My friend is a lier and a cheater. I know it.
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Hello!
assistant
Others
Okay. My friend is cheating on her husband, but the kicker is my husband and him are best friends
user
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Wow. I understand that is a difficult situation. What are your current thoughts and feelings right now?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I want to tell her husband, or mine because we tell each other everything, but I dont want to make her mad.
user
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I understand that you want to communicate with your loved ones but are cautious of feelings and boundaries.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Because of her actions I feel like I am not being honest with my husband.
user
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Have you talked to your friend about your feelings?
assistant
Question
Yes, she said its girl code.
user
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I understand that being honest is important. I always feel the need to share with my husband. Do you think this information will do more harm than good if shared?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Both. Her husband is a great guy and no one deserves to be treated like this. Her and I have been friends for more than 20 yrs.
user
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It is not easy to be put in a place where you feel you need to choose between two people. Do you think girl code or the husband-wife code is more important? What do you value most, holding a secret or honesty?
assistant
Self-disclosure
Honesty, always.
user
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I agree with you. With that said, you trust your values and where they lie.
assistant
Information
You are right. I just needed someone to confirm it with me. I would want someone to tell me if my husband was stepping out. And I can make new friends
user
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I think one step I would take if i was you would be to discuss the issue with your friend. I would tell her that as a friend, she should value your values. I would tell her the distress you feel.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
You are right, but I think I will talk to my husband first.
user
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I think that is okay. I would do the same. I would also maybe explain why you were hesitant as well and the challenge the situation presented fro you.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I think he will understand. I hope by talking to him we can both talk to her
user
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Is she also friends with your husband?
assistant
Question
Yes. We all went to school together
user
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Okay. Working with your husband as a team and approaching her as a friend, would be how i would take action.
assistant
Self-disclosure