

39 comments on “Can my boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse tell that I’ve hacked into their account?”

  1. After a 35yr career in law enforcement I can assure you that a very large percentage of our population only respect personal rights when they are their own. Many feel if they are the first to complain society should take their side against the other party. Many expect others, including the police, to commit criminal acts because they ask them to. Few even consider our laws and institutions should protect and serve every member not just a select few. One cynical old man.

  2. Haha…this is hilarious…


    This post reminds me of the HP Dunn scandal.{link no longer available, removed}



      Thank you.

    • I’m 10 years late with my comment. Hopefully, you’re still around. I AM SOOOO TEMPTED to hack into someone’s email who is the defendant in my Mother’s eviction case. The dude has not paid her any rent money in a year and is still squatting at her house, after installing, according to him, a $400K in-ground pool. (She lives in a different home, miles away.) The judge keeps allowing his side to continue the case over and over. At the last hearing, he said that his daughter was assaulted on her school campus last Fall, and that he was not there for two months. We think that was a lie to get sympathy from the Judge, because this was the first we heard about it. In fact, I may have some pictures that I took last Fall, where his 18-wheeler is on the property, which he usually takes when he goes out of town.

      • You would then be wrong to hack into his account. Doesn’t matter if you feel justified, you would now be the perpetrator.

    ….my wife knows what I do online anyway.








  7. I’m not a lawyer, and that’s exactly who you should be speaking to. Since you’re in process on your divorce, I’d start with your attorney.






  12. Hey Sophie,



    – Leo




    • Matt’s post is quite accurate. And as he previously stated, the digital footprints can easily be tracked back to you. Especially if you use your own phone or computer. If you use theirs, there might be reasonable doubt as to who was using the phone or machine at the time in question. Just make sure not to check your own email or accounts before or after accessing theirs. Or really don’t EVER do anything that would indicate it’s you on the device (no searches for things such as this article or for a friend’s address or anything that can be linked to you).

      That being said, here’s a better idea. If you confront the possible cheater and they deny any wrongdoing, there is a very simple solution to the problem: ask them to agree to not lock their phone or computer accounts (or to voluntarily give you the keys) for a week whenever you ask and without getting mad or picking a fight. And give them your word that after that week, if nothing fishy seems to be going on, you will drop the accusations and not question them again about it. And mean it obviously as well. If they are being honest and truly want to be in the relationship with you, there is no reason why they shouldn’t want to agree to your terms because after all, people who are telling the truth want everyone to know they are telling the truth! They don’t want you thinking otherwise and telling other people you’re this, that or the other. Honest people want to get the facts out there because it shows them in a positive light. Again, no reason not to.

      On the other hand, if they get super defensive and try to come up with every excuse known to man to avoid this transparency, then those actions in and of themselves just provided you with the answers you need to make an informed decision to kick their ass to the curb. And even if you find out later they weren’t doing what you thought they were, odds are they were just doing something you hadn’t thought of at the time because why else would they insist on being so secretive knowing that it would spell the end of the relationship?? They obviously didn’t care enough about you or have enough respect for you to spend a whole 7 days earning your trust and SHOWING you why you should believe in them.

      *** Please note, however, that this tactic is intended as a ONE TIME EVENT to determine if the person is trustworthy and committed to the relationship and should only be used when a fairly substantial amount of odd behavior or reasonable suspicion is present to warrant such action. And once that week is up, you have an obligation to give them the benefit of the doubt and not question them at all going forward. And if at some point in the future things start to appear questionable again, it’s time to end the relationship because the trust will obviously never truly be there like it should be. And trust is the very foundation of EVERY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP whether it’s romantic, platonic, work related or whatever. It is for me anyway. Good luck out there everyone! And never be afraid to walk away if something doesn’t feel right!













  28. Mr. Leo . thank you for the work that you have done to ed. me in this computer world that i don’t know very much about. so far you have made it easy for me to understand. thank you so much. looking toward my first news letter. a real good job your doing for a lot of us. till later thanks dan t.

  29. The notion of actually getting charges to stick on this are absolutely outrageous. Assuming that you’re not using your own computers hardware MAC address, there would be hardly any solid, legitimate evidence against this person other than literally forwarding it to their own email. Given that you could easily argue that someone else had been at your house accessing it, who had that as their MAC address(Even if it’s an illegitimate one), As IP address order is awful and unreliable when you have two individuals under the same roof as the defendant and plaintiff.

    Your ISP wouldn’t pose any actual risk to you, and anyone who sits there and tells you that your service provider is what is going to get you caught, is probably not well qualified in even the slightest manner. You should be more concerned about the logs on xxx website or email provider. Those would show you forwarding the emails to your own email, which has your IP linked to it. Ironically even that would be fairly circumstantial evidence.

    TLDR; You’re not at any real risk
    But morally you’re at a low.

  30. I’m closing comments on this article because it seems to have become a magnet for spammers, scammers, and hackers trying to advertise assorted hacking services.

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