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36 M San Diego, CA

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Last Online
Jun 19
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and very serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, and might want more
Has dogs and likes cats

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Hey hey!

100% ENFP

So. I am looking for my person. Simple as that. Im originally from LA, but over the last 10 years, lived in NYC for 7 and San Diego for 3. Just moved back from St. Louis MO, where I was for a whole 8 months. (Ha) And why, you ask? I have an 9 year old daughter there who needs her dad in her life. Shes great, so giving up the sun, beach and mountains of San Diego was worth but, but lucky for me, he and her mom wanna move, too - YES!

So, I work[professionally] on the peripherals of the music industry and when I am not working, I am usually out with a few friends--dive-bar hunting/hopping, listening to house music, samba/bassa nova, soul, house and afrobeat; but will probably most likely be at home, catching up on DVR and surfing the web, enjoying political, religious and scientific conversation/debates on FB.

I (or other people) consider myself an unconventional black dude. Think Louis CK's character in LOUIE meets Anthony Bourdain: all wrapped in a black guy... Though I work as an urban sound designer and producer, I dont routinely listen to the urban radio, unless its a part of my work. I do however have my favorites, from A Tribe Called Quest and Common, to Kendrick Lamar and BlackHippy. I choose martial arts(mostly MMA), rollerskating, hiking and bike riding, over baseball/basketball/football; dont ask me a score, because I will probably not know it. NPR is my default radio station. CNN is my default TV station. I was vegetarian for 16 years and mostly still am, but started eating animals off and on a couple years back. I don't know why but I think it was the bacon(?)... I still can't eat meat on a bone(GROSS!); other than that, I totally LOVE food and have no real dietary obligations, just prefer the non-deadly menu options, most times, if theyre available. If not, I wont b*tch about it. Im also not a drinker, smoker, or anything of the sort, though most of my friends are- and I still love them the same. I will however have a glass or 2 of wine with dinner or a cider to lighten up a little. not totally square ;) what else...

Oh, Im a former US Marine, MMA Fighter and I have 2 college degrees. I grew up in the hood, but a true nerd at heart: and I like it that way--best of both worlds. I was both a gangbanger and skateboarder for equal parts of my life and both those experiences in many ways have saved my life. And FTR, Ive also been called "the unassuming Alpha Male" - Id like to believe Im not the type that always has/needs to assert authority, but will step up when needed... I can go on, but probably rambling now. More about me later - your turn... :)






5. I'm too old for someone who considers themselves a 'Princess,' 'Diva' and/or 'Barbie.' Mutual respect in a MATURE, ADULT relationship doesnt require grown women to act like Disney or reality show characters. I mean, how would you feel if I acted like Optimus Prime, spoke in the voice of Cobra Commander, or attempted to dress like Shredder from the Ninja Turtles in public? Just simply not my speed and I will run from you, quickly. I however do not feel like sh*t saying this, at all.


7. IMPORTANT - If you are newly single and looking for a rebound or revenge, secretly still in love with your ex, unrealistically unavailable, or simply just not ready to date, please, don't contact me. I've now talked to more than my fair share of women that aren't ready to move on or forward with their lives.





Safe travels. :)
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dunno. i guess, im bigger than i look in pictures. havent thought about it... oh, and that i am addicted to using ellipsis "..."
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1.) my daughter
2.) rent money
3.) oxygen
4.) "..."
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6.) the internets
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  • Ages 27–45
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