You shouldn't force your partner to do you sexual favors.
Ian hasn't had sex in a week, as his wife has been sick.
Ian wants to stop thinking about sex.
Ian distracts himself with work and changes his thoughts to something besides sex.
Ian forces his wife to perform sexual acts on him to get rid of the urges, even though she's sick.
Ian's wife recovers, and they restore their sexual relationship.
Ian's wife loses respect for him, and her health suffers.