Girlfriend dumped me for someone else!
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Having to wait 15 minutes, when the conversation can realistically be ended sooner. In my experience, 10 minutes is a good minimum time.
Hi, how are you?
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Hi there! I'm great, what about you? How can I help today?
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My girlfriend dumped me for someone else! I've been really shook up.
user
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I'm so sorry to hear that :( Do you have any idea why?
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I think she just lost interest in me? It happened a couple of months ago. I wish I could get over it. I can't get her off my mind. She's dating this total loser.
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That's tough... so you're saying that you grew apart a little? Or do you think it was more one-sided?
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It probably was more me than her. Maybe I should have done more to show her that I cared for her. Am I not romantic enough? Some guys just aren't that way.
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I completely understand, and I don't think you should beat yourself up over it!
assistant
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That's a fair point. I shouldn't be too hard on myself. I didn't really grow up in a romantic family. I don't know how to do that stuff, but maybe I could learn.
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Exactly, and remember everyone is different, perhaps you just weren't her right one, and that can go both ways. Do you want to improve for her? or for yourself do you think?
assistant
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That's true. I really got hung up on her. I thought she was perfect and that we were perfect together. She didn't see it that way. I can't really change who I am, and she couldn't change who she is. I don't know if I can change myself for her. Maybe there is something basic that she wants that I just don't have? I should probably change for future relationships.
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That's a great line of thought, its good that you're able to identify that yourself
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What do you think I could do to improve myself?
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I suggest that you stay exactly the way that you are. I feel like you'd be happier that way and also more likely to find someone who shares the same values as you If you change who you are, it sort of means that your ex still has a hold on you, you know?
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Providing Suggestions,Others
Will the same problems show up in the next relationship though? It could be a long search before I find someone that matches with me? That's true. But I feel like I should take away something from this experience.
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I guess that depends on you, would you rather compromise for a relationship or find one who'll really last and not have to change?
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I think all relationships require compromise and change. No two people are perfectly compatible. I worry that I have blind spots that I should fix. My ex-GF didn't really specify what the problem was.
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That's true, building on that, you could also say that what your ex found to be the problem is not the be-all end-all. What your ex disliked could be what 10000 other girls love in a guy
assistant
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That's true. I might end up trying to solve a problem that really isn't there. It's not a bug, it's a feature! :-)
user
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Wow, you put that really nicely!
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Thanks! You’ve been really helpful today. I can’t thank you enough for your encouragement and insight.
user
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It was no problem! Thank you for sharing and talking it out!
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I feel a lot better now. Have a great day! Bye!
user
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Have a great day :) bye!
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