My husband and I constantly argue about discipline of our kids.
I thought this was a very enjoyable task and actually felt some sort of relief after it ended.
None, I think everything went well.
How easy it was to talk through things
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Hi there, how are you doing today?
assistant
Question
I am feeling really down.
user
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I'm sorry to hear you're feeling that way, what has you feeling this way?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
My husband and I have 4 kids. One of those children is a child from his previous marriage. We constantly argue about how he favors that child over our other 3.
user
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Oh no, that's not good. Do the other kids see it as well?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
2 of the children are younger so they do not realize it but the other child is older and definitely notices.
user
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Does your husband realize that the other child notices it and how it hurts them?
assistant
Question
I have told him but he is in denial of the whole situation.
user
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Why do you think he favors that child? Is that child only with you part-time that he feels he needs to make the most of that time?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
The child is with us every other week and maybe that is why he treats him differently but my husband knows that it is causing problems in our relationship and refuses to change those behaviors. I just do not know what to do anymore.
user
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Is there someone that's close to both of you that you could talk to, that way they can help him see that it's very apparent that he's treating him different?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I suppose I could talk to his mother. But, I have reservations because I feel like she will side with him since it his her son.
user
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Very true, and it would likely be better with someone no quite so close to the situation. But you also don't have to attack him to her, just lay out the facts. I understand the frustration, it's hard to see your kids hurting or feeling like they're not enough. Is this the biggest issue you guys are dealing with in your marriage? Or is it just another thing you're not getting along on?
assistant
Self-disclosure,Others
That is very true. This is our main issue. I suppose I need to find someone who is close to us both but not necessarily a family member.
user
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Someone who has seen you interacting as a family and maybe has noticed it as well.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Yes, that is a good idea. Thank you for all of your help. It makes me feel a little better just telling someone about the issue.
user
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Sometimes just getting it off of your chest is all you need to reset. I'm glad that helped and I wish you luck in finding a solution.
assistant
Others,Others
Very true. Thank you, have a wonderful day!
user
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You too, stay safe!
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