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I recently caught my wife talking to an ex-colleague


I recently caught my wife talking to an ex-colleague of hers, she had deleted all her previous conversations and the only reason i found out is because i caught her doing it. The conversations had been going on for a year including messaging and talking on the phone. i have sent her back to her parent’s house and i am unsure of what to do, the only thing i can think about it divorce. Please advise?


Wa alaykum salam

Before taking any serious step,speak to her and listen to what she has to say.
Sometimes the reality is very different from what it seems to be.
Also ask yourself as to why does your wife need to talk to another man. I’m not trying to justify her act but maybe it’s because you are not fulfilling her needs.

After all this if you find her guilty and if she is really regretful for what she has done, i think you should give her another chance as all humans make mistakes but most important is not to purposely repeat the mistake.
Allah loves those who repent.

Sukaina Taqawi.