You shouldn't use the n-word because it's wrong.
John is watching a news story about black lives matter on tv at home around his wife and kids.
John wants to feel good about himself.
John states that blacks are just as equal and valuable as whites.
John states out loud that those n-word people don't deserve any special rights.
John's wife and kids respect him more and develop in a healthy way.
John's wife and kids respect him less and may develop racist views.