I broke up with someone I believe is my soulmate
I sometimes got a little confused between options.
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Hi! How's it going today?
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Hello! I'm pretty good today, what about you?
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I'm doing really well, thanks. What brings you here today?
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I'm just having some old thoughts about a past relationship. IT's making me sad
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I can appreciate that. Thinking about lost loves makes me sad too! What about this particular relationship makes you feel sad?
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Yeahhh I re read some old messages from a while back and just started thinking about it again. IT's going to sound quite dramatic, but I regret breaking up with this person. I feel as though they were my soulmate. And I ruined it
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Oh...I see, you think s/he's the "one who got away?" Why did you break up?
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Pretty much... but the dumb thing about that is I am the one who broke it off. I was with him since beginning of high school, and so I never knew anything other than him. But Earlier this year I was having second thoughts and thought we should try new things for a while. In the beginning, I was doing fine and he was having a really hard time. But now I miss him more than anything and he is now better off without me
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Wow...that does sound painful. I know how hard it is to let go of a guy you really loved. I've had to break up with a few of them over the years!
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Yeah? Do you miss any of them? Or do you feel like it was right for you in the long run
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In the long run, I feel that those break-ups were absolutely necessary. I'm in a really good place now. And they are too.
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Yeah that is good. That is everything that I'm hoping for. But it's not coming fast enough
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I eventually learned to think of it like this: every man I loved taught me something important about myself. ANd I taught them things about themselves. ANd it doesn't happen overnight. But eventually, you will probably be able to see how you grew as a result of the breakup. Maybe the things you will learn can help you be ready for Mr Right!
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Providing Suggestions,Providing Suggestions
I really appreciate that way of looking at it. Of course I will always cherish my memories and the things I learned from him. And I want to think of those things as happy experiences rather than sad memories
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That's a really good way of looking at it.
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How long did it typically take you to finalyl be over them and happy with what you ecperienced?
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Oohh.... I think it really depended on how long I was with them. ANd why I decided to end it. The longer relationships Maybe a few weeks to a few months before I was ready to move on and try again. BUt Only a fraction of that was crying with Ben & Jerry's!
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Hahaha yes. That really does help honestly !
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For me it just happened that one day, I thought about Gary and I didn't really feel that sad anymore. I just thought...wow, we had some good times. B&J's and a few good rom-coms ought to put you in a better mood! Lol
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Providing Suggestions,Providing Suggestions
Yeah I guess I am just waiting for that day when my thoughts are genuinely me just grateful for the times we shared but not missing them. And honestly, some days I do feel like that! And then it all comes back. I think I am getting there
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It really sounds like you are making progress! Just remember the old saying "time heals all wounds."
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Yeah exactly. You are right! Thanks so much
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It's my pleasure! I hope you keep feeling stronger!
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:) I definitely will
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