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37 Gainesville, FL Man


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My Details

Last Online
Dec 27
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Hello. Thanks for stopping by.

Introductions are always hard, but I'll do my best to make this not too unpleasant. I'm a jack-of-all-trades, and master of none. I'm a tinkerer, a hacker, a thinker, and a fidgeter. I'm a lover, a rationalist, an activist, and a pacifist. I have a sharp mind, but a short attention span.

In other words, your average mainstreamed geek.

I'm a pretty silly guy. I laugh often, and have a deep appreciation for the absurd. I like witty jokes, dumb jokes, and painful puns.

Some of my favorite social interests are theme parks (I have passes to the Magic Kingdom, Hollywood Studios, Animal Kingdom, Epcot, Sea World, Aquatica, and Busch Gardens), museums, dive bars, live music, and outdoor activities.

I identify as polyamorous. I've have been ethically non-monogamous since 2007. I currently have one partner, BunkiBoo (whom I've been married to since 2004). The other major person I'm my life is my son, who was born in 2010.

If you are unfamiliar with polyamory, it means that I foster multiple relationships in an open and ethical manner. My partners and I are able to date, fall in love with, and have sex with other people. Please note that this is not cheating, as we all make each other fully aware of our other partners, and even introduce them, and all do things together as our schedules permit. We believe that love and affection are not limited resources that must be hoarded to be preserved, but instead are wonderful gifts that can be given in abundance.
(For more information, see More Than Two.)

This isn't to say that I am completely idealistic, for while love is an unlimited resource, time and money are not. Since I have a child and maintain two relationships, I need to make sure that we stick to schedules, and negotiate activities. Poly-relationships are a lot of work, but it's totally worth it.

I run the Gainesville Constellation community, which is for people no matter where you are on the ethically non-monogamous spectrum. I also am involved with Gainesville Trinity community, so if you are as well, I'll likely see you around.
What I’m doing with my life
In February 2014, I started work for local company as a web developer, which means that I can take a picture of a website, and turn it into something that appears in your browser when you type in the URL, including all of the programming stuff for complex sites. I love making things, and programming gives me a way to do that.

My family is really he most important thing to me. This includes not only my birth family, and the people that I live with, but all of my family of choice.
I’m really good at
I'm generally very good at fitting in to most social situations. I'm empathetic and diplomatic, and strive to achieve social harmony with the people that are around me.

I'm a great listener. I find it easy to connect with people, and find common ground, and am completely non-judgmental. I share freely, and invite those I talk with to do the same.

I'm also good at finding creative solutions for problems. It may not be pretty, and it may not be permanent, but it will get you by in the mean time.

Puzzles and games. I pride myself on maintaining 3 stars in all Angry Birds stages (in all of the games). I also am a decent Words with Friends player. I'm usually very quick to solve puzzles as well, often intuitively grasping the solution before I even have it fully figured out.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My curly hair and eyes. My eyes are kind of weird in that they seem to shift hue based on what I am wearing and what is surrounding me. Sometimes they look blue, others green or gray.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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While I read a lot of books, these are the ones that I am mostly likely to go back and reread (if I haven't already):
The Wheel of Time series; The Dark Tower series; The Name of the Wind; Harry Potter series; The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy series; The Lord of the Rings series; Southern Vampire Mysteries series; Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality aka HPMOR, anything by Dean Koontz, Stephen King, John Sanford, Jasper Fford, and Christopher Moore; The Ethical Slut; Sex at Dawn

These are the movies that if I ever see them come on, I will watch them:
Labyrinth, The Dark Crystal, anything from Pixar, The Matrix series, Star Wars, The Shawshank Redemption, The Princess Bride, Little Shop of Horrors, Pi, Once, The Fifth Element, the Harry Potter series, any of the Mell Brooks Movies, Indiana Jones, The Lord of the Rings series, Fight Club, The Sixth Sense, Unbreakable, the Alien series (minus the third one), Predator, Defending Your Life, Young Frankenstein, A Knight's Tale, Ghost in the Machine, Ninja Scroll, and the Terminator series.

I don't like reruns most of the time, but I'll watch them for these shows:
Heroes, every Star Trek series, House, Chuck, The Walking Dead, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Lie to Me, The Big Bang Theory, Once Upon a Time, The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Modern Family, Raising Hope, Fringe, Firefly, Stargate Universe, The Universe, The Family Guy, Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice, Alphas, Warehouse 13, Doctor Who, Eureka, Myth Busters, Good Eats, Dexter, Hung, Sex and the City, Dead Like Me, True Blood, The Game of Thrones, NOVA, Medium, Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles, Cowboy Bebop, Animaniacs, Pinky and the Brain, Freakazoid,The Muppet Show, Doctor Who, Lost, and I'm finishing up Battlestar Galactica.

My music tastes are varied, and I mostly just listen to Pandora when I want to listen to music. I maintain several stations including blues and jazz, heavy metal, techno, alternative, ambient, classical, folk, acapella, reggae, punk, ska, contemporary crooners, nerd-core, and kid's songs

I eat a diet that focuses on a low glycemic load, which basically means that I do not eat foods high in sugar or starches, including rice, pasta, bread, corn potatoes, grains, soda, or juice. This isn't just some fad diet that I am trying. It's basically a diabetic diet. It is my dietary habit. It's been really helpful in improving my health, as I have lost 50 pounds since I started, and I am down to my high school weight.

There are few types of food that I don't like, and even fewer that I am unwilling to try at least once. Some of my favorite dishes are Thai, Indian, and Caribbean, as I enjoy bold flavors.
The six things I could never do without
1) Friends and Family - My relationships are important to me, and I work hard to maintain them.

2) The Internet - The Internet is how I stay connected to those I love whom I don't see every day, and it also serves as a supplementary brain, storing important information, both personal and public.

3) Books - Both a source of information and entertainment. I love getting lost in a good book. I enjoy them as physical paper books, ebooks, and audiobooks.

4) My Victorinox Cybertool 41 - This is my Swiss Army Knife that I carry everywhere, and has most of the tools that I use for daily activities. I've been called "Ever-Ready" and "MacGuiver" by friends and family by always seeming to have a tool they need at a moment's notice. This is just the central piece of my every-day carry kit.

5) My iPhone - This is my connection to the Internet while I am away, and it also allows me to know what the locals know wherever I go, maintain's my calendar, helps me keep in touch with friends and family, allows me to document important events in my life, and provides me other tools (including even as a flashlight).

6) Games - Whether they are video games, board games, puzzles, or role-playing games, I love exercising my mind with a challenge.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My brain is a bit of a mess. I tend to flit from subject to subject all the time. One minute I'll be thinking about my relationships, the next about the latest Zelda game, then cognitive science and rationality, then the beach, and on and on.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't have typical Friday nights, but I like to go out with friends. Lately it's been to social bars and live music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was severely bullied as a child. It affected me in a lot of ways, both good and bad. It wrecked my self esteem (which is mostly healed), but gave me a strong sense of justice and capacity for empathy, which has served me well throughout my life since.
You should message me if
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* you are a woman who is interested in fun and silly geeks.
* you are not a jealous type, and open to my lifestyle.
* you enjoy playing.
* you know the difference between a megabyte and a megapixel (no I won't quiz you on that).
* you appreciate the surreal.
* you feel like it.

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