It's hurtful for your kids to hate you.
Dan has problems with anger management, he often gets into a rage because he feels tired or frustrated and his family life is hurt by this.
Dan wants his kids to leave him alone when he gets back from work.
Dan sits down with his kids, gently tells them that he's very tired and asks them to go play in the yard for an hour while he takes a nap.
Dan comes back home one evening and gets so angry at his kids for being noisy that he hits them.
Dan's kids understand how tired he is and are happy he was nice to them.
Dan's kids are scared of him and hate him, which makes them miserable.