It's wrong to tell a partner flat out no.
Fred is watching a football game on TV when his wife Sue asks him to wash the dishes.
Fred wants to answer Sue's request to wash the dishes.
Fred agrees to wash the dishes and cleans them all at halftime of the game.
Fred tells his wife that he doesn't want to do it and that she can wash the dishes if she wants them clean.
Sue is pleased with Fred and glad to see him contributing around the house.
Sue is upset with Fred and feels irritated that he doesn't do his part around the house.