Oh Wise One

Let’s talk about our wisest selves.

The self that speaks as if she is your favorite aunt, best friend, New Age guru and sweet grandmother all wrapped up into a neat, powerful ball of love.

I hope you have one. Or should I say, I hope you have met your Wise One. We all have one but meeting does usually take some sort of invitation.

Book of RevelationSometimes that invitation is our own wise self realizing we need to invite a heavy hitter to our Sage Council. The one that meets at 1 a.m. when we can’t go to sleep.

Sometimes that invitation is life one-two punching us with a combo we just didn’t see coming. And we’re on our knees.

At times, it might just be a nagging feeling that we explore instead of ignore. We ignore our parents’ well-meant advice and become a cello player instead of an accountant.

And some very lucky ones among us have been in touch with their Wise One since the wee years of their life. Those old souls can be such showoffs, can’t they? Harrumph.

I sometimes hear the words of my wisest self coming out of my mouth as I’m crying. Or hurt. I hear myself ending a relationship or turning down a potential job and thinking—why? Why oh why do I have to do this when it hurts so much or seems to make no sense?

My weaker, very human side just wants comfort and security. A pat on the back, a warm body next to mine, a steady income. All very good, relevant goals.

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Sometimes our soul path is about so much more. It’s about taking us somewhere that is new or scary, but hopefully better than where we’ve been. It’s about allowing wisdom and the gravity of a situation to filter into our tiny human pea brains a drop at a time until, suddenly, the picture becomes clear and even though we hate what our Wise One has shown us, we get it.

And when we get it, we take action. Like it or not. Because Wise Ones do not lie. They may inflict pain with words or insights we don’t want, but they. Don’t. Lie.

I have become wise enough to know just this. It will all make sense one day and that day does not have to be today.

Here is to your wisest self, friends. I’m glad it’s alive and kicking.

24 Comments Add yours

  1. Sandra says:

    Oh how I wish my wisest self would hurry up and make herself known because I can’t make many more mistakes before I self-destruct….Okay, a tad dramatic, and yet true.
    Very well said!

    1. candidkay says:

      Oh, but the wisest and most interesting people are usually those with plenty of mistakes under their belt:). Wishing you some quiet time and an introduction.

  2. I want to believe I have a wise self. But dang, she sure gets pushed aside by deluded, selfish self way too often. Still working on it!

    1. candidkay says:

      Oh yes. I have that pushy self also. It’s so annoying.

  3. Very interesting. I also find that the words I often need come out of me when I am in pain or experiencing sorrow.

    1. candidkay says:

      It’s an odd juxtaposition, right? To hear yourself sounding so vulnerable and yet so strong and wise at the same time.

      1. It’s called standing in your truth…no worries about hurting someone or not wanting to look silly etc. It is straight from the heart with nothing added on…it is your truth and love of who you are.
        The more you stand in that truth the easier things become…you are actually loving yourself by being in that place, and you begin to attract at that level also.
        It can initially feel awkward because for many years you have acted in a certain way to protect yourself from being hurt, and not be seen to be silly or stupid etc. But the more you do stand in what is your total truth, and that means saying and acting from your heart with love, the more you will attract that love back…in all its ways.
        And it does give you confidence and strength because you realise that in giving yourself that love, you are coming from that place within that is made of nothing but the love that you have given to yourself. You begin to appreciate and understand what your life has shown you, and begin to accept yourself totally, you see that you are worth so much more than what this world has tried to brand you with.
        It is a breaking free of your fears 🙂
        Sorry Kay, I get excited when someone see’s something within themselves that is close to their truth within, but may not be sure of what it may means 😀

      2. candidkay says:

        I am hoping that excitement is contagious, Mark :-). I am still somewhat in the shellshocked stage and trying to move out of it.

      3. It does take some while to adjust to a big change like you’ve been through. I can honestly say it took me 5 years to really integrate the changes that came into my life after divorce.
        And you do slowly adjust and begin to see what it has actually shown you, and see that there is actually a rainbow in those changes.
        For me, the hard part was the patience thing, you know that p_a_t _i_e_n_c_e bit where we want it all to happen ‘right bloody now’ 😀 , and get past this crazy ride that is testing us in every way we know possible.
        But that has purpose too, we WILL eventually see our truth and what was driving us crazy so that we can release those fears and begin to give to ourselves, that unconditional love we all seek.
        It IS there, when we drop those fears and actually do give to ourselves for the first time, without those feelings of low worth and rejection.
        Don’t move out of it Kay, move through it. Find those bits that make you feel uncomfortable, in there is the answer. Ask yourself what upsets you the most, take a deep breath and look inside it, see what drives that feeling, and start to break free.
        Then that sun will really look beautiful the next time you watch it set, for it will all begin to change…just as you will 🙂

      4. candidkay says:

        Ah, yes. Patience. And persistence. Despite the long journey:).

  4. marlene frankel says:

    Now you have me thinking. Not sure if I ever had a wise one growing up. Aunts were all busy raising their own children. I never had grandparents. My husband of 45 years is my wise one, and I think I may be becoming my own wise self. It is kind of a scary place to be.

    1. candidkay says:

      Scary is an understatement in the beginning, isn’t it? I find you need to get very still and quiet at first–and very good at recognizing that voice, distinguishing it from your ego, your deepest fears, what others think. I hope it gets stronger and wiser for you. Thanks for stopping by.

  5. Aunt Beulah says:

    Your words combined with the photographs you chose went straight to my heart today, Kay. I’ve been searching for my wise one and think I found her the other day while walking a mountain path on a cold morning. I particularly reacted to your sentence “It will all make sense one day and that day does not have to be today.” Life teaches me the truth of your wise sentence on a regular basis.

    1. candidkay says:

      That sentence you reacted to is the hardest to except, isn’t it? Because many times I feel since it is my life I should be the one to be able to see at least a football field ahead instead of only a tiny few steps. I am so glad you found her and hope we both find a way to learn more through Joy than through pain. If you figure it out, please share the secret sauce :-).

  6. Beautiful writing Kay. Wisdom is within each of us.

    1. candidkay says:

      Thank you! Here’s to keeping the spigot open:).

  7. RuthsArc says:

    Insightful words, as always. Thank you.

  8. The thing with the wise one is that when she’s not listened to, she keeps coming back until her wisdom (lesson) is learned. This could take years.

    1. candidkay says:

      You’re telling me! 🙂 I’ve learned to listen closer to first blush, to her whisper, in order to avoid the scream:).

  9. Very wise words young lady. Your wise one does indeed do it with much love…we just get in the way sometimes 😀 , but that is part of the journey so that we do understand and ‘know’ what we have been shown, and the outcome is so beautiful as it matures into a love like no other 🙂

    1. candidkay says:

      On that journey. Boy, am I:).

      1. 🙂 Then enjoy the view as you gain more understanding Kay. It gives much faith and strength in yourself each time one of those wise bits open within your heart.
        Unconditional love is not some far off destination, it is just waiting patiently for you to see that beautiful heart within for what it is. And as you remove those negative things about yourself that are built from childhood, ingrained by life and the walls that are built from them….that love for self blooms and the views go on forever 😀
        I suppose it’s like looking out the window with the blind closed. As we take more and more of that blockage away, more and more light comes in, and it gets easier and easier to see and enjoy the view 🙂

  10. candidkay says:

    Thank you! Some days it comes out making sense and others–well, you know:).

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