I am angry because I think my husband is controlling but he says I dont understand what controlling is
Was worried for this person in particular. Was hard to stick to script
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Good evening
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Hey there! How are you feeling?
assistant
Question
I am very angry and not sure if I should feel that way my husband tells me what to do where to go and when to go but he says hold on please got go for a min
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Correct me if i'm wrong, but it sounds like your husband may be controlling you a little and you're expressing reasonable emotions because of it. and Okay!
assistant
Restatement or Paraphrasing
he said if he were controlling i would be givign him attention read between the lines than he will say don't touch this like a cheesecake and than tell me week later make it
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Why do you think he talks to you this way?
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I am going to write stuff to move it up on screen . he might come read this so if isuddently leave i a m very sorry My friends say because i allow him to control me and
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Okay that is perfectly okay. You are fine. If you need me to assist you in any way just send a question mark.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
dont stand up for myself and lalow him to treat me that way I am angry too because I cant be free and express how I really feel he has a disrespect i think for women in general and call them cunts ? question it wont let me just send aquestion mark
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I've been in a similar situation. I was with someone who was controlling in a lot of aspects so i can feel your pain and struggle. I can feel your anger too, and I imagine that it is alot. It is not your fault, and you aren't allowing this to happen to you. It is out of your control. Don't ever blame yourself. How can I assist you?
assistant
Self-disclosure,Question
That makes me feel better. How long were you in relationship
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I was in it for two years before I broke away from it. It was so hard but liberating to leave!
assistant
Self-disclosure
ok I am glad for you..
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I could suggest you see a private doctor to talk about this with, if that is something you are able to do. Or see one with your husband. Maybe he needs a third party to help mediate the problems you guys are having.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
he will not go to therapy nor am i allowed I am lucky to have family friends whom I can talk to
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That's very hard to deal with. And I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Do you feel safe?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
but he thinks he is always right and blah blah blah yes My real concern is for the boys . they see him treating me this way and will think its ok they even said something disrespectful to me and hubby was like you don't talk to your mom that way or ill knock your teeth out he wouldnt but he doesnt see how its his fault
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I can tell this situation stresses you out and probably consumes a lot of your day to day energy. I sympathize with you and your children. What happens when you try talking with him about this?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
he says i m making a mountain out of a mole hill and i have no idea what controlling is
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I commend you for speaking up for yourself despite his responses. I hope you hold on to that strength for as long as you can. It will empower you
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
well boys need to get ready for bed . thanks for listening. You can know I will be safe.
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Okay I will be praying for you and I hope the best outcome for you possible. Please know there are domestic hotlines you can call if need be. I hope you enjoy your night.
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you too keep safe
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