Is this who we are?







I am who I am.



Holy Hell….

I am driven by passion.  I speak out about things that matter to me and things that bubble up to where I cannot contain them or I am going to explode.  A conversation that I have to walk away from sometimes is parenting, a subject in which I am no expert other than being a parent, an arena I hold no degrees in and by far know I am not perfect in.  But here is my trigger…permissive parenting.

I have two girls, in case you are just reading me for the first time, they are good girls very different and pretty incredible in my opinion.  I am their mother after all.  I will lift them up to be strong and know who they are as people, as women, as humans.  I will teach them that “a person is a person no matter how small” ideal, in every aspect.  You judge people by the way they treat other people.  Simple right.  I think so.  It’s important to not make others who are different than you feel like they are less than because of it.  So I am what others would call a generally open person.

I believe that kids need to be taught about and be held accountable for their actions, good and bad.  I believe that children don’t have the capability to make every choice they are given to make.  They simply don’t have the tools yet.  They don’t have impulse control yet.   They will choose the thing that they want right now, that feels good and their friends are doing first without thinking about the consequences that will inevitably come tomorrow.  It’s part of being a kid, that’s why they have parents.

I am who I am.


Can’t stop this feeling…





Stop telling me it’s going to be OK.




I am grabbing my broom and turning the music up.

I am who I am.



HELP WANTED:  At least 38 Electoral Voters needed to vote against their states popular vote.  If you believe that our Country is at risk of catapulting itself backwards 60+ years due to extreme ignorance, bigotry, racism, sexism, narcissistic persoanlity disorder, sexually predatory behavior and more…Please vote for Hillary on Dec 19.

Or something like this.  Are ads being put up?  Are parties being help to send letters, sign petitions, peacefully demonstrate, is social media condemning the flip-flopping that is already happening and the proposed cabinet choices.  Are we investigating the Putin claim that they were in touch with the RNC Campaign despite the nominees claims that isn’t the case?  Hmmmm.  Not enough…Are the Electoral Voters looking at the comments and replies and re-posts about how our everyday world is already changing 7 days into this potential presidency.

As if the proposed presidential candidate wasn’t embarrassing enough let’s check out the potential VP.  Have they seen Mike Pence’s record in his own state?  While he has put lots of effort into education it seems to be another platform for his cabinet to have a monopoly of power in the public education sector.  He believes that smoking does not cause cancer.  He has stated that Indiana is a pro-coal state and has worked to repeal renewable energy efforts.  Signed a law blocking local government from offering higher wages and better benefits than that which was required by law.  He is opposed to gay rights and the LGBT communities. Oh and there’s the religious Restoration Act.   Read for yourself.  There is lots more than Wikipedia to inform you.  Educate yourself.

The threat is real and imminent.  The threat is to NATO, Climate Initiatives, the 2nd amendment, our freedom to protest and speak without censorship, our safety as citizens who are women, black, latino, biracial, Gay, trans, have an opinion and morals.  There is so much that we value that is being threatened.

The need is a minimum of 38 Electoral Voters.  These voters need to become faithless electors and go against their party affiliation in their state.  What are you doing to make sure that they know that?  Here is a little bit of info to help…These are states that can make a difference and the electoral voters are not bound in anyway to vote the way the state voted.

Pennsylvania (20 electoral votes) voted 48%DT  47% Hillary

Arizona (11 electoral votes) voted 49% DT   47% Hillary

Im going to keep saying we need a minimum of 38.

South Dakota
North Dakota
West Virginia

This Election has made history.  In ways that we weren’t expecting.  Hanging your hat on the idea that 40 voters will open their hearts to see that DT is a change from the norm, which we need, but not in the right direction, is idealistic at best but definitely possible.  When the change that he is planing will set our country back to the early 20th Century, when it will create a sense of disconnect and fear for more than half of the population, when it is giving the voice to the closet racists and misogynists.  So AFFECT CHANGE with action.

If you have the terrible job of being an electoral voter and you can see the rhetoric is scary and you are in a state that is red and know what the right thing to do is do it!  You are anonymous.  No one will target you.  Vote for Hillary and Tim Kaine.  Help our Country stay a world leader.  The alternative that is unfolding now and it is a catastrophic disaster.  Don’t take my word for it read, read, read.  From all sources and all points of views.  I have and the conclusion is sobering and scarier than anything Hollywood can come up with.   You are the system of checks and balances when we make a mistake of this magnitude.  When our very “inalienable rights” are being threatened by someone who represents fear, divisiveness, chaos.  You must set it right…YOU MUST VOTE AGAINST THAT.  PLEASE.

Holding hope.  I Am Who I Am.

Below are some links to articles…Educate yourself in every possible way.

Save Your Safety Pins, White Friends. You Could Have Voted Safety.

President Who?










228 (232 Hilary Clinton

despite the popular vote:

59,938,290 Hilary Clinton

59,704,886 DT



This has happened 4 times our past history.


1876: Rutherford B. Hayes over Samuel J Tilden

1888: Benjamin Harrison over Grover Cleaveland

2000: George W. Bush over Al Gore



Florida (29) 47.8% 49.1% Elector bound to party

Michigan (16) 47.3% 47.6% Elector bound to party


Wisconsin (10) 46.9% 47.9% Elector bound to party




I am what I am.





They were Sons.

They were Daughters.

They were Fathers.

They were Mothers.

They were Godmothers.

They were Godfathers.

They were Uncles.

They were Aunts.

They were Cousins.

They were Husbands.

They were Wives.

They were Friends.

They were Colleagues.

They were Girlfriends .

They were Boyfriends.

They were Acquaintances

They were People that you stood in line with in the supermarket.

They were Creative.

They were at the most basic level Human.

Now they do not exist.

They do not exist in Orlando.

They do not exist in Sandy Hook.

They do not exist in Aurora.


All of the others they do not exist.

My heart is heavy for the people left behind, the collateral damage.  We grieve each of those people and we sit with heavy hearts as their deaths are politicized and turned into meaningless arguments for people who care only about their own agendas.

That is not happening here.  We hear you and in a comparatively, infinitesimally small way feel you, you the collateral damage, you who are left behind to pick up the pieces, you who had those who died in your phone books, on your mantles and in your hearts.

I carry you with me when I look at my children.  You are in the back of my throat as I try to find an explanation for these acts, because there is no explanation.  I look at my babies and I hope that as I kiss them goodbye I get to see them again at the end of the day.   When I do, I feel lucky and I hope that by continuing to love them and by continuing to live and trying to make lives better, I in some way am honoring those you lost.  Those we lost.

The most important label each person who died had, the only one that really matters is one…Human.

I Will Not Be Silent Anymore.  I am who I am.


Blind or Just Stupid?

stu·pid (ˈst(y)o͞opəd/) adjective
1. lacking intelligence or common sense

rac·ist (ˈrāsəst/) noun



Simple and content, I am who I am.