I was raped by my first boyfriend when I was thirteen years old.
Hello!
assistant
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Hello.
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How has your day been?
assistant
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Okay I guess.
user
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Has there been anything that has been bothering you?
assistant
Question
I have been very depressed lately.
user
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What do you think has been causing your depression?
assistant
Question
I was raped when I was a teenager by my boyfriend and as you can see its still haunting me to this day.
user
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That definitely is a very impactful event, but you've already been so strong for reaching out.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Thank you. I feel as if I lost who I am after that happened.
user
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I think it would be okay to allow yourself grieve because in a sense the person you were has now changed due to this event.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
It is very hard to be in another sexual relationship after that has happened. Im not sure I will every be the same again.
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I understand, I had a similar event where I was taken advantage of with similar feelings. I personally decided to share all my feelings with my new partner and we went very slow only doing things I was comfortable with. That may be a strategy you could use to help move back into having a sexual relationship with someone.
assistant
Self-disclosure,Providing Suggestions
That seems like a good idea. But, what if my partner doesn't have empathy for those sort of things. Im worried he will not care.
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In good relationships both partners have mutual respect for each which extends into their sexual relationship. Remember you haven't lost your self worth, and you deserve someone who respects you.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I suppose. I just dont want to burden my new relationship with my past issues.
user
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Your past is definitely not a burden, it's part of you, even if it's not a positive experience. By sharing your past, it would bring you closer as a couple.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I guess you are right.
user
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Another thing that could help you navigate new relationships is counseling. I've had counseling sessions that have greatly helped me in the past.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I will look into that tomorrow. Thank you for your advice and time. I truly appreciate it.
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