Male Masturbation Questions & Answers – Anal Masturbation

What is anal masturbation?

Anal masturbation is the practice of stimulating the anal sphincter and prostate using your fingers or other items.

As an introduction to the uninitiated, it is probably best to start with your own fingers to explore the area, get to know what it feels like on the outside, and then gradually start to penetrate the anus. Start with one finger, see how it feels.

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Anal masturbation can be as superficial or as deeply penetrative as you prefer. With more practice, you might start to consider inserting other items. Specially designed sex-toys are ideal because they have a flared end that will prevent them from being lost in the rectum.

Anal masturbation is something you can enjoy on your own, or during a sexual experience with a partner. It is certainly worth doing on your own at first – just to find out what your comfort zones are, and to be able to tell a partner what works for you and what doesn’t.

Always consider the health risks when engaging in anal masturbation – whether you can see any feces or not, there is always the possibility of contamination by fecal bacteria. Use latex gloves and lube to create a barrier between your nails and the lining of the anus. Use sex toys rather than domestic objects – made from plastic or silicone, they will feel much more smooth and natural in the body.

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What is the male g-spot?

The male g-spot is the equivalent to the Skene’s gland in women which is also known as the female g-spot. In other words, the prostate gland. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland which secretes fluids that combine with sperm and fluids from other glands to create semen. By massaging the prostate gland alone, it is possible to cause male sexual arousal, and provide pleasure at a different and even more intense level. You may even achieve an orgasm through stimulation of the male g-spot or prostate.

Does the male g-spot actually exist?

The male g-spot is a fancier or more recognizable name used for the prostate. To be very precise, men don’t have a g-spot like women do, but by massaging the prostate men can achieve similar sexual stimulation and arousal than women do with g-spot.

What is prostate massage?

Prostate massage is the manual stimulation of the prostate gland – that walnut-sized gland just inside the anus and behind the bladder – to encourage the secretion of prostate fluids. It can be achieved either digitally (using a finger), or with a specially designed sex-toy. Using domestic items might be a more convenient option, but carries risks: sharp edges, potential to be sucked into the anus, bacteria transfer from the item used for sexual purpose back into the domestic setting, to name a few.

Prostate massage – also known as prostate milking – can be done for the health benefits it offers. It can increase blood flow to the prostate, and manage prostate inflammation and prostatitis. Prostate massage can also increase testosterone levels in the prostate, and reduce the chances of prostate growth in middle age, when problems relating to the prostate are most likely to occur, due to changing hormone levels.

Prostate massage is also done for sexual stimulation. Because it stimulates the prostate to produce prostate fluids that contribute to ejaculatory semen, it can single-handedly lead to sexual arousal and orgasm. It can be incorporated into your range of sexual practices and serve to make either solo masturbation or partnered sexual experiences more exciting and interesting.

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How to locate your prostate

The prostate gland is actually pretty easy to find. It is a walnut-sized gland and can be located just an inch or two inside the anus by pressing the tip of the finger against the rectal wall, toward the bladder.

Wear a latex glove and lubricate the finger that you intend to use. You don’t want to risk even a small tear on the anus or in the rectum by exposing these relatively fragile areas to sharp nails.

Start by stimulating your anus using a gentle stroking movement with the tip of your finger. This is a highly sensitive area and will need to relax before penetration, for the experience to feel good. When you begin to penetrate the anus, do so slowly with a slight backwards and forwards motion, until your finger is about halfway in. At this point, you can curl your finger toward the front of your body. When you can feel a slightly harder mass, that is likely to be your prostate and you can begin to massage it gently.

Take care when locating and massaging your prostate for the first time. Find a comfortable position if you are on your own, that enables you to reach inside without feeling awkward or strained. Make sure you can completely relax in order to enjoy the experience. It is important that you proceed gently – the prostate, like any part of your body, can be bruised or damaged, so look after it!

A great video guide to Finding Your Prostate by Bob Patrick

How to massage your prostate

Once you or your partner has located your prostate – taking all the necessary precautions (latex glove, lube, trimmed nails, appropriate anal sex toys) – it is simply a matter of curling the finger toward the prostate and rubbing it gently with the pad of your finger. Vary the pressure that you apply, until you find a rhythm that works for you. If you are engaging with a partner, good communication is vital, to achieve the most climactic sensation. Use eye contact, words, or just guide your partner’s hands with yours if you need to.

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What is a prostate massager?

A prostate massager is a sex toy that has been specially designed to stimulate the prostate.

Some products are marketed as medical equipment, and while they have all the same smooth surfaces and are made with the finest plastic materials as a designer sex toy, they lack the aesthetic appeal.

Prostate massagers that are designed as sex toys and marketed as such are more attractively designed. Available in a range of shapes and sizes, and targeting all sorts of sensations, both internally and externally, they offer more sexual stimulation than the more medicalised piece of equipment.

Importantly for a prostate massager, they are designed to be safe, comfortable, and sensual, removing any anxiety that might occur if you were relying on any random object that you might find lying around your house. A potentially embarrassing trip to the emergency department can be avoided by simply investing in the right equipment for the job!

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How to use a prostate massager

Whether you have been gifted a prostate massager by a partner, or you have purchased one for your own solo use, it is important to know how to use it correctly. A few procedural tips before you start will ensure that you get the best enjoyment and pleasure out of your new toy. The guidelines are pretty much the same as those you would use if you were manually stimulating yourself, or being stimulated manually by a partner.

  1. When you get your prostate massager, the first thing you should do is wash it with a mild soap and water. Repeat this after you have finished using it, too, and store it carefully between uses.
  2. Make sure you are completely relaxed and in a safe place, with no interruptions. Take a shower to warm your body up, listen to relaxing music, turn the lights down.
  3. Use plenty lubricant on both the massager and on and around the anus.
  4. Slowly stimulate the perineum and anus in order to relax that area further. Use the massager to do this.
  5. When you are feeling ready and relaxed, begin to insert the massager.
  6. Do so slowly, gently, until you can feel that it is fully inserted and you can feel pressure against your prostate.
  7. Find the rhythm and pressure that you find most stimulating. Change it up and down, depending on your level of arousal.
  8. Play around with how it feels – let your body dictate what will happen to the massager, or take control of it yourself. With the right toy, you should be safe to allow it to be drawn into the rectum – a flared end or a strap or handle will prevent it from being lost up there.

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What are the best prostate sex toys?

There are more prostate sex toys available for you to choose from than you could possibly count. When the choices appear limitless, it becomes really difficult to decide what to get. If you narrow it down into some basic must-haves, it doesn’t seem so big a deal.

Non-vibrating prostate massagers

This is the traditional option, and most massagers are non-vibrating. However, you can choose from stainless steel, glass, silicone, or plastic versions. Not only do they look great, but they are also designed with your anatomy in mind so the chances are pretty high that they will hit the spot with little effort.

Stainless steel massagers are the most durable and one might last you a whole lifetime, especially if it is a medical grade polished version. They are easy to clean so if you are big on maintaining a sterile environment, you’ll love this. Also, you can play around with temperature stimulation, by heating or cooling your stainless steel massager.

Glass is also durable and easy to clean. Pyrex glass toys are also durable are very hard to break, and therefore safe to use.

Silicone is the newest material on the market, known for its softness and flexibility. This is the most comfortable and user-friendly material on the market.

Electric stimulation is an alternative means of stimulating the prostate using an electric current that, when it comes into contact with the prostate will make it tingle in an unusual and sensual way.

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Vibrating prostate massagers

Do you want a toy that vibrates? A vibrating massager just adds that extra level of sensation which can be absolutely necessary to some, and not so much to others.

Do you want to be able to control your vibrator at the point of contact – maybe you feel that this is more intimate and instantaneous? Or are you a technophile and want something that has wireless remote control? Maybe you like the idea of a partner controlling your level of stimulation?

A vibrating massager is made in either light plastic material which has a limited range of flexibility, or if you’d prefer optimum comfort and flexibility, silicone is the way to go.

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Is prostate massage beneficial?

Prostate massage can be very beneficial in several different ways. Essentially, what it does is encourage blood flow to the prostate. This can be a great way of targeting erectile dysfunction by introducing blood flow to the male reproductive glands and organ. It also encourages the flow of prostate fluid into the penis, leading to improved function.

If you are suffering from an inflamed or painful prostate gland, stimulation to the area can reduce swelling by facilitating the flow of blood and other fluids from the prostate and into the penis where they can be eliminated by ejaculation.

The subsidiary effects of an inflamed prostate – difficulty or painful urination – can also be addressed through prostate massage; and in men who have an enlarged prostate, massage can also reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer.

Is prostate massage safe?

Prostate massage, practiced responsibly, is quite safe. Good hygiene, plenty of lubrication, and a basic understanding of and respect for the human anatomy can minimise most risk factors. If you are anxious about causing any damage to the area or self-conscious about probing taboo anatomical regions, you can limit yourself to external massage on the perineum just prior to an orgasm.

What is anal douching?

Anal douching (also called rectal douching) is the practice of cleaning the rectum with water. The main reason for this is hygiene before anal sex or masturbation. If you are a fan of prostate play then douching reduces the likelihood of poop on your playthings!

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What is a butt plug?

​Usually diamond shaped and with a flared end, a butt plug is a sex toy that can be inserted into the anus where it creates an extra sensation of pressure in the genital area. This can heighten the intensity of the sexual experience, and alter it, by stimulating other erogenous zones, such as the male g-spot or prostate gland.

The butt plug is designed to be inserted into the anus and left in place, with the sphincter muscle being used to control any movement or change in sensation, so that stimulation of other areas using hands and fingers can continue. The flared end ensures that the entire toy is not swallowed by the anus, causing an anxious interruption to sexual enjoyment.​

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How do you use a butt plug?

If you are not in the habit of stimulating the anus, or if you have only used fingers before, start with the smallest size you can find – they range in length and girth, so short and slim to start with, until you start to get used to the feeling. Before you insert it, make sure it is clean, and use plenty of lube so that it slides in nice and easy. Once in, you can relax and focus on pleasuring other areas of your body.

​When you have finished using your butt plug, wash it thoroughly. If you want to give the toy a thorough sanitation, many sex toys can be sterilized by immersing it in boiling water for several minutes.

What are the different kinds of butt plugs?

​When buying a butt plug there are a lot of options available. For example, you can find hundreds of different butt plugs in PinkCherry’s butt plug catalog.

Butt plugs come in all shapes and sizes, a range of fabulous colours, and some are so cool they look like a sculpture you could even display as an ornament when you are not using it! To make your decision easier, we have narrowed it down to three simple considerations.

  • ​How big do you want it? If you are a beginner in the world of anal pleasure, you should go for something maybe the length and width of a finger or two. Get used to that size first – you will get more pleasure, and your interest will be piqued. If you go for something a little too big, you might just be put off forever, and that would be no fun for you.
  • The shape of the butt plug is important too. Something smooth and slightly curved will hit all the right spots, or you can try something that has a series of bumps or grooves, similar to the idea of anal beads, which will provide repetitive stimulation.
  • Consider the material that your butt plug is made from. Stainless steel is beautiful, easy to clean, lasts forever. Silicone is also easy to clean, and it feels softer and has less resistance. For a cheaper option, still functional but not so attractive, try something made from hard plastic.
  • Lastly, you might also want to decide whether a vibrating butt plug is for you. How sensitive is your anus? Can you handle that level of extra stimulation? This might be a next level option, for the seasoned user.

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