My boyfriend and I broke up and I cant stop crying. I am depressed about being alone.
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I liked that it felt very authentic.
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I am having a really hard time in my life right now and need support.
user
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I'm so sorry to hear that. What is going on in your life?
assistant
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I have been in a long term relationship and I found out that he was cheating on me. I have been so distraught and I broke up with him.
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I see. That is certainly difficult. How often do you feel sad or blue over this situation?
assistant
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Yes, feel sad and I cry or want to cry all the time. I feel like I should not have broken it off with him but I also can not be with someone that I do not trust. He has always been so good to me and so I was totally blind sided.
user
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I think it is great that you stood up for yourself and broke up with him. That is something to be proud of.
assistant
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I did not think of it like that. I did not know that I had anything to be proud of but I can sort of see what you mean. I wanted to get married to him but he never asked and we have been together for 5 years.
user
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I am so sorry... Do you think a few years from now, after the pain of this situation has gotten easier to handle, you'll be happy with your decision to end the relationship? I know it can be hard to think so far in the future.
assistant
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That is a good point because I have no been able to think about the future at all. I am thinking about what I could have had with him like children. I have wasted so much time and I really want kids.
user
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Maybe something you can do is think about all this time in a more positive light. Instead of saying you wasted time, maybe you can think to yourself, "I am so glad that relationship taught me about myself and my standards." Does that sound good?
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I also know that he never wanted kids so I have learned a lot about myself and what I want in life. I can think of myself and what my standards are. I have to be respected by the man i am with. I also need to feel appreciated and valued by the person that I am committed to. You are really making me consider the bigger picture today.
user
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That's such a great approach. Do you have hobbies and interests outside of your relationship that brought you joy? Maybe running, painting, or watching movies? I am so happy to hear that.
assistant
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Yes, I love boating and have not been able to go enough because I was always wrapped up in drama with him. I also love painting and drawing. I have not thought of those hobbies in many years until right now.
user
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Maybe you can take a day soon and go on a "date" with yourself. You can go out on the boat and have a fantastic, drama-free time. Does that sound like something you're interested in?
assistant
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Thank you for all of your help today and nice encouraging words.
user
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You are so welcome. I am glad to help you.
assistant
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Yes, that sounds like a positive way to enjoy my time. I will take your ideas and apply them to my life.
user
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I think you're going to feel a lot better soon! I'm very happy for your future.
assistant
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Thank you and hope to talk again very soon.
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