It's wrong to blame your problems on other people.
Joe recently developed a problem with alcohol that he's having trouble getting over.
Joe wants to get over his alcholism.
Joe decides to stop buying alcohol and has his wife keep his credit cards until the problem is fixed.
Joe blames his wife for the problem and shames her into helping him.
Joe's wife is happy that Joe fixed the problem on his own using discipline.
Joe's wife begins to think that it was all her fault and feels intense guilt.