My husband keeps wasting money and we are having a hard time making ends meet. We'd be fine if he didn't overspend, but he's addicted to it.
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Hello there, how is your day going?
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It's going okay. I'm just having a hard time.
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Is there something that you'd like to talk about?
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It's mainly my husband. His spending habits are out of control. He thinks he need to reward himself for living. We can't survive if he keeps gifting himself.
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Wow that sounds like a big problem. Is he aware of how much distress this is causing you?
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I've tried talking to him about it, but he claims that he needs to reward himself or he wouldn't do anything. Like, if he gets up and goes to work then he needs to eat out to reward himself.
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So you feel that he is misunderstanding life? That he feels that he deserves things just for existing?
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Exactly. And if I push further, he compares himself to other people: "Well, at least I don't hit you." or "At least I'm not an alcoholic" Like I should thank him for existing.
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It sounds like a really toxic relationship - I hear you! I have been in that position also. In the end I felt that I had no choice but to leave. I cannot tell you what to do, though.
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It's hard because we have children. When we were just dating, he was a different person. He didn't start to act this way until after our eldest was born.
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Ah, unfortunately a lot of men are like that - before you become seriously committed they seem totally different. Have you considered seeking professional help?
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The problem all boils down to money. If I had enough for therapy I wouldn't be worried about his spending habits! lol. But, you're right, that's probably what we both need!
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I believe that there are some organisations that will offer free therapy sessions for people in need. Have you considered asking your doctor?
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Really? I'd definitely be interested in that. Do they have online therapy like that?
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I am not totally sure what is available but I think that there might be such things
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Thanks for your help. You said you've been in similar relationships. Is this behavior common for men?
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Well no, I don't think that all men are like this by any stretch of the imagination. Unfortunately, however, there are some bad apples who give all men a bad name. I am sure that the same applies to women too though!
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Haha, true. I just wondered. I had previous relationships, but they were very short. My dad was always the opposite: he was a penny-pincher. Sometimes I worry that maybe I'm just to stingy with the money, but then I remember that we have none, so Idk how to be more generous lol
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You sound to me as though you are being realistic and sensible about your financial situation and are being neither too stingy nor too lavish.
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Thank you for your help and feedback. I appreciate it. I'm going to select Finish & Quit
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