It is controlling to tell a spouse what to do.
Dan is talking to Ann.
Dan wants to feel secure about what Ann does Dan is not around.
Dan expresses his concern verbally and Dan and Ann have an honest conversation and work things out.
Dan demands to see Ann's web history and phone messages.
Dan and Ann's  relationship becomes more stable and Dan and Ann become more  trusting.
Ann feels trapped and abused and her freedom is restricted.