(CNN) -- We learned a few things on Monday night, those of us watching Anderson Cooper on "AC360," about Alex Teves, one of the people who died in the gunfire at theater 9 in the Century 16 multiplex in Aurora, Colorado. We learned that in high school, "for no reason whatever," as his father put it, Alex always wore white T-shirts and blue jeans, and that one day some 400 to 500 kids from the school wore the same outfit, declaring an unofficial "Alex Teves Day." We got to meet Alex's best friend, Ryan Cooper, who spoke about how people were "drawn to him." And his girlfriend, Amanda Lindgren, who told us, among other things, about the last act of Alex's life, which in some ways is all you need to know: He dove across her body to protect her from the bullets.
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On Anderson Cooper's show, a father of a victim of the Aurora shooting asks about media's role
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Mike Hoyt: Is Tom Teves right to say news organizations should ignore the mass killers
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He says it's natural to ask why the horrific incident happened and what motivated the gunman
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Hoyt: Media should make the necessary inquiries but never glorify the killer
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