My partner called me during the summer and has broken up with me.
Unlike last time, I actually got to speak to someone. It felt a little good to talk to someone
way way too slow for the payment
faster responses
Hello?
user
null
Hello! How are you doing tonight?
assistant
Others,Question
I'm doing alright How about you?
user
null,null
You are doing well? That is great to hear. I am the support provider, do you have any questions or problems?
assistant
Others
I've just been feeling a little down about the breakup, even though it was like 4 years ago
user
null
So it was almost four years ago, but you still feel depressed when you think about it?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yes
user
null
That must be difficult for you, to still feel that way.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Initially, I was sad about being heart broken, but later I became more concerned about why I had a strange complex I never even knew I had Which I never discovered until recently
user
null,null
Being upset and heartbroken is very understandable, but what do you mean by a strange complex?
assistant
Question
When I first met my partner, she was at a low point in her life
user
null
So you really feel she was depressed or upset when you met her?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
Yea
user
null
Did her being depressed have an effect on you?
assistant
Question
Naturally, I wanted to help her, even though I felt somewhat uncomfortable at first
user
null
of course you were sympathetic towards her pain, that is totally understandable.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
So I stuck with her and saw her become better even made some friends along the way
user
null,null
That sounds great, that you were able to help her out in that way.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
However, I suddenly started to feel a little depressed for some reason
user
null
So as she became better, you started to feel worse?
assistant
Question
I believe it's because I felt useless after that point
user
null
That's interesting, so you feel that you were together so long as you could help her, but then you lost interest in her?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
I didn't lose interest, it was just that I had this strange complex where I needed to feel needed
user
null
or did she reject you once she felt better?
assistant
Question
She said that she was busy with other stuff
user
null
Has that happened to you in other relationships?
assistant
Question
Never been in another one I've had crushes, but it never went past that for various reasons
user
null,null
So you have not had any successful relationships since then? Do you think that is why you feel depressed?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
I don't think so The thing is, I'm still friends with her
user
null,null
So that is good, that even after the end of your romantic relationship you were still able to maintain a friendship.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
It's rather awkward, tho. We don't even talk often
user
null
Have you thought about volunteering in a position where you could be helpful to others? So you feel that you are still friends even though you don't speak to each other often?
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Reflection of feelings
I've done such thing during the summer
user
null
So what you are saying is that you spoke to her this summer and that made you feel depressed about the breakup?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
Oh no, I mean volunteering
user
null
That sounds like a great idea, did it give you satisfaction?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Yes, I most certainly enjoy it
user
null
That is really good to hear. Hopefully you can continue to do that and help yourself by helping others. Maybe we can talk more at a later time.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Others