Once you start closing big deals, how do you go about telling people when they ask you how the job is going?
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[{"id": "dg3fhlt", "text": "I would just keep it to myself", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg3g2ot", "text": "Remember, you're paying a split to the house, taxes, paying the full 15% social security tax for self employment, providing your own insurance, paying for all transportation costs and networking costs, dinners out with clients, etc. There is a lot of money to be made in CRE, but you're bankrolling everything. \n\nAlso, you may not have another sizable deal close this year, and the market can always slow. I've found it's better to keep it to yourself.   ", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg3h5c1", "text": "Keep the ball rolling, being in the winning mindset will help you close more. ", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg3kghy", "text": "\"Things are going well. Trying to get some deals closed. How is your job going?\"", "replies": [{"id": "dg3ryul", "text": "This. When I still enjoyed my job it was so tempting to just say, \"crushing it, making great money, love life\" etc. But really all-in-all you're just looking to brag about how happy you are. That's not the right path to take. Just say, \"Things are going well, just closing some deals, really enjoy it.\" That's it - I know even when I close a big deal (I work in banking) it's easy to say, \"Nailed it this week just closed $90 million, destroying it out there.\" But for the most part most of my friends think \"$90 million is a big number  but what does it really mean in his job? Is that big or small?\" They don't know the scale or really understand it. It's best just to say you're doing well and enjoy your job. There's no need to go further.\n\nEdit: decided against my edit...", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg3rup2", "text": "It's impossible to explain to people in a manner they can understand what it's like to have no base pay, no benefits, no payroll tax sharing, no nothing. No obligation of support by a manager, no HR department, etc. There's a lot W-2 employees take for granted and there's no way to have a conversation with a common foundation unless they've truly been self employed themselves. If they haven't they don't know what it's like to sleep at night when you haven't closed a deal in 3 months and your pipeline is empty, or having a deal you've worked 200 hours on to fall out. If they worked for 5 weeks straight on a project then the boss just decides to not pay anything for that they'd sue and call the state workforce authorities and so forth, but that's the risk you chose to take. There's value in the safety they have that you'll never be able to get them to recognize. So my advice is \"going well, pretty nice deal closing soon, how's yours?\" is my common response. Otherwise they'll be wanting you to pick up the tables dinner tab but they won't be offering to cover your bills if you have a rough year. ", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg3yr6k", "text": "Just tell them it's going well, but don't give them specific earnings numbers. Diffuse with humor if necessary.", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg48r2m", "text": "Depends. You may want to hire some of your friends and family and they would want to know what the earning potential is.. ", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg48r2r", "text": "Depends. You may want to hire some of your friends and family and they would want to know what the earning potential is.. ", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg4b2ln", "text": "You can close big deals in NYC yet can't figure out basic human interaction without asking Reddit?", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg4dqg5", "text": "My wife and I do well for ourselves but I have no interesting in letting people know. You won't win either way. You say you grew up middle-class. Say whatever a middle-class person would say. ", "replies": [], "depth": 1}, {"id": "dg4xbrr", "text": "You use it to get bigger deals. You want to be humble but not when it hinders you. If you are not active on social media. Get active. You need to be out there letting people know you exist and how good you are.\n\nIf you are proud of your work you should be ok saying it. I grew up middle to lower class where we never talked about our accomplishments and I believe that hindered my growth.\n\nYou don't want to brag and be obnoxious but if someone (family or friends) asks how its going. You can respond with \"Actually really good, just had a big deal close so I'm really happy about that how about you?\"\n\nI don't think that statement is obnoxious but it lets people know you are successful and success breeds more success. Don't think this will be your only big deal. You will have more big deals and those deals will come because people will know you are good. People will know you are good because you tell them. Success breeds success. Self promotion (to an extent IS OK).\n\n", "replies": [{"id": "dg4zd1r", "text": "Word", "replies": [], "depth": 2}], "depth": 1}]