My girlfriend and I broke up due to all the fights we were having. It was mutual but it was still sad. I felt as if my life had ended and everything was in black and white. I was sad for a year afterwards.
No.
It's great already.
Hello, how are you feeling today? Is there anything you'd like to talk about?
assistant
Question
I am sad because I lost my girlfriend of one year.
user
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Oh I am so sorry to hear that - this is a terrible time of year to get dumped. Please know that it will get better in time!
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Why do you think it will get better?
user
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Well, although it sounds like a cliche, time does help with healing wounds. It took me a while to get over a break up. We had been together eight years!
assistant
Self-disclosure
That must've been hard. Is it possible to heal without finding another?
user
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Yes I think that it is but you really do need to be kind to yourself and give it time. Do you have good friends to support you?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Many of my friends wouldn't understand as they are in long-term relationships. But yes, I've a few good friends.
user
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That is a blessing at least though I know it can be hard to see people in happy relationships when you are single.
assistant
Reflection of feelings
What did you do to cope in the first year of losing your partner ?
user
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I cried a lot to be honest, especially as he was happy with someone else. But I tried to focus on my work and my hobbies. It helped.
assistant
Self-disclosure
What sort of hobbies helped you?
user
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Well I love to read. Do you have anything that you could do to help you relax and take your mind off things?
assistant
Question
Well, I do love to write but sometimes the sadness just burns me out completely and I stare at the empty page.
user
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Do you and she have any contact at all at the moment?
assistant
Question
I tried to make peace with her and be friends but she's bitter.
user
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Do you feel that perhaps you did not treat her as well as you could have done?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Yes. I think about that all the time... I could've been better but she was my first and I was foolish. I didn't appreciate her enough.
user
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Well, you have at least learned a lesson and in the future will treat women better I think :)
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
Yes, you have a point. Maybe this will turn out to my favor. You have to fail to succeed sometimes.
user
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Quite! It's all a learning experience in the end. Maybe you should talk to someone about it? A professional counsellor?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I should do that. I've had a hard time connecting with counselors in the past but maybe that could work.
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