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Women Reveal How Many Dates It Takes Before They Have Sex

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We've all heard the "rule:" when seeing someone new, sex probably isn't on the menu any sooner than the third date. In practice, though, it's kind of silly — relationships exist as hot-burning flings, slow-smoldering courtships and everything in between. As it turns out, though, some women do have rules (or guidelines, at least) about when they're comfortable getting intimate. Like you'd probably expect, everyone's different.

Over at the always-helpful AskWomen subreddit, one poster asked the community how long they wait before they have sex. The answers were varied, but the ladies tended to fall into three broad camps: wait a while, don't wait at all and ¯\_(ãƒ„)_/¯. More valuable than their timeframes, though, are the reasons behind them.

Wait A While

These are all popular reasons for taking things slow. Emotional development is a big (and important) part of a relationship. Sex tends to complicate things, so why add in an extra complication before you know it's going anywhere? Sexual health is also not something to trifle with, so exclusivity (and a clean bill of health) are the best bets for playing it safe. And of course, the practice of waiting for marriage is alive and well.

Waiting A Long Time = Wasting Time

Here's the other side of the coin. Sex is important to a relationship, so if the sex isn't good, why bother with the drama of a full-blown relationship? We're also slowly, painstakingly moving to a place as a society where we don't shame women for having the audacity to have a sex drive. If the worst thing that happens is that a woman you wanted to date uses you for one night of sex, you're doing ok.


Who needs rules at all? Sex when treated as a logical calculation (versus an emotional decision) isn't very good sex at all. Everyone's different, and everyone connects with different people in different ways. Living your life with set romantic expectations (e.g., "I've decided that I want a girlfriend") is a recipe for disappointment, so flexibility and a willingness to go with the flow usually leads to good things.

As always, the right time to have sex is when all parties involved feel ready.

Drop This Fact

According to a survey, couples who waited 5 dates to have sex reported being 35% happier than couples who had sex on the first date.

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