It's bad to abuse children.
John comes home to his house exasperated after being berated by his boss in front of his colleagues and sees his kids in the kitchen.
John wants to let off steam after a tough day at work.
John takes a deep breath, scoops his kids up in his arms and takes them to the movies.
John raises his voice and uses bad language towards his kids.
John's kids love him more and feel good and happy.
John's kids become afraid of him and resent him and feel sad.