I have a friend who for no reason picks a fight with me and others in a bid to quarrel and feel entitled. she is always on the verge of quarrelling and starts acting like everyone should lay at her feet. very disgusting
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Hi there. How can I help you today?
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I believe we are supposed to talk about my description
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Do you have something bothering you today?
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Nothing really I only stated the incident with my friend How are you today?
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I'm hear to listen to you in case there is something you would like to get off your chest and maybe give some advice or support.
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Okay are you female or male? or how do you identify? I ask because i would want to hear your opinion on why girls pick unecessary fights for no reason with their friends
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I am a 65 year old female with lots of experience with children and grandchildren.
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Oh that is great Nice to make your acquaintance
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It happens a lot that girls pick fights with their friends and it ends up hurting, right? My experience is that girls pick fights with whoever they feel safe with. Very strange but my grandchildren told me that they yell at me and take out their bad day on me because they know I will always love them no matter what.
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Really? I do not understand the insecurities in this case
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Really. What happened?
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Few months ago she picked a fight with another of our friend for no reason Now its my turn
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How do you think you should handle it? Did something happen in her life and she's taking it out on you?
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And for some reason when this happens she expects you to come crawling asking her what you did wrong when infact you did nothing. she would start recalling what happened 5years ago I really do not know or understand how she processes things She recently had a baby and we where fine through out the pregnancy stretch, up untill the last month she stopped responding to me. the baby will be months soon and no word from her
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Sounds like she's having some issues and she's not happy and taking it out on you. I'm sure that makes you feel like the bad person here.
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Its actually disgusting how a grown up continuously act like a child
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I know. Have you thought about reaching out and just letting her know you are here to speak when she's ready and congratulations on the baby? Maybe she needs an opening?
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Affirmation and Reassurance
Initially it got me worried, however, knowing her and the childish behavior as always I felt more disgust this time cos i would think a now mum would behave better Yes well not in that order.
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How much do you want her in your life?
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I sent her a message on her birthday. thats the least i can do. Like im over it tolerating the bad attitude. Honestly right now i do not miss having her in my life and that is sad because we have been friends for over 1 5years. I guess i just git tired of managing the Nonsense from her. So now i'm indifferent and bare think about her
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I wish I could solve this for you but everyone is different. My granddaughter has had to let go of some relationships that were toxic to her well being and felt better after a period of time.
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Providing Suggestions
I know right You have been helpful by just listening and giving your 2cents Thank you so much
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There are a lot of good people out there just looking for friends. You sound like a caring person, I bet you'll find new friends. Best of luck.
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