It is misleading to lie about your gender.
Bob is a old, single man who likes to hang out in chat rooms online to kill time.
Bob wants to meet young men.
Bob tells people in the chat room his true age and gender while trying to meet them.
Bob pretends to be an 18-year old woman from California while trying to arrange meetings with people online.
Bob ends up meeting people from the chat rooms who actually appreciate him as he truly is.
Bob ends up meeting with several people from the chat rooms, who are unpleasantly surprised by Bob's actual identity.