Just passed my RE exam and I wanted to start in Commercial Real Estate
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[{"id": "ie97ntk", "text": "Go to the company he worked for and apply for a job. Talk to people their that knew your father and try to get a friend of his to be your mentor. \nEat regular meals at noon and 5pm and nothing else. Work out for a half hour at least 3 days a week. \nYou got this!", "replies": [{"id": "ie98ih9", "text": "Great advice \u2b06\ufe0f", "replies": [], "depth": 2}, {"id": "ie9bq2f", "text": "Thank you its been so crazy for me, lost my mom just three years prior too. I really appreciate your advice.", "replies": [{"id": "ie9snf5", "text": "I understand.  I lost my dad 3 years ago. It is a very difficult time. Stay busy and think about the good times.\nSorry for your loss.", "replies": [{"id": "ie9wg28", "text": "Thank you brotha, life is crazy man. Covid ruined a lot of moments with my our family with quartining it's crazy how people made it through the other side but only die shortly after it all; thank you so much.", "replies": [{"id": "iecstyx", "text": "Good luck friend.  Stay strong. I often thought of how great it would of been to talk to my dad during covid about Covid to see what he would think about the whole situation.  At least you had that. Yes sad he made it through and did not live longer.", "replies": [], "depth": 5}], "depth": 4}], "depth": 3}], "depth": 2}, {"id": "ieh50u4", "text": "You just brought a sense of home to the sub. Pure value.", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "ie9db6v", "text": "First, start working to find the right people and team now. Don't be afraid to share your entire story with them if the vibe feels right. Obviously if it feels out of place then no need to share. Above all, that gang will be looking for someone with the right Fire Within and it sounds like you have it. Personal suggestion, would work on the weight, but would not let it hold you up from starting. What everyone will care about is how hard you work and how effectively you work, less so how you look at the moment. Only additional thought is if your dad was a commercial broker, are there any contacts that partnered with him or Worse closely with him who might be able to help get you a in?", "replies": [{"id": "iea6e41", "text": "thank you for your answer, im honestly pretty nervous at this time to get all dressed up professionally ha ha. I really haven't worn anything buiness like for any other occassion other than my parents funerals and back in the day when I use to be part of a church. My dad scared me with all these horror stories about how some agents are psycho, he told me this one guy at the brokerage he was working at lost his nerve so much he ran at my dad and ripped off his shirt to fight him! , sounded like a movie but he told me it was 100% real! im like wtf? I asked him why he got so mad and my dad told me it was because my dad made a joke about him and the dude was on Tren all juiced up so he was probably Roid Raging and wanted to use his power on someone. The guy simmered down eventually and he got sent home for the day but came back the next day and my dad and him became good friends later but he actually hated a lot of people but for some reason got a long with my dad only. Im so freaked out by that, im like is there going to be some psycho brokers out there like that? I guess i'll find out soon enough.", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "ie9e1qa", "text": "Out of curiosity why do you feel like your weight is important. Is it a confidence thing?", "replies": [{"id": "ie9ewkz", "text": "Good question, my dad told me it's pretty cut throat sometimes in Commercial. They're highly competitive folks working around you. And it helps you as a brand some people to see you're in good shape. It's like a subconscious thing, for buyers and sellers they want to pick the best guy or gal to do the job.", "replies": [{"id": "ie9g2f2", "text": "Cut the carbs, cut the processed food and sugary drinks and 40 pounds will come off fast. That\u2019s what I did. Fresh meats, fresh veg and water and unsweet tea. Lost 45 pounds in 5 weeks.", "replies": [{"id": "ie9xzpw", "text": "thank you so much for replying. I did do something like this where I was really trying my hardest to avoid anything that wasn't natural. Like for carbs I would only eat something that's natural like fruit, honey, brown rice. I lost a good amount of weight and i stuck to lean meats and veggies. My hardest struggle is snacking at night, really get hungry sometimes; be it anxiety or depression. Thankfully I never drink sodas or even juice anymore for very long time. I replaced sodas with carbonated water or just water. Also I love coffee but if I ever have it I always use the fake sugar if want to sweeten it up; thank you so much for your reply.", "replies": [{"id": "iea0n37", "text": "I lost my mom last year. Started therapy shortly before she died. My only regret is not starting it years earlier. Give it a shot. \n\nSome of the things they my therapist has me doing that go along with therapy are daily Journaling, yoga, and meditation. Took me a while to get into it, don't feel like you need to do everything at once. \n\nHe also recommended an app called Unwinding Anxiety. Most expensive app I ever bought. Had it for 6 months. Helped a lot. I'd say it was worth the price of a nice dinner out, which is about what it costs for 6 months. The doctor who does the app is a specialist in cravings and addictions so a lot of his advice is helpful with things like eating.\n\nHit me up if you want an invite to a biweekly zoom commercial RE mastermind group I'm in.", "replies": [{"id": "iea5h83", "text": "wow thank you man, so crazy i did the same too man. Im an only child so you could say me and my mom were best buds for a long time. Buddies for life, compadres on the range lol. Whatever we did we did together, my dad was mostly seeing me every other week but not very interested in being close for whatever reason. When I lost my mom I sincerely died, I dont have a strong family most of my aunts and uncles are narcissistic and sociopathic. I believe it runs with our family my grandmother had the same problem. So when my mom passed away she was my world, I had to reach out to someone I was breaking up pretty bad. I would say it was the best thing I ever did I should have done it sooner, its crazy how parts of life that we considered as normal, arent so normal ! i always thought certain things in my life was very common in other families but it wasnt! therapy helped me see so much. Iam much better now but not with the fact that my dad passed too, crazy how the both of them both passed away very close to each other just three years apart. My mom went in May three years later my dad in June. I hope I can really pull this off as a 40 yr old, switching careers for the last time. Im going into this all the way and never looking back.", "replies": [], "depth": 6}], "depth": 5}], "depth": 4}], "depth": 3}, {"id": "ie9nyjw", "text": "I wouldn\u2019t worry about it from a professional standpoint. None of my MDs could run a mile if their life depended on it.", "replies": [{"id": "ie9wst2", "text": "Thank you, yea I was so worried that possibly they would shut me out because maybe I look disgusting to them or something. I want to do the best I can for my family.", "replies": [], "depth": 4}], "depth": 3}, {"id": "ie9wzlw", "text": "Meh, doesn\u2019t mean as much as you think. Probably helps a minute amount. It\u2019s more about your knowledgeability, likability, availability, and work ethic. \n\nBut I\u2019m also not going to tell you not to lose weight, that\u2019s just straight up good for you in general, so good luck!", "replies": [{"id": "iea4boh", "text": "thank you so much, likeability my dad mentioned that a lot, he had told me that made up the business a lot not so much kissing peoples asses but just being a person that people can work with.", "replies": [], "depth": 4}], "depth": 3}, {"id": "iebmjgf", "text": "Feel like a lot of times we subconsciously believe that if someone is in shape and healthy they are more responsible and disciplined therefore more trustworthy on real estate deals", "replies": [], "depth": 3}], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "ie9f7te", "text": "For the losing weight part: As a general rule, to eat healthy you want to eat the main ingredient. What I mean by this is this: what is the main ingredient of a potato? A Potato. What are the ingredients of chips, a list of like 23 different things. If you stick by this small key and are consistent, you will lose weight. \n\nAn anecdote: When I was 14, I weighed rougly 220 pounds, at 5'6. I took a school summer trip to Peru where I stayed alongside classmates at a host family's residence. Over there, they only fed us proper healthy foods, like in the example I said above: only main ingredients. I would eat those types of meals everyday for the 2 weeks that I stayed there. When I returned home I had a doctor appointment a couple days after my return home, when I stepped on the scale I was shocked. I was 188 pounds. Granted, being obese means you're going to lose most of your weight faster but regardless, in 2 fucking weks I lost that much weight.  I'm now 17, a normal weight, I hit the gym, but most importantly, I'm healthy. That's the power of healthy eating.", "replies": [{"id": "iea5uh5", "text": "wow this is facinating man, im going to have to try this out and put up the dollars to get some healthy stuff from the markets. 2 weeks 17 pounds? thats nuts! im thinking like this is going to be a long while like six months to lose 17 pounds. Thank you so much im going to set something up for tonight and start tomorrow.", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "ie9qyen", "text": "\\- Reach out to your father's colleagues and ask for guidance / mentorship - they'll help you navigate.\n\n\\- Get out of the house for 30-60 minutes everyday. Incline walking does wonders. Lift some weights. Most importantly, drink water, 8+ hours of sleep, and cut out processed food. Eat whole foods.\n\n\\- Dress for success. Buy clothes you feel epic in. Use stitch fix or go out with a friend to get a wardrobe upgrade.\n\nWe all believe in you, crush it \ud83d\udc51", "replies": [{"id": "ie9wnl1", "text": "Wow man honest to God I felt this words, it's refreshing to find good folks. Thank you so much for these words I'm going to do my best thank you.", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "ie9yuih", "text": "What city are you located in? Do you have a product type preference (retail, office, industrial)? I might be able to point you in a direction", "replies": [{"id": "iea4hos", "text": "to be honest only because of my familarity with my dad teaching me Multi-Family Apartment buildings, is where I would like to go atleast for now. Perhaps later I will learn more about retail and industrial but for now multi-family.", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "ieanq7x", "text": "To lose weight go vegan only drink water and sugar free juices and a kambucha every other day and jog 1-2 miles 5 days a week i lost 60ish pounds 4.5 months shity feeling first week but after that you feel alot better physically and mentally", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "iechlim", "text": "When I was told I needed to learn to model, TIL they meant literally", "replies": [], "depth": 1}]