Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

One of the most common questions we’re ever asked is: “What if my partner and I aren’t compatible?”
It’s a question that stumps nearly everyone, whether you’re the one asking it, or you’re a helpful soul trying to answer it for someone.

And it’s a dangerous question. Let me explain why.

A person asking that question is looking for a way out. They’ve already struggled with the relationship, felt some hope, seen the backsliding, had the tough conversations (or tough silences) and felt so different from their partner that at some point it seems better to just ask: “Is it even worth it? I mean, what if we’re just too different?”
As soon as you ask that question, your brain does a “Google search” of every moment your partner ever felt different from you -and there’s a lot of them! Your mind draws a conclusion, and…
Sound familiar?

Of course it does. Break-ups tend to follow a predictable pattern. And the pain of an unhappy relationship is a very real thing! But does the pain of a car crash prove that the car was no good?

So here’s the answer: Yes, it’s possible that some couples are truly incompatible and shouldn’t be together. However… by asking this question YOU will never find out whether YOU were compatible.

Most couples break up simply because of feeling hurt, frustrated, and misunderstood. They never live up to their potential, so when they split they suffer doubts and regrets forever, that nagging question: “What if we had just…?”
So, then. If you’re wondering about your relationship, what can you do? Now, that’s a great question with a very real solution.

You’re about to see Tony working with a young man named Neil. Neil was a young, handsome, and energetic ad executive – as well as a husband and proud father of a four-year-old daughter. The problem was, his wife was on the verge of kicking him out. Why? They had a disagreement that had reached boiling point.

Neil’s question for Tony was, “What if we don’t have anything in common anymore?”

Tony gave Neil a step-by-step process to follow when he got home. Neil followed it and within weeks his relationship was happy again, and now they’re living at their true potential – loving, sexy, and fulfilled.

The process Tony gave Neil is one of the most effective strategies we have. It’s called the 90-Day Challenge. You will understand your relationship in a whole new way, and you’ll know for sure whether or not you’re compatible. We prescribe this process to clients several times a week.


Mark Peysha , CEO,  Robbins-Madanes Training

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