I am scared to open myself up to others such as men because I do not want my heart to be broken but it is also due to my insecurities about my looks and weight.  there is one guy who likes me that live in france but I am not sure if I should pursue him or not.
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No it was great
Good evening, how are you feeling today?
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I am feeling okay I am kind of stressed How are you?
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I am sorry, I gather life is not going well for you right now? Would you like to talk about it?
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Yes I would
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I am more than happy to listen and to help if I can. I do know how bad things can get at this time of year.
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I am sad and even depressed about my life at the moment its hard to find a job and I am scared to open myself up to this guy I met
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Let's take things one at a time .. have you lost your job recently?
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No it is hard finding one
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Yes, I can understand that jobs are very hard to come by right now
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Yes they are but I at least have friends to talk to for help
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Well that is one positive thing. Can you tell me a little about the guy you are afraid to open up to?
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Well I met him on a dating site and he lives in France but he is also turkish i dont know much about turkish men but he says he loves me and he sees something with me but i barely know we only talking for few weeks now
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Well, I would recommend not taking things too quickly but relationships online CAN work - I met my fiance of ten years online.
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oh that is wonderful
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But we did take it very slowly and talked for a year before we met in person.
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i told him i dont want to rush things he fine with taking things slow but he does want me to take a chance with him im 23 and he is 27 he is a positive sweet guy currently he is battling covid
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Well, if he is reliable then he will be happy to wait till you are ready to meet. Where do you live, do you mind me asking?
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I live in America and he live in France
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Ah well definitely do not contemplate meeting him whilst the pandemic is on! But it might be good excuse to put things off for a bit, do you think?
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I would not be comfortable going to france during a pandemic I want to wait until everyone gets vaccinated first
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I do think that it might be a while before travel in Europe fully opens up again. Things are not good here.
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u live in europe?
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I am in the UK. The pandemic is very bad here at the moment.
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yeah I heard it is another strain there
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Two more! It's very scary and I don't recommend coming either here or continental Europe right now.
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he understands that im not meeting him no time soon but when the pandemic is over I do not know if I should continue to pursue him or not I dont even have a passport and i care about my health and others im not traveling for a long time
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So, I hear you saying that you are a bit wary of the relationship and do not know if it can work in the real world?
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Yes because I do not have experience with Turkish men and I am scared of him being controlling and abusive I guess its due to sterotypes i read about and heard
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Turkish people are lovely and welcoming - you should not worry about that :). But don't let yourself be pushed into anything you don't feel ready for
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Yes I agree with u have u met any turkish people?
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Yes I know a few Turkish people. They're very nice people, don't listen to any stereotypes!
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I think its also due to me being hurt before but scared of trying something new giving a new person a chance I have major trust issues
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I do understand how trying new things can be very difficult - this is something that I struggle with myself. But - if you don't take a chance, how can you know what might have happened?
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Yes I agree with u there
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I really hope that I have been able to reassure you a little bit and help you to try to think things through. I wish you a very happy holiday season!
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thank you so much and happy christmas eve:)
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