How can I be a better girlfriend?

Whenever I go out with a guy, I always end up ignoring him, and he breaks up with me in a week. My longest relationship was three weeks! How can I become a better girlfriend?

Claire, 17, New York

The question isn't how you can become a better girlfriend — it's, why do you ignore the guys you're dating? It sounds to us like you're not ready for a relationship. Maybe it's because you haven't found someone you truly want to be around, or perhaps it's because you'd still like to be single and independent. The truth is, if you were truly into the guy you were dating, you'd want to be around him and pay attention to him practically all the time (at least in the beginning!). So take this as a sign that something's not right. Don't keep telling yourself that you're a bad girlfriend or letting your previous dating style define the way you'll be in the future. Take some time off from dating and focus on what you're looking for in a guy. Write it down on paper if you have to! That way, when the right one for you comes along, you'll be ready. And we promise you won't want to ignore him!

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