What To Do When You've Tried It All





What do you do?

WHAT do you do?








1) Ireland (because I'm half-Irish) 2) England (because it's close to Ireland) 3) South Africa ( was my dream destination)






















-Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche





How Not To Get Stuck

There have been many things I've overcome in my life. I've overcome an eating disorder.

I've overcome the divorce of my parents.

I've overcome my first broken heart.

I even threw myself off a 40 foot tower to ride a zipline. I have a fear of heights, so this was a biggie. It helped that there was a harness attached to my hips.

Overcoming adversity, fears and tough situations takes courage to push forward when we feel stuck.


But still, I get stuck. Oh yes. Yes, I do.


We get stuck when we get caught up in sentences like this: "If only I _________, then I would _________."


"If that person ___________, then I would ______________."


Things like that.

And when I listen to the voice that makes those conditions, I sit and wait. When or if those conditions don't happen, I have a pity party at a table for one. I get stuck.

Much like I almost did recently when I thought I had secured this awesome opportunity for my business. I had taken all these steps and had gotten all these green lights and I was super jazzed. Things looked really good and I thought I would get to inspire some folks, have a lot of fun, and make some money. And then, things just stopped. No response. No flow. Just nothing. 

That doesn't work for me. I'll go where the love is.

Do you like that sentence? It helps me get unstuck.

"That doesn't work for me. I'll go where the love is."

I learned that at a workshop I did last year and it was scary and startling the first time I heard it. Then I tried saying it--even scarier. But it also felt good somewhere deep inside. Try saying it, yourself.

The truth is, it doesn't work for me (in my business, or in my life) when I'm trying my best and getting nowhere. It's an old pattern for me persist, anyway. I'm doing work so I change that old pattern and instead focus on where the green lights are shining down on me, where the love is. Because they are there. There are greens lights of opportunity all around each of us.

All green traffic light

Want to know how NOT to get stuck? Focus on the green lights. Focus on the opportunities in your life where people are open, honest, kind and work with you. Where things flow. I tend to become a little bit like a hamster who gets trapped in a corner of the room not realizing that all I have to do is turn around and head in any number of directions to "free" myself.



Don't get stopped when you come up against experiences like this.

Don't get stopped by someone else limiting you or themselves.

Don't get stopped because you focus so much on the wrong thing that you make 10 other right things sit waiting, patiently, with their arms folded across their chests.


Get out there and try. When you come up against some resistance, give it another go or two and then ask yourself if you're being tenacious or if you're stuck in a corner again.