Tuesday, January 24, 2012

How To Be The Woman Men Adore And Never Want To Leave

Want To Be The Woman Men Adore And Never Want To Leave?

Many women dream of becoming the woman men adore and never want to leave.  But just as many women go about it in the wrong way and end up losing one guy after another.  What is the secret? 

The first thing you have to do is totally change your way of thinking.  Our society has done a huge disservice to men and women by creating unrealistic expectations of what men and women should be.

For example, for most of our history we have been taught that men are overly sexual and that they really only want sex.  We've been led to believe that if we give our man enough sex he'll love us forever and never leave.  That is a complete myth!

Yes men like sex, but surprise, so do women! Women have just as high a sex drive as men but the difference is our society has encouraged men to follow their sex drive while women have been taught that 'good girls' will wait until they're married.  The result?  Men judge their 'manliness' on the number of conquests they make and women are frustrated that they are forced to put their needs on hold (although these days this is not so much the case!)

So if you want to keep your man happy you need to get over the idea that he needs sex all the time or that he needs it more than you.  Men and women really aren't that different in what they need and want from a relationship.  What they both really want is connection.

As humans we all have a social need to feel connected to others.  If you can remember that and base your relationship on that fact you will have a great chance of making your man love you forever.

A connection can be made emotionally, spiritually, and sexually.  The more of these types of connections you and your man have the stronger your relationship will be.  If you want to keep him in love with you, stay in love with yourself.  Don't get side- tracked and put all your own interests and desires on hold to accommodate your man.  Most men will be flattered with that in the short term but in the long run they'll get bored.

After all, you have to remember who you were when you met.  He was attracted to that person so why would you change and become some boring, clingy person now? 

The women men adore and never want to leave knows all of these things.  She gives her man the connection he needs while keeping her own identity intact.  She doesn't put his needs above hers, but she lets him know that she is his biggest fan and loves and accepts him unconditionally.