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Would a child care swap work for your family? If you only need a couple of hours of care, you could possibly alternate with another family.
Sometimes there are free counselling services.  Even toll free crisis help lines can help. If its toll free it doesn't matter that its in your city/town. You can ask a crisis line worker if they know of any free counselling services.  Also transition houses for women leaving abusive relationships sometimes know about free resources that might help.
I tried to work 1/2 time and do fulltime school my first semester of graduate school, while I had 2 children. It turned out not to work very well. I had to cut back, and I decided to do school 1/2 time as well. That has been far more manageable. It will take longer, but I just wasn't coping with the various pulls on my time/energy.  Now I am hoping to complete my next semester before giving birth. I have no idea what happens if I give birth part way through a semester -...
"Everywhere Babies" is a great book for babies that depicts a range of families.  It is the only baby book (hard board book) that I know of that is inclusive. Not radical per se, but it does illustrate queer culture to babies.
I enjoyed the book "10,000 dresses".  It's about a little girl who loves dresses. The adults in the book always use masculine pronouns when talking about her but the narration of her is in the feminine. Ultimately she does meet a friend who accepts her for herself and her love of dresses.
I am 13 weeks, and I haven't felt anything but do not expect to either yet.  I just looked up my pregnancy journal from last time and I felt my daughter at 19 weeks but was unsure as she was my first.  However, it was quite a bit later that my partner felt her, since it was more like I felt in on the inside.  Then I took a plane trip at 20 weeks, and it was on the plane that I was absolutely positive that it was movement, because she was so active.  
My partner and I used a known donor, and he is not on the birth certificate for our daughter, only my partner and I. There was no need for an adoption.  The two names we provided the government were accepted as her parents. 
My partner and I used sperm from our friend, and my partner and I are both listed on the birth certificate for our daughter from birth.  We did not have to do a second parent adoption or anything. We just submitted our names as her parents, no questions asked.
I feel like I know of many parents who had a better second sleeper. I know of far fewer (if any) who had a far worse time the next time around. My grandmother had seven kids.  She said the first one slept so poorly that she took him to a sleep specialist. I can't help but wonder if there are indeed subtle changes that occur with sleep and subsequent children. Are parents just more relaxed and confident and that affects the sleep of their children?  I know with my...
I am not sure if organizing is the answer or negotiating with your partner is.  I think there will probably be an age when your youngest is 3 years old when it will be far easier to keep items on different floors, but until then it is a constant time-consuming exercise.  If I was in a similar situation as yours and my partner felt so strongly, I would try and put the onus back on him a bit. Maybe he could design an organization system, teach the kids how to use it, and...
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