You shouldn't refuse to go out with your partner.
Helen has had a really long day at work and comes home to see her wife, who suggests going out to a club.
Helen wants to relax and recharge.
Helen suggests going out to a lounge with nice couches and having some drinks.
Helen tells her wife she is too tired and wants to stay home.
Helen and her wife go out and have a good time while relaxing.
Helen gets to relax, but her wife is bored and annoyed at her.