constant fighting
It was difficult to try to make sure I was addressing all of her concerns as fast as she was typing them at time.
No, I think everything was great!
hello
user
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Hello. How are you today?
assistant
Others
not very good.
user
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oh no. that isn't good. can you tell me what happened?
assistant
Question
my husband and i have been fighting alot recently over his infidelity its really taken a toll on me. we have tried several counselors but nothing seems to be working
user
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I am sorry to hear that. I can understand how frustrating that can be. I have had my fair share of boyfriends cheat on me.
assistant
Self-disclosure
weve been married for 14 years. I feel broken by this. we have 2 kids and my daughter, the eldest knows
user
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I am sure that you have been trying to do everything that you can do to help the situation. It sounds like you choosing counseling was a good start. It shows how much you care.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
yes but my husband doesnt want to fi things. hes happy with having 2 women ive had to buy a recorder and put it in his car. The things i heard were horrible. he found out though.
user
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It is rough for our children to see adult stuff like this. They might not be able to understand. I would suggest trying to set down and talk to them about it, when you are ready.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I dont want my youngest to know. He loves his father and i dont want to destroy that
user
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How do you feel about your husband not wanting to fix things? Is that something that you are considering?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
i feel horrible. Im actually trying to fix things while he texts her every day i dont know whats gonna happen
user
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That is a very thoughtful thing for you to put your son first. He is lucky to have such a great mother, that obviously loves him.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
i do very much
user
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Have you tried to talk to your husband about your feelings and how you might not be willing to accept this?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
i do but every time i do he thinks that its that i dont trust him and that i hate him and i dont hate him or his lover. I just want things to go back they used to be. what should i do?
user
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Have you thought about if you can trust him after that?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
im not sure if i can, but i dont want to live in constant paranoia of him im just so lost
user
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I can understand where you are coming from. I have been in that situation myself and it is not an easy place to be. For me, it took some time to accept that I deserved better than someone who didn't just want me. Is that how you feel?
assistant
Self-disclosure
kind of
user
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Understandably so. I believe that this is just temporary and you will be amazed at how strong you are.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
you think so?
user
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If you are leaning toward not accepting not being enough for him, then I would suggest an exit plan. Call a family member, or friend, to see if you can stay there awhile. Have a cooling off period from your husband and reassess the situation
assistant
Providing Suggestions
ok. ill consider that thank you so much this has been going on for half a year
user
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I absolutely do. We normally find out that we are actually much stronger than we give ourselves credit for.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
thank you
user
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That is wonderful news! See you are starting to make a plan for a better life for you and your children. You so got this!
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
thank you so much. stay safe bye bye
user
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youre welcome. I am here if you need me
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
i have a feeling that everything will be okay.
user
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That is great! Did you have a chance to think of anything else that might help you through this?
assistant
Question