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The Golden Moments

-George Eliot (Mary Ann Evans) 



I've extended my "fallow period" from working on my novel, and I'm not feeling too anxious about it. This peak fall season is a use-it-or-lose-it opportunity to play outside with my family, witness the beautiful colors, do silly Halloween-related stuff, drink hot mulled cider on the porch, and fill up on all those gorgeous dead-leaf smells. I plan to delve into the glorious dread of querying later this month, but for now, I'm appreciating these golden moments.


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