I am battling with letting my past childhood trauma effect my relationship and the raising of my child.
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Hello. I am battling with my childhood trauma that i feel is affecting my everyday life with my child and spouse. I don't know how to tell my spouse about my childhood in fear he doesn't want to be with someone with a upbringing such as mine.
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Hi, thank you for chatting with me. From what I understand, you are struggling with childhood trauma and this is affecting everyday life with your child and spouse.
assistant
Others,Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yes, correct. I am not sure how to tell my spouse about my childhood trauma. He wants to know. He wants to help me. But I am not sure where to begin with explaining it to him.
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That is a really hard situation to be in, but I know that you can have that conversation with your spouse! Does he have any idea about any of the trauma you have experienced?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Question
I am worried it will effect his views on me. And he has a very rough idea of things that have happened.. he tells me he wants to know everything so he can help me move forward.. but when i try to talk about it i ramble and end up not explaining anything. I have even tried writing it down.. and nothing seems to work.
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Just listening to you talk I can tell this is something that is making you extremely anxious.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
very much so.. whenever it gets brought up i free and begin to ramble and i think it makes him overwhelmed ..
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One thing I would suggest is after writing everything down that you rehearse it for a while in front of a mirror and picture that you are talking to your husband while you are doing this.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
He had a very different childhood then myself. Almost complete opposite then myself. And I have tried... i cant seem to get my self to even put my past down on paper... When I have tried to i end up sending my self into a panic.
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Have you reached out to other people or a group of people who may have experienced the same type of trauma you have?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
No.. i do not know many people fro my area. As soon as i was able to leave where i grew up i packed up and left. We live in a extremely rural area where there is not many new faces.
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I have also experienced childhood trauma in my past and it was extremely hard to get through. I found talking to people who went through the same thing helped a lot.
assistant
Self-disclosure
Maybe i will have to look int finding support group in my area...thank you very much!
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After speaking with others in the same situation, I was able to convey this to my loved ones in a better way and I was much more comfortable with it,
assistant
Self-disclosure
thank you for your help!
user
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You are very welcome! Thank you for chatting with me today!
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Others
You did a great job!
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