Untimely Servicemember Deaths…

Military suicide…
Is this a topic of discussion that many are afraid to approach? OR is it a topic that many do not know even exists?

January 12th, 2010 was the day I said my vows to the U.S. Air Force.

I was a 19-year-old girl who knew nothing other than…”I have to do something else to make a decent income..”
My desire, like a majority of new recruits, was to generate steady compensation while simultaneously earning a long-term career. I was sold with the idea after viewing one of these infomercials.

Only I was told to join the Air Force, because it was a better way of life…..

My initial contract was 6 years..but after 4 years of service I separated from the military prematurely.
I know that many predicate that servicemen know EXACTLY what they’re getting into before they sign the contract, but this is an untrue statement.

Truth is…we don’t know what we’re getting into until AFTER the commitment. Most recruiters sell the deal by speaking of the benefits and telling troops to..“just get through Basic Training and everything else is smooth sailing”

By being a strong-minded individual, thankfully I was able to navigate pass other pressures attached to the job.

This is not to infer that suicide victims are weak-minded…

In fact, most have a stable family and social life, are prestige among peers, have multiple organizational affiliations, and are advanced in military ranking.

For the thousands of soldiers who didn’t get a chance to tell their story, I can only conceptualize.

263,000 since 1979…approximately 20 veterans and 1 active duty soldier lost to suicide per day


Weekly, I read posts/comments on veteran social media forums relating to suicide…..

I visualize the disturbing cries for help! And it’s heartbreaking..

I will in no way make claims of “for-sure” motives why military members contemplate taking their own life. However, I feel it is more of an injustice to sit back and watch the number of suicide deaths increase without creating some forum of discussion.

Many wives, mothers, and significant others have lost their loved ones without any explanations or signs of mental distress.

Ever tried reaching out to your mentor only to discover they’re no longer living due to this tragedy? I was that airman devastated with the news after trying to update my ans my husband’s mentor. This is why my concern is from a deep, heartfelt place.

How unfair is it to the survivors who never received advanced warning of this possibility? Deployments are the only apprehensions in which a military family member prepares to receive notice of a loved one’s death. But on a normal duty day, it is never briefed to them that their airman..marine..soldier..sailor may not make it to the next sunrise due to military-related suicide.

Many suffer from PTSD…and not just from deployments, but from the active duty commitment and inability to adapt to the regime.

U.S. military suicide rates are more than 20% higher than those of civilians. Though the Pentagon is renewing efforts to prevent suicides, some researchers say the higher proportion may become the new norm.

-USA Today

My passion is to spread awareness on this topic….

I’m fully aware that ALL servicemembers do not experience distress with the duty…but I’m asking you just for a second to think of those who DO…..think about your brothers and sisters in arms who suffer in silence.




-Daniel Somers, Veteran of Operation Iraqi Freedom

continue reading suicide note “I Am Sorry That It has Come to This”

This is ONE account of a soldier’s agony…

What are other possible causes of a servicemember committing suicide? What is it about the job that creates enormous stress? Has a veteran expressed to you their feelings before their untimely death?

Lastly, are members briefed about this alarming rate PRIOR to enlistment..during recruitment? Or are they only pitched a dream?

For those who are currently serving or prior enlisted and have an experience with the military lifestyle, please don’t sit idle and watch another comrade pass away from suicide. Don’t wait until it’s YOUR spouse, sibling, friend, or relative.

THIS has to END………..and it STARTS with US speaking OUT.

For more details on my military involvement and helpful tips for NEW spouses and significant others, visit Amazon for a copy of my book entitled “Military Wives: Rare Details You Must Know Before & After the Vow”



Veteran Suicide Resources:


The Air Force has announced a one-day “tactical pause” taking place over the next 45 days to address a rise in suicides across the force.”

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