It is bad to pick on children
John just lost his job and is at home with his kids who are watching tv.
John wants to feel powerful.
John takes a breath and goes to lift weights in his home gym.
John tells his kids to turn off the tv in a raised voice, and they are grounded for a week.
John's kids still like their dad and don't feel depressed at all.
John's kids resent him and feel depressed and very sad.