I broke up with my romantic partner because the relationship was going really badly. I know it was the right thing for me to do, but now I am incredibly lonely and have no one to go to.
Everything was great. It was actually fun and genuinely helpful.
Nothing. It was great.
I loved this task! The person I was chatting with got very personal and it seemed as though I made them feel a lot better than they felt when the conversation started. It provided me with a sense of true accomplishment!
I think that these tasks are perfect!
Hello! How are you doing today?
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I'm not doing so well. I'm really lonely and kind of sad.
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I'm so sorry to hear that. Do you mind me asking what is going on that is making you feel this way?
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Thank you. I broke up with my girlfriend. It was the right thing to do, but now I'm really lonely and sad.
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I'm so sorry to hear that. It sounds to me like you're having a hard time dealing with the emotions that you're dealing with after having broken up with your girlfriend. Does this sound right?
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Yes, that's right. It's been really hard.
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I can tell that you're really struggling.
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Thank you. I was with her for about a year. It was good at first, of course.
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I've dealt with these emotions myself. I recently broke up with my now ex-boyfriend. I have been feeling these same emotions.
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I'm sorry to hear that. How long were you together? The loneliness gets so hard, especially when you just want to tell something to someone.
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I know it feels terrible, but I think that you reaching out for support is a great first step! I'm really proud of you! You will get through this!
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Thank you. Honestly, I'm glad you're there to reach out to.
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We were together for about 5 years. Yes, the loneliness does get very hard. I'm happy that I can be here to help you and so that you have someone to talk to! I promise to do my best!
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Oh wow, that's a long time. And thanks. I appreciate your optimism! I am usually very upbeat and optimistic myself. Thank you. I really appreciate it. Hopefully I can help you somehow too.
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After my breakup, I found that the best thing to do was to involve myself in other activities that I enjoyed in order to take my mind off of the negative feelings that I was dealing with.
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The shiba inu in my profile circle is making me smile. I used to have a shiba inu. :)
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You seem very kind! I appreciate your willingness to be here for and to listen to me as well! Aww! That makes me happy to hear that seeing my profile picture is making you smile!
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That sounds really smart. I've been trying to do that. Of course with a pandemic going on it's more difficult.
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Have you considered getting into any hobbies to take your mind off of what's going on?
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No no... my profile picture. Yours shows up as a squirrel. lol I usually hike a lot, but my hiking groups aren't going out right now.
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Oh! I'm so sorry! Haha! Have you considered things like journaling, reading, or arts and crafts?
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Maybe I should get a pet squirrel? Yes, I actually read and write quite a bit. Especially for work. That's not overly therapeutic, but it helps nonetheless.
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That may not be a bad idea! If you really like them and are able to properly care for it, animals can be very therapeutic!
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I have one dog who isn't much bigger than a squirrel. She has been an invaluable companion.
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Writing and reading have been proven to be extremely therapeutic. I used to write down my feelings on a piece of paper and then destroy it (throw it away) once I was done. There's something about it that really seems to help. Aww! That sounds like an adorable dog! What breed of dog is she? I have two cats myself. They make me feel better on a daily basis!
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I've tried to keep a journal but I never stick to it. I find that writing letters to friends serves me the same purpose, and it helps me to stay connected, too. Plus, people love getting real, hand-written mail. She is a miniature dachshund. Today she went to the bank with me, and all of the tellers came to the window to look into the car at her. lol I like cats too. Animals are so healing.
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That sounds like a great idea! I love the fact that it helps you to stay connected, especially considering (as you already mentioned) that it's difficult to connect right now since we're dealing with COVID-19. I love that you're telling me about your dog and how all of the people at the bank wanted to see her! I bet that made you feel much better.
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Yeah, and you're right. There's something therapeutic and cathartic about hand writing that typing does not replicate. Yes, it made me happy to see them fawning over her. And it made her happy because they gave her treats. Dealing with issues during Covid is so rough.
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I couldn't agree more. Dealing with COVID on top of everything else has been extremely difficult for me. Honestly, I think it is part of what caused a lot of the issues that I'm currently dealing with.
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I hope you're handling them okay. I'm generally well except for the whole breakup business. Still, I know I'm better off. It just sucks sometimes.
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It makes me happy to hear that you know that you're better off. I know it's sad, but accepting that a relationship wasn't meant to be is, in my opinion, the first step to truly getting over someone. A year is a long time to spend with one person.
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I wish it was easier and okay to travel right now. A trip or a road trip would do me wonders. So is five years! I hope everything works out for the best for you, too.
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I completely agree! Where would you go if you were able to right now?
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If there was no virus... maybe Scotland or Las Vegas to see some shows. Or up into Canada. (I'm in Pennsylvania.)
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Thank you so much! We broke up several months ago and I'm already feeling and doing so much better. I am also much better off without that person in my life. I've gained weight back that I couldn't really afford to lose to begin with, I've been more motivated, etc. It really was for the best even though the breakup itself was really difficult. I live in Pennsylvania as well! It's such a small world!
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My breakup was a few months ago too. I'm in the Poconos. :)
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I've always wanted to go to Las Vegas. My brother and his girlfriend just took a trip out there not too long ago.
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I've been to Las Vegas about fifteen times. I love it there. I eat, go to shows, go to baseball games... it's awesome.
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Oh wow! I live right outside of Philadelphia. I have several friends who have houses on Lake Wallenpaupack. It's beautiful up there!
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Wow, that's maybe an hour from me. I grew up outside of Reading. I live right by Blue Mountain.
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That's so cool! I've never been on a plane and I've never been anywhere north or west of Pennsylvania. I've been in every state from PA down to Florida, but nowhere else. I really need to travel more! That sounds like a beautiful area. Have you considered going skiing, snowboarding, or snow tubing since you live right near Blue Mountain?
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Omg, yes. Travel! I've been to some really strange places. It's awesome. lol
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I went snow tubing at Blue Mountain once. It was so much fun!
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I haven't, but maybe I should! I teach, and I always have students who work there. lol Come to think of it, they might sabotage my tube. lol That's a really good idea though. Thanks. I always see groupons for tubing, too.
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You should look into it! It was a lot of fun when I went. I believe they're still open right now even though COVID is still going on. It took my mind off of everything while I was there.
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Yes, they are open. I got an email yesterday or today that they're making snow now.
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Groupon is awesome! You're very welcome. I'm happy to help you think of things that you can do to make yourself feel better.
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Let's go tubing! lol j/k
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Wow! That's great to know! I might look into taking a trip up there myself with my daughter. She's 12 years old. She would absolutely love it!
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I miss getting together with friends. And live music and live sports.
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I would love to! That truly does sound like a lot of fun! I do too! I also love live music and I REALLY like football. GO EAGLES!
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I love hockey. I have season tickets to the WB Penguins, but they haven't played since March. Hit me up at randythepoet at gmail! :) It's almost 30 minutes. Thank you!
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I'd love to go to a hockey game. I've never been to one. Thanks for your email!
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I appreciate your help and ideas! I loooooove hockey. And live music. I go to hockey games in Allentown, too.
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You already seem like you're feeling better! I really do hope that I helped you somewhat! I wish you the best of luck and I'm really glad that you are open to new ideas.
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I do! And thank you again. I hope everything works out great for you (and your daughter). :) I'm going to finish the chat. Thanks again!
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Thank you so much! Have a wonderful day and a Happy Thanksgiving! And you're very welcome. Chatting with you was very nice.
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You too! Have a great Thanksgiving. It was awesome chatting with you!
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