It's not okay to of never of met your children.
Ernest has been contacted by his son from a previous marriage that he walked out on when his son was very young.
Ernest doesn't want to upset his current wife.
Ernest tells his wife that his son wants to connect and asks what she would be comfortable with.
Ernest does not attempt to respond to his son's requests to meet and does not tell his wife.
Ernest and his wife establish rules for how the meetings with the son will proceed and how the relationship can work.
Ernest is never able to have a relationship with his child.