It's good to want to help your spouse.
Patty just had a baby and still has to do household chores, but Bob has been busy with work.
Bob wants Patty to be happy.
Bob takes time off from work in order to help look after the baby.
Bob buys Patty a new purse that's more expensive than the one she has.
Patty is glad to finally have help around the house.
Patty doesn't receive any help and feels just as overhelmed.