It's bad to be verbally abusive.
John just lost his job and comes home to his wife Mindy.
John is upset and wants to vent.
John calmly shares with Mindy the news, and they talk it over.
John calls Mindy all sorts of bad names and yells at her.
Mindy is happy he is sharing with her, and they get closer.
Mindy feels badly and cries and resents John.