It's mean to make your spouse unhappy.
Randy is home when his wife arrives back from work looking tired and stressed.
Randy wants to tell his wife to start an activity.
Randy tells his wife that she looks tired, and she should go for a swim in the pool while he makes dinner.
Randy tells his wife that she should go ahead and start dinner right away.
Randy's wife is delighted that he sees that she's stressed and that he suggested for her to do something fun while he takes care of chores.
Randy's wife is angry that Randy clearly doesn't see she's tired and that the first thing he tells her is to do something for him.