I have a father who i love a lot. Since he is old, I have made him move in with me. I take a lot of care of him - even financially. But, if i fall ill, he does not even bother asking me. I feel extremely sad with his behavior.
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Hi, I have a situation which makes me very sad. This is about my dad He is an old fellow and alone so i made him move in with me.
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I'm sorry to hear that you have a sad situation happening with your dad.
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I take all responsibilities - including financial But i find him very dry with his emotions. Today,i fell unwell and i wanted to go take a covid test. but, he just brushed it off saying, its a mild flu. He showed no emotions at all. or concern
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That sounds like quite a challenge for you. You seem to care so much.
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He simply told me, its a waste of money to go get checked I know that old people sometimes act childish. But his dry behaviour makes me very sad. sometimes this leads to a fight
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That must be hard to hear when you are trying so hard to do what's right. I also am struggling to convince my father to stay away from crowds because of COVID.
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Sometimes this behaviour of him leads to a fight. and i end up crying! Untop of it, i feel awful because i end up yelling at home too Is it normal to yell at parents? My dad simply won't listen Is it normal to have a fight with your parents?
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I'm sorry you have to go through this.
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I feel guilty to fight with him
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Perhaps you can take some time for yourself with a friend?
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Do you suggest anything else? Yes i could do that. But that won't resolve my issue What do you suggest?
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As my father is getting older, he is often frustrated. It's harder to move, you have more aches and pains and this virus is scary.
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How should i deal with him? True that
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Perhaps you could suggest him taking some deep breaths to calm down.
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It's very hard to convince him of anything. He thinks he is always right.
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I understand as my father is the same way. I often have to just hear him out and take time away in another room.
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It's hard on me, because i have a child to look after too. And my dad keeps interfering in my parenting with my child.
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Do you have any other family support who understands your position?
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It's hard honestly. My spouse and me are separated. And i have a child who stays with me.
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Perhaps there is some support in your community? I have a child with autism and my father doesn't understand the behaviors and is critical of my parenting too. I often seek support from an autism group with parents in my position. Perhaps there is a group of single parents you could gain support from?
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I have a six year old child. Yes, maybe i would look for some support groups somewhere. Autistic child must be huge challenge i am sure
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It sounds like you are really trying hard to do the best you can.
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Sometimes i suggest to my dad that he should seek therapy. But he won't listen at all.
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That must be frustrating that you try to have him seek therapy, but he doesn't want to follow your suggestions.
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Yes, i would have joined a support group. But, this covid won't let me now. I have to be very careful since i have a child and dad at home. I step out only for necessities.
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Do you think communicating in a different way like writing may help? Have you tried different ways to communicate?
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It would be awkward since he is in the same house But i could try sending a text message That's a good advice
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Do you think maybe some way of showing you care like making dinner or something encouraging him in a way he likes could help?
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Yes, could work. I will try that. Thanks for the advice
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You are welcome. I wish you well. Have a good night.
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