What’s up with the shit talking and gossiping in this industry?
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[{"id": "io4i39f", "text": "Commercial brokers hang around wealthy people as that is the group that owns the properties.  They start to think and act like they are the wealthy ones, when all it takes is a slowdown in commissions and they are declaring BK.", "replies": [{"id": "io4kndr", "text": "This is painfully accurate", "replies": [{"id": "io7hc4s", "text": "This is so funny. I am a property manager/GC now but when I was in accounting in the entertainment industry we always joked how the assistants had the biggest egos while the bosses were super chill. This seems extremely similar", "replies": [], "depth": 3}], "depth": 2}, {"id": "io4vqdh", "text": "As a landlord with a ton of square feet AUM this is very on point.", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io4ihdv", "text": "Half this business is, I don\u2019t like that guy.", "replies": [{"id": "io94t4b", "text": "Yeah he's trash", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io4ixm0", "text": "This is every industry tbh. Banking, law, fashion, retail, etc etc.", "replies": [{"id": "io4m042", "text": "But is it necessary to be successful in this industry?", "replies": [{"id": "io4zr8z", "text": "Crabs in a barrel...", "replies": [], "depth": 3}, {"id": "io5eqdl", "text": "Lots of people are insecure.", "replies": [], "depth": 3}, {"id": "io5xaip", "text": "Keep your participation to a minimum to avoid drama, but LISTEN.", "replies": [], "depth": 3}, {"id": "io7cvy1", "text": "Just nod and smile. Shit works in 99% of situations. And, yeah, learning how to finesse shitbags is necessary for success in any industry.", "replies": [{"id": "io7x6fl", "text": "My other favorite when a response is indicated is to nod once and say, \"Mm.\"  It's about as neutral as possible and basically is just an acknowledgement you are listening.", "replies": [{"id": "ioao9cw", "text": "That shit is gold. I also have \"Ah man that's crazy...\" with absolutely zero enthusiasm. If AAVE is on the table, \"Word?\" is as versatile as it gets as well. \n\n\"Word? (Wow, I agree with that assessment!)\" \n\n\"Word? (Wow, I can't believe you would say those things to anyone other than your psychiatrist!)\" But then they're definitely going to talk behind your back about  your diction \ud83e\udd23", "replies": [], "depth": 5}], "depth": 4}], "depth": 3}], "depth": 2}, {"id": "io5fzml", "text": "Medicine too lol", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io4p0kz", "text": "We basically just gossip for a living. That\u2019s how most off market deals are born", "replies": [{"id": "io4ph3i", "text": "Oof marone", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io52kns", "text": "No not normal. Commercial deals are slow moving beasts. They take cooperation and reputation counts. *Loose lips sink ships.*", "replies": [{"id": "io56ko2", "text": "You\u2019ve never heard any of these classics?\n\nThat lazy piece of shit got the listing? I can\u2019t believe they paid a 4-cap for that. His main LP is his rich uncle from Chicago, no way anyone else would give him money. She\u2019s definitely selling the portfolio as soon as her parents die. This QSR tenant sucks to deal with. What kind of term sheet did they get? He\u2019ll sell but he wants way too much for it. Or just any general resi agent slander", "replies": [{"id": "io5td4a", "text": "Heard all those and more. No need to participate. There's a reason silence is golden.", "replies": [], "depth": 3}, {"id": "io6ytwt", "text": "Every comment you quoted is valid, it's just not expressed well.", "replies": [], "depth": 3}], "depth": 2}, {"id": "io6yt10", "text": "Great quote. Thanks for the wise words", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io54sl1", "text": "It depends what company you work for. Often it\u2019s insecurity or making people feel superior to others. There are good brokers who don\u2019t talk poorly about others in the industry and you need to align yourself with those people", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io5bcqr", "text": "The best brokers are the ones who everyone thinks is their best friend. They are usually positive, supportive, constructive people. They are rare.", "replies": [{"id": "iopfhbz", "text": "20 years of owning cre and this is so true.  Not my personality to sell stuff and love everything but that\u2019s why I hire brokers whom it is theirs\u2026", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io5bvhi", "text": "It\u2019s a highly competitive business. You\u2019re going to hear that no matter what industry you\u2019re in. Think it\u2019s any different in professional sports when the stakes are big? \n\nThe advice you should hear is that you probably shouldn\u2019t engage in any of it this early in your career. And the better advice would be to pay attention to who says these things about others, bc they\u2019re probably saying shit behind your back, too. \n\nThe good thing is that now you know who talks like that and who to avoid and what not to do. \n\nIt\u2019s also a relationship game. Many times an inferior competitor will win assignments when they might not be the best man for the job. Shit happens. Also, you\u2019ll never hear a man or women doing better than you talk shit about someone who is below them. So that\u2019s also something to think about", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io61o88", "text": "It is.", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io673en", "text": "Sounds like a bad environment to work in", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io6acul", "text": "10+ years in brokerage, and maybe I\u2019m in my own unique hole, but I actually haven\u2019t experienced that. Or maybe in an above average quality office. Either way, I\u2019ll take it.", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io6ipep", "text": "The are top notch talent, what take a few pics and wait. The big guys never call back until they have too waist of time and money just list it your self and watch the frenzy.", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io6qj4t", "text": "It's the same in restaurants, landscaping, banking, stocks....it's people dude.", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io78c55", "text": "retail is super cut throat. a lot of hot shots, i can\u2019t imagine working with a bunch of douchebags", "replies": [{"id": "io8mwm6", "text": "I\u2019m in multi family, but I get what you\u2019re saying", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "io83nza", "text": "Shit talking happens all over!  The prolific broker that\u2019s focused on marketing and bringing information to the market but doesn\u2019t deal with brokers trying to double end his fee is hated!! The idiot broker that\u2019s buys the listing is hated!! The broker who has a sloppy deck with bad information is a dumb ass!!\n\nGo to eastdil or one of the dynamic teams at cb, jll, ipa, c&amp;w or colliers then you won\u2019t get shit on!!", "replies": [], "depth": 1}]