I had to throw out my 13 year old sister.
Hello.
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Hello, how are you at the moment? My name is Jo
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I am doing okay I suppose.. How are you??
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I am not so bad. Is there anything you'd like to talk to me about today?
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Yes. I had to throw out my sister the other day and Im kind of upset over it.
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I am sorry to hear that. What precipitated that, had you been having problems for a while?
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She was in a psych ward for a while and when it was time to discharge her, my mother didnt want her back. She was going to send her to a foster home so I volunteered to take her in. Since then, she has stopped taking her medication and is acting out.
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Ah, so you feel as though your mother could and should have helped and you were put into an impossible position you were not prepared for?
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Reflection of feelings
Pretty much.
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I can sympathise with you having siblings with extreme mental health problems - I have been there too and I know how difficult it is.
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Self-disclosure
I tried to have my mother take her back, but she still didnt want her there. So I sent her to my grandmothers and she turned that side of the family against me.
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Mentally ill people can unfortunately sometimes be manipulative, though they do not mean it. Have you had any contact with her since?
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Only once and she was just telling me that I was a horrible person. This all started over her stopping her meds and then I asked her to clean her room.
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That sounds very toxic. Is it possible to persuade her to seek medical help? I realise she might be reluctant to
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We have tried to get her into therapy again. But, COVID put a block on that. I suggested that she go back to the ward and maybe be placed into a group home.
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Ah yes, it is a terrible time at the moment isn't it? I think a lot of people are not getting the medical help that they need because of the virus Please do not beat yourself up over this - it does sound as though you have done absolutely everything you could to help.
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I would hate to see that happen, but Im at my wits end.
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I can tell that you feel really bad about this just from your tone of voice. Please remember that you can't fix everything in the world.
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Reflection of feelings
Now my dads side of the family hates me because they say Im "mean to her". All I asked her to do was to clean her room and maybe socialize every once in a while. Im more mad than sad.
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Socialising can be hard for people with mental health problems. It might have been best if you did not press her too hard to do that though I know you did not realise.
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I understand, but I think it would have better than sitting in a dark room all day.
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Does she suffer from depression also? That might account for her trying to shut herself away
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Yes, but she denies it whole heartedly. This is why she was taking medication.
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I understand that it can be very difficult to make people take medication if they refuse to recognise that they have a problem.
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I just wish she could she what I see...
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Unfortunately that is not likely to be possible. All you can do is be kind to yourself and know that you really did try to help her
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I was afraid she was going to ruin my family with her attitudes.
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I hope that I have been able to help a little. I really appreciate that you felt that you could open up to me
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Thank you. I feel better being able to rant to someone.
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