My marriage of 10 years is currently failing.
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I don't know.
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Hello
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How are you today?
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Really bad. My 10 year marriage is failing. Things have not gotten better.
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What happened?
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That's the thing. Nothing really happened. No cheating, drugs, or abuse. I suppose the euphoria has worn off, and she just doesn't find me interesting anymore.
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I understand how you feel. Have you guys tried spending more time with each other? Maybe going out on dates?
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Maybe we haven't done this enough in the past. We both had busy careers. I tried initiating this last year, but without success. Maybe, I was too late.
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Its never too late to put spice back into the relationship.
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I hope you're right. Do you have other suggestions about how to do so?
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Show her that your still love because by being spontaneous. Surprise her with gifts. Maybe take her on a random vacation somewhere. Have a deep conversation about how you are feeling and that you still love her and want her in your life. It might take a little bit but its better to try than not to try at all.
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I think your suggestions are very helpful. A vacation is currently out of the picture due to COVID. I want to try having deep conversations, but I don't know where to start.
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Start by talking about whats going on. Tell her how you think you guys should spend more time with her. Or that you dont want to lose her. Ask her if there is anything she might want to discuss. She maybe having issues shes afraid to talk about.
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I think you hit upon something. She is quite hesitant in talking about issues. Do you have any thoughts about marriage counselling? We've never tried that.
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I think that would be a good idea. Having the chance to get things out and getting more advice is always helpful. Make sure you leave any issues at common ground.
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If my wife is the one having issues with conversations, do you think a male or female therapist/counsellor would be better? I want her to feel comfortable expressing herself.
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Most likely a female therapist would be better. Nobody understands a woman more than a woman.
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I think that sounds like a safer choice. I was also hoping if you have suggestions for me personally. I am quite depressed and I am having problems getting through the day.
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I suggest taking one step at a time. I wouldn't rush through things. I would suggest sitting down and talking through some things that are going on. Maybe taking some time away from work. Going out and spending time with each other as much as you can. If you guys think you may need a marriage counselor, I highly recommend it. I think it would be a great start.
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Thank you very much for your response. You have been very helpful. Perhaps, one last question - my wife and I have been hiding our problems away from our teen-age son. Do you agree that we should continue to keep it from him?
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Depending on the nature, I think you should let him know whats going on. He may already know.
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Ok, thanks for all your help again. I feel much better now, and hopefully I will get through this.
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I know its really hard, but I think you guys with work things out. Have hope. Times are stressful, especially in this day and age.
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Take care, friend, good-bye
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