My children's father and I have broken up after 15 years together with 4 children due to cheating and an extra baby. I am highly disgusted and want nothing to do with him at all.
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Good evening, thanks for taking the time to talk with me.
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No problem. How can I help you tonight?
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Question
I am having issues dealing with my feelings about ending my long term relationship with my children's father.
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So just to make sure I understand, you are struggling with dealing with ending a long term relationship with your child's father.
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Exactly right, after 15 years and 4 kids, he cheated on me and the affair produced a child.
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I am so sorry to hear that. My ex-fiance cheated on me and got pregnant with another man, so I know how rough this type of thing is. Have you been able to talk to him about it yet?
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Self-disclosure,Question
At this point, I don't want to talk, I am so disgusted I want nothing more to do with him, regardless of the kids.
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Have you talked to the kids about it? It will be important for them to understand what is going on and why.
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The kids are pretty smart, they found out and was mad at first, but now they are accepting, which is making me even more disgusted. I have even started to resent my kids for it.
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I think it would help to sit down and have a conversation with them about it. It is important that they know how you feel and that you are there for them, and that they aren't the reason for the issues.
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I did at least sit down with the kids about it, told t hem how I felt, explained the nature of the situation. But they weren't on my side, they acted like they were on my side at first but then switched up on me, made me feel like I was the one wrong!?!
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Have you thought about seeking a group of people who have been through this same situation that you are going through now? It often helps to talk to people who have been through the same things and get their help to get through the situation.
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Apparently that's you smh lol.. How did you feel? What did you do?
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This is true I suppose. I made sure to have a conversation with her first in order to get some closure on the situation. After that I focused on more of my hobbies that I hadn't been able to do in a while in order to keep my mind distracted and off of the situation.
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Self-disclosure
I'm still not ready to have that conversation with him. He's acting like I made him cheat on me. Maybe I should find some hobbies to distract myself until I can myself to that point.
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I think that would definitely help! What are some things you like to do?
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Self-disclosure,Question
How do I deal with my feelings of disgust? I like to color, I like to read, I like to do puzzles.
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You have to know that it wasn't your fault. He was the one who was unfaithful and there is nothing that you did to cause that. This was something I had to keep telling myself as I was trying to process everything. Sometimes it isn't easy, but you are your own biggest supporter. It wasn't your fault.
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That definitely gave me some strength and closure, thank you so much!
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Not a problem at all! I know it's really hard right now, but I know you can make it through this!
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Others,Affirmation and Reassurance
With your kinds words and advice, I think I can now! Have a great night, thank you for taking time out to help me.
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