Since getting a new job I feel like I'm constantly trying to prove myself. I measure myself against other people and just don't feel I'm good enough I'm having a real issue with my confidence at the moment
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Hi there
user
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Hello :)
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
This is a tough one. since starting a new job and being around really smart people and feeling that I can't really measure up anymore. I'm finding this really tough, I'm good at my job I'm very committed but I just don't seem to get the same results as others?
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So it sounds like you feel like you don't measure up to your co-works because they are getting different results than you?
assistant
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that is certainly part of it however I also feel like they have more experience than me so maybe I'm just putting too much pressure on myself?
user
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I would completely agree with that statement you are much newer than your co-workers. I believe you that you are very committed to your job. I am sure that with time you will get the same results as them if not better! Are there any co-workers you feel close to or see a friendship developing with?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Information
that's nice of you to say but I also don't feel as organised. I suppose that's to be understood in a new job scenario. Yes there are a few really nice co-workers
user
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Of course! With time you will get the hang of it. Well thats good to hear! Maybe you could ask one of them to coffee and express how you are feeling. I would bet that they felt the same when they started.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I think what I do is so complicated I sometimes wonder if I've been off more than I can chew. is this something you can relate to?
user
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That certainly is something I can relate. There was a period of time in school where i signed up for way too many classes and had to drop out of a few. If you feel like you are in over your head it is ok to take a step back. It is important that you take care of your self and know your limits. :)
assistant
Self-disclosure
I suppose it's difficult to know when something is too much for you or if you need to give it more time.
user
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I would say if you are showing signs for several weeks of being overwhelmed (tired, stressed, snappy etc.) That is probably is too much
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Thanks he problem is I've worked really hard to get a better position and if I wasn't successful and feel like a failure. maybe I should look at it like this job just isn't for me if, like you say, I can't seem to get on after several weeks.
user
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I would say thats the right option if this persists. I am sure there are other jobs that would fit you well!
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Yes I suppose that is true actually. Just because I'm not good at this job, doesn't mean I wouldn't be great others. I suppose it's best to give it a go and see at least then you can say you tried. have you ever put too much pressure on yourself?
user
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Yes i have and it did not end well I burned out and couldn't do my job at all.
assistant
Self-disclosure
Ah, so you have suffered with a similar situation. it is comforting to know the others face similar challenges and it's not just me
user
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Of course you are not alone!
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I think I'll give this a good few weeks and ask myself how I think I'm doing then go from there. Thanks for the chat and your suggestions.
user
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I think that is a great idea I wish you luck! Remember no matter what you will find somewhere you belong!
assistant
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