Yeah TRP has some interesting stuff, and I understand the concept of sticking to rules and what not... But strict adherence to a very specific code doesn't allow for the nuances of life. The whole AWALT thing gets silly sometimes too.   I'm in an LTR, been "cohabitating" for 4 years and I have no desire to change that. She and I get along really well, she has helped me grow as a person. I'm not a fucking slob anymore because the (for lack of a better term) nagging has motivated me to respect my living space like I never did before.   But try and say that? Nope. I've applied some of the principles to my relationship to great benefit, but in their view it is a sign of weakness if a woman helps you improve yourself rather than total self-discipline, and I just don't think that's true.