my family is very superficial and they can't connect authentically with me
it feels really personal to talk to someone with no rapport, no name, no picture
yes add a section that has a bio about the person and a picture of a face and at least a gender
Hi there, how are you feeling today?
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hello. meh. pretty sad
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I am sorry to hear that. I will help if I can - what is the matter?
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my family is very superficial i'm sad they aren't able to connect with me in a meaningfulway
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(Sorry I was afk) I am really sorry to hear that. Can you elaborate a bit? Is it one specific family member or all of them?
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lol its all of them...parents and sister idk it's a bit personal and very sad. i wouldn't want to make you sad too
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Is the problem bad enough that you feel you would like to cut them off entirely? I am sorry, I was not trying to intrude :)
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yeah, actually my husband and i were talking about cutting them off i've cut them off before but this time i have more stability and am happy with my life (unlike they come and ruin all the nice things in my life with their bad attitudes)
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It is a very big decision to make, but in some cases it is the best one.
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#toxicfamily - it's just all very sad
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Is there any possibility of getting professional counselling or something before making the final decision?
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yeah we just talked to my therapist
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I am glad you have someone to talk to!
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she said its best to not even write them. ive been trying for over 25 years yea my husband and therapist are the best
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If a professional thinks that then maybe it really is the best thing to do. It seems unlikely they will change
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yeah they aren't changing. they actually are getting worse! my mom accused my aunt of stealing from her. and turns out the money was under her mattress the whole time...
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That sounds really bad. Making false accusations about people is evil.
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yeah, and then she forced my aunt to drive her to the bank and tried to jump out of the car!
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Okay that sounds really bizarre. I think you truly are better off without them
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yeah, she's a pretty terrible person :/
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The saying that we can choose our friends but not our family is very true.
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yup well thanks for listening
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You're most welcome :) We need to keep talking till fifteen mins is up though. Is there anything else you'd like to talk about?
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Yea i thought it was 15 minutes but there in the side panel it says 10-15 but we can do a couple more minutes too
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No worries :). Please try not to fret too much about your problem - to be honest I have some weird family members too
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for real... it was his adoptive dad's 92 nd birthday and they refused to pay for his dinner. they said they would pay for their own dinner only. and my dad is rich and my family is in south america and they aren't poor but c'mon!
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Wow... that is seriously toxic. Definitely you should be away from them, it will improve your life a lot
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an entire 6-course dinner for 6 people is like $50 smh.... they are just awful people
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Anyway I hope I have been able to be of help and I wish you all the best for the future! I think things will be better when you are free of them.
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i hope so! its hard to cut them off but its worse if I stay thanks dear. apprecaite the chat
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you too :) Can you press quit and take the survey as for some reason I can't do it first my end
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thanks bye
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