HELP: "He paid lobola for me, then dumped me"

By Faeza
22 March 2017

Anonymous from Brits writes:

I’m a 28-year-old mother of two and the father of my children has just broken broke up with me. What hurts me the most is that he had already paid lobola for me. He has now left me for another girl but I still love him.

Sis Naledi answers:

You are traditionally married to him now and your problems should be discussed at a family level. Inform your family about what is happening and let them talk to your partner. It appears as if he was not really committing to a marriage by paying lobola. I hope he did not do it out of pressure from you or his parents. If so, then you are not likely to get joy from this marriage.