I have a very good friend whom I have noticed does not tell me the truth , she cherry picks what she wants to tell me. I have also noticed that she doesn't call me unless I call. What got me so upset what was she did the last time I called her. She got me off the phone in a matter of seconds saying that she will call back , but never did. I felt so dejected and promised never to call her back again.
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Examples of situations and advice for what to do in certain situations i.e. domestic violence, abuse and etc would be extremely helpful.
Hello! How are you?
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I'm fine, but could be better just not too happy with my situation. Hope you are doing great
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I am well. What's going on?
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Question
yes, have a friend who I'm very close to , but have noticed she doesn't tell me the truth this days. And not only that she has been distancing as in not calling , always waiting for me to call. I call her about a week ago, but wasn't happy how she dismissed my call within seconds telling me she will call me back only for her not to call till to day. I don 't feel like calling her again.
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So it seems like you have been noticing some distance between you and a friend and it also seems like he/she is not putting as much as effort into your relationship as you are. It seems at times that you put in all the work and that it's one-sided. Does that sound about right?
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Restatement or Paraphrasing
You are absolutely correct and this is someone I care so much about
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This must be very hard on you. How does this make you feel?
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Reflection of feelings,Question
Oh it is very depressing, have known her for a very long time about 16years now
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Sixteen years is a long time. I recently when through a similar situation with a friend. In my case, sitting down and communicating how I feel about the situation really did resolve many things. It made me understand why all of a sudden she was being distant and in the long run, it made our bond even stronger
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Self-disclosure
That's very good to hear. I would have loved to do ask her what the problem is, but knowing how she is hiding some things from me, I just don't feel comfortable approaching her. I had this feeling she is doing it on purpose, I just don't understand why.
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I think you should try to honestly talk to her about how you feel and express to her that you are concerned. If she blows you off or ignores you, maybe consider rethinking your friendship. I know 16 years is a long time, but don't feel like you have to hold on to a relationship that is creating all of these negative feelings and unnecessary stress in your life. Friendships are meant to bring you up, encourage you, and hold you through the dark times. If she does not take your concerns seriously, consider taking a break and being distant. I know this seems hard, but I believe that you can do it!
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Providing Suggestions,Affirmation and Reassurance
I will give it a try, but it's very hard for me to swallow the way she has treated me.
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People change sometimes and it is hard to understand. I want you to know that you are ENOUGH! You are smart and beautiful. Maybe it's time for this relationship to come to a close, but other people will come your way that will treat you like you deserve. I know it's painful now, but you will be stronger and better for going through this.
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Affirmation and Reassurance
Thanks for understanding, I feel better now. I will give it sometime and if I don't feel like it or don't hear from her any more, I will take it that it's time to move on.
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I think that is a good approach. You will get through this!
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Affirmation and Reassurance
You have been a big help and I can't thank you enough
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Anytime. I hope your feeling even a little better. Is there anything else I can help you with today?
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No, you've helped enough already and I thank you once again for your support I wish I had chatted with you sooner
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Glad to be of service to you. If there is nothing else, feel free to click quit whenever your ready. Aww, I am so glad that I was of help to you.
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okay, no problem . Nice chatting with you Take care and bye
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