You shouldn't verbally abuse your partner.
Felicity's wife has done something inconsiderate and hurt Felicity.
Felicity wants to make sure her wife doesn't do it again.
Felicity calmly explains how her wife's actions made her feel.
Felicity yells at her wife and calls her stupid.
Felicity's wife understands and does better in the future.
Felicity's wife is hurt and feels unsafe.