MY Son-in-Law is treating our daughter and Grandaughter indifferent, gaslighting and treats the dog better.
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Hi and good afternoon Thank you for your time
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Hello, and good afternoon yourself. How are you?
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Doing pretty good. Struggling a little
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What is making you struggle?
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My situation involves our Daughter and Son-in-Law. He is not treating her well, rude, gaslighting and treating the dog better. He is also not very nice to our grandaughter This is confidential, Right?
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Yes, of course it is :). So we are talking about your daughter and her husband and their child together, right?
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Yes, He is a nice guy to others. At home he is so different.
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I understand, people can often show different sides depending on who is around. Do you have any reason to think your daughter or granddaughter are in physical danger?
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Restatement or Paraphrasing
No, they are safe. He's, like I said, a nice guy. Our Daughter, we are very close and she would tell us.
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That's great news! It sounds as though you are just concerned about how she is sometimes being treat. Have you had any conversation with your daughter about their relationship?
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Reflection of feelings
Yes, numerous. Like I said we are close to our daughter. She wants to stay together and talks with him. He stays for whatever reason. I wish he would talk to me, to us. We have offered. He knows that we care about him.
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And that is so important and good to know there is trust from his side, to me it sounds as though that could be an olive branch for you to try and establish a conversation with both of them. An open and positive communication is always the first step in resolving anything.
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We have tried this before when we visit and he appears receptive. Treats he well and then when we are gone. He falls back into he behaviour.
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I recently went though a similar exercise with a friend and her boyfriend. We sat down in a room and spoke about our feelings. We had ground rules first and everyone knew they could talk without being judged or escalating. Maybe you could suggest follow up conversations, re-cap about what was spoken about previously and they can both evaluate how they have progressed since then?
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Self-disclosure,Providing Suggestions
Thats sounds like a good idea. We have talked with them individually. Now the next step. We shall see. Yeah consistency leads to accountability. I like the idea. Thank you.
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I believe you have both their interests in mind. You sound like a positive person and you are just concerned for all 3 people involved.
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For sure, she is our daughter and our granddaughter needs her daddy.
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I hope they will be well receptive of your suggestion for a follow up.
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Thank you. I have some good ideas after chatting with you.
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No worries, I'm grateful for your time as well. If there is nothing else, I hope it all goes well and you have a wonderful weekend :)
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