It's not okay to be rude to your in laws.
John is having dinner with his wife and his in-laws at a popular restaurant, when his father-in-law starts ordering food for the entire table.
John wants to let his father in law know that he would prefer to order his own food.
John interjects that, while he appreciates his father in laws efforts to provide everyone with a good meal, he already has a selection in mind for himself.
John tells his father-in-law that he is tired of being treated like a child, and he doesn't appreciate the way his in-laws behave when they go out together.
John's in laws will not be hurt or offended by his behavior and his wife will not feel embarrassment about how he reacted to his father in law.
John's wife is embarrassed by the way he expressed himself and his in-laws feel hurt by his tone.