My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...
Really thoughtful advice that hit home! They really listened to me!
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Hey.
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Hello, what's on your mind today?
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Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car (as above)
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How long have you been friends?
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30+ years since high school
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And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
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He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
user
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I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
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Thanks.
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What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
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That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
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I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
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Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
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That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough
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Right, so basically let him know if he continues to act like he does, we're done as friends, correct? Or should I not be that bold?
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Yes. Be not too harsh at first. I would say to give him 1 more chance. If he still doesn't respect your words, it's the best for both to say it clearly.
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Sounds good, I'm looking forward to getting this resolved. Now I just have to work on the wording (what I'll say) to come across as serious without being too harsh, I guess. Suggestions welcome! :)
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You have the right mindset! Practice before talking will help you deliver your thoughts better.
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Yeah I tend to get too emotional lol
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I would start with something along the line "Look, I know we have had this conversation many times. However, i feel as though you never take me seriously. I want to say this one last time...."
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That's perfect. Copying that down right now! Seriously!
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Getting emotional is totally fine, that's why you need practice
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True it's just we've been friends for so long it would suck if we weren't anymore. So I've got a plan and know what to do. You've been super helpful! Thanks!
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I understand, it's difficult to come to this decision when you've been friends for so long. I hope he appreciates your friendship just as you do and tries his best.
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We will see!
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You're very welcome. is there anything I can do for you?
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No, I think that's it! Much appreciated!
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I think you can end our session here. I'm glad I could help a bit
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