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Healing the Divide Between Men and Women on Sexuality (Boulder, CO)

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Healing the Divide is a day-long facilitated experience where participants - men, women, singles, couples or moresomes - share their intimate stories around sexuality in a warm and inviting space. A few of the questions that we ask: What is it like, sexually, to be a man, or how do you feel that you're expected to be as a man? What is it like, sexually, to be a woman, or how do you feel that you're expected to be as a woman? What have been your personal turning points regarding sexuality?

Our culture tends to cast shadows of taboo on the subject of sexuality, leaving this integral part of our life hidden in the dark--especially between men and women--creating a painful divide.

In this experience, we hold the question: what would it be like if we could create a bridge of understanding and empathy regarding our sexuality?

Some stories will undoubtedly be difficult, some joyous. Some will be about heartbreaks, pressures, loneliness, connections or disconnections; some about fear, violence, stigma, or personal victories. Everyone has a different history, but the amazing thing is how many common threads emerge. This is an opportunity to deeply listen to people across gender divides, acknowledge the differences, and yet also recognize the things that, simply as humans, we all share.

If you just want to listen, nobody is required to speak. More than 1,500 have participated nationwide. For many, it has been a life-changing experience.

Part of what brought Healing The Divide into existence was our belief that sexuality is an aspect of the Human Experience that has an immense possibility of beauty, connection, and bliss. Our deep wish is to aid in the freeing of that beauty, connection, and bliss.


Opening - Setting of the Container

Men’s Circle - Women Listen

Lunch Break (lunch not provided)

Women’s Circle - Men Listen

Closing Circle


ARRIVE BY 9:45AM FOR CHECK IN: You CANNOT arrive late as we will be CLOSING the doors at 10am. This is a tightly held closed containers, and no one will be allowed in after we close the doors.

REGARDING GENDER: We will be using the identifiers "Men" and "Women" for this process. You are invited to choose the gender you identify with.

MEAL BREAK: 1.5-hour meal break. Feel free to bring a meal or go out to eat.

WATER BOTTLE: Remember your water bottle to stay hydrated!

BRING A LAYER to stay warm if the space is cold for you.


Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates is profoundly impacted by the amount of psychological and emotional violence that has been, and is currently, being done to men, women, and individuals across the gender spectrum. She recognizes that the world NEEDS healing and comprehensive sex education. She take an unyielding stand for the end of toxic sexual shame so that humans can experience heart-centered and empowered sexuality. One way she supports this movement is by bringing her workshops to cities across the nation.

Dr. Hazel-Grace is the founder of Healing the Divide. She works with individuals and couples as a Clinical Sexologist and a Somatic Sex Educator to support them experiencing the healthiest and most fulfilling sex of their lives.


Jeff Howard, MA, LPC - Jeff is a Reichian/Somatic Psychotherapist in Boulder, Colorado who works with men, women, couples, and men’s groups in an emotion-focused, body-centered way. His work centers on relationship—both with self and other—and the ways that unacknowledged trauma can inform how we are in relationship. Sex is a central emphasis in his work both in how we are in the bedroom as well as how generative sexual energy can be utilized to cultivate a deeper experience in career, love, intimacy and selfhood. He also works in the realms of soul & shadow, while using awareness practices as a means to clarify our unique purpose in life.


“What an honor to witness people expressing their amazing stories. I walked away with a great compassion for all the men and women in the room. I felt particularly tender towards all of the people who had once been children -- confused, hurt, or sad about their bodies -- and the beliefs they grew up with that have shaped who they are today. It changed the way I will interact with people and myself regarding sex and our bodies. “
- April

“I am so impressed with the level of awareness brought to creating and maintaining a safe container around sexuality. Our society desperately needs more compassion, understanding, and communication, and those qualities are at the heart of this workshop.”
- Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD

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