It is appreciative to recognize how someone helps you.
Heather is in need of a new car but doesn't have the money, though her mom often provides her with financial help.
Heather wants to ask her mom if she will help her buy a new car.
After receiving a check from her mom, Heather thanks her immensely and bakes her a cake to show her gratitude.
Heather cashes a check from her mom then proceeds to purchase a new car without ever thanking her.
Heather's mom feels appreciated and gives Heather a hug.
Heather's mom feels used by her and cuts her off entirely.