Why I Don’t Hate Anyone

Hey guys, I’m so sorry I’ve been MIA lately. I’m a full-time college student studying public relations at a new school, so on top of adapting and participating in all that this wonderful school has to offer, I’ve also had midterms recently and this is my first night off in a long ass time! Nevertheless, it’s always a pleasure to be typing and sharing bits and pieces of my life with all of you!

I don’t know about you, but if you were to ask me, who I hated, I don’t think I could give you a set list of people I hate.

Hate is such a strong emotion, like it’s basically the polar opposite of love, i.e another strong emotion. As crazy as it seems and despite all the messed up shit people have done to me, I still wish the people-who wronged me-the best.

I don’t think it’s at all possible for me to physically hate another human being, because quite frankly, that hurts me more than it would hurt the other person.

Furthermore, this post will aim to tell you three things:

  • Hating people is a choice
  • How it can hurt you more in the long run
  • It’s always better to love

So let’s get started~

Hating People is a Choice

We aren’t born into this world hating everything in it. That shit is taught, whether it be through our upbringing or through our own world views/experiences.

It’s like prejudice, prejudice is taught, it’s through word of mouth and not exactly confirmed with proof.

Whenever I had drama with people, whether it be friends or exes, my first instinct was to hate the person. The cycle goes: get mad at the person, tell them off, and then resort to hating them.

But what I neglected to realize was that while I was right in being mad, I was wrong to go so far as to physically hate someone.

Let’s be honest, hating someone takes a ton of effort on your part and remembering how you even started hating the person in the first place has got to be complete mental torture.

The way I see it is, I don’t hate the person who put me through a tailspin, but I hate the situation that I was in. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt… that is until they screw me over again. I don’t hate people, but once I’ve been wronged, it is naturally hard for me to move past the issue as if nothing ever happened.

How it can hurt you more in the long run

“But Karen, It’s not my fault they’re a piece of shit”

Actually, it is… If you think about it, each individual is in charge of how he/she/they reacts to the situations. Situations are only as bad as you or the other person makes it out to be.

If you make the decision to hate someone, you make the decision to essentially stunt any growth from the experience you had with the person. Instead of owning up to your own wrong doings, choosing to hate the person actually halts your personal growth. Imagine having a long list of people you hate, all because they don’t see things from your perspective!

Let it the fuck go. 

If it’s anything that I’ve learned through not hating people, it’s that we learn more from an experience when we have a clear and level head after it. We learn a lot more when we let go of the argument we were trying to hold up.

Additionally, hating people has an impressive way of hurting yourself. A lot of times we think that by intentionally hating someone, we hurt them.

This is not the case and quite frankly, you hurt yourself more in the process, while the other person goes off and lives their life.

So be happy and don’t hate, appreciate!

Why It’s Always Better to Love

When you love, you’re willing to keep all the shit out of the equation and if any shit were to arise, you and the person would know how to manage the situation.

When you love, you learn to be the bigger and better person. There is no contest to see who can hold a grudge longer. Whoever made up that concept, needs to let go and love.

Let go and Love. 

When you love, you are giving yourself and the other person the space that each other needs. img_8534

Granted, it’s not to say that I love everyone that I have ever been in contact with. But I don’t hate them. Why hate them? Just because I refuse to have someone toxic in my life doesn’t necessarily mean that I hate them, it just means that I love them enough to let go and wish them all the best.

I hope y’all have enjoyed this post and have decided to choose love as opposed to hate, you’ll be much happier in the long run!

Sending a ton of love and light your way,