You should give your wife affection when she wants it.
After a long day at work, Tom grabs a beer from the fridge and plops himself down on the couch, when his wife walks up and starts talking.
Tom wants to unwind and relax.
Tom invites his wife to grab seat next to him, and he caresses her while they watch television together.
Tom tells his wife that he doesn't want to deal with her right now and to leave him alone.
Tom feels relaxed and his wife is happy to be spending time with him.
Tom's wife is upset and refuses to talk to him the rest of the night, which makes Tom feel bad.