Marriage Is A Feminist Tool Used Against Men



Defining the Feminist Marriage
Ramsey writes:







There Is No Good Marriage
This leads into the next thing Ramsey wrote:





Solipsistic Fallacy
Ramsey writes:









Man Up, Marry Those Thots, and Save Western Civilization



Chart Describing The Nature of Feminism






>This requires abolishing abortion and defeating feminism.










The Godless Goddess Woman On Full Display

In doing these things, it’s funny how certain things tend to drop into your lap right at the right time. After talking about a sterling example of the supplicating beta worm that’s the worthless worshipper of woman, we have one that comes around of the goddess woman.

I explained the dynamic that traditionalists have placed upon men, women, and marriage last time, so I’ll refer you there for the basic idea. As pointed out earlier, society including the churches have been deifying women and bidding men to submit to their wishes. This extends not to just marriage but all society.

Now to move to our current example out of many many women, we have 43-year old actress Charlize Theron. We are given the message as men that she’s “shockingly available” and “been single for 10 years”, and that men need to “grow a pair and step up”. Now this is language we’re used to hearing from women and their enablers, as there’s been legions of women crying this very thing. But it’s fascinating to see a man-up rant from a Hollyweird movie star.

The Goddess Proclaims Truth
The graphic to the left explains the general operation of feminism. This view of women as goddesses, created from the advent of Mary worship, kicks off things. Since we have female supremacy in operation, the average woman has absolute female moral authority.  This means any pronouncement that she makes automatically becomes true and right.  If she’s hyper-obese, she better be the best looking woman out there, for instance.  And if your her husband, you better provide the right answer back to her.  If you don’t, then you just aren’t providing proper devotion that she deserves.

The base expectation out of traditional feminism is that women deserve husbands as their birthright.  I’ve made the reverse statement in a supposedly Christian environment to howls and the blog owner consoling the poor wimminz.   They want what they want no matter how unrealistic it might be. After all, we’re reminded that 80% of men are below average according to women. She’s got to have the exact man she wants and the princess fantasy to go along with it. This effect is worse in churches and has been called the Evangelical American Princess (or EAP) by several bloggers. These women just aren’t finding men, so the howls of “Where have all the good men gone?” After all, men are supposed to fulfill every whim and desire of the women around them!

The Worthless Male Responds
So we have Mizz Theron, this entitled princess, howling like many other women about not finding her perfect man that fits all of her 463 requirements. For 10 years, even! And then bidding the men that are supposed to fall all over her and worship her. But it’s not happening! Maybe it’d be useful to look at the back of her baseball card:

  • Single mom of 2 with her first partner.
  • Later dated Sean Penn for a while.
  • Ardent abortion advocate
  • Ardent supporter of PETA
  • Ardent advocate of same-sex marriage
  • “not having much respect for marriage in the first place”

I could keep going on, but as our article states:

Unfortunately, for her, the only men in her social circle are probably pro-choice left-wing activists, given her history of abortion advocacy, which spans all the way back to the late 1990s.

So rightfully, any man that Mizz Theron would be attracted would likely reject some or all of this. So all that are left are the simpering soyboys for her to choose legitimately. But wait a minute! Men aren’t worth enough to have a choice! They need to be falling all over her trying to gain her approval. Don’t they know this is a Glorious Woman?!? This is what all “good men” should be doing to any woman that dare might consider letting him into Her Glorious Presence!

Remember too, what happens to men that complain like this. They are often reminded that they don’t deserve to have wives, or even standards for women and should take what they get. Remember that a man would (as many men already have!) get shouted down as a pathetic excuse and a waste of flesh if he made a similar pronouncement to Mizz Theron.

The Biggest Teenager In The House
We keep looking at Mizz Theron, as we do most women who fit the feminist bill. The traditional responsibility and burden of the man is to serve the woman and give her everything she wants without any responsibility falling on her head. But how do we convince men of that? The key is to feign weakness so that women may be thought of as children. Women can’t be responsible, so men must undertake this burden. This is the source of a lot of the diversion of blame you see out there in the churches and society. That adultery wasn’t her fault, that pathetic excuse of a husband pushed her into it! That divorce wasn’t her doing, it’s all she could do to get away from her terrible husband that wouldn’t “make her feel loved”!

This leads us to Mizz Theron. Like many women, the fact they are single is always a poor situation out of her control that the men put on her. It’s not that she’s a terrible relationship prospect that chose a life to put herself into that place by acquiring the feminist merit badges, it’s just that the men just won’t man up and marry her or even have a relationship with her. After all, she didn’t do anything that warrants that kind of treatment. She just can’t!

The Prototypical Entitled Woman
As we see, Mizz Theron is simply a prototype of what we see every day in the dating market as men. Many of us do realize that we have a choice in the women we marry or date. Simply put, Charlize Theron, as most women, are simply not worth it. Not necessarily because of the looks, but because of the person. We don’t hear figures such as Albert Mohler or numerous others tell women that they need to shape up. However, we get bellows to man-up or grow-up and marry these women and protests about video games or a number of other non-issues. A woman can never be blamed for anything she does, especially when it comes to relationships.

As for Mizz Theron, why don’t you step up, Seth Rogen? Then there’s always Glenn Beck and Chad Prather and his boys out there that could man up and marry this woman. Oh wait…thought so.

Pastor Opposes MGTOW. MGTOW Embraces Pastor.

In light of the last two posts, I thought I’d focus on something encouraging, and something that was in my “to be posted” list fits right into the current trend of discussion. While this guy opposes MGTOW, it elicits an interesting response compared to the others within and without the manosphere.

Notice something different and unique about him compared to the average way men are dealt with in the church? He’s showing respect towards the men in his audience as human beings and actually shows he is listening. He hits most all (if not all) points I hit back here regarding why women aren’t finding marriage. While I can find much disagreement with him on this and other matters, I can respect him and how he deals with men regarding this issue. He sees men not as chattel to be cudgeled into submission, but men with choices before God. More importantly, he actually acknowledges the reality on the ground men are facing with respect to women and quite obviously sees men as equal participants on the walk with God. He actually acknowledges women as just as sinful as men and actually rebukes women. He doesn’t shout down at men, doesn’t seek to break men at every turn. He actually treats the men in his audience as men and not as chattel that won’t know their roles and shut their mouths. He doesn’t accept the base tenets of feminist doctrine.

(2013-10-23) feminist-theory

Let’s hear the response he got:

Funny how that works, huh?

A Church For Men? Is It Really?

On a blog written by David Murrow, a man who wrote “Why Men Hate Going To Church”, I found an interesting post. For one who I would presume should know better, I found a post that constitutes a typical man-up rant.

In “Why Christian Men Are Playing The Field”, he presents the shop-worn arguments that we’ve all become familiar with:

Men are the ones cutting out on seeking marriage.

While he uses much less harsh language than the typical man-up rant, it still illustrates a false perspective colored by feminism inherent to the church: It could never be what everybody else is doing. Murrow begins by showing us the female-centric nature of this post:

Ask any young woman what the Christian dating scene is like these days.


Before quoting Mark Regenerus and Gina Dalfonzo, he gives us the answer:

Christian men can play the field – and they know it. The numbers are in their favor.

In other words, Murrow claims that MEN are the ones delaying marriage because they can “play the field”, and hence men are the problem! Murrow goes on to explain:

Therefore, many Christian guys are postponing marriage into their 30s, confident they’ll be able to snag a compatible, attractive wife when they’re ready to settle down.

Then the misandry of this post really comes out, in going back to one of his general premises:

So what caused this imbalance? Why is there such a shortage of godly young men?

Simple. We screened them out of church as boys.

Replying to such a post seems incumbent, as such a post is emblematic of what David Murrow claims to be out against in his book and much of the rest of his blog. It offers a female-centric view of the issue and assumes the problem is wholly men. Such things as this post is a major contributor to driving men out of the church, especially when voiced in the chorus of misandrist pastors that exist in the churches such as Mark Driscoll, Matt Chandler, and Albert Mohler. Such rants from those figures and others are so ubiquitous that they have earned a meme title in a lot of circles: “Man up and marry those sluts”. Men definitely do not have a desire to show up to a church service and be blamed incessantly for not measuring up to a masculinity that demands he be shamed and blamed at every opportunity.

In fact, if one wants to observe the real causes of this, they need to get away from secular and feminist sources (like was quoted in this post), and start talking to men. The problems are readily known and dealt with in legion on this blog and in other places.

1. Poor character of women. It may be shocking that “those sluts” gets used, but it is emblematic of what is generally facing men when it comes to dealing with the women in the church. Christian women are arrogant, prideful, and sinful Jezebels, and yet the churches have nothing to say or do about it – after all they raised these women this way. Men are looking at these women and just deciding it isn’t worth it – the single and never going to marry ever crowd (MGTOW). This group is only increasing in size each year.

2. Unrealistic expectations. Given the prideful arrogance, coupled with the equation of Jesus as husband with the expectation of the husband being her perfect Personal Jesus, women go into things with a 642 point list of what they expect out of men. They expect the perfect combination of Brad Pitt’s body, George Clooney’s charm, Warren Buffett’s money, Billy Graham’s spirituality, and Chris Tomlin’s musical ability. Yet no one corrects them.

3. Lack of commitment by women. It could be argued more forthrightly that women are the ones delaying marriage. This is encouraged by the “True Love Waits” movement, and other like movements such as the courtship movement. Add to that the influence of modern feminism, and a woman must never seek marriage until she’s attained the Feminist Merit Badges. With her parent’s support, she must attain college, a career, travel, missionary or volunteer work, and ride the Carousel before she ever considers marriage. When the time comes that she is ready (in her 30’s, funny huh?), all the “good men” are either married or have given up. The “true love waits” message is for us men, not the women. Wait until she gets done with her adventures and then be ready and waiting for her. When this doesn’t work out they complain that the “good men” just aren’t there waiting at their beck and call. Perish the thought!

4. Unsupportive church environment. The general environment of the churches is anti-marriage formation. Misandrist man-up rants have been dealt with, already. Murrow himself points out in his book the issues of segregation and other factors that keep men apart from women. Then, the general way that mating is treated by others in the churches (gossip), just push men away from it.

5. Poor testimony of marriage. Much of this has to do with Marriage 2.0 and its nature, but also has to do with the marriages around them and the examples that are set. The single men are watching to see what marriage is and what it represents. They see it for what it is and have enough self-interest to not go through with it.

In conclusion, while it’s expected for man-up rants to come from most of the church and secular crowd, I find it disappointing to read a “blame the men” style post from David Murrow, who I would think would know better and would take steps to research things a lot better than what is demonstrated in that post. Unfortunately, his post is a good example of what drives men out of the church. Given his platform, he could call for things that would deal with these problems, but unfortunately he missed that opportunity with this post.

They Still Want You To Man Up and Marry Those Sluts.


A man grows up into this.






Marriage 2.0 Illustrated.
Marriage 2.0 Illustrated.








The modern marriage dynamic.
The feminist marriage dynamic.













A Man’s Quest – Rescue The Beauty

Previously the idea that a man must possess beauty in order to make his life passable was discussed. (Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6)


To fit in with the traditional narrative, this means the Brave Knight must go on a quest. Recall that a man’s virtue is in his action, while a woman’s virtue is in her person. As with any kind of action, the typical response is “What have you done for me lately?” When the poor Beauty becomes bored and unhaaaaaapy she puts herself in the keep, requiring that she be rescued again.

He must continue rescuing the beauty and fighting for the beauty in order to have her and keep her.

You love her because that’s what you are made to do, that’s what a real man does. (1)

If a man is the image of the Lion of Judah, how come there are so many lonely women, so many fatherless children, so few men around? Why is it that the world seems filled with “caricatures” of masculinity? (2)

This even becomes the definition of “masculinity”, and effectively creates that “caricature” of masculinity. The “caricature” is typified in all the poetry, all the songs, all the fairy-tale romance stories. It is not enough to fight for a cause, a woman must be involved. This seems to be a universal, even into the modern action films, to the point that a “romance” plot has to be tacked on. He fights not for glory, honor, or country, but for woman.

A man wants to be the hero to the beauty. Young men going off to war carry a photo of their sweetheart in their wallet. Men who fly combat missions will paint a beauty on the side of their aircraft . . . The battle itself is never enough, a man yearns for romance. It’s not enough to be a hero, it’s that he is a hero to someone in particular, to the woman he loves.

Not every woman wants a battle to fight, but every woman yearns to be fought for. Listen to the longing of a woman’s heart: she wants to be more than noticed — she wants to be wanted. She wants to be pursued. (3)

This is traditionalism at the heart of it, as Eldredge can not fathom that these desires must have been generated from somewhere (4), like the Disney fairy tales and the typical childhood stories, and are not innate.

Eldredge gives us the example of God in saying that “a beauty to fight for” is a requirement, attributing a “romantic heart” to God. (5) “That theologians have missed this says more about theologians than it does about God.” (5) Perhaps they miss this because it’s something that doesn’t exist. Eldredge continues in using the example of the Song of Solomon, which illustrates beauty and desire emanating from both the male and female. The Song does not fit either the traditional definition of romance or Eldredge’s definition, that beauty is the exclusive province of the woman and desire is the exclusive province of man. Moreover, the Song does not deify woman, nor indicate that she saves him in any way. Eldredge continues on:

God is a romantic at heart, and he has his own bride to fight for. He is a jealous lover, and his jealousy is for the hearts of his people and for their freedom. (6)

Eldredge goes on to quote Isaiah 62:1, 5 and Isaiah 63:1-4, which relate to the end-times. Note though how he puts that. His jealousy is for the hearts of his people, but in quite another way. This truth comes out very often in the Bible, as it proves that God just doesn’t do a very good job in fighting for Israel (at least in the romantic mind). All those times they suffered for departing from Him. The nation of Samaria destroyed and carried away by Assyria. The nation of Judah destroyed and carried away by Babylon. The endless rebellion of Israel against the occupying force of Rome. Could it be that instead of fighting for them, that they should be faithful towards Him instead? Could it be that instead of man fighting for woman, that woman be faithful to man instead? Note how Eldredge brings out fault for Adam in Eve’s sin (using the typical feminist argument), because he didn’t “fight for the beauty”:


Men are supposed to hover over their wives. They’re supposed to “fight” for them in keeping them from every thing harmful, everything that would make her feel less loved, less the Princess, less the Queen. The interesting part of Eldredge’s commentary on the Creation is that he gives this rationalization, then gives the correct answers (albeit in light of his incorrect ones). Eve was deceived (Genesis 3:13) and failed Adam as his ezer kenegdo (8). But we are told much later that Adam chose Eve over God (Genesis 3:17), because he feared the loss of his “ezer kenegdo, my soul mate” (9) – in other words, Adam lost the beauty. Amidst all the double-talk (which one is it, John?), the whole soul mate/savior thing comes into full light.

So what happens when man won’t fight for the beauty? An interesting observation that comes out of these things is how lust and outer beauty is confused with the concept of beauty required for romance. Some traditional feminist commentators like to add the word “inner” for this reason. One thing that happens is pornography. As Eldredge tells us:

Why is pornography the number one snare for men? He longs for the beauty, but without his fierce and passionate heart he cannot find her or win her or keep her. Though he is powerfully drawn to the woman, he does not know how to fight for her. Rather, he finds her mostly a mystery that he knows he cannot solve so at a soul level he keeps his distance. And privately, secretly, he turns to the imitation. What makes pornography so addictive is that more than anything in a lost man’s life, it makes him feel like a man without ever requiring a thing of him. The less a guy feels like a real man in the presence of a real woman, the more vulnerable he is to porn. (10)

He is drawn by the lust of the eyes and his libido (pornography is one of many things the traditionalists vilify because men won’t go “rescue the beauty”, others come out in the man-up rants), but somehow it is this “inner beauty” that he is seeking. He just won’t go out and fight to possess the beauty, so he finds an imitation. He is a “lost man” because he has not gone out and rescued the beauty, instead looking at pornography, playing video games, or a number of other activities. He is a “lost man” because he isn’t living out his purpose. After all:


Such finishes the fairy tale – the story of what a woman is, and what a man is supposed to do. The woman is the beauty, the perfect embodiment of the glory and beauty of God. The man is not, and therefore must possess woman in order to find his absolution. He does this by finding his Beauty or his savior, rescuing her and then fighting for her, and listen to and heed her heart-cry as they go throughout life. Such is the pattern of traditional marriage, only amplified by Marxist principles.

(1) Wild At Heart by John Eldredge p 192. (2) (3) ibid p 15-16. (4) ibid p50. (5) ibid p 33. (6) ibid p 34. (7) ibid p52-53. (8) ibid p 53-54. (9) ibid p117-118. (10) ibid p46.