for [eg plastic containers that has paint in that's dried so I haven't put it with the plastics]. I do feel guilty when I throw things away, though. I'm hoping that, when I've finished my clear out, I can reduce dramaticaly what goes into my bins. Mind you, some of the plastic containers are old ice cream ones that I've had for years and years and were used for storing things beofre they ended up in the decorating section of my clutterfest. I've just thrown out a nativity set that the kids made from clay and, quite frankly the figures look positively ghoulish, but I still found it difficult putting it in the bin.

Grannyknot Mon 02-Jun-14 15:03:08

The couple two doors down from us, regularly on bin days have what we call their "Argos clearout". It is just pink plastic tat as far as the eye can see ...

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 02-Jun-14 14:08:41

That's it Stansgran. DS loved those books. Grandsons never took to them though. Kids change. hmm

FarNorth Mon 02-Jun-14 13:04:23

I buy from charity shops, don't throw things out if they are perfectly good etc etc, but I am now also struggling with far too many possessions, and am having to do serious de-cluttering.

J52 Mon 02-Jun-14 10:19:34

There is an article in today's Times about the amount of wasted food thrown away by supermarkets. Apparently, only 2% of surplus food is distributed to charities.Tescos generated 30,000 tonnes of wasted food in 2013!

What an example! X

Stansgran Mon 02-Jun-14 09:28:41

I think I've got the same book JBF. It's a Ladybird one. My DH now has the fort that his father made but he always finds reasons not to bring it out for the DGS. But he lets them play with the pirate ship.grin

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 02-Jun-14 09:04:11

I've still got a number of very complicated, made up, Lego sets of Ds's (he is 32-ish now) on top of the wardrobe in his old bedroom. With a tablecloth chucked over them to keep the dust off. I didn't even get those down for grandsons to play with.

We've still got a rhyming book about a family of cats knocking about this house somewhere, and they've got a cook! They're cats!

Silverfish my mum was always grateful for the clothes the posh women who she cleaned for, passed on to her. Why not? Good quality stuff. smile

Iam64 Mon 02-Jun-14 09:01:08

I'm not sure things are very different. Some of us have always been happy to buy from charity shops, accept with gratitude passed on children's clothes and toys. Others would only ever put their children in brand new prams/clothes and allow them brand new toys.
Silverfish - don't want to derail your thread, but I empathise with your comments about secondary modern education. We had an inspirational head teacher, we studied 5 O levels, and there were frequent trips to encourage an interest in the Arts. But, the first week, aged 11 my class was given detention by a student teacher (noisy in line was the crime) He lectured the assembled group of 11 year olds on the fact that we'd never achieve anything in our lives, we were "failures, and always will be". He pointed to the grammar school across the road, and told us that as we were not bright enough to be there, the best we could hope for was unskilled factory work. Unspeakable little snob. I accept that the subject of grammar schools is controversial but I am so thankful that children today have more equal opportunities than in the days when an average of only 18 - 20% of 11 year olds were given the educational opportunities that open the way to higher education and career options.

Nelliemoser Mon 02-Jun-14 08:35:24

Some of Enid Blyton's character's families had Cooks , who would make buns for tea.

mollie65 Mon 02-Jun-14 07:53:21

would agree with most of the posters - it must be a generational thing.
my particular bugbear is replacing something with a newer 'allegedly better' thing while the old version works perfectly well and is fit for purpose.
to that end I have an old Sony CRT TV with digibox bought on Ebay, drive a 21 year old VW golf, my kitchen mixer is 15 years old, the microwave is at least 10, my sofa 20 years old, my fridge 5 years old - oh and the dog is 10.
I almost never buy furniture or clothes brand new - either sale items or charity shop
and I still look at the reduced to clear / special offer shelf in the

harrigran Sun 01-Jun-14 23:31:09

A year or two ago I found an old newspaper ( local evening one ) from 1940 and there was a column with job advertisements. I was tickled to see an advert for a live in maid for a house opposite where my sister lives now, a fairly ordinary semi detached. Where I lived most of the neighbours had daily ladies who cleaned and cared for the children but no live in staff.

merlotgran Sun 01-Jun-14 22:39:09

They all seemed to have cooks, 'Ana', serving up all kinds of fatty/sugary delights.

How come they didn't have a childhood obesity epidemic? hmm

Must have been all that cycling.

Ana Sun 01-Jun-14 22:36:40

(I know the author of the William books was Richmal Crompton, not Enid Blyton, but round about the same era)

Ana Sun 01-Jun-14 22:35:07

Crikey, I don't remember everyone having servants in the Enid Blyton books I read! Did they really, or do I just not remember because it wasn't in my own experience...?

I seem to think William's family (in the Just William series) had some sort of maid, but not 'servants' as such.

FlicketyB Sun 01-Jun-14 22:25:23

Silverfish Maya Angelou who died this week had a horrendous childhood, including rape and vicious race discrimination, but she never let this hold her back and her death this week has been mourned through out the world.

Try reading her poems 'Phenomenal Woman' and 'Still I rise' and perhaps you too will understand that your past is just that. It doesn't have to shape your future.

There is nothing wrong with factory work. My father was an army officer but my mother always worked, mainly teaching but she also worked in a factory for six months with her sister, whose husband was a senior civil servant. He, after retiring early, worked on the assembly line in a factory making shoes for 5 years. Now does that make them working class, middle class or did they shift between the two?

Nobody is 'better' than someone else because they have a higher income or bigger office, similarly nobody is 'lower' than somebody because they earn less or do physical labour. The two most contemptible people I have ever known were far senior to me and much better off, while among those whom I most respect are people whose jobs and incomes were much more restricted than mine.

Deedaa Sun 01-Jun-14 22:00:41

In defence of Silverfish my DD and I use the group of mothers who congregate outside the post office most mornings, Red Bull in one hand and fag in the other surrounded by a gaggle of toddlers as our bench mark for many things. For all I know they may well be financially better off than me, but I doubt they'll be recycling much and the clothes, toys and buggys all look brand new.

Silverfish Sun 01-Jun-14 20:40:22

My school was an ordinary secondary modern, I failed the 11 plus and our teachers used to say that if we didn't work hard to pass the cse (as it was called then) we would be factory fodder !! . That was scary, I actually once worked as a domestic help when my DD was a baby and my boss was really nice she gave me all sorts of stuff she didn't need and it all helped and I respected her for it. I didn't mind the pinny or the tile 'maid'. So I have experienced what Im talking about.
However my boss kept the tea cupboard locked and she was the lady I know who used to buy reduced stuff in Asda.

annodomini Sun 01-Jun-14 20:38:59

Same here, Soutra - our local Academy was utterly egalitarian! We didn't even look down on the teachers. grin
For the uninitiated, almost all local secondary schools in Scotland have always been Academies.

Eloethan Sun 01-Jun-14 20:08:25

Silverfish I loved the Enid Blyton stories too when I was young, but they reflected the lives of better off children. No doubt those with servants felt the world was a pleasant place, but I wonder if the servants felt the same. If we go back a hundred years or so when many people were "in service", their lives seemed pretty awful - getting up at some unearthly hour and working solidly all day, 6 days a week.

Soutra Sun 01-Jun-14 20:03:30

Thank god the plebeian democratic Scottish High School I went to never mentioned class when they encouraged us to go to university and pursue a career. I imagine most of were brought up in the same decades and "class" did not feature in either my upbringing or my education.

merlotgran Sun 01-Jun-14 19:53:32

I must have gone to some funny schools (twelve in all) because nobody suggested I should be aspiring to a higher social class. Bummer!! I could have married a hooray henry gentleman farmer instead of a miner's son who went through hell and high water for a career in agriculture.

I blame the teachers. grin

annodomini Sun 01-Jun-14 19:51:38

That dreary old Hydra of class has raised another head. As soon as one is cut off, it seems that two more grow!

Soutra Sun 01-Jun-14 19:14:50


Nelliemoser Sun 01-Jun-14 18:53:29

soutra I am worried now. They are all kept in a polythene bag and have probably not seen the light of day or had any food since about 1991.

Silverfish Sun 01-Jun-14 18:44:46

Eloethan, I understand what you are saying but being brought up in the late 50s and 60s, we were constantly reminded at both school and home to be aspiring of a higher social class, one teacher told us that anyone with a tv, fridge and car was middle class, another told us that if we did not want to 'better' ourselves by getting a career job we did not deserve to be in the top stream at school. It stays with you all your life.

All I said was that people of a lower social class did seem to be more wasteful than those more middle class, after all the Queen is noted for parsimony. It seems that those who have more seem to appreciate it less than those who have less or who have struggled.

I loved those kids Enid Blyton stories where everyone had a servant and everyone knew their place. The world seemed a better place then