my boyfriend keeps leaving and staying gone, leaving m here with our 1 year old daughter, who is taking it pretty bad, he will sometimes stay gone for 3 days and then comes home and act like everything is okay, says he is sorry and that he wont do it again, stays home for a few days and then does the same thing again, like it doesn't even bother hi that our kid is loosing seep, not eating like she should, and crying for him all hours of the night!
i like it alot, got to let out some of my thoughts
no i thing everything is great
Nothing comes to mind.
Nothing comes to mind.
How are you?
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Others
im okay i guess how about you?
user
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I'm doing well, thank you for asking. It sounds like you might not be doing okay. Anything you want to talk about?
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no I haven't been doing okay I've actually been extremally stressed, but at this very moment im okay i guess, even though he isnt home, after awhile you kind of get used to the late night worrying and anxiety and depression
user
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That sounds like a lot for a person to be dealing with. Is this your husband/boyfriend?
assistant
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he is my boyfriend but we have been together for 6 years, and since his car wreck and him being diagnosed with tbi he hasnt been him self lately! and it seems like he has been getting worse!
user
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That's a long time. He's lucky to have you to support him. You said you worry when he's not at home. Is this because of the injury and not acting like himself? Supporting someone with a brain injury can be stressful. Are you taking are of yourself as well? You can't be of help to your boyfriend if you are not doing well yourself.
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Restatement or Paraphrasing,Information
well yes but no, he got in a car accident on 9/6/2018 and i fall pregnant exactly a year later my due date was 9/4/2019 but i had her 8/22/19 and i was going to say alot more but it wouldnt let me so i copied it but it wont let me paste it so im not even going to try to type all of that up agin lol but long story shot he cheated on me a half a year after i had my daughter and now the girl is pregnant wanting me to take in her child bc its either her life or the babys and me being the person i am i ant let the baby go into foster care or my baby not being able to see her sibling
user
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If I understand this correctly your boyfriend cheated on you after you had a child together. Now, the other woman is pregnant with your boyfriends baby? Did I get that right?
assistant
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yep its a very frustrating and difficut situation
user
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I can understand that would make you feel anxious and depressed. Do you have someone to help you cope with this situation? Friends, Family, etc?
assistant
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what would u do or how would u feel if u was in this situation? i ended up getting back with him bc i didnt want my child without a father like i was
user
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I totally understand where you are coming from. Things get much more complicated when children are involved.
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nope i keep to myself! and alot of friends and family dont even know shes pregnant with his kid yet, but yes at the time i had help yes it does get alot more complicated exp when my kid is involed and then i have to thing about him not being himself bc of his tbo
user
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Well, it sounds like you still have a lot going on. Sometimes even when you want to take more on emotionally and mentally you need to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation. Maybe finding someone to talk to about everything that is currently going on in your life would be helpful. Youre only human, right?
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Providing Suggestions,Reflection of feelings
yea i know,but thats hard when u dont know how to deal with the situation and when u meet someone that u just can stay mad at
user
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Agreed. But maybe that's what has to happen to help you get through this. I think it might be a good starting point for you.
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i know, im trying to work on that! i forgive to easily
user
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That's okay. Forgiveness helps us out as well. It helps us to move forward with our lives.
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yea sometimes i guess
user
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It's never easy.
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it really isnt! its actuallt really hard, its like you hate them but you also love them at the same time
user
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Exactly! I hope our chat has helped you out a bit. Maybe even given you some things to reflect on. You always have the power to change the dynamic of the situation. Remember that.
assistant
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hopefully soon somethings will change for the better, i just hope i figure out what i should do and to make a better me and a better life for everyone
user
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You will. It will just take some reflection on your part.
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yes for sure! it felt great being able to talk to someone about this
user
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Fantastic! I'm really glad to hear that! Well, I wish you the very best. Enjoy the rest of your night!
assistant
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same goes to you also have a good night
user
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Thank you! : )
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