Persist IterableDataset epoch in workers
Use shared memory for the IterableDataset epoch.

This way calling `ds.set_epoch()` in the main process will update the epoch in the DataLoader workers as well.
This is useful especially because the epoch is used to compute the `effective_seed` used for shuffling.

I used torch's shared memory in case users want to send dataset copies without shared memory using pickle. I also find it easier to use than using `multiprocessing.shared_memory` than requires unlinking only in the main process, or `mp.Value` that is not picklable.

close https://github.com/huggingface/datasets/issues/6673

cc @rwightman 