#metoo, Christianity, feminism, mental health, spiritual abuse, therapy

#churchtoo – my story of spiritual abuse and being silenced for nearly a decade

Victims of trauma often say the justice they seek isn't from the perpetrator, but rather from the bystander. Why didn’t anyone do anything? The bystander see the injustice, but does nothing to intercede. When the victim finally comes forward, or seeks justice, it is from this third party of bystander that it’s sought. The justice is in being believed, in being able to tell your own story, as you know it, and having the bystander recognize who is the perpetrator and who is the victim in the story. This is a justice I was never afforded. For almost 10 years, I told no one my story, and I believed the narrative that I was told to believe.  Until now.