Editor's note: Rep. Jason Chaffetz, a Republican, represents the 3rd District of Utah in Congress and is appearing in CNN.com's "Freshman Year" series, along with Rep. Jared Polis, a Democrat from Colorado. Here, his wife, Julie Chaffetz,  talks about how she copes with the challenges of her freshman year as a "congressional spouse." Julie Chaffetz and her husband, Rep. Jason Chaffetz, pose in front of a view of Washington. WASHINGTON (CNN) -- In reality, there's a lot more to serving in Congress than simply voting on the House floor. There are plenty of tasks -- technically optional -- that are essential for someone who wants to do this job well.
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Rep. Chaffetz's wife, Julie, is raising three children; writes "perspective is everything"
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"Planning is crucial." Julie used to go with the flow, but "now, time is precious"
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Julie Chaffetz says support from family and close friends keeps her going
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Says being flexible important as plans change or the need to travel comes up
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