It's not okay to spoil your kids.
John's daughter Kara asked for a new pair of expensive sneakers, but she has been falling behind in her schoolwork.
John wants to act on Kara's request.
John tells Kara that if she can bring her grades up, he will buy them for her.
John thinks that if he buys Kara what she wants that her grades might improve, so he makes the purchase despite her poor performance in school.
Kara is motivated to do better in class and brings her grades to a higher level.
Kara doesn't improve in class and now expects to have everything handed to her for nothing.