(CNN) -- Shut up. Shut up. Shut. Up. I never wanted to become the poster child for anything, let alone domestic violence. But my blood is boiling, so when I say shut up, I'm venting at all those people out there who insist on blaming the victim. I do not watch "Fox and Friends," but I do read the blogs, and when I stumbled across a story about the "Friends" "ha-ha-ha you pathetic woman" moment, my stomach turned. "She still married him!" co-host Steve Doocy exclaimed after viewing the now-infamous Ray Rice elevator tape. Doocy was talking about Janay Palmer, the woman Rice punched, then married. Doocy's co-host, Brian Kilmeade, chimed in: "Rihanna went back to Chris Brown right after...[he beat her]."
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Carol Costello says there should be no tolerance for blaming victims in domestic violence
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A "Fox and Friends" co-host joked that abusers should take the stairs to avoid cameras
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It takes abused women seven attempts to finally leave their abusers, she says
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Costello: If you want to know why it's so hard, talk to those who are abused
I don't think @placeholder and Doocy meant it that way, but it was those comments that wormed their way under my skin.