Q: I know your old song titled “Way Back to Love – You cannot love while winning”. I didn’t understand a meaning of the lyrics that we cannot be happy if we try to love while winning before. Now I understand it deeply after reading your recent messages. It is because that is not something out of the true essence… If it is true, we New Age people, people who are involved in self-help seminars may have taken a wrong path. I am concerned whether we have brought such social ideas as “victory or defeat” and the ego (a sense of separation) even in New Age or religious activities. Please talk more about it, MARTH.



That’s correct. I appreciate your opinion. I have conveyed it since youth. To love while winning is to love while keeping the ego. This is completely opposite with each other. I always felt seriously about something while I was meditating. My fellow meditators who meditate with a belief of the ego all had out-of-body experiences, keeping the ego as it is. And those who have the quality of oneness, of the selflessness return to Shinga (Atman) during a meditation. I wondered what on the earth it is. I used to feel deeply as such when I was young.

My fellows who attended seminars became involved in New Age movement as well. I realized that people who went into New Age and religions have had difficulties in improving themselves and suffered while having a value based on victory or defeat, conflict, struggle, such consciousness of a sense of separation, belief in a sense and a mechanism of the separated societies.

That’s because everything is connected as one. In other words, there is no difference between each other. Even if there seems to be some difference, the difference is to work as a whole. There are people with different characteristics, and they help each other and support each other. I believe it is the true world and the truth of the universe. However, to hold such separated value as competition, comparison and so on is not something essential or holistic. Having something opposite to the true essence (a sense of separation) is quite unsuitable for being involved in healing, New Age, therapies and so on. I could not help but say to them that such fear or desire to boost the ego doesn’t fit the world of truth.


If you go into such world with a sense of separation, you may have difficulties in growing and will suffer. People who have no sense of separation, whose ego is over, who feel fed up with winning, and for this reason, who try to recover the quality of oneness will have luck. If they have a sense of separation, of competition, and desire to win over others, they will find the world painful. Certainly, they may feel painful in the egoistic society, or feel more difficult in such spiritual world. Feeling everything as a fake themselves, they may punish themselves more. This proves that we are love itself and sincerity itself.

I was extremely concerned about it. That’s why I kept telling my fellows that having a value based on victory or defeat is wrong, it is an act of the ego, of the separation since long ago, although they hated me to say so. As you have just mentioned, the quality of oneness is most important whether you are involved in the world of meditation, in the world of religion, in the spiritual world or New Age.

If leaders who lead humanity to the true being want to become great, to become somebody or to stand out believing in a value based on victory or defeat, it will be quite tragic. And people who follow and join the leaders will find them in a tragedy. They will never grow and suffer instead. They will only increase knowledges and ideas for fighting. That is because such things of beauty will be found only in the quality of oneness, and in love for losing as thoughts of the ego diminish.

Therefore, we need to deepen our awareness of illusions made of separations first of all. Moreover, we need to have deeper awareness of our surroundings, environments and our parents which we had decided to forgive. It will be a precious support for you that you embrace and accept your own hatred, love it, put an end to the source of conflict, and try to live with your mission accordingly. It will be hard for you to live in the world of New Age, religion and healing unless you stop struggling with your ideas and beliefs coming from your parents and surroundings. You will have extremely hard and painful time if you choose to fight with them out of fear and chagrin, of the ego.


As you suggest, we need to overcome it. If we think of New Age, healing, spirituality and religiousness, everything should come from the quality of oneness, that everything is connected as one, and accep to lose. Unfortunately, it is not something related to knowledge or theory. If each of us has various characteristic, it is nothing but characteristics of each part within a whole. When we realize it, we will see beautiful flowers blossom in the spiritual world, and the same thing will be true in the world of the ego, in our conventional societies.

We need to overcome a sense of separation so that we will feel deeply that it is O.K. to lose. Otherwise, true success, true and sustainable prosperity, joy and happiness will never be realized. In other words, only then, true you, the true essence, and the beautiful world which gods truly wanted will be fulfilled. The song, “You cannot love while trying to win” is really true. To win is to separate. To love is to be connected as one. They are opposite from each other. If you truly want to win together, you should be connected as one in reality. You should be trying to stop illusions of the ego. You should begin to realize there is no self. Unfortunately, only within deep awareness that everything is connected as one, you will find real happiness. That is what love is. Therefore, it is impossible that we love while trying to win.

When you wish to love and feel like you want to lose on behalf of your daughters, sons, friends, brothers, sisters, teachers, fellows, fathers, mothers, grand-mothers, grand-fathers, and the world, when you have such heartfelt wish, you all will find yourself filled with love…                MARTH

Q:Dear MARTH, isn’t it good that we strengthen the ego, get enlightened, and become great?

When we boost the ego or strengthen it, do we really get better? And or, how about that we reflect on us or feel sorry for others, saying, “I hurt my mom and dad’s feeling. I’m sorry I didn’t take much care of them.” “I feel sorry I didn’t love my children enough. ““I am sorry I had been defiant to my friends, to my boss, to my teacher, to everyone”? In other words, this is when we have a small ego (sense of separation). Which is happier and comforting for us, that is, when our ego is destroyed, or when we boost the ego and strengthen it?

Let us call it a way to live life. Which way to live life will bring us a beautiful future? Is it when we praise ourselves, saying, “I am strong. I am great. I will not lose. I will win.” Or, is it when we reflect on us, “I ruined everything. I am very sorry. I want to apologize to my father and mother. I am sorry for my friends and comrades. “Which way to live a life is consciousness of God, of love, of the whole universe and of purity? Which is able to bring us a beautiful future?

In a self-help seminar where we witness the self, we say, “What it is in the state of beginning will be there in the future.” If we keep the primary consciousness, we will realize such being exist in future. In other words, if we act out of fear or of bad intention, we will see a bad result in future. In this sense, is a state of our consciousness better when we boost the ego, feel uplifted, become self-conceited, and get irritated? Or, is our energy better when we end the ego (a sense of separation), return to the original small self or to the one source, get grounded, reflect on ourselves, ask ourselves, “I am sorry. I should have helped them. I should have supported them. I should have done this or that”, reflect inwardly and feel sorry for our mistakes and so on?

And I dare to tell you that we are love, consciousness of a child of God, and the whole universe, which is the true quality of humanity only when we reflect on ourselves without boosting the ego, or uplifting it. And when we live with such awareness, we will see the present world beautiful. We return to love, the true essence, when we end the ego.

We can see the world as darkness. At that time, we boost the ego; feel excited, thus we are fearful. As the ego is strengthened, fear will be bigger. A sense of separation is a sense of fear. When we reflect on ourselves, feel sorry, and our ego is diminished, we will see everyone is loving in fact whether we ride on a train or walking on the street. It is what comfort really means.

There are pains and sadness when we, children of love, of God, of the whole universe neither can live in love, nor live as the whole being, nor love and be loved, and we live pretending to be tough, pretending to be all right, walking the street with chest out. We, the children of God, cannot live as such…

hen we see our sadness with such standpoint of view, when we are pure enough to reflect on ourselves, “I haven’t been able to live in love, I fought with my friends again, I tried not to lose pretending to be tough again, I felt defiant to my rival as always today”, we will be able to return to bliss in fact.

That is love and consciousness of a child of God. That is in reality the true essence of humanity. When we are there, we are happy. We will see the world beautiful. Therefore, uplifting the ego, boosting it and protecting it will not be good for the beautiful world, for the world of love and comfort.

I mean to say the true essence of this world is oneness. It is connected as one, love, selflessness. It is also that we are not part but the whole. We are incredibly unknown and mystical. This is the true quality of the world. If you boost the ego, assert yourself and protect yourself in the world of oneness, your happiness, as part of the existence, will be damaged. Humanity doesn’t know it very well.

If you say; “No, I won’t be a loser. I, I, I will win! I’ll be good! I’ll be great!”, you will put yourself into darkness, to an obstacle race. It is because that is against your quality of love. If you boost the ego, you will lose the quality of oneness. Love means being connected as one. And you will find peace, happiness, success, prosperity and everything in love. If you lose love, and if you boost the ego, assert yourself, protect the ego and do everything to strengthen the ego, you, as a cell, are not it, but strangely and drastically stand out. It means you have become a cancer cell or a tumor.

Humanity must sincerely realize it and learn about it. It is not important to boost the ego or to make a cell bigger. It will eventually become a cancer or a bad cell. Therefore, the reason why you don’t see the world loving and beautiful is because you have identified yourself with the ego. It is not because of outer factors. It is nothing but that you have been able to see sadness not to live in love.

When you, as a cell, bear the entire being yourself, or return to part of the whole, when you reflect yourself that you haven’t done so, feel sad and sorry about it, when the ego is finished, you will return to love for the first time. We need to know its secret. Then, we will find true prosperity, true joy and true success waiting for us…


Q: Let me ask you a question, MARTH. I think the world is in a great turmoil… It seems we human beings have reached limits in the existing way of life. How can we make the world better? How can we realize peace in the world?

First of all, we need to change our values by knowing what is profitable and what is not for ourselves (part of the existence) in reality. Certainly, the best way is that we will live together with love and joy by diminishing our value of separation of the ego, increasing peacefulness in a sense of oneness and gradually losing a sense of interests of the ego, which is an illusion.
However, we human beings are made to believe in a value of separation seriously. Simply speaking, separation means the ego (boosting the ego).
Human beings and animals have come to understand a limited range as the self because of five senses given by God for our conveniences. And giving everything a name has brought us a sense of separation.

In fact, everything in the entire universe is us. We, part of the existence, are given five senses to bear different part. Eventually we feel a certain range is the self. We manage to live in the universe, considering we bear a certain range, role, and responsibility of the self. It is not bad in itself. It is also true, however, that we will strengthen a sense of separation because of this understanding.

Therefore, we are likely to forget the real truth, which is different from our five senses and a sense of separation, that we are connected as one, unknown and mystical. We may lose such scientific truth of the world completely. Unless we remember the truth of oneness, nor we try to learn it, it may be lost…

It’s amazing how things work out in the universe. It will not work as we think. The universe created our five senses with which we are likely to separate and even let us separate. However, as soon as we (part of the universe) act or move separately, it will give us a hard time to awaken us. Such built-in mechanism of the universe will not give us a verbal message. It is quite troublesome.

We need to be always aware of Atman, being one and connected, unknown and mystical to protect us, which is part of the existence. If we seriously believe in the ego and act according to it, have a value of competition, comparison and conflict, we will fall into a hard time because of an awakening message from the universe. It has been happening to us since the ancient times… We have engaged ourselves in believing in the ego, protecting it, preserving it and boosting it without knowing such mechanism of the universe.

However, the universe doesn’t care at all. It doesn’t mind whether we humans believe in the ego and become worse. It doesn’t mind whether someone tries to boost the ego, protect it, has various ambitions, desires and aspirations. The universe will just give us a hard time when it happens. Then, we, part of the whole universe, will be stunned, say, “Wow! No, this doesn’t work! I was wrong. It’s painful. I’m not happy at all. Oh, no! This is not a good idea. Please forgive me” and return to the selflessness. This is a mechanism to make the ego to diminish, and dejected.

Therefore, we will have a hard time if we don’t realize the mechanism of the universe. “Why doesn’t everything work out? I should have succeeded. I should have won.” However, everything will not work out as expected as ambitions of the ego don’t fit the whole universe. The ego is a separation. It doesn’t fit the principle of oneness of the universe. The universe will give us a hard time. And, we are the universe ourselves. “If God doesn’t find me, if the universe doesn’t find me, it will be no problem. I can deceive them…” However, we are the universe (love). We are part of God. We are part of the whole universe. That is, we as God will find us deceive them. Everybody is the same without partiality.

In other words, people who realize oneness of the universe, its unknown and mystical quality, love themselves who seem others, neither fight with themselves who seem others, nor boost the ego, nor protect the ego, nor deceive people, nor trap them, nor attack them, will be quickly happy. And people of the pure heart who work for the whole universe will be beautiful and feel true prosperity and happiness… This is how the cosmic law works. However, most of human beings haven’t realized it yet. They don’t know it deeply. This is the reason why they will have a hard time.

What if humanity will know the law itself? At present, humanity doesn’t know it very well. They believe in the ego, become highly ambitious, try to get a fame, honor, boost the ego, protect it, deceive others, attack them, and take from them. Believing it works in the egoistical society, people praise themselves, “I have become so great… I am so awesome!!” At that time, however, the universe will start working. He is the universe himself… He is part of God… If he says, “Nobody is watching me!” You are watching yourself, however. You are God himself.

And the universe is meant only to work that way. It is satisfied with it. We are given five senses to fix us (part of the existence) by ourselves (part of the existence), to bear us by ourselves. However, if we believe in the separation seriously and consider the part as the self, we will have a hard time. They (five senses) are given to us for our mere convenience. They are only functions. It is only that each part bears each different part.

nd we have each different characteristic as children of the universe. Everybody has magnificent abilities given from gods, the universe and love. However, if we use it not for the universe, nor the whole, but for the ego, and if we try to excel others, deceive them, attack them with a sense of separation, we will end our days in unhappiness.

Even if you say, “I’ve got a position and honor! I am great!”, you may ruin yourself in pain. Or if you live for the ego, saying, “I will rebel those in power! I will abandon my job, seclude myself in the riverbed or home, and live freely!”, your wonderful ability given from the universe will be wasted and definitely destroyed as its retaliation.

We have had rulers such as Shin Huang-ti, Attila, Alexander the Great, Nobunaga Oda and many others in our history. Maybe kings only will count thousands. There will be more people who live as a hermit on the riverbed than them. All the kings and people wasted their treasures given from the universe without using them for the entire being, and they had the same hard experience. However, most of human beings haven’t realized its mechanism yet. The ancient people called it a divine punishment or twinge of conscience, but nobody cares about it. I cannot but feel humanity will be able to realize a truly peaceful, loving and beautiful world for the first time when we realize the mechanism deeply and learn about it without giving it up…