Excluding your father from your academic achievements is hurtful
Joan hasn't been close to her dad since her parents divorced nevertheless he asks to attend her graduation ceremony.
Joan wants to make a decision about whether or not to invite her dad.
Despite their distance Joan asks her dad to come to her graduation.
Since they aren't that close Joan asks her dad not to attend her graduation.
Joan and her dad are able to begin rebuilding a relationship.
The gulf between Joan and her dad grows as a result.