My girl decided to break up with me by text, instead of in person.  It was a breakup that other friends also heard about and asked me about not much later in the breakup process.
I thought the task was good. It helped a lot.
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Not a great day.
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How is your day going today? Do you have anything on your mind?
assistant
Question
It is not a good day....
user
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I am sorry to hear that - so life is not great at the moment? Would you like to tell me more?
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Restatement or Paraphrasing
Maybe. It is tough to talk about right now.
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I understand. I know how hard it can be to open up about what is worrying you. I've been in that position too.
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Self-disclosure
I love my girl, but she decided to break up with me......by text message, I get no respect.....
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Oh I am so sorry! That is a really unpleasant thing to do to someone, especially at this time of year.
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Yeah, it is.
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Is there anyone close to you that you can talk to about this? Friends?
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Providing Suggestions
I am disgusted that my girl did that to me......And by text message???! What the F--- My friends came up to me in the bar and said they had heard about the breakup....
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Yes it is a very cowardly thing to do. I am quite disgusted that she did not have the courage to talk to you face to face too. You have every right to feel angry.
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Affirmation and Reassurance
Some friends to gossip....yeah, I am disgusted for sure, We had been together over 2 years....
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Unfortunately there are people out there who are not true friends and who just want something to talk about. I have experienced that myself.
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Yeah, I bet many have. It is not a very Civil society. Very uncivil method of breaking up....
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It really is not is it! I can tell how upset you feel just from talking to you, and also that the method of the break up is really sore point.
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Reflection of feelings
It just disgusts me how gauche my girl's method was. Maybe people should be more polite about how they communicate about something like breaking up.
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It could be that you are better off without her? If she has such bad manners then I think that you cn do better.
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That is a great point. A rather gauche move on her part, dontcha think? Have you ever had someone dump you??
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Yes I do. I would not personally do that to someone even if I was unhappy in relationship.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Yeah, I hear you.
user
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Yes I have been dumped. We had been together for eight years and he left me for another woman.
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Self-disclosure
I feel disgusted so much that I got played "like an old fiddle." It sucks.....
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I know how you are feeling but I think that you need to get professional help to move on. Are you able to go to therapy?
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Providing Suggestions
I haven't thought about getting therapy. What would help?
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Well, I think it could be really beneficial to let your anger out
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Providing Suggestions
I am glad to be able to vent to you about my girl's actions. I hope she is not going to hook up with my "wing man,' Rick. I would be filled with even more disgust.
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That would be an absolutely terrible thing to do. Do you really think that your friend would do a t hing like that to you?
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I have seen Rick eyeballing my girl at times. I think he is an agressive guy when it comes to the ladies. Rick thinks that he is a "playah."
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Do you think that perhaps you should talk to him before anything happens? You do not want to ruin your friendship by having him do that
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Providing Suggestions
I might just have to do that. I think that he has been eyeballing my firl a little too much over the last two or three months, actually.
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Well you do not want to let that situation escalate any further. I hope I have been able to be of some help to you and I urge you to look for professional therapy if you can. All the best to you for Christmas and the year 2021!
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Others
I will talk to Rick and see what he knows about my girl breaking up with me by text. I need to find out more.
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