I was raped by a woman and taken advantage of sexually many many times. Grabbed, squeezed, hands down pants. One time I was held down by 4 girls as I was drunk as they shaved my junk and tried to get me hard. I lost my gf and was laughed at. Nobody took em seriously.   On doesn't have to have military experience to have an opinion on gays in the military. The fallacy fo disenfranchisement is what you are suggesting.   Women wouldn't know anything about violence, not on the scale off men as men are the overwhelming victims. But im not about to distance women who wish to have an opinion on the matter.   the whole "men dont understand" is nothing more than a bully tactic to both control and shut down the conversation.