10 Reasons To Break Up With Him Now

Is it time to kick your boyfriend to the curb? Below are ten reasons to break things off right now.

Woman feeling distant from man

1. You're Bored

While the excitement of a new relationship is bound to fizzle, no matter who you're with, boredom is a sure sign that a break-up is impending, especially if you are exerting a lot of time and effort into the relationship, trying to make it work.

2. Your Friends and Family Don't Like Him

Your friends and family shouldn't be the decision-makers in your life; however, if they unanimously hate your boyfriend for valid reasons, it could be a big, red flag that he is not the right guy for you.

3. You Have Money Issues

Money problems, especially during a recession, aren't an uncommon challenge for couples to face. However, if you aren't financially compatible i.e. if one of you is a spender of Confessions of a Shopaholic-proportions and the other is determined to build a nest egg, it could spell doom for the relationship.

4. Everything He Does Irritates You

Sometimes it's not one big thing, but a series of small annoyances that start the ball rolling towards Breakupville. The way he smacked his lips together or his Snoop Dog cell phone ring tone may have endeared you to him at the beginning, but do you now find them irritating?

5. Your Sex Life Has Become Non-Existent

When you first met, you couldn't keep apart from each other, but, if now the only physical interaction you have is when you accidentally brush against each other in the bathroom, it's time to call a meeting about the status of your couplehood.

6. You Fight All The Time

Fighting is the number one warning sign that a break-up is not only good, but necessary as well. Constant fighting tends to escalate over time and lead the relationship down a dangerous road, especially if the fights become physical.

7. You Feel Suffocated

The expression "joined at the hip" may sound cutesy, but the reality of a controlling, co-dependent boyfriend is not. Each person in a relationship needs space and freedom to pursue his or her own interests, and, if you don't have that, it's time to vamoose.

8. You Can't Imagine a Future Together

The future may seem a long ways away, but if you dream of having a large house in the suburbs and three kids, and he's content to stay single and play the field for as long as possible, it may be wise to cut the cord now.

9. He's Lied or Cheated

No matter how many times he's apologized or whatever rationale he used to justify it, if your man has lied or cheated in the past, he's likely to do it again.

10. You Think You Can Do Better

Ultimately, you know it's time to break-up when a little voice inside your head whispers, "You can do better." Always trust your gut instinct when it comes to matters of the heart; it will rarely steer you wrong.

More advice on break-ups:

How to break up with him
Breaking up: Ways to cut your losses and move on


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Comments on "Is it time to break up with him?"

Tina August 13, 2012 | 4:03 PM

I completely agree that these problems aren't a reason to break up with someone. To make a relationship work, you have these problems but communicate and work through them. If you can't communicate, THEN break it off. So what you disagree about money or ...ALL couples do!! The key is compromise.

Shannon July 24, 2012 | 1:33 PM

I don't agree with most of these points. All couples have money issues, issues, and boredom! Spice things up and figure out ways to work through your problems, instead of giving up on the relationship all together.

Amanda October 22, 2009 | 6:06 PM

This is a bunch of bull. Just because a relationship can get dull at some points doesn't mean you should break it off. Same goes for , it's going to ebb and flow. Ask the experts.

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