I am very depressed and despondent because my boyfriend broke up with me and it was right before the wedding. I am close to his family but they won't speak to me know. I am lost without him.
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I am very sad and depressed because of a recent breakup. How can I ever forget it and move on.
user
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Oh no. I'm sorry to hear that. What happened?
assistant
Question
I thought everything was great and I already had my wedding dress and we planned a wedding and out of nowhere he dumped me. Now his family won't talk to me either.
user
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that must be horrible. You were already engaged?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yes, we were only engaged for about a month but we have been friends since childhood.
user
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that sounds really hard. that's a long time to know someone. how long ago did you breka up?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Question
Yeah, it was basically my whole life. We broke up two nights ago and he already changed his number and blocked my on social media.
user
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that's going to be tough for the next little bit, those sound like some pretty fresh wounds. Have you been able to talk to friends?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I would like to talk to talk to friends but they happen to be his sisters. So, I am cut off from all of my support. Thank You for talking to me.
user
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I had a break up last year and while it was painful for a bit, i used it as an opportunity to focus on myself and the things I needed. It ended up being a really good self reflective opportunity. Maybe join a gym or a group of some kind to change your network a bit?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I have been wanting to join the gym. Is it hard going alone or do you go with friends? I hate doing things all alone.
user
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I like going to the gym alone but that's just my personal preference. There are fitness groups like bootcamps that you could join and meet new people. Who knows, you may meet a new friend.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
That is a good idea. I need to be around other people who have goals like weight loss. My boyfriend never wanted me to join groups and only wanted me to be friends with his family. That is why I am so alone right now. I made bad choices.
user
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That sounds hard. You deserve to have friends of your own.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I agree with you. Do you think that I should try calling his friends and asking for his new number?
user
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there are lots of different kinds of groups you can join, not just fitness. and you can choose how much you want to actively engage with them. I would suggest taking time for yourself. Maybe give yourself some distance from him. If you both decide to reach out again in the future that may be an opportunity, but definitely take care of you.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Yeah, I can see your point of view. I have been obsessed with our relationship. We had a fight and it was a verbal war between us and he wouldn't forgive me afterwards.
user
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sometimes you just need some distance. I hate that old saying but as it goes "there are plenty of fish in the sea".
assistant
Others
It is true and I am a really nice person and have turned down other guys for him. I am going to stop thinking about him and just join the gym today. You have opened my eyes!
user
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