I can't stand him!!!
No.
No, all was fine.
This was an excellent conversation. I enjoyed my engaged partner.
Hello. How are you doing?
assistant
Others
I used to love my boyfriend, but now I can't stand him. Why has this happened and how to break up with him without hurting his feelings much?
user
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What changed to bring you to the point you can't stand him?
assistant
Question
I just find him extremely annoying. How he walks, talks, breathes even... I should have walked away from him earlier. He is very respectful, committed, sweet and loving, but I just don't feel anything towards him anymore.
user
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That sounds like a really difficult and uncomfortable situation to be in. How long have you been together?
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Question
Yes, it is. We've been together for 3 years. And he wants to get married and have children. It makes me anxious. I'm not ready for those things.
user
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It's good you know where you're at and what you do, and do not, want.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be him anymore???? How do I break up??? I don't want him to hate me.
user
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When ending a relationship, we're not responsible for the other person's emotions. Whatever they feel, they feel, and we can't control that. You need to do what is best for you.
assistant
Information,Providing Suggestions
How about me? Will I regret breaking up with him? I've became a better person since we've met.
user
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You might try talking to him and seeing if he has any awareness of your unhappiness, of you discomfort with his pushing for marriage and children when you're not ready.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I feel guilty to hurt his feelings and at the same time it pisses me off even more!
user
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A good friend once told me that all normal, sane people feel guilt when ending a relationship when they're not happy. There is no pleasure in breaking someone's heart, especially when they haven't done anything really wrong.
assistant
Self-disclosure
You're right. I should talk about it with him openly and tell him how I really feel.
user
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It sounds like you're maybe not 100% certain you want to end things. That's where talking to him becomes important.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Maybe I'm afraid of being alone. Maybe things could have been different if it weren't for COVID. Maybe we spend TOO much time together.
user
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And, if you do have a talk with him and later it becomes clear the relationship still can't work, it won't hit him as such a surprise when you choose to end things. And, if you do have a talk with him and later it becomes clear the relationship still can't work, it won't hit him as such a surprise when you choose to end things. COVID has put a huge strain on a lot of relationships. People are stuck spending way more time together than they are used to, and there's really not much to do about it right now.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Providing Suggestions,Information
Thank you so much for listening me out and for wise advice. I will talk to him, tonight.
user
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I think that's a good decision. I hope the two of you are able to come to a better understanding of where things are with your relationship.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance