no specific event to describe
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No, I though t it went well.
I think it is a great website.
Hello
user
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Hello. What seems to be the issue?
assistant
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I don't have close friends because I don't trust people
user
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You said you generally don't trust family or people in general?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
people in general, I do trust certain family members
user
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Just people who are close to you?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
no, I have a hard time trusting people i don't know in order to make friends
user
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I have had a hard time trusting strangers, but that is not a big problem. I used to be the same way, but I learned about how to make and keep close friends.
assistant
Self-disclosure,Self-disclosure
i think it feels like a problem because I never let anyone too close in order to make friends and have an external support system how did you do it
user
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I joined volunteer groups to help others. I made friends with like-minded people who volunteered to make a difference.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I actually think that is a great idea. I have never thought of doing that for that specific purpose.
user
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Groups like Habitat for Humanity or UNICEF will help you to build long-lasting friendships. It just takes finding the right volunteer groups and being willing to be pro-active.
assistant
Information,Affirmation and Reassurance
I guess it makes a lot of sense. If you go to a party or a bar, you don't know what you will get, as it is a mixed bag of personalities. Whereas if you go to something like what you suggested then you already know that the people you meet have the same kind of heart.
user
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You can do it. I have faith that you can use volunteering as the right method.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Thank you for that suggestion, that is really helpful and something that I will take with me from now on.
user
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Exactly, volunteering is a great option. And there are many organizations to join. Did you need help with anything else?
assistant
Self-disclosure,Question
I feel ok being alone mostly, but other times I would like to have people I could relate with and hang out with. Probably has a lot to do with ADHD and how I feel misunderstood or my anxiety gets the best of me in social situations
user
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I understand the ADHD. There are support groups that can help you make friends; especially with ADHD, etc.
assistant
Self-disclosure
do you know any specific groups?
user
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Using tools to build houses helps to release endorphins, which can release anxiety.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
is this something you have done?
user
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There is a group called, "Harry House" that provides support to those with ADHD and anxiety.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
oh ok! I will certainly look that up, thank you for that information.
user
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Surely. Is there anything else you need help with?
assistant
Question
Does one have to travel far to participate in building houses?
user
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No, Habitat fir Humanity has car pools.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
do you know if it requires a person to be away from home a long time?
user
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They are a good group to help you build meaningful relationships. I used to do a hour at a time; maybe one or twice a week.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Self-disclosure
oh! so a person could just choose how often and how long they participate?
user
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Would you be interested in something like HFH?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
thank you for sharing with me, i might like to participate in it in the future
user
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Yes, you can sign up online to join a project.
assistant
Information
ok i will look that up, thank you for all your help
user
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Yes, you can volunteer locally; HFH is nationwide.
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
ok thank you
user
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Any other questions? I am glad to assist.
assistant
Question
no other questions, you have been most helpful, thank you!
user
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I have done volunteer work; people want to be friends with those who care and know how to use a nail and hammer. :)
assistant
Self-disclosure
LOL good to know! Thanks for the chat and I hope you have good holidays!
user
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