She came from a background where nothing was ever good enough. 
And that was something that weighed heavy on her, but in our house together, 
there was a sense of just trying stuff and allowing each other to fail and to be excited about things. 
That was liberating for her. 
It was exciting to see her grow -
both of us grow and change together. 
But then, that's also the hard part - growing without growing apart, 
or changing without it scaring the other person.
I still find myself having conversations with her in my mind, 
rehashing old arguments or defending myself against something she said about me.
In what way did you influence her?