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The Conventional Guide to Indonesian Dating

20 August 2018

Thinking about dating Indonesian singles? If you think that it is very hard to find an Indonesian woman because they are traditional and religious, worry no more! Here are some guidelines you need to take in order to get successful in Indonesian Dating.

  1. They are both modern and traditional

    Indonesia is like a mixing pot filled with different ethnicities and races. The population of Indonesia is subdivided into two parts. One part is that they are modern and the other one is more traditional. 87% of the people in Indonesia are all Muslims and it's less likely to find a Christian woman.

    a modern indonesian girl and a traditional indonesian girl

    Traditional Indonesian women are those who are wearing hijabs. These women are very conservative. Indonesia is a Muslim country, so you must understand that some women won’t allow you to show a public display affection for her as they are afraid of being judged by other people. A lot of these women are saving themselves and believe that they will only give it to the righteous man or when they are married.

    Most single Indonesian women are still living with their parents even though they are 28 already. Respect your Indonesian girlfriend’s curfew as she doesn’t want her parents to know that she is dating a foreign man. If you are planning to meet her parents you need to make sure that you are going to marry her soon. You must understand that dating for Indonesia, especially interracial dating, is a big deal for them.

    Modern Indonesian women are those who are not wearing hijabs. They are more open-minded to different things. These women are not so conservative and very open to new ideas, experiences, and memories. You are likely to meet this type of women in Jakarta or Bali as they're already used to encountering a lot of foreigners. You can also find these women working in hotels, partying in clubs or in Asian online dating websites.

    If you want to get a modern Indonesian woman for a serious relationship, it is better if you stay away from clubs.

  2. They speak english very well

    If you doubt that you couldn’t be able to communicate with them properly, well you won’t have to worry anymore. Most of them are already fluent in speaking the English language. In fact, according to statistics, 52.15% of Indonesia’s population are proficient in English. They may be having a hard time in pronouncing some words or sometimes in constructing sentences, but you can’t deny that they’re trying their best just to communicate with you.

  3. They are religious

    Indonesian women take it seriously when their religion is on the table.

    Indonesia is the biggest Muslim country in the world. Expect that these women are very religious and has cultural beliefs that they should follow. Respect her if there are times that you won’t understand what she is doing and things that she is not allowed to do.

    Although not all Indonesian woman are very religious, but they respect their parents. If you want to get her parent’s approval you must also show respect so they will accept you in the family.

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  4. They are expecting that you pay most of the time

    Dating Indonesian women means you need to pay for your dates most of the time especially during the first one. In the Indonesian dating culture, it is expected that men are usually the ones who have pay for every date.

    You won't have to take them luxury dates if you can't afford it. As long as they’re happy and you are enjoying their company, it will count as a good date.

    Indonesians love to go to malls. It is easier for you to take her out in cafes, restaurants, or simply just go shopping with her. If she is not in a good financial status, it is better if you pay for goods and services rather than giving her cash as this will lead to a bad outcome in the long run.

  5. They like foreign men

    Compared to other Asian countries, Indonesia has fewer foreigners. Because of this, many Indonesian women are very interested in dating foreigners men.

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    They find them very attractive and because of hollywood movies, they think these men are their prince charming. Indonesian women are very obsessed with having white babies with blue eyes that is why they want to marry a foreign men.

  6. They want a man who can lead

    If you are getting used to having a dominant girlfriend from your country, in Indonesia you can find a lot of submissive women. Indonesian women are used to in their culture where men make decisions and act as the leader while the women will just follow and obey.

    a happy indonesian couple

    They expect you to act as a leader, giving her guidance, sets boundaries, and make the decision for her. That is why a lot of them want to date a foreign man as they feel the freedom they get from a local guy.

  7. They pay a lot of attention to their looks

    In Indonesia, you may find a lot of women getting pampered in salons and spas. You will be amazed how clean and beautiful are their nails and hairs are. They’re fond of nice clothes and makeup because they are very conscious of how the way they look.

    Skin whitening products are very popular in Indonesia because they find white skin as something rich and luxurious whereas dark skin to be ugly and dirty. They make sure that whenever they’re out, they bring umbrellas to protect themselves from the heat of the sun.

  8. They want you to be open

    Don’t be shocked if she checks your mobile phone and social media accounts. It is one of the common practices among Indonesian girls to check their boyfriend’s privacy. If you have something to hide, better keep your phone where she can’t find it.

    At first, they find it hard to give their trust to a man she barely knows. So if you’re serious, make sure to open yourself up to her. Do not hide secrets from her as you will only break her trust and heart. Tell her everything about you and your life before you met her so she can know more about you.

  9. They are out-going and fun to be with

    Despite its religion and strict cultural beliefs, Indonesian women are very outgoing. You can hardly hear them complaining about things.

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    During their free time, they love to go to clubs and have fun with their closest friends. Most of them have good communication skills and very friendly so it will not be very hard for you to approach them if you are in a club and trying to find an Indonesian girl.

  10. They don’t mind age differences

    It is very common for Indonesian women to date older men. They believe that dating older men will guide, protect and secure them for life. The age gap is not a problem in Indonesia.

    If you’re concerned that you’re too old to date, then this guide is an eye opener for you. It is totally fine for you to date younger Indonesian women, no one will judge you. But, you need to make sure to give her the freedom to have fun with her friends and family.

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