You shouldn't be angry at your grandchildren
Carol hasn't seen her grandchildren in 3 months because her daughter-in-law won't allow her to see them often.
Carol wants to have a relationship with her grandchildren.
Carol realized that it is not the children's fault, and she tries to make the most of the times she does have with her grandchildren.
When Carol is allowed to see her grandchildren, she takes her anger out on the kids.
Carol's grandchildren love seeing their grandma and ask their mom if they can go see her more often.
Carol's grandchildren are afraid of their grandma and don't talk to her much when they go around her.