I realize my career won't pay much and I feel bad for choosing it
hello
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hi there! how are you doing?
assistant
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I feel ashamed thinking of my future career
user
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Can you tell me a little about what you feel ashamed about?
assistant
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whenever we have family gathering, my aunts and uncles would brag about how much their children make. I have higher degree but will only make half of their salary so I feel bad
user
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So, you feel that your family is judging you for your earning potential?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
yes, my parents won't say it to me but they never show they're proud either
user
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I am very sorry for that. They should be proud that you have such a good degree!
assistant
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What's good if it doesn't translate to my earnings. I wonder if I should start over with some better degree, but it's expensive
user
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I think you are coming at this from the wrong perspective. Life is not all about money you know!
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I want to think otherwise but it's difficult, especially when capitalism is everything nowadays
user
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Do you think that you enjoy your current field even though it is not as well paid as it could be? Do you think that you enjoy your current field even though it is not as well paid as it could be?
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I enjoy it, I did some internship and it was nice
user
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I think that you should focus on how much you enjoy it. After all you will be working for the next few decades so you do not want to do something that you hate just because it pays well.
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Is there anyway for me to change my way of thinking? I keep worrying about all the expense that I'll have to spend and what if I can't afford because of how much I earn
user
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Is it possible for you to talk to your parents about this? It seems to me that they are at the root of your problems
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I don't really want to talk to them, I'm not very close to them and rarely tell them my problems
user
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Well, if you are not close to them does their opinion really count for so much?
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it still affects me nonetheless
user
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I do understand how hard it can be to shake off your family's preconceptions and expectations even though you are not close to them
assistant
Self-disclosure
thank you for understanding
user
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You are very welcome. Please know that this is a very common problem and a lot of people feel the way that you are feeling now.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
it's tough when I look around and everyone seems to do better than me
user
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Do you think that you might benefit from some counselling to help you overcome your self esteem issues?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I've thought about thaat but I'm not in a financial situation to afford that
user
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I can provide you with a list of places that will offer a few counselling sessions for free. I think you need to be able to talk this out with a professional.
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Information
that would be great
user
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I think that you need to accept that your parents' opinion should not colour your whole life
assistant
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yeah I should start doing that and not let others affect me Thank you very muchh for talking with me
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