My caught my girlfriend cheating with a man of 50 years of age
its absolutely great
It was quite hard to know how to respond because the Seeker didn't really go into detail.
No - it all worked well.
Hello, how are you doing today? Is there anything you'd like to chat about? What's on your mind?
assistant
Question,Question
am not feeling so good, being depressed feeling like killing myself, i don't know after all have done for her
user
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OK. This is a temporary feeling and it will pass. Please be kind to yourself. What led to you feeling this way?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Question
i proposed to my girl after 5 years of dating, she introduced me to one man claiming its her uncle, was very happy i had to meet one of my fiancé family not knowing all was but lies she took me to go see the man, the man even gave us relationship advice
user
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OK. So you proposed to your girlfriend, but she was seeing another man?
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
yes!! seeing the so called man she called her uncle
user
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And the man you thought was her uncle was her other boyfriend? That is a horrible situation. It's not nice when people lie to you - I've had it happen to me before. You must be feeling very betrayed at the moment.
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing,Self-disclosure,Reflection of feelings
caught them in the act, was devastated, my body was shaking, couldn't bear my eyes its was as if my heart was being ripped outta my soul
user
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That sounds horrible. I think anyone would be upset with that! I wonder if it was best that this happened before you got married, though - it hurts, but it would have hurt more if she had become your wife. How does it feel if you think about it that way?
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Providing Suggestions
All i could do at that moment is pretend i didn't see a thing yh! am happy i knew sooner
user
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How does your family and friends feel about it? Have you spoken to them?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
but it s painful, i rented an apartment for her, was the one sponsoring her and her brother
user
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You must feel as though she has taken advantage of you and your generosity.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
i never had the courage to tell anyone, everything just kept eating me up
user
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I think it might be good to talk to people around you who knew you both. I know that it must be difficult because you feel like your pride has been hurt as well as your heart.
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Reflection of feelings
i provided everything i think a girl would need so she wont feel inferior but what did i get in returns
user
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It sounds like you are a very thoughtful and generous partner. I know that others will see that in you.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
guessed i gave too much and it came back right at me
user
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Perhaps you shopuld now focus on taking care of yourself. Did you neglect anything you need or enjoy to take care of her? Could you do that now?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
yes learnt my lessons, had to move on, but i can never respect any lady
user
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I can see how that might make it difficult to trust people. However, not everybody is the same. You sound like a very caring person and there are lots of caring women out there looking for someone just like you. Could you spend some time getting to know more people until you feel like you can trust someone again? Do you have any hobbies you enjoy?
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Affirmation and Reassurance,Providing Suggestions
guess that will do, yh i do have an hobby, loves reading
user
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Great! Have you tried joining a book club, where you can discuss books you enjoy with others? That will help take your mind off things and you can meet new people too.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Thanks, i really appreciate
user
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I'm glad. I hope you have a great day and please remember to be kind to yourself.
assistant
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