my boyfriend of three years has been cheating on me.
I felt like I could say more if I had the chance
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Hi, I was wondering if I could talk to you about a problem.
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Hi there! My name is Rob, how are you today?
assistant
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I am doing okay,
user
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Of course! What is the problem?
assistant
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My boyfriend has been cheating on me, He constantly denies it and I want to believe him, but my family also knows and thinks I need to end things.
user
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So to make sure I understand, have you caught your partner cheating?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
I haven't actually caught him myself.
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Has someone told you they suspect he is cheating?
assistant
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Yes, My best friend and my sister have told me.
user
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It is a horrible feeling when that seed has been planted in your head.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Exactly and he denies it. I just don't know what to do or who to believe.
user
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I know you mentioned you want to believe him when he denies it, I guess the important question is what is making you have that shadow of doubt? Has he been unfaithful in the past?
assistant
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I know he cheated in the past on a previous girlfriend, but not on me.
user
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And know I am not saying I don't believe you, I think your feelings are valid, and I just want to get the full picture
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
at least no that I am aware of.
user
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Ok. So there has been a past history of this.
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
yes
user
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And what are your friends and family saying to you? Are their accusations valid?
assistant
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I can see their point. They think he is using me for my car and money. He is constantly between jobs.
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I know for me, sometimes friends and family will say things like this is they personally do not like the partner themselves without taking your feelings into consideration
assistant
Self-disclosure
I don think they dislike him, I think they fell he is using me and I am blind to it.
user
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Ok I see. And for yourself, do you see a future with him? Because in the end it matters how you feel. Do you feel taken advantage of?
assistant
Information
I do financially feel taken advantage of.
user
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So possible cheating aside - there is definitely some others issues that needs solving. Have you calmly confronted him saying that he is affecting your personal financial goals?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Yes, and he always promises to do better. I know deep down it should end. Thanks for listening
user
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