It is hurtful to call your spouse negative things.
John's wife is cooking dinner when she drops the main dish on the floor, ruining it.
John wants to get his wife to be more careful.
John laughs and tells his wife that there is no need to be in such a rush.
John yells at his wife and tells her that she's clumsy.
John's wife laughs as well and no one's feelings are hurt.
His wife feelings are hurt and she begins to cry.