I have had a lady who has been a friend for one year now. We have been in good terms until recently when she no longer has time for me and she does not explain the reason for the same. I have scheduled several meetings but she turns down my request every time. I dont know what to do at such a time when i need her support the most.
It helps on to open up especially to one you do not know as this helps one to further open up
keep it up
no - but the conversation is over and i'm not sure how to end it - so i'm ending it this way, i hope that's right.
it's a bit hard to read the conversations when they break off in the middle of the worlds
How are you doing today?
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Question
Am not very fine though tring to cope with the situation at hand
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What situation specifically are you speaking of, if you would like to tell me?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
I am currently facing some sadness. I have had a fiancee whom we have been in good terms for the past one year. She has suddenly changed and no longer has ime for me. I have prompted her on several occasions but she does not respond to my calls and texts.I have requested her so that we meet and talk but she is not willing either. I am confused what to do at this time i need her support the most
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So what I hear you saying is that you are engaged and your fiance will not speak to you. However, you are unsure as to why she is behaving this way? Is that correct?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yea i really dont know the reason behind the breakup coz all along we have been in good terms and can hardly remember us having a disagreement
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Unfortunately sometimes people do just grow apart. There may not be any concrete reason behind it. It appears that, for whatever reason, she does not want to talk. I can understand how this would be upsetting and that it would be hard to obtain closure and move on.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Sure. I really dont know what to do in this case
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Have you tried emailing her? Perhaps she would be willing to explain in a more neutral environment?
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Providing Suggestions
Well, i haven` t tried an email. I have only called her severally, sent her message via whatsapp and facebook.
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It might be an option. Maybe just lay out how you feel in it, and just ask her for an explanation perhaps. It might be good to let her know that "I understand it's over, but could you help me understand why so that I can close this chapter" - perhaps she would respond to something like that. If she doesn't, then you are going to have to make some hard decisions and try to process this. It's a very hard position to be in, but life is too beautiful to be miserable, and I know you would rather be happy.
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Providing Suggestions,Affirmation and Reassurance
Sure i also want to be happy but we have shared so much in common and were in process of starting something good to help generate income. She had the idea and i had the capital. I feel this will really be a wasted opprtunity Is there anything else i can do to salvage the situation?
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You are going to have to lay it all on the line with her, but be prepared for her to not respond in the way that you want. Sometimes we do the best we can, and it still doesn't change the situation. Just know that her decision does not mean you are unworthy, it just means that she is not worthy of you - but someone else is and then it would be time to go and find them.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Wow. This is interesting. Thanks for this reminder. I gonna consider this idea and move on then. Thanks for this support
user
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You are more than welcome. I know it's hard, but sometimes the rain has to come before the rainbow!
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Others
Ok thank you. I will apply your advice and see how it will turn out. Thank you once more
user
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I wish you the best of luck!
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