I feel as if i was not good enough for him because he cheated on me. I feel as if a part of me is missing
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Good afternoon
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Good afternoon How are you
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How can I be of service to you I am well despite the virus
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Question,Restatement or Paraphrasing
I am looking for advice to help me feel better from a horrible break up We shared many years together and I thought forever was in our minds. But he cheated on me and I do not know just what i did wrong
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Breakup from a girlfriend? Spouse
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a boyfriend/fiance
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Sorry about that. How long ago
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Just 2 weeks ago He proposed to me on Thanksgiving day! But turns out he was not being faithful to me
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That really must be a painful happening, especially this time of year
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Reflection of feelings
It is, I just can not wrap my head around it all
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Was the other person someone you knew
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I have been feeling depressed about it all, because we share so many memories together NO! He met this person online on a secret dating site that I was unaware he was even on
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Any idea how long he was dating this other girl
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I have no idea and that is part of what is killing me
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He definitely did not give you any clues Were you living together
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Reflection of feelings,Question
No he did not, I never in a million years would have assumed because he does have this friend he talks to all the time by the name Johnnie, well turns out Johnnie is a girl Yes we have been living together for 6 years and have a child together
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Wow. Your child must be taking it hard also
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Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yes he is, do you have any ideas to help me cope better with this
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It always hurts both partners when it happens.
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Others
Yes it does
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Let me ask if you are involved with a church
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Yes and my preacher has been so helpful in this situation
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You must have other friends in common, maybe they were afraid to say anything to hurt you
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Affirmation and Reassurance
It is possible
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That is good you are involved with a church.
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Affirmation and Reassurance
Yes without my church family I would be even more depressed
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Maybe you can chat with some friends and ask if they knew.
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Providing Suggestions
Yes i will definitely try that Thank you for your advice
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What bright spots do you see in all this
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That I am financially stable, and I have learned my self worth
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Talking with friends can help you not feel secluded
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Affirmation and Reassurance
Thank you , I will definitely try that
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Let me ask if you were to find out after being married would it hurt any worse
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Yes it would. I am glad i found out before I did marry because i do not believe in divorce
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The one thing I would suggest is that you don't isolate yourself. Friends can help you overcome
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Affirmation and Reassurance
I do believe that but because of this break up I feel I can trust nobody
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I understand about the pains of divorce
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Self-disclosure
I could imagine the pain i would feel if it was when we were married
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Don't let yourself become the victim.
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Reflection of feelings
True Well i appreciate your time and help
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He may have found what he thought was better but then again you will be the better. He may come back but the seed has been planted
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Affirmation and Reassurance
I will not let him come back. I deserve better
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You can find better because he will want you for you
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Affirmation and Reassurance
I agree! It will just take me some time
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