My partner said he loved me and led me on.  Then he went to cheat on me after one year of pretending he truly loved me.  I am so sad and lonely and he is always with friends.  It just isn't fair.
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How could my partner say he loves me, go out with me for one year and then cheat.
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I'm sorry to hear about that, have you discussed how it made you feel with your partner?
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Yes, but he barely calls me back. I'm worried that he all of a sudden is so distant.
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If it were entirely up to you how would you like your relationship to proceed from here?
assistant
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I would ideally like him to say he was sorry and never look at another woman but now I doubt his faithfulness and think the only reason I'm with him is because I'm so lonely.
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It sounds like you worry you will not be able to trust him in the future because of this no matter what his future actions are, do you think there is anything he could do or say that would change this?
assistant
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I do worry a lot. If he would commit fully to me that would help perhaps. If he never cheated again but I don't know if he can do that reliably.
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What would you define as full commitment from him?
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I think marriage, but then again if he cheats then what commitment is that really if it ends in divorce?
user
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That's true and divorce can be expensive. You mentioned before that you feel like you are with him mostly because you are lonely, is that how your relationship started?
assistant
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That's a good point you make. I was lonely and wanting to fill that void. But, I do want a family. I'm just not sure he is that committed or even mature enough to handle this responsibility. Perhaps I'm naive.
user
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I don't think you are naive, you are clearly asking yourself the right questions about building a future with him
assistant
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Thanks for the encouragment.
user
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Do you have friends and family around that could help distract you from the loneliness until you find someone you are comfortable starting a family with?
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Maybe that would be a good plan as I am close with my family. Thanks!
user
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Of course! There also probably community resources where you can meet new people and explore new interests! Unfortunately I think a lot of that might have to wait til Covid passes
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Thanks that might be another suggestion to consider.
user
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Of course! Anything else on your mind you would like to discuss?
assistant
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When will this COVID ever end? It's even hard to find new partners
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I know, I've heard some people have found success with zoom dates.
assistant
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