Blood Milk Jewels

The Grief Moth. Small Ring Version.


Blood Milk Jewels

The Grief Moth. Small Ring Version.


Inspired by the Amazonian moths that drink the tears of sleeping birds, an entirely fictional “Grief” moth has been given wings patterned with tears representing a personal carrier of your intense feelings: sadness, rage {I tear up when I’m searing mad}, the complex feels of the long dance with grief, the feelings of not being enough, the murky and raw feelings that come along with doing shadow work, the emotional turbulence when you time travel to your childhood,  or when memories unearth at bedtime despite you having buried them deep in your personal underworld, the melancholia that seems to strike unexpectedly, like lightning, the feeling/s of _____________.

A companion during shadow work, threshold crossing, meditation, journeys to the void/underworld …..A touchstone, a bookmark

The mystery of transformation and all its nuances are wrapped up in the symbology of the moth: during its time in its chrysalis, its body completely liquefies, wholly transforming itself into a new, different body, all the while retaining its memories. It is an ancient creature, millions of years older than the butterfly and usually nocturnal; using the glow of the moon and stars as its guiding light.

As (mostly) nocturnal beings, Moths are often associated with the mystery, magic, and dream like quality of the Night. This nocturnality associates Moth (as well as Spider, Snake, Scorpion) with the Shadow Self. The Shadow Self is a concept via Carl Jung and represents the repressed parts of our psyche, the traits that are societally/culturally deemed ‘bad’ or ‘unacceptable’ (anger, sadness, grief, selfishness, pettiness, etc.) The shadow is composed of all of the disowned and unwanted parts of yourself that you press down into the unconscious. Shadow work – the process of identifying (rather than projecting onto others) these traits and feelings is messy, brutal, lifelong work. There are romantic aspects to it (for me, the dream of being whole), but it also has a raw quality, akin to those traumatic first days of new grief. Jung emphasizes the importance of integrating the shadow more consciously into ourselves – a way of recognizing, accepting and transforming these ‘horrors’ hidden within ourselves. As a balm / protective talisman, our Grief Moth helps carry these ‘shadow feelings’ for its wearer.

Seen here in it’s smaller form, this listing is for one grief moth paired with our split bone band in the size of your choosing. This solid sterling silver ring is oxidized to achieve our favorite shade of stormy gray and then hand finished to reveal the bright luminous silver highlights.


-36mm tall

-28mm at it’s widest

-solid sterling silver



