I'm mad at my boyfriend for not taking responsibility.
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It was a pretty good conversation
No, nothing that I noticed
Hello
assistant
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Hi, how are you?
user
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Good thanks, so what's troubling you?
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Question
I'm so mad at my boyfriend for not taking any responsibility. I'm about to break up with him.
user
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Responsibility in regards to what? Like in what area of life do you mean?
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Question
We've been dating 4 years, meeting in high school. Now we're graduated and I've gone to college. He doesn't have a job yet after 1 year.
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Hmm, has he been looking for work, or just laying around playing video games and shit like that?
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I've been away at college and just came home on break so I'm not sure. He tells me he is looking but I don't know how it's taking a year to get a job.
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Well, I suppose it's possible that he's been earnestly looking and just not having any luck. Is he kind of a loser in general, or is he a stand-up guy?
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He got average grades in school but didn't really miss days from school.
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Ok, so it sounds like you're kind of fed up with him in general, and not having a job is maybe just a part of the bigger issue?
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Restatement or Paraphrasing
That's probably correct. He hasn't been in contact with me as much since I left for school. I just expected more.
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Well, it sounds like you're both in kind of a transitional period in life. It's pretty normal for relationships to not necessarily survive through things like this
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
That's so sad since we have so many years together, but I feel like I'm moving forward and he is staying in place.
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Yeah, I mean it's never easy going through a breakup, but people change as they get older and mature, and they aren't necessarily going to still be compatible the whole time. Also I think it's important to not think of a relationship that peters out as a failed one. Just because it didn't last until one of you died doesn't mean it wasn't a success. I think people put too much emphasis on permanence.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
That's true, it can maybe just be a stepping stone to build other relationships. Thanks for the wisdom.
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Well I've got a couple decades on you, so I've been through this a few times before. Actually I'm still friends with pretty much all of my exes. I mean just because I'm not romantically involved with them anymore doesn't mean that they aren't still terrific people. Hell, I hung out with two of them just today.
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Self-disclosure
That's great you have maintained positive relationships and were also able to move forward. Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.
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You bet. So what do you think you'll do from here? I mean do you know you want to move on for sure, or do you think you'll see if you can work through this patch? I don't know that there's a wrong answer .
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