My boyfriend broke up with me after being together for 5 years. He also cheated on me with my best friend.
I liked how the conversation was emotional enough so I can reflect on the other persons problems. With the issue being something I experienced myself, I was able to offer more input.
The labeling for the answers can be a bit hard to choose. I'm not the type of person who writes very long paragraphs. So It is hard to choose a label every single time when I want to type fast and short sentences. Why I type fast and short sentences is because I want to engage quickly before the other person gets distracted or upset.
Hi, how are you doing?
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I am feeling very sad lately. I can't seem to shake it.
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I'm sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk about what is making you sad?
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I was in a long term relationship and he broke up with me. I should have broken up with him for cheating my me but I was in love and think that I still am. I feel like my life was a waste. I don't like being alone.
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That sounds terrible. But I understand the feeling. I was in the same situation once. It is hard to move passed that. So your pain is very understandable.
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You then you know it feels like the world is collapsing around me.
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I agree. It's like there is no more hope. But do you know something? It is ok to feel sad sometimes. You're the stronger one in this position. And you can show how strong you are by moving passed this.
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Thank you, I know that sounds right. I had my whole life planned out and it was going to end in a long term marriage and now its all gone. I was thinking of getting a pet or something but I don't know if I am worthy.
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This way sound weird, but I tell myself if something is not meant to happen, it would not. If you want to look at a more positive side of this, you can say this was a good thing that happened.
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I have always wanted a cat or a dog but my boyfriend said I wouldn't be good at raising anything. I can try to change my thinking but its really difficult.
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I know you don't want to hear all these positive words right now. But It will get better. Trust me.
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I appreciate the support and need to hear positive words. Do you think I need to take a vacation or something?
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It is hard to get passed someone's words, especially after spending so much time with them. How about start with a fish. I have a betta and he is really easy to take care of. But I have the responsibility of attending to his needs. If you can take care of a fish, you surely can take care of a cat or dog! I apologize if my typing is slow I think maybe a small vacation would help. Or doing something you really enjoy. Is there anything you can think of?
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I really love that idea and I love fish! I have always wanted an aquarium. I am thankful for your thoughtfulness and not just telling me what I want to hear. I like to go boating but its hard to do alone. I also like to go hiking but its dangerous to go alone.
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I agree. Are you a social person by any chance? By saying that I mean you can still go do those activities, but you can maybe meet people there and ask if you can join their group. That's great in a way because you meet new people and there are no attachments after you leave. It's like a fun, crazy experience :)
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Thank you for the support that is a good idea because I do like going bowling and I heard about a open social bowling night.
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Oh that's awesome! But just remember don't try to distract yourself from the problem. Try to make peace with it. Because if you don't, you cannot move forward.
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