I've been given some feedback in work that has really annoyed me and I think I should complain about it.
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hello how are you today?
assistant
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Hi there. I'm OK but have had a difficult time at work recently
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i am sorry to hear that, would you like to talk about it?
assistant
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Yes I have been given what I can only describe as ridiculous feedback by my manager and it had annoyed me greatly. I'm thinking about complaining about it.
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It is always hard to hear any bad feedback, do you feel that you could speak with your manager about it and try to resolve the feelings?
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Providing Suggestions
I could do but this seems to be something that she has an issue with and I wouldn't want it to damage our working relationship. She basically said she doesn't like the way I sit in meetings and smile when I'm thinking about something?
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Could you possibly go to her and tell her that you have heard the feed back and you are sorry to hear that it bothers her that you did not realize it and it is something you will work on becoming more aware of. You seem like such a nice person i am sure if you approached it the right way you would not cause any damage.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Reflection of feelings
I'm thinking perhaps I should go to a different manager and voice these concerns. I don't see how I sit in meetings or how I smile when I'm thinking to be constructive work based feedback it's really frustrating it's clear this person just doesn't like me
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Going to another manager may be a great idea! Maybe the manager could address the issue with her and help her to realize there is nothing wrong with a having happy employee like yourself.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
yeah that's true I mean I'm almost thinking this manager needs to be retrained because this video isn't work related is really quite petty an actually makes me consider not working for her in future. The only problem is I need my job I need a steady income but this person just seems to have it out for me.
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Yes i can see where that would be a problem.
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Reflection of feelings
perhaps I'm just making too much of a big deal about this. how would you react if someone gave you similar feedback in work?
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Do you think you could speak to this other manager about possibly transferring positions so you are not working under your current manager?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I haven't actually thought about that as a solution but that might work actually. I think maybe I'm overthinking this but I've taken it very personally.
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Well you have a right to feel how you do, everyone takes things differently. It would bother me but i would proably try to get to know her better to see why she has such a problem with others being happy, maybe she has some problems going on in her life and has no one to share these problems with if she is not happy it may come as a struggle to see others happy all the time.
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Self-disclosure
I think that's an interesting perspective. she might have issues herself and be taking them out on members of her team in work which is quite sad really. Do you think I should just be blunt and ask her the question?
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I would let her know nicely that some things she said has been hurtful and ask if there is anything on her mind that she would like to chat about that you would be glad to talk with her.
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so be supportive but also make it clear that what she has said has had an impact on me?
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Yes you are such a positive person that i think you being supportive will help open up communication, and yes you should make it known that she has said something that has affected you personally and in addressing it may help her not treat others that way in the future.
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Affirmation and Reassurance
ok great I'll definitely try that and try and put this advice into practice
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In the mean time try to not take it personally you really seem like a nice person so i dont think she meant to cause you any harm.
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