My parents are making me going into a career path that I don't like.
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hi there, how are you and how can i help?
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hey! not too bad but like i said im going into university and my parents want to me to do architecture when im really into engineering money is a large factor so-
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i see. are your parents paying for your university?
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well money as in like salaries later on tuition fees aren't an issue im in canada and all but like architects generally make more money than mechanical engineers on average so they don't approve my career path
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oh i see. so you mean that your parents would prefer you to choose the path that will eventually give you a higher salary?
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yeah exactly! but i don't like architecture very much, i don't find myself fond of art
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that is a tough situation. it's definitely not easy to go against your family's wishes, but at the same time you have to do what's best for you
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well what's best for me is literally a good salary because i'd be lying if money isn't an issue but am i going to be happy later on doing the job?
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i went through a similar experience during my schooling, and i had to explain to my parents that i don't want to disappoint them but i still have to do what makes me happy. having a career that you hate doesn't feel good - i've been there but there can be careers in engineering that have connections to architecture as well, such as structural engineering
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yeah i agree it's much more suitable if i could mix up the details of each career paths but frankly i don't think my parents should be concerned with engineering either it pays well and provides good stability but like they said architecture suits my strengths more and i can go further with it
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honestly i think both are great career paths to pursue and as you said, both are stable and well-paying fields strengths doesn't always equal happiness though, so that's a tough one. have you considered speaking with both architects and engineers to learn more about each job? that might be helpful in your decision. sometimes what we think a job does, in actuality can be totally different in real life
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yeah! i went on reddit to ask students in my desired uni and they all said that what they are doing is what you expect architects said it's a booming business in Toronto engineers is always in demand, but not growing
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ah well i commend you on taking that step and actually trying to learn about the jobs. you seem like a really smart person and you're able to see things from a logical perspective
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thank you i've done the research to dispute my parents' arguments you see but like- utimately its about how much i like it o not *or
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i think what you need to do is take that same logical approach and explain calmly to your parents the path you want to take. just because they think your strengths are suited for architecture, doesnt mean you don't also have the strengths for engineering. many of the same skills are probably required for both jobs, and you're right: ultimately it is about what will make you happy and worst case scenario: you can always change careers later if you find that you don't like what you're doing
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yeah you are absolutely right but about the careers path not sure if you're in canada or not, but it's much harder to switch careers in canada you pay more and it's not like in the States where you can finish your degree whenever you want right once you paid
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you sound like a good student and i'm sure your parents must recognize that you're capable of great things, so if you can present to them a logical argument of why you feel engineering is a better path, hopefully they will listen.
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yeah that is the plan you're been extremely helpful and im grateful for that i don't get to share these things very often my friends are just as busy too you see But I'll think we can stop it here
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you're welcome. best of luck to you and i hope you find the right path for yourself. i commend you for opening up here and i think you'll find success
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It's nice to have someone motivate me hehe thank you so much best of luck to you too! once again thank you!
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thanks!
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