My friend is dating a man who is a drug addict and she doesn't understand why I won't hang out with the two of them.
Not that I can think of. I have talked on chats before but it was always about ordering something or my insurance questions. This was good.
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My friend thinks we should still be friends but her drug addict boyfriend has already borrowed money from myself and others too many times and has stolen from other people.
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Let me see if I understand you correctly, you no longer want to be friends because her boyfriend is a drug addict and a thief?
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Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yes, I can still care about her but I cannot be a part of her life if this is what she wants.
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i can understand and i have had to do the same thing.
assistant
Self-disclosure
Am I wrong? Sometimes I'm confused by what I'm seeing. Other times, like now, I feel confident in my decision. I guess I never thought I would see her end up with this kind of situation. Hello?
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I think you have to do what keeps you safe and healthy. you can tell her you are here for her, but that you will not watch her destroy her life/
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
I thought the same thing. I've had family members who were alcoholics and it was almost the same thing. I bailed them out till I saw it wasn't going to make a world of difference.
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so your plan is to keep your distance, your friend will eventually see him for who he is.
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Providing Suggestions
How do I deal with the sadness of all this?
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I would suggest joining a group like Al-Anon. It will be goof for you to talk to others in this situation.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Maybe so. I know I talk to family about it and they don't think it's that big of a deal.
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It is difficult for others to understand unless they are in the situation.
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Yes, I guess it is not easy for them to understand. But she's been my friend for so many years, I just don't get it. What was that group Al-Anon?
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I mean Non-Anon -it is a 12 step program for loved ones of addicts. Is there anything else I can help you with?
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Information,Question
I'll have to look into it.
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okay
assistant
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No, I think that's all I needed,maybe just talking about it put things into perspective.
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Great, it was nice talking to you.
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Nice talking to you too.
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Bye
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