I fear disappointing my parents.
Hello!
assistant
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hi, can I discuss an issue with you?
user
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Yes please. What has been bothering you?
assistant
Question
My parents, they expect me to always get straight A's.
user
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oh wow. Is that hard for you? Explain what's upsetting you about that.
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It is upsetting because it is an expectation. I am not perfect and I always try my hardest. I am afraid of not being perfect.
user
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I've also struggled with the same thing. My parents put that pressure on me so I understand that. Do you tell your parents you're trying your best? What do they say?
assistant
Self-disclosure,Question
They tell me it is my only job. They think it will help pay for college if I am the best.
user
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It sounds like that expectation is very hard on you and makes you anxious That's okay to feel that way!
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Affirmation and Reassurance
Thanks, I just don't want to disappoint them. They work so hard and want the best for me.
user
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Deep down they really just want you to succeed. But that doesn't mean it isn't difficult for you. I'm sure you're doing your best. Have you talked to them about the pressure/expectation?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Question
I am, I told my sister to not get straight a's or they will always expect it. I h ave not talked to them
user
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I would suggest talking to them about the expectation. You could say something like, "I want you guys to realize that I am trying my best but when you put this expectation on me and makes me even more stressed out"
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Providing Suggestions
Okay, I can try that, it makes me very anxious. Would writing a letter be okay?
user
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That is a scary conversation to have. I think the letter idea is a great idea!
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I am better at expressing my feelings that way.
user
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I'm better writing things down too. Writing that should hopefully let them see what is going on. I think it will work.
assistant
Self-disclosure,Information
I hope it will work, maybe I will write it and leave it in the morning for them to find after I go to school. That way they can think about what I said and not just react.
user
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That's an even better idea. Great thinking!
assistant
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Thanks, you have made me feel a lot better.
user
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I'm glad. I hope it all works out for you!
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