Is it really worth it?


Sometimes you think to yourself: Is it really worth it?
All this control, the need to give yourself to the fullest. To make it. Make a name for yourself.
All for what? For others opinions of you? Congratulations and thank yous.
Is it really worth their words of praise? Or are you doing it all for yourself? To feel good about you for a change. Tough childhood’s to blame. Is it really worth it? This game’s a tough one. It’s win or lose. An all in hand in poker. But you have to choose. Full on, green light or hide your head in the sand. What side’s more fair to wear? Once you’ve had your share, will you share it with others? Or keep it all to yourself?
Is it really worth it? Step your foot in foreign land. Call it your own for a while. Never will be home. Home is where the heart is wise ones say. Who will show you the way? Your footsteps are far too removed to guide you. Their trails long forgotten will only appear as glimpses in dreams. Will you remember when you awaken? Or like memory, will you drift into pools of deep waters consuming the clarity of your mind?
Shatter this illusion you live in. Break it into teeny tiny pieces. So small that a curious toddler wouldn’t even pick it up and put it in it’s mouth. Where is it? This illusion. I can’t spot it anymore, nor do I understand if it even had value.
You see, I can’t judge others. Nor myself. But I can’t hide the need to disagree with perceptions. Certain perceptions. Correct me if I’m wrong. Is man not free to be himself? Woman to be hers? When did we decide to place power on the few, who criticise our every move? I am tired of this lie they’ve sold us. Ex-hausted. Already in the past. Long gone. They’ve demoralised us and if that wasn’t enough they’re mocking us. Laughing their buttons off as we slave away. We’ve all incarnated together again, a different creed. Same faces, different masks. We’ve been playing their game far too long. I’m out.
No- not dystopia. Nor the wrist cutting kind. I’m just too open minded and seeing reality far too crystal clear. This system is rigged. For those of you with open mouths, I’m sorry. This isn’t meant to be a shocker. You knew this day would come. Comfort zone no more. Feed the children is all I hear these days. Save the refugees. And if you please, bend down on your knees and save humanity.
Humanity needs to save itself.
All of us one by one, need to take a stand. Change ourselves. Work with higher powers. Expanding our consciousness. Enlightening ourselves. Not by reading books by A B C guru but by doing the work by ourselves, Within us. Each and every one of us. No one can teach you the trick. You need to make the effort.
Begin each day by appreciating. Each and every moment you experience. The people you love. Love them more. Fill your heart with so much love you can’t even handle it. Gratitude is a blessing. The food you eat, the air your breathe, the nature around you.
Place passion in whatever you do. A cause, a song, a dance. Find the art in it all. Art will paint anything you pursue, from mechanics to science. It’s all about shaping it with color. Add a touch of your own shade into the mix and create a fine blend of mastery.
Be forgiving and compassionate. People do things, and yes sometimes they may seem a bit far out. Crossing limits. But you know what? Get over it. There’s no need to hold a grudge. Karma will keep you in loops if you don’t move on. So take a deep breath and proceed with pride.
And boy- ego. That’s a tough one. When used as a friend, it’s not all that bad. It can give you an energy boost, even help you feel confident and strong. Win battles of the self. Even help you get over the things you fear. But when it gets out of hand, the relationship does go sour. So use it as an ally but with boundaries. We don’t need more shadows.
And man-LOVE. Keep that word tight in your heart. Those four letters will save you.


© Nicoletta

Sex Expressed Like This…


In this time and age where values have been cheapened, gifts of literature, music and art tampered with by the effects of “pop” culture, we have each lost a little bit of our soul.

You might ask what is to blame?

Sex. As simple as a three-lettered word. Our relationship to our sexuality is one of the many things that has thrown us off balance. The way media/ famous celebrities/ subliminal messages in movies and music project sexuality undermines the truth to what sexuality is. What is presented to us can even be termed as “pseudo-sexuality” which pollutes and contaminates the mass through the projection of false meaning.

The expression of sexuality is more than what is shown on the surface. It is not the idolisation of the body, or the use of it for popularity, control or manipulation. There is far more depth to how it can be expressed. The fact is, we have lost touch with ourselves and this has resulted in the disconnection with the true source of our sexual power.

What is sex then?

Sex is creation. It is easy to take your clothes off and get it over and done with for momentary pleasure, but is far different to fully embody it, to allow it to become you, transform you.
Sexual expression is not only an act between the sheets but a way of living. When activated it can become a bridge of the divine to the material, spirit to matter. The problem is we are afraid of our own power. This results in holding back, not giving our fullest potential in all areas of our life: work/ relationships with our loved ones and own selves/ the creative endeavours we pursue. The reason we shy away from our own power is because we have been given a false identification of what sexuality is and how we can get in touch with it.

The poison of the past

Thousands of years, centuries of programming by organised orders of religion have made sexual expression seem wrong. The act itself was viewed as a sin, and only a means of procreation. The original sin of Adam and Eve, supposedly condemned us all, confining us to the hellish reality of pain, suffering and death. In addition to this women were raped, killed, stoned under the false accusation of being prostitutes, all subconsciously triggered by the idea of original sin. Men and women were separated in the battle of gender, role playing in a twisted fate of oppressor and victim. This breeding of religion, led to the Victorian age where sexuality was suppressed altogether, propriety and conservatism paving way to a society which hushed a basic need of nature. All this and so much more…Led to the present day. We have soaked this line of history, it is a part of our DNA, in our blood and genetics. This fear, oppression, suppression, victimisation, conditioning has scarred us with wounds very challenging to heal.

How can I awaken my true sexual nature?

In the Dharma religions, the awakening of the “kundalini” is what can help one come into touch with their sexual truth. This is the meditative state of raising energetic vibration from the spinal chakras to the upper chakras in the body, through the combination of breath, chanting and movement. Practices such as kundalini yoga can assist in the unlocking of this hidden power within us all. This is how one attains spiritual enlightenment.
In more physical terms, one can “lighten” themselves allowing them to tap into the flow of creative energy by pursuing things that they love and that are close to their heart. Performing arts, dancing, singing, playing an instrument, creativity in any shape or form is highly recommended as it allows one to centre themselves in the moment and freely open up to self-expression. The key is to let go and surrender to the flow of the moment instead of trying to control it or overthink it.

What does all this have to do with sex again?

One’s relationship with their sexuality is the core of their power. As one lightens their load of burdens, imposed on him/her by society or self-created restrictions, this gives them the freedom to surrender in their more intimate relationships. The union of lovers is to be a “performing act” in itself, an exchange of beauty and full expression. The innocence and purity of play and joy, allows the act itself to become sacred as it links one with the heart. In truth, the more one is confident with oneself, the more the exchange of sexual union will bring higher levels of intimacy between a couple.

sexuality is the soulful expression of play and freedom…

It is the interaction with one’s most boundless, limitless nature. The more liberation, the higher one can transform into a whole person. A healthy practice of sexuality is highly beneficial as it stimulates the mind and emotions, bringing nourishment to both body and spirit.
Needless to say, the misuse of sexuality through perverse, ill abuses causes severe damage to one’s mental, emotional, physical and spiritual state.

Keep healthy and powerful!

A very good example of an artist who was highly connected to his sexual power was Elvis Presley. This man was a legend, as he projected this divine sexual expression through his music, dance and personality, influencing crowds of people through his work, even to this day. This is the perfect example of a healthy, balanced sexual power expressed in a positive way.

Each one of us, in our own way can achieve this divine union ourselves through the healing of the cobwebs of the past and the full emancipation of the hidden depths of the self.


© Nicoletta

Photo by Alexandra Van Zutphen

Change is All We Need

We humans struggle to find what we are looking for. We go about life, not knowing what we want, engaging in different relationships, trying to fulfill ourselves through the comfort we think we will find in the arms of others.The fear of facing one’s true self blocks a lot of people from spending time alone in order to heal and grow. This results in relationship after relationship where one finds that they are repeating the same patterns, face the same challenges and relive similar disappointments.

Why do we like being hurt so much?

Humans do not consciously attract hurt and pain. Love is deeply rooted in our nature. However, what can be described as a major “flaw” in our modern society is that we do not realise that we are the ones who need to change in order for other people to change how they view and treat us.

Me, Change?

We are all mirrors of one another.
If I project insecurity, weakness and vulnerability in my character, this will usually lead to the attraction of unhealthy relationships. I will be constantly beaten down and kicked by abuse, and this cycle will never end unless I become conscious of it.
On the other hand, if I project strength and balance as a person, this will give me the power to attract helpful people who will provide me with growth. In the long run, I too can reciprocate the good they have to offer me in my life’s journey.

How can I become strong and balanced?

There are a lot of self help books out there and courses on strengthening the self. A and B can tell you how to do it. I can try too. Meditate, spiritual practice, yadayada I can go on forever. The truth is the power lies in you. Only YOU can make the change you seek. As simple as that. Sure, there are several pathways you can take and wonderful sources that provide you with valid information and helpful insight. However, there is no following the book in this process of self development. It is a long road ahead, with a lot of hard work. If you are not willing to become your own guru and make the effort to grow and evolve as an individual, no one will do the work for you.

Wait, you mean I can become my own healer?

This is a new age we are stepping into with the tremendous help from a lot of external sources that are beyond our human understanding. The energy of the earth is shifting to higher dimensions, giving us the ability to awaken to perhaps the highest stage in our our human evolution. Given that factor, there are a lot of people who have already done the work and made several changes in their own habits reflecting the old paradigm and can thus show the way. This does not necessarily mean that they are leaders or ahead of the game in any way, it is only a matter of timing. When one is ready, the change will happen. It is not a competition. Thus, group work is essential at this time. Having the ability to be flexible and open to experiencing what one feels comfortable with is key to helping oneself break patterns that are holding them back from further development.

How do I know what teachings or “group work” are right for me?

It is a matter of feeling rather than thinking. If you instinctively feel something is right for you, then simply go for it! Explore, that is what it is all about. Instead of procrastinating and doubting, allow yourself to plunge into the unknown and you will be surprised at how liberating the experience is. There are several healing modalities out there, just trust that your heart will guide you to the one that is meant to be. Rather than following one way, one method, one guru, be open to multiple sources to guide you to the change you seek. As you begin attracting health and balance into your body, this will also open up more and more helpful people, situations and circumstances. Life starts to truly become synchronistic and magical.

You make it sound so fairytale like and so easy. Can it be as simple as that?

Believe me, there are no prince charmings or princesses waiting to give you a pat on the back. This is a tough ride, challenging journey full of constant turns and shifts, temptations and pullbacks. We are truly spirit having a very physical experience, so we have to appreciate this reality and find the balance between the two. There are always helpers acting like guardian angels here on earth to help you, and so much help from the other side too. Several masters, like Jesus and Buddha walked the path and taught the path for us. We are now realising this potential even though it has taken us so many years and so many religious wars! We are one in the same, Inlakesh, I am another you. It is finally  time to wake up and realise the power of these words. What so many of our ancestors have fought for and sacrificed themselves for in the past. Let’s not let all that work go to waste.

Reclaim your power and make the change.



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