How to become a skilled networker

By: Guest contributor

Date: 18 June 2014

How to become a skilled networker/Business people shaking handsNetworking. Some people do with such ease and confidence, elegantly working a room. How we envy them. Because for ​some of us the very notion of networking with strangers fills us with dread. But making the most of social small talk is a valuable skill that we can teach ourselves, because you never know what doors a new contact can open in those few minutes. So, what's the key to effective networking?

1 Think of networking as free marketing

It's just another part of your marketing tool kit, which can be refined and improved. And like all tools – knowing when and how to use it, will serve you well. Prepare by writing down two or three short sentences about yourself and your business or idea and learn these in advance. Make it current, factual and positive. This doesn't need to be a sales pitch; it's a conversation-starter; an opportunity to introduce yourself and your business to new people or tell people you already know something new so that they can leave with a refreshed version of your ‘asset value'.

2 Networking is just social communication

It's a conversation between people, not you trying to sell your latest product or service, but a taster, an appetiser. Give a glimpse of what you do using positive, confident language (which you've already prepared). And it's two-way thing – show an interest in what others have to offer, so all parties can see if there's something of mutual interest to follow-up.

3 Break the uncomfortable first contact by asking a question

Be conversational in your approach with a few casual questions, such as: "How have you found the event so far?", "What's your business about?" or "Who's been your favourite speaker so far?" Top tip for the tongue-tied: worry less about what you have to sell, focus on being interested in the other person person. Top sales people are often great listeners.

4 Don't be shy about moving on

If you are at an event where badges are given out and networking is part of the agenda, you're expected to mingle rather than stick with one person for ages. It's perfectly polite to spend a few moments with someone, make introductions, have a conversation and then say: "Well, it's been a pleasure speaking to you. I'll leave you to meet other people…" or "I must take the opportunity to meet so and so…"


It's OK to ask if the person can think of another person at the event who might be interested in your service or products. It's also great when you can recommend someone whose products or interests are similar and agree to connect them via email or social media.

6 Do your follow-up quickly


Blog supplied by Lisa Gagliani, CEO of Bright Ideas Trust, a charity that helps young people in London who aren't in employment, education or training or who haven't had the same chances as the rest of society to start their own businesses.

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