Help a Friend

If your friend tells you about their abusive relationship:

  1. Tell your friend that you believe them.
  2. Ask your friend if they feel safe.
  3. Let your friend know that they don’t deserve to be abused.
  4. Ask your friend questions to get them to think about what’s going on.
    • Why do you think she gets so jealous?
    • Does she have a right to pick your friends?
    • How does all this make you feel?
    • Are you afraid of her anger?
    • Does she make you feel good about yourself?
  5. Ask your friend what their “options” are.
  6. Tell your friend that abuse almost always gets worse if it’s ignored.
  7. Encourage your friend to talk to someone that can help. You can even offer to go with them.