You shouldn't hate the love of your life.
John and his girlfriend, who was the love of his life, break up after relationship troubles.
John wants to find some closure and get his feelings in order about the relationship and it's ending.
John remains grateful for experiencing their time together and hopes that he and his ex-girlfriend can maintain a civil relationship.
After thinking about the situation for some time, John decides that he hates his ex-girlfriend and never wants to see her again.
John does not feel that the time he spent with his ex-girlfriend has become an emotional wound, but rather he remembers the time they spent together fondly.
John feels an intense sense of loss and experiences a range of uncomfortable emotions every time he thinks of her and their time together.