You shouldn't hit your children.
John just lost his job and came home where he sees his two kids.
John wants to vent his anger.
John takes a deep breath and asks his kids if they want to go jogging with him.
John grabs a belt and swats his kids on the buttocks while raising his voice.
John's kids feel closer to John and are happy to run with him.
John's kids resent John and love him less and stay away from him.