You should care about your partner's discomfort.
Ryne wants to watch a comedy special with his black wife, but  he wants to watch one from someone has made racist remarks in the past.
Ryne wants to watch a comedy special.
Ryne asks his wife what comedy special she would like to watch.
Ryne decides to pick the comedy special that he wanted to watch.
Ryne's wife feels appreciative that Ryne would ask her first.
Ryne's wife cannot hide her discomfort that she has to watch it.