You shouldn't micromanage the life of your romantic partner
Eve has been married for two years.
Eve wants to strengthen her marriage.
Eve asks her husband which chores he prefers to do, so they can get them done as a team.
Eve makes up a detailed list of everything her husband has to do for her and criticizes him for falling short.
Eve and her husband get chores done efficiently and have more time to spend with each other.
Eve's husband feels resentful and ends up doing things his own way, which upsets Eve more.