I have a co worker that keeps going behind my back and trying to get things done without me knowing it.
This was better than the last one, which went on forever.
Hi, how are you?
assistant
Others
I'm ok just kind of sick of the same old stuff happening at work This co worker keeps going behind my back
user
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That sounds like a difficult situation. How long has this been going on?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
For about a year
user
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What is your co-worker doing exactly? Saying things about you? Gossip to your boss?
assistant
Question
So she asks me to do something for her which isn't possible. Like give her a report on data that we don't have access to. I tell her I can't do it and she starts going to other people asking them, they reach out to me to ask if its possible and I tell them the same thing
user
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It sounds like your co-worker doesn't trust your abilities. Does the co-worker have a legitimate reason to ask for the report? Is it important to the company?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Shes just trying to please people by throwing data at them
user
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The co-worker hopes to get in their good graces by looking productive. is that right?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
yes
user
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Ok. This has been going on for some time. Is it possible to discuss the matter with your manager? With HR?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
we are in hr
user
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That's a challenging situation! What do your other co-workers think of this behavior?
assistant
Question
i haven't talked to them about it we are all remote so no one to talk to
user
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Would you feel comfortable talking to them about this issue?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
not really, i'm afraid they will think i'm just a complainer
user
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I suppose it depends how you frame the issue to them. If you say, "So-and-so is bothering me and I can't stand it" then you are complaining. However, if you ask them for their opinion, and say, "What has your experience with so-and-so been?" it might open up a conversation.
assistant
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