Dear Ann Landers: I am a 17-year-old boy. I am not a prude or a nerd, but one thing some girls are doing lately really bothers me. They are wearing low-rise jeans with high-rise underwear so that the waistband of their panties is visible.

I have nothing against low-rise jeans, but showing off underwear is gross. I have asked several girls about this, and they all agreed that it's disgusting. I also asked some guys and even the crudest dude I know said it didn't do a thing for him. Please let the girls know it's not just their parents who are bothered. Their peers don't want to see their underwear either. - R.M., Long Beach, Calif.

Dear R.M.: Wow, times have changed! I remember when a girl was embarrassed if her slip showed, and now they are showing off their underwear. You've made the point that it's gross, and I agree.

Dear Ann Landers: You missed an important part of the message when you advised "Silently Weeping in Kansas" to remember the good things about her 50-year marriage to "Wilmer." After he died, she found condoms in his wallet and pornography in his desk drawers.

Her husband probably had 50 years of hearing, "Not tonight, honey." Wilmer probably decided to go elsewhere to satisfy his sexual appetite, and who can blame him?

Men who do not get sexual satisfaction at home will find it somewhere else. Wives who don't want their husbands to stray should not provide them with a good excuse to do so. - Forty Years of Excuses in Anchorage, Alaska

Dear Alaska: You certainly sound like a man who speaks from experience. Thank you on behalf of all my male readers who are frozen out.

Dear Ann Landers: I have been reading your column for a long time and notice that you keep telling both women and men to do volunteer work. I wonder how much volunteer work YOU did before you became Ann Landers. - A Reader in Sullivan, Mo.

Dear Mo.: My sister, Dear Abby, and I put in over 5,000 hours as Gray Ladies at Lutheran Hospital in Eau Claire, Wis., between 1945 and 1955. And we enjoyed every minute of it.


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