My husband of 10 years cheated on me. After a relationship based on honesty and trust, I came home early and caught him with another man. He was more embarrassed than apologetic and quickly turned it on being all my fault. He's now moved out, and I'm feeling sad and alone.
The conversation ended naturally, but it looks like I can't end it that way. I only have the option of quit the conversation. It looks like I've lost my bonus when I did everything right.
Hard to distinguish between a man or woman. Can't judge as to offend anyone
Good evening
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Hello. How are you?
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ok. How can I be of service tonight
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I'm just feeling sad and depressed over the breakup that I described above. Hoping for some inspiration.
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Tell me more please I am all ears
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I feel so betrayed. I was completely caught off guard. Now I don't know what to do with myself.
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When did this happen, How long ago
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Just this last week. I came home from work early Thursday. I guess I should have texted first so he could get rid of the guy. Or maybe not. Maybe it's better that I found out.
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So you had been together for awhile and all of a sudden he has another person in his life
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Restatement or Paraphrasing
We were together almost ten years. Over nine and a half. I had no idea. I don't think the guy is even someone he really cares about. I don't know.
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Was this guy an associate of yours as well So basically this guy was a stranger that you know of.
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Question,Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yes that's right, I'd never seen him before.
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Did you have any children between you
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No, it was just the two of us. And two cats. Who are still here with me. There's that at least.
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DiId your partner work also
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Just from home. Self-published author, some online work, stuff like that. He made about as much as I did, I wasn't the sole breadwinner or anything.
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Maybe the time on his hands enabled to him meet someone while you were working. Did he have a following that you knew of has there been habits like this before
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Maybe it did. There are some fans of his work on social media, and he's on all the popular social media sights. I don't know if he me the guy online or what. There hasn't been anything like this before that I know of. Maybe there was. I trusted him and didn't look at his messages or anything.
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His actions none the less are not right Do you have an idea his websites
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Affirmation and Reassurance,Question
No, they weren't, I agree there. He took all his devices with him. I can see his stuff from a user point of view, like anyone else in the public could, but nothing of his personal stuff.
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The fact that he cheated on you and I assume you broke up with him is hard He must have a special account that people can access to, can you possibly find it out
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Reflection of feelings,Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yeah, we're over. And it is hard. I'll get past it I suppose. I don't think I could, but I don't really want to anyway at this point. It's not going to help us get back together or anything.
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Maybe you need to focus on you now, and plan your days ahead.
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Affirmation and Reassurance
I think you're right. Just look forward.
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Had you known before hand it might be of help, but the sudden impact does not make it any better if you look back you will have regrets. If you look forward you will see a future
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Affirmation and Reassurance,Information
You're right. Thank you for listening. I feel a little better already. I'll get through this. Me and the cats :-)
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Take a cup of coffee, sit and write your thoughts then burn them
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Providing Suggestions
Sounds like a good plan.
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Write your past down then throw it into a fire
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Thank you again. I'm going to go ahead and wrap up the conversation. I'll be okay.
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OK. Have a blessed night.
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