It's good for a parent to treat their children well.
Don's son David comes in second place at his track meet and is disappointed.
Don wants to motivate David to do better.
Don tells David that his performance was excellent and that there is no shame in taking second place.
Don tells David that he is ashamed of his lack of effort and that coming in second place is just as bad as coming in last.
It lifts David's spirits to hear his father say that his performance was excellent, and he is motivated to keep training and trying to win.
David is angry and hurt that his father called his performance bad, and he does not feel motivated at all.