Getting married at Disney, wearing a Disney Princess wedding dress

(36 Posts)
madamezouzou Mon 04-Feb-13 10:18:35

A girl I know is doing this soon.

Am I the only one who thinks: This is hilariously tacky?

I also feel uncomfortable about this from a feminist perspective but can't quite articulate why, would appreciate the views of others!

EuphemiaLennox Mon 04-Feb-13 18:28:36

Those mouse ears with veils and top hats are for adults, and lots of honeymooning couples can be seen wearing them....each to their own and all that.

(if you don't beleive me look on THe Dibb Disney forum lots of photos of people's Disney weddings and honeymoons with said mouse ears).

feministefatale Mon 04-Feb-13 17:51:49

honey grin

HoneyDragon Mon 04-Feb-13 17:40:24

You could have the Brave Wedding package.

Go there, decide not to get married and build a better relationship with your mum instead grin

WhichIsBest Mon 04-Feb-13 17:34:04

99% of wedding dresses are meant to be princessy. Being a Disney princess doesn't offend me as a feminist any more than a typical white lacy thing with a tiara.

feministefatale Mon 04-Feb-13 17:24:29

and only saw kids wearing them

feministefatale Mon 04-Feb-13 17:24:03

The minnie ears with veil and mickey groom top hat are very much for adults, you see lots of couples honeymooning in the parks wearing them

um no childs size and sold with the other kids stuff

Hobbitation Mon 04-Feb-13 16:29:26

I can't catus, no. I can see why it might irk a certain type of feminist but it doesn't bother me as one, and neither do the Disney princesses in general. But then, apparently I'm NOT a feminist as I changed my name when I got married, as I was so delightfully informed on another thread.

badtemperedaldbitch Mon 04-Feb-13 16:05:07

good on ya catus!
well said

catus Mon 04-Feb-13 16:01:17

This is indeed obviously tacky.
But I don't like your post, because you want everyone to pile in and make fun of one person you know. Not nice.
I'm guilty of this sometimes, mocking other people and their tackiness (not on the internet, though), and I'm trying to stop it. It's mean.
As for not knowing why it doesn't stand well from a feminist point of view, words fail me. Can you really not see how a big disney princessy wedding would be quite unfeminist? If that is the case, you urgently need an education!

EuphemiaLennox Mon 04-Feb-13 15:46:46

Most weddings seem to be a playing out of a princess fantasy with dubious feminist credentials to many elements of it.

Doing it at Disney in a princess style dress just seems an extension of this.

I love Disneyworld.
And weddings.
I am a feminist.

BelaLugosisShed Mon 04-Feb-13 15:26:55

Actually , you are not allowed (as an adult) to be dressed up as as a Disney Princess, or any Disney "character" for that matter) at Disney. wink The only exceptions are on the special party nights.

A wedding does not have to make a feminist statement and if my DD wanted to get married at one of the Disney resorts that's fine by me, we've been going to Disneyworld since she was 5 years old, she's now a Maths graduate and in teacher training, with a strong feminist identity, doesn't mean she can't love Disney, we went last year and she has photos of herself with all the Princesses - it means precisely nothing in feminist terms.


MrsMushroom Mon 04-Feb-13 14:00:23

I'm getting married dressed as Emmeline Pankhurst next door to her...or in the next Disney Nuptial Cabana or whatever they have out there! That would be fun.

feministefatale Mon 04-Feb-13 13:52:49

confident in my femininity

What does that mean?

feministefatale Mon 04-Feb-13 13:52:02

Eww, Was at Disney village the shops bit and say they had a boutique style shop just full of disney princess shit tat. And they gave princess make overs in fron of the shop for all the kids to be on display.

They also sell the traditional minney mouse ears with a veil, hmm for kids btw, not for odd adults who want to get married as minney

Hobbitation Mon 04-Feb-13 12:16:52

Each to their own. I do find it tacky, but I remember being very excited when I first saw a Disney store, as I never had the opportunity to exorcise/exercise my fairy princess stage fully as a kid. My daughters have done it to death, and moved on.

I think there are a variety of female Disney characters now. Also the older ones they get a lot of stick for, well, you'd have to change the original story vastly to make it any other way, and that was unlikely to happen until the late 80s at the very earliest.

Pretty relaxed about it all myself. My daughter's main role model is me and other women in our family, not TV/Film/Book characters. I managed to survive the deluge of terrible female role models in the 80s and come out empowered and confident in my femininity.

AmandaPayne Mon 04-Feb-13 12:09:36

I would be uncomfortable with this as a feminist. Each to their own and your colleague/friend/whatever doesn't have to make a feminist choice.

However, Disney princesses really get me riled up. They are such a passive view of what it means to be female. Even when they try and update them, it's about waiting for a man to rescue you and make things right. I would struggle with an adult woman wanting to dress up as this type of character. Particularly on a day which is kind of setting a template for how you will be as a married couple.

At a more practical level, I would worry about someone whose idea of marriage was the happily ever after fairytale as I am not sure how well it bodes for an actual real life marriage.

scrappydappydoo Mon 04-Feb-13 11:38:01

Each to their own - as long as she doesn't have a disneyesque view of marriage (as in its more than just the day/happily ever after etc etc) then they can do/wear what she wants on their day and honeymoon.

I'm fairly interested what peope think of the new Disney princess adverts which emphasize the different characteristics of princesses more than dresses, the princes and the glitter.

snowshapes Mon 04-Feb-13 11:24:51

Hmm, I am going to make the fairly obvious point that it doesn't matter at all how you get married, what matters is that both partners are on the same page about what they are signing up for and prepared to work towards that.

The issue with Disney Princess is that it seems to me to be a fairly idealistic, happy ever after, gendered ideal of marriage. But the real issue is the couple in question, as Kim147 says, what does the groom think, and why they are doing this? I honestly think if they have solid ideas of their relationship and marriage, then it would be judgemental to dismiss this on the grounds of the way they are expressing their commitment, tacky or not.

MrsBucketxx Mon 04-Feb-13 11:22:27

grooms really up for it too, he will ge wearing a suit i suppose, the thing that greats with me is how commercial and corporate it is.

no imagination.

kim147 Mon 04-Feb-13 11:15:47

What does the groom think?

What's the groom wearing?

Don't mean to be offputting Piffpaff, just wanted to make the point that the mere fact a woman is able to choose something doesn't make it a feminist choice.

MrsBucketxx Mon 04-Feb-13 11:09:21

i think its hideous,

my cousin wants this in 2015, with a belle dress hmm

madame could it be the same girl?

Piffpaffpoff Mon 04-Feb-13 11:06:31

Fair enough. And there ends my one and only foray into the Feminism section.

"Each to their own."

Well you can do what you like, but I object to you giving your choice a label ("feminism") that means something else.

totally tacky. My husband would roll his eyes at me repating this story again but I used to work with a woman who went online looking for deals as she and her husband offered to pay for her stepdaughter's honeymoon.

They arranged a flight into Paris, two nights in Paris, fly from Paris Orly (little airport used by the 1950s movie stars etc) into Casablanca, and then 10 days in the Atlas mountains in Morocco.

The stepdaughter booked a fortnight in Orlando instead. [banks head on desk even 8 years later]

I guess you can make your own choices, whether they are sensible ones or not hmm

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