Parents should allow their grown children privacy.
Jan is standing in her daughter Michelle's room.
Jan wants to clean her daughter's room.
Jan asks her daughter if she can clean out her drawers and Michelle says she will do it herself.
Jan goes through Michelle's drawers and throws away things she thinks Michelle doesn't need.
Michelle respects her mom for asking her before throwing her things away and keeps her drawers clean in the future.
Michelle notices her things missing and gets mad that her mom threw her things away without asking.