Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

There are many different kinds of intelligence and how they are discovered and put into practice is all upon us. While most of you might be familiar with Intelligence Quotient, there are other types of intelligence that we are yet to put into practice. IQ is our ability to memorize, store and retrieve information from our memory as well as logical reasoning.

EQ, famously researched by author Daniel Golman plays a bigger role both in leadership development and personal growth. The most avid definition of emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand and manage our own emotions or recognize understand and influence other people’s emotions.

The CQ, curiosity intelligence, refers to one’s ability to have a powerful motivation to learn something. Call it curiosity in layman’s language. For example that curiosity that you have to learn French or German language. I have developed CQ lately in coding using python language and it’s coming in good time with my EQ growing.

Let’s deep dive into EQ. We are emotional creatures who often make decisions and respond to stimuli based on our emotions. As a result, our ability to grow our emotional intelligence has an enormous impact on our relationships, how we make decisions and create opportunities. During my time at the African Leadership, I got the opportunity to learn a few fundamentals of EQ and I will try to share them with you.



Empathy is best cultivated and learned through experiences.

2. Self-awareness

Another important factor of EQ is self-awareness. This is the art of understanding yourself, recognizing what stimuli you’re facing and then preparing for how to manage yourself both in a proactive and reactive manner. Although controlling the external factors can be a bit challenging, asking what instead of why can always save the day as,

Dr. Tasha Eurich puts forth:


3. Curiosity


A curious person who’s willing to learn always carries with them a success story be it 5 or 10 years to come. When your curious and your passionate, and you are driven to be your best version, your antennae are up to things you love, to wanting to grow and learn more.

According to the Harvard Business Review, individuals with higher CQ are generally more tolerant of ambiguity. This nuanced, sophisticated, subtle thinking style defines the very essence of complexity.

4. Analytical Mind


5. Belief


Faith alone will not help you. It takes action, of course. But when you combine faith with powerful values like hard work, perseverance and a positive attitude, you have formed the foundation of a champion. Every great leader and thinker uses faith, either in a practical context, emotionally and certainly spiritually.

Published by Apparently Lazo

Digital Marketing Coach- Nairobi Kenya.

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