You shouldn't take your frustrations out on others.
Bret's favorite baseball team just lost, and his wife wants him to take out the garbage.
Bret wants to be less angry.
Bret takes out the garbage and smokes a cigarette while outside.
Bret tells his wife that he's tired of doing everything for her.
Bret feels better, and Bret's wife is happy that he took the garbage out.
Bret feels guilty for taking his anger out on his wife, and his wife feels bad.