I'm having trouble with making my parents understand who I am.
I liked how the supporter was able to reason with my issues, but she was kind of casual too. I don't like it when they're too formal. I like how I was able to talk freely without having my face or name shown.
If it's more encouraged for supporters to talk casual. It's a more and friendly type of feeling.
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Hello
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Hi, how are you feeling today?
assistant
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I'm feeling a bit confused and anxious.
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okay, that is valid, do you have an idea what is causing the confusion?
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So I've been dating and my parents are aware. But recently after I said I want to go on a trip with my boyfriend, my parents have all sorts of opinions about it. And all their traditional beliefs that I did not know existed are now on the surface and they are kinda forcing me to follow it. For say they think "bad types of woman" go on trips with their boyfriends and I need to save myself. They have been guilt tripping me and I feel very confused.
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Your feelings are valid and it is okay to feel confused in this situation considering you love your boyfriend and parents Have you tried discussing with your boyfriend to talk to your parents as a means of reassuring them? Or getting someone neutral that your parents trust to talk to them?
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Affirmation and Reassurance,Question,Providing Suggestions
I have. It's been a long stressful month of discussion. The problem is I don't share their beliefs, and I haven't been really "saving myself". I'm been living away from them for collage quite a while and I've been basically doing stuff that if they found out they would be very upset about. But I didn't think it bothers them because they never shared any of this. And they said if I go on this trip I'm disrespecting them and the entire family. But his parents are totally cool and don't seem to mind.
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I get how difficult and upsetting this situation is to you, i have been in a similar situation, however, in my case i took charge of my life, though they are my parents i did what i felt is good for me Before i continue, do you mind me asking how old you are?
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I'm 26 And I see what you're saying. It's really hard breaking free because they always monitored me my entire life. I never had a voice for myself. They basically bullied and forced me to do what they wanted. BTW if you didn't guess I'm their favorite child.
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Okay, you are old enough to be away from your parents, i am going to suggest you sitting with them down and having a heart to heart discussion with them Let them know the consequences of them forcing you, your feelings towards it and how unhappy you are with them restricting you
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Should I tell them everything I did that goes against what they believe? So they know that I don't share their beliefs ?
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No, i think that should be personal to you, i would not suggest you hurting or making them see you as a disappointment I am sure you will be fine after discussing with them, they will come around
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I guess worst case I won't talk to them for a while : ) Thank you , that helped.
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They might be sad and upset now but they will get over it definitely You are welcome
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Have a good one!
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