[The Refuge Charity](https://www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/help-for-men/)   >Support for men  >You may be visiting this site because you are, or think you might be, experiencing domestic violence. Most domestic violence is directed at women, but men can be abused too, in both heterosexual and gay relationships. It is important to realise that you are not alone. Refuge – and many other organisations – are here to help you.  So it doesn't fit the US Experience at all. Its not perfect but don't go round making life worse by spreading bullshit to vulnerable victims.