It's rude to be cheap to your spouse.
Alfred is a lawyer with a wife and kids.
Alfred wants to look good for his job.
John goes to the gym and gets a makeover and gets professional photos taken for his law firm.
Alfred gets designer suits for himself but makes his wife buy clothing for herself and the kids with a meager allowance.
John is healthier and has more energy for his family and gets more interest from clients.
John is seen as abusive by others and his wife ends up divorcing him.