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Posted 02/17/2013

OP, I find it really weird that you are posting all of this online, and that you think you have a right to ask your friend all those details about it. You don't even know the girl it happened to, why do you feel like it's your role to play detective?


Mary Christy Uganda

Last edited 02/17/2013

Maybe she's lying and gave it up to get out of the ticket idk.

If you "give it up" in order to get out of a ticket from a police officer, you are a victim of rape. 

It is called coersion.  You can't give consent if you were being threatened with getting a ticket/going to jail/whatever. 




LilMamaM05 · Original Poster
Posted 02/17/2013
K asked SO and I for help. He didn't know where to start. Now he's found where to start and him & the girl have been talking to investigators. I have no intention of "playing detective." And when I said I wanted to talk to him to better understand things, I wanted to ask if he took her to the hospital after it happened and if they planned on going to talk to someone above the rank of police officer. Not only b/c I feel terrible for the girl, but also for my own peace of mind. I've gone to the place this happened at many, many times. But he answered one question already (that they're talking to someone about it now) so I don't really see the need to meet up anymore. He's still asking us for any other suggestions we can come up with, but my best one was to talk to someone, and they are.

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Posted 02/17/2013

Encourage her to see a rape crisis counselor too.

I feel bad your friend and his gf.

Posted 02/17/2013

Does the girl want your help? Does she approve of you putting the details online? This didn't happen to K.


Mary Christy Uganda

Posted 02/17/2013
It doesn't add up but I believe the girl. We just don't have all of the details. And I can't figure out where because cop car doors lock automatically and can only be opened from outside. And front seat wouldn't work with the laptop stand and camera. Seems it was a fake cop if you ask me.
Posted 02/17/2013
Definitely definitely definitely suggest a rape crisis counselor. She may feel fine or like she can handle it, but it may affect her for years, haunt her for life. Talking to someone who is trained to help is so valuable.

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Posted 02/17/2013

What Louise Belcher posted is exactly what a rape kit is. I was unfortunte enough to get a call from my bff telling me she had been raped about 8-10 hours before the call. As I have a criminology degree, the first question I asked was where was she, then it was have you already showered. Thankfully she had not showered yet and still had all the clothes she wore from the attack. I told my DH (we were at a store), we immediately left and went to get her and took her to the ER. I made her bring the clothes too, particularly the underwear.

Rape kits are free of charge to the victim. A doctor and nurse who have taken courses specfically for rape kits/ evidence collection must do the exams and collect the evidence. A detective was called in to take her statement. They do everything from the gyno exam, to combing your hair and under your fingernails. Everything has it's own bag/box for collection and is initialed for chain of custody for evidence.

Should she have immediately gone to get a rape kit done? YES! Absolutely! But some women don't. Either they are ashamed, they feel guilty, or in the shock they just don't think of it. If she still has her underwear from that night, it could have gathered DNA from the guy who raped her and she needs to hand it in to the cops. She should still get a rape kit done. Semen can live inside a uterus for up to 72 hours.

During a rape kit, they also run a full STD panel, they give you antibiotics to ward off STDs and they give you HIV meds. Any victim of rape does need to get retested - a full STD panel - especially HIV - 6 months after the attack!

As for if it was a cop or not. It very well could be. Positions of power attract good and bad people. Fact of life unfortunately. However it could easily be a man impersonating a cop. Police uniforms are very easy to get a hold of, just like military uniforms. You can order them offline ffs! There is no security system in place to make sure it's a real cop ordering the uniform.

As for why K sat in the for 40 minutes... 1 - he was high. Time isn't the same when you are high, as when you are clean. 2 - if a cop tells you to sit in your car, you sit in your car. If you get out of your car and walk up to a cop car, expect them to pull their gun on you. Yes they are here to protect us, but they also need to protect themselves. Just like we don't know good cops from bad cop. They don't know who they are pulling over.

I really hope it is not a real cop who raped her. But even more, I hope they catch the sob who did it.


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Posted 02/17/2013

The first thing they should have done was call the police dept. if they have the approx. time they were pulled over.  They have records of where the police are patrolling at all times, they have to check in for their own safety.  When DH was pulled over and they decided to tear apart our car to search it and broke a seat among other things in the vehicle, they were able to narrow it down to 2 officers within a few block radius that night.  With the time, etc. they will be able to help narrow down which officer was in that area. They were able to figure out which officer it was for certain and call us back within the hour.

Step 2 should have been going to the ER for a rape kit and that evidence combined with which officers were on duty/patrolling the area would narrow the suspect list down dramatically.

It's probably too late for a rape kit but I'd still make a report against the officer, she does have him as a witness to the rape - her running to the car without her shirt.

Posted 02/17/2013
FYI OP!!!!!!

I dont know where you live, and this may be an odd concidence... but im watching our local nightly news and they are saying 2 women have come forward that they were attacked by a cop. It is a man posing as a cop but has everything your typical cop would.

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