Q & A: How Do I Punish Him When He Enjoys Spanking?


No I don’t believe you have forgotten your place. You just need a reminder.

I can tell you right off the bat that so many women worry needlessly about this sort of thing.

The first thing we have to think about is that regardless of whether or not someone enjoys spanking, it is still corporal punishment. A spanking, to a submissive man that enjoys it, still serves the purpose of reinforcing the dynamic of the relationship. It helps the Dominant to feel dominant and it helps the submissive to feel submissive to the Dominant. Even if he were to beg you for it and thank you for it afterward, it still has aspects of humiliation to it.

A masochist still feels pain and through receiving pain form their Dominant, they can reenter a submissive mind frame. In this case, corporal punishment can still serve as a corrective tool for slipping behaviors.

But let’s back track for a moment, because not all submissive are like this. In fact, most men that enjoy spanking enjoy it in a sensual sense. It is a level where it is still painful but not to a level that they would deem “too painful”. If you are seeking to use spankings as a punishment for this type of man, you need only step it up a notch. And this can be in intensity or in the implement that you choose. For instance, a man may enjoy being paddled, but would try to avoid the strap or the PVC tube at all costs.

Only if your skepticism still stands at this point, would I suggest that you start getting creative. There are, of course, other ways to discipline your submissive man including giving him rigorous physical tasks, chores and errands, or humiliation methods such as the many variations of corner time.

All other complications aside, it does come down to how you feel about it. If you don’t like the idea of spanking him to a point where he sees it as punishment, then you should turn to other methods. With whatever method you choose, your confidence must not wane. If think it will be effective, then it will.

Thanks for the question

–Miss Ari ^_^

6 thoughts on “Q & A: How Do I Punish Him When He Enjoys Spanking?

  1. herwishmycommand says:

    Very informative. As I mentioned in the previous post, I like the idea of my wife spanking me. I’m not into the pain that much but I LOVE having her dominate me like that.

  2. Guys who have been in a submissive relationship recognize when a spanking stops being arousing and begins to really hurt. It goes with the relationship: if they like arousing spankings, they must accept spankings for punishment too. Guys will remember severe punishments when they are administered for breaks in their submissive relationship with their partner. This will change their behavior.

  3. Reblogged this on dave94015 and commented:
    spankings, even sensual ones, can make a guy “reenter a submissive mind frame”. Women, according to this post, worry needlessly about using spankings as punishment as they should follow their instincts.

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