I have broken up with my partner of two years, she is amazing but I ended it as I thought my feelings had changed. I broke her heart but now I think I want her back but in afraid she might have moved on.
No, it was fun.
Hello there.
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Hello, how can I help you today?
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I'm having a bit of a bad time at the moment. I've been with my partner for 2 years she's great. unfortunately my feelings for her changed and we broke up recently. the problem is I think I've made a big mistake and worry that she's moved on with her life
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OK, thanks for explaining. Can I ask what makes you think she has moved on with her life? how recently did you guys split up?
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Question
About three months ago. I have started to miss her badly. I saw her with another guy when I was out at the supermarket at the weekend. She lives near me so I wasn't surprised but I don't know who this guy is.
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So to clarify, you ended things and think this wasn't the right thing to do. You have seen her with someone else and now you think you want her back.
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Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yeah that's right. I can't believe she has moved on so quickly.
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Can I ask, for how long have you thought you have made a mistake by ending things. was it when you saw her with someone else?
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Question
I must admit it was only when I saw her with someone else that I started to really miss her. do you think I'm just feeling jealous because we were so close and now I've seen her with someone else?
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I had a friend who was in a very similar situation to this. he was in a long term relationship with a girl for 5-years. they split up and stayed friends. It was only when he saw her with someone else that he decided he wanted to give things another go.
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Self-disclosure
I think you might be right actually. I didn't really miss her until I saw her with someone else. is this normal I don't know what to do about this?
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I'd say this is completely normal. I can tell by talking to you that you did have strong feelings for this person once and seeing her with someone else has made you remember the good times.
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Reflection of feelings
Well that's good to know. I'm not normally the jealous type but I suppose we did have good times and I want her to be happy I suppose. I do think I've made a mistake though now I've thought about it!
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I can tell you are a caring person and really do care about your ex-girlfriend happiness. I'm sure you will do the right thing but you need to think of yourself.
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Affirmation and Reassurance
do you think I should try and get in touch with her and tell her how I feel?
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I think you need to think carefully about what you really want. If you feel like this then I would suggest you do talk to her about it, however you may be best talking it through with a friend or family member first
assistant
Providing Suggestions
That's not a bad idea. I think I will speak to one of my friends about this ,he's normally pretty good with that kind of thing.
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yes it's really good to talk it through with someone first just really understand if trying to restart your old relationship is the right thing to do for you.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I think I conversation has actually helped me understand my motivations a little better. you have also given me some good suggestions so thank you for that
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I'm happy to hear that. you seem like a really decent person and I'm sure you will make the right decision and I'm positive you can get past this!
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Others,Affirmation and Reassurance
Thanks for the conversation. It really helped.
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