It's unacceptable to judge the way someone grieves.
Patty's mother recently passed away and her brother did not want to attend the funeral.
Patty wants to talk to her brother about not attending the funeral.
Patty tells her brother it's okay for him to process their mother's death in his own way.
Patty tells her brother it was rude to not attend the funeral.
Patty's brother will feel that Patty is trying to understand him and cares.
Patty's brother will feel misunderstood by Patty and attacked by her.