My partner left me for another woman and I simply can't get over it
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Hi there, I really need someone to talk to right now.
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Hi there! I am here to chat :) What is on your mind? Hi there! I am here to chat :) What is on your mind?
assistant
Question,Question
My partner ran off with another woman and I simply cannot get over it. Why did he do this to me?
user
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I'm so sorry to hear that, that is really rough. He sounds like a real jerk if you ask me!
assistant
Reflection of feelings
I know he could be at times and he did have a roving eye but I loved him and I miss him a huge amount, despite everything.
user
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I get that, it's hard to understand why the people close to us do bad things.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
I think the biggest problem is that I keep wondering what his new girlfriend is like and if she is prettier or cleverer than me. I do not know what I did wrong.
user
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You did nothing wrong. It's something wrong with him, if he did this to you, he'll probably do it again to her. Do you really want to be with someone that disregards your well being like that?
assistant
Others
That is a very sensible way to look at things .. I do rationally realise that. Irrationally I just want him to come back to me and say that he made a mistake, though!
user
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I understand, it's easy to get sucked back into the nostalgic good memories of when things were at their best
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
That's exactly it! I keep thinking of all the good times we had together and the things that we did before her met Her. I just want those times to come around again even though I know they should not.
user
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It really sucks, doesn't it? And it's not a walk in the park to get over someone when you've been so close to them. Breakups are kind of like a bad cut. They really hurt for a bit, but then a scar eventually forms over it and you start to forget about it.
assistant
Others
Thank you - you are really helping me to understand how I am feeling. I think that perhaps the scar never goes away but yes, hopefully it will not hurt anymore one day
user
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Do you have a group of friends, or activities to keep you busy while you're going through this? It helps to keep your mind distracted :) And you are so welcome! I've been through my share of breakups too, it's never fun!
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Reflection of feelings
I do have some good friends but we also had some mutual friends who have been a bit distant with me since the break up. I guess that I really don't need them though, huh?
user
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Friends come and they go, it doesn't have to be a game of choosing sides. Keep in touch with those that keep in touch with you. Or maybe reach out to some other friends you haven't connected with in awhile.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
That is good advice too. Or maybe I could do something to help me make new friends? Do you have any suggestions?
user
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Totally! It helps to get into group activities, like hiking to going to the gym, or a book club.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I do love to read - I think that I will totally look into joining a book club. I would really like to meet new people, not to date specifically but just to be friends. Thank you so very much for having talked to me - I do feel a good deal more positive now. I know that there is a long way to go but I think that I can see the light now.
user
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You are welcome! I hope you feel better and have a great night!
assistant
Providing Suggestions