A breakup that happened many years ago but I still think about it
Good partner, great helpful comments
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Hello how are you \
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I am well than you, and yourself?
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I am good, I was wondering if you could help me with advice from a breakup that I went through many years ago
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You went throught a breakup a few years ago?
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Yes, but I still think about it all the time It still bothers me Has something similar happened to you before
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How long ago was the breakup?
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Many years ago this was not recent at all
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I had a bad breakup that I thought about for about 6 months. Then I realized that life moves on. If it did not work out, it was for a reason.
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But none of my partners have lived up to her How did you come to that realization Was it just time or was there something that you actually did
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I thought about the good times and bad. I went over why it didn't work. I realized that it never would have. Then I carried that new knowledge to my next relationship
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Oh that is good advice did it work for you or would you suggest that I do something like this or something slightly different
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It was time and meeting new people/partners. I knew after the breakup more about myself and what I needed in a long term/life long partner Have you been dating other people?
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Yes since that time I have dated other people , and many of them have been great people
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They have been great people? You need to learn/remember what you liked most about the partner that you are talking about, what you didn't like most, and find both a new partner.
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It still keeps lingering in the back of my head about my ex even though I have had other great partners Yes this is good advice thank you
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I know you will find the rigt person.
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Thank you this is very kind and helpful advice, and it is helpful to know that it comes from experience
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It took my 2 years after my last breakup to find my now wife! Just be patient and keep looking
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Please tell me if there are any other things that I should try that you have not mentioned as well?>
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Well, you could read a few books about relationships? Do some research
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Are there any particular books or authors that you would recommend
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Not really, I would just look online, and type in relationship books and look at reviews.
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That is good, I have a friend that only reads these types of books, I could ask him for some suggestions, I don't want to seem like I am being a burdun to him though He is a counselor and I am sure that he is frequently asked to help people when he just wants to be a normal friend
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You think you will burden him? You are not a burden We all have different gifts that my benefit our friends. That is part of being a good friend.
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I just don't want to ever feel like I am being a burden to people,
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You are not. Be confident in yourself
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That is very true that different people have different gifts that they want to share I never thought of it like that
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Glad I could help
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Have a great day and thank you
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You as well
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oh wait have we reached the appropripriate amount of time
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