*Taboo Topics: Abuse

Thursday, November 08, 2018
Domestic abuse can still be a taboo topic, a lot of the time because people don’t really understand what it can often be. It’s easy to think that domestic abuse is name calling or getting physically hit, but there are so many other ways a person in a relationship can be abused by their partner. When we have a better understanding of these different types, it might encourage more conversation around it. And in speaking about it more you might help someone without realising, letting them know that what they’re going through isn’t because of them and it’s something that they can walk away from.

Physical abuse is the one that we relatively think of first when we hear the word abuse. And whilst it can often include actions like hitting, slapping, biting or strangling, it can also include physical restraints or misusing medication.

Verbal abuse 
The signs of verbal abuse can sometimes be harder to spot than those of physical abuse, and sometimes this emotional abuse can take longer to heal as the abuser has worn down their victim over time to make them really believe what they’re being told. It can be things like being told they’re ugly, stupid or worthless.

Psychological abuse 
Psychological abuse is another type that can be harder to spot, and over time it wears down the victim and makes them feel isolated. It can often make the victim feel like they’re losing their mind, as the abuser does small things like moving things like keys or handbags, denying things have happened, threats of abandonment, depriving them of contact, etc. This often leads to the victim relying on their abuser more than ever because they don’t feel like they can trust their own judgement.

Most abuse comes down to power and being able to control the victim, and for some that even means financial abuse. That can mean controlling the budget of the household, or even not letting the victim have access to their own money, or stopping them from earning their own. This can often be a reason why some victims can’t leave an abusive relationship, because they don’t think they’ll have the funds to survive.

However, it’s important to know that victims of abuse could be entitled to a claim of compensation. CICA UK helps victims of abuse to claim for compensation under the government scheme, so whether they have control of their finances or not, they’ll have money they need to get back on their feet.

Hopefully this post isn't triggering for anyone! Please DM or email me to talk - or contact a helpline or the authorities.

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  1. I feel like verbal abuse is the hardest to understand I was in a verbally abusive relationship but never saw it until it was over.

  2. Really helpful and informative post, abuse comes in so many different forms and it can be hard to recognise sometimes, I think you handled this topic sensitively and perfectly. Great job xxx

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin

  3. Abuse is very hard to talk about! This is very informative x

    Joyce | http://www.joycelauofficial.com/

  4. Some abuse isn’t as easy to see, like verbal abuse and I am glad there are organisations out there which can help x

  5. Abuse is such a hard topic to talk about, but such an important one!

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

  6. I've been emotionally abused and it's horrible. You don't realise the situation you're in until you're out of it.

    Gemma Louise

  7. Abuse is such a horrible yet important topic to discuss! Couldn't agree more with everything you have said about it - it can be so damaging :(

    Erin || MakeErinOver

  8. There are so many types of abuse, I'm glad it's starting to become we can talk about more openly x

  9. This is a very important topic to talk about. Thanks for sharing.

  10. Abuse presents itself in such a variety of ways, it's important to know the signs.


  11. I feel like aside from physical abuse, the others are so hard to identify, and most importantly act on.

  12. Thanks for sharing this post. Sometimes I think people don’t look beyond physical abuse so it’s good to know the other types. If it only helps one person it’s worth it.

  13. I think it's great that you've published this for someone else as it will help a lot of people. 💜✨

    With love, Alisha Valerie x

  14. There are so many different forms of abuse and it's definitely important to talk about it, even though it's extremely hard xo

    Char | www.charslitleblog.co.uk

  15. So important to talk about - thanks for sharing xx

  16. Such a vital topic to talk about! xx


