My husband and I lost our jobs so we can't pay bills. He stays in the room all day and doesn't help with anything not even our children.
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hello how are you today
assistant
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Hello, I have been better. How are you?
user
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good thank you what seems to be the problem
assistant
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Well.. I lost my job and so did my husband. Since then we have been fighting all the time. and he doesn't help anymore around the house Or with the kids
user
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thats horrible. i understand why you feel this way. have you tried to talk to him about how you feel?
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Question
I have and he turns it into something nasty. Like I am saying he is a lazy piece of garbage, or something like that . And it becomes a huge fight
user
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i dont think thats fair on his part. Even though you both are having a hard time he should try to be patient as well Do your kids know about the situation or have you been keeping this from them?
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Question
I wish he would. He sees me taking care of our 4 kids, cleaning, cooking taking care of the animals and he still does nothing The see everytime we fight. He usually gets loud and then I get loud. My oldest, 13, sees how he is acting. Today marks day 4 that he has been in the room playing games only coming out to get a drink
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heres what i think. You should try to explain to your kids the situation. At least your oldest so they understand why this is happening and that its not their fault.
assistant
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I have had that talk with him, but I should do it again My toddlers don't understand
user
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thats good. When you have your fights, you should try to keep your toddlers away. its not good for little kids to be experiencing this As for your husband i think you should seek a counselors advice.
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I wish I could. I try to stay quite sometimes but he just keeps going on and on like he wants to fight. I think so to, but it is hard since we don't have jobs and no insurance
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Because these are hard times, i think that you should try to find a job as soon as possible. Try different apps or websites. try to include both of you so you can connect.
assistant
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Oh I have been trying. I have been applying everyday about 20 jobs a day. I was thinking of taking the kids to my dad for a weekend to get a break. Should I do that? without him.
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try to talk to him first. before you take them out try to talk to your husband alone, without the presence of your kids. Try to see things eye to eye. If he start to yell of curse, you must try to stay calm. Be the strong one in the discussion. If things dont work out tell him that you wish to take your kids out for a break. He shouldn't act out if you are both being calm.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Reflection of feelings
Okay I will try again. I agree. I am just tired that I am the one that keeps trying and he is doing nothing to fix this.
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I would be too. Im going through something similar actually. If you try to be strong and persevere you can do it
assistant
Self-disclosure,Reflection of feelings
Oh wow, I am sorry. Hopefully things will go back to normal soo. Thank you!
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