The TEAD principle of self management.

“What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?” Eleanor Roosvelt

Do You know what is the difference between a confident person and a person who doesn’t even look up? What is the difference between achievers and followers? What is the difference between an happy person and a sad one?

mmmm.. no.. I don’t know… maybe their attitude?

Good guess!! And what is behind the attitude of a person? Behind the attitude of a person lies the way his able to manage his state. Quoting the personal development guru Anthony Robbins “There are no unresourceful people, just unresourceful states”. Have You ever experienced a moment of light bulb? or when You were performing above Your usual standards? I’m sure You did! And this is not because You changed the skin You were in, but because You changed Your internal state, tapping into Your Resourceful Self.

So…. You are telling me that every result I can achieve depends by the State I’m in…

Bunga!!!! I’m a great believer of the TEAD theory. TEAD stands for: Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, Direction. It is an ever ending cycle.

What we think determine the way we feel; our feelings determine our performances; our performances determine our Life.


It has been estimated that we have 70.000 thoughts per day. (I don’t know who decided to count them!! :))  70% of these thoughts are almost the same, like a tape on repeat. Has been shown that, generally, these 70% of thoughts are negative and disempowering. Can You see now how much impact can thoughts have in our Life? How can we live an happy and successful life if what we thing most of the time comes from our worries and problems?  Each of our thoughts has a measurable electromagnetic field and can influence the whole chemistries of our body, blood pressure, hormones and the one of the people around us. Also, our thoughts, when repeated, create strong neurological patterns that creates our habits. Sometimes we are so use to that repeating tape that we are not even aware of it. Being aware of our thoughts is the first step that we can take towards changing the limiting patterns.


Every thought we experience, interact with the energetic field of our body, linking to our past experiences. Every thought. as said before, create changes in the chemistry of the body, changing the emotional state we are in. So what are emotions? Emotions can be described as “Energy in Motion”. Emotions are changes in our energetic field and are influenced by the patterns of thoughts and biochemicals released in our body. Everything we think create and generate a different emotions. Some of them can create a positive change in our field, releasing “happy hormones” like serotonin and dopamine, while others can trigger stress hormones like adrenaline and noradrenaline. In conclusion If we think positive thoughts, we are going to trigger positive emotions.


Our emotions have the power to change the state we are in. State can be defined as the mental and physical attitude we have in every given situation. In which state can our action be more successful? Easy to guess!! More we are in a joyous and happy state, more resourceful we are. More we stay in a negative or depression state, less power we have. In conclusion we can say that the state we are in determine the performance of our daily actions.


“Show me the actions of a man and I’ll tell You his destiny”. Every action (or inaction) is a step towards one direction. Our actions and performances determine our Life direction and ultimately Our Destiny. This is why our life a reflection of our daily actions. Having in mind what is the direction we want our Life to take, we can plan our actions accordingly.

Wow!! All this is uber fascinating!! But How can I change my state?

Ahahah!!! I’m glad You enjoyed it!! And You are really curious!! So don’t miss out my next post “How to trigger a “rock n’ roll star” state”.

Your Turn

  • Now close Your eyes, and take 3 deep breath… That’s good. Think about something negative, experience it, hear it, feel it. What do You notice? What changes happens in Your body?What changes happens in Your body? Your breath? Your posture? Your voice? Your inner voice?
  • Now shake Yourself a bit. Jump or walk around.
  • Close again Your eyes and think about something SEXY or JUCY that You Love. Think About something that makes You really HAPPY! What do You notice?

Did You Like the exercise?




May Your state be always Happy!!

Simone Vincenzi                 ~Your Power to Shine~


10 Juicy tips to live a Joyous Life

“Joy is not in things, it is in us.”                                        R. Wagner (1813-1883)

Joy, Joy, Joy. 3 letters with a deep meaning. We live our life running towards these 3 letters. Each of our action is dictated by these 3 letters. We make plans to achieve these 3 letters. We make changes to feel these 3 letters. We Love to achieve these 3 letters.

A question, while writing is popping up in my mind…

What is really Joy?

The definitions You can find in the dictionary could be:

2. a source or cause of keen pleasure or delight; something or someone greatly valued or appreciated.
3. the expression  or display of glad feeling; festive gaiety.
4. a state of happiness or felicity.
Now, What do these definition have in common?
Guess it…
Talking about the origin of Joy we can see that Joy is an emotion, a feeling, a state.
Where is the origin of feelings?
You Got it!!
Feelings are inside our body. Mainly we are the creators of feelings.

So… You are telling me that Joy is inside me?

Well Done! Joy, like any other feelings is inside You and You can create it any time You want.

…mmm… Why then people seems to constantly look for it externally?

Great question! I would say that this happens for 2 main reasons. The first is because tapping into the inner, everlasting Joy requires a bit of self-exploration. And often people tend to avoid digging within themselves. Maybe scared about what they might find. The second is because some people don’t really know how to experience Joy and what they can do to live a Joyous Life.

Ok… Well… talking about Joy within and self-exploration sound to me a lot of Woo-Woo stuff. Is there any practical action I can take to start experiencing this state of Joy?

I understand what You mean… I had the same reaction at first. And Yes! at the end of the day Life is all about taking action! The so called Woo-Woo stuff are the actions that give the person the strengths and the mindset to follow through.

So… What can I do?

I’m going now to share with You 10 Juicy tips that can support You in living the Joyous Life You deserve.

1. Start Your day being grateful for what You have.

As soon as You wake up give thanks for all the people You have in Your life, the food, the water, Your possession… Ask Yourself the question: What is important in my life that I need to be grateful for?

2. Eat an Healthy and Balanced diet.

You are what You eat is not just an ancient proverb. Food is information and has the power to turn on and off genes and releasing hormones. Everything You eat effects You on the Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual level.

3. Move Your Body

When moving and during exercise, high levels of serotonin (the happiness hormone) are released, clearing the energetic blockages where negative emotion are stored.

4. Treat Yourself like if You were the most important person on the Earth.

Self Love is a natural Joy booster!! Even if it seems a bit odd, go in front of a mirror and say out loud to Yourself all the nice things You’d like other people share about You. If You don’t have any idea start with: “I Like You”, then gradually moving to the advanced phase:  “I Love You”. Do it for just 2 minutes and notice how You feel.

5. Do a random act of kindness.

Give a smile, help a stranger, donate to a charity… Giving to others without expectations makes us feel good.

6. Take time for Yourself.

Assess where You are, envision Your future, plan the action steps that will bring You there.  Set aside at least 1h weekly to see where Your action are bringing You and where to adjust Your steering wheel.

7. Relax

Set aside daily at least 30 min for Your personal relaxation. Switch off Your mind reading a novel, listening to some soothing musing, taking a bubble bath, or doing anything else You enjoy doing.

8. Make Love.

Making Love with a person You Love and care about ads spice and meaning to Your Life. It is the most powerful act of giving and receiving. And is fun!!!

9. Change perspective on things.

If an event upsets You, think about the meaning You are giving to that event and choose the one that most serves You. For the steps on how to do it read 6 steps to change perspective.

10. Celebrate!!!

Celebrate You achievements! Do something wild, crazy, or relaxing that You enjoy as payoff for Your good work!! Life is about enjoying what You do!!

Your Turn

  1. How would You rate Your state of Joy in a scale from 1 to 10?
  2. What can You do NOW!! to score 1 point higher?
  3. What is that You most enjoy doing in life?
  4. What can You do today to bring more Joy in Your Life?
  5. What useless habits can You replace with one from the above?
  6.  What can You do today to celebrate Your past success if You haven’t done so?




May Your Life be always Joyful!!

Simone Vincenzi                           ~Your Power to Shine~

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