(CNN) -- Michael Jackson's upbringing was shaped by two very different parents. An image of Michael Jackson and his parents was on the big screen during his funeral in Los Angeles. His mother, Katherine Jackson, has been portrayed by her children as the loving glue that bonded the family together, while her husband, Joe, was the harsh disciplinarian whose iron hand not only shaped one of the most successful musical families in the world, but also elicited enough fear in his superstar son that it sometimes made him ill. Now the couple of 60 years stands at the center of a custody drama surrounding their grandchildren.
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Joseph and Katherine Jackson had different parenting styles, observers say
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Katherine viewed as family backbone while Joe reportedly a harsh taskmaster
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Author: Katherine Jackson "kept everyone pretty well grounded"
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Michael Jackson's mother is seeking custody of his children
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