My mom and I got into an argument. She says I don't respect or appreciate her enough. I feel like she's over-exaggerating things.
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Hey, I've been having a really rough day. My mom and I got into an argument
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I'm sorry to hear that, what's happening? How bad was the argument? What was it about?
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She got pretty upset when I took off my shower head without telling her. Somehow, we ended up arguing about how I don't respect her.
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Do you think there is any truth to what she is saying? Family conflict can be very upsetting, I have it in my family sometimes.
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Maybe. I don't particularly like her and that she maybe picks up on that. But I feel like that's the underlying issue and the shower head argument is just a coverup for her real feelings. It's really upsetting. We have "peaceful" moments before we're arguing again
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I see. Do you live together?
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Yes
user
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That does sound upsetting. So how do you two make peace generally, or do you have silences between you?
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I guess it's less peace and more like silence
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So what helps you deal with it? I have found journaling so helpful when I have personal conflicts. It helps to get things in perspective, and to vent to a peice of paper Actually I journal on my computer, and don't save it :)
assistant
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I've written some of our arguments down before, but it's too painful to look at now.
user
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Thath's why I don't save my journal entries, too painful
assistant
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I used to talk to friends about it, but idk, it all feels empty now.
user
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Do you have a counselor you can speak with about how to deal with the conflicts? Maybe he/she could arrange a family meeting
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I get that. It's hard to look at them. I'm not sure what to do to cope. Lately, my coping skills haven't been all to healthy
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I did that with my husband when we were fighting, having a counselor in the room helped us gain insight.
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I have a psychiatrist and I'm trying to figure out how to pay for a therapy currently. I know some offer sliding scale options
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Exercise is helpful for burning off anger, a good long walk... Oh you must be in US?
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Yeah, I'm in the U.S. I used to go on walks and exercise at night. It really helps me sleep. Maybe I can start doing that again
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I think that would be great! A good way to burn off frustration and improve physical health at the same time.
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I always fall out of it! Any advice for making a steady habit out of it?
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You will get through this....it sounds like you two need to have some good talks to address these conflicts....together the two of you may be able to sort it out. On a day when things are calm, not during an argument. Yes I do! I used to procrastinate walking....then I got myself a walking partner
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance,Providing Suggestions
That sounds great! I've been wanting a workout partner, I think a friend of mines wants one too...
user
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We are accountable to each other. We both need to walk for our mental health, we have mental health issues
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How'd you find one?
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Hey that would be great if you two could be accountable to each other
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And yeah, we do need to talk, I just feel conflicted because I ask if it would help anything or should I just move out and move on?
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My neighbour and I were chatting about how we are not motivated to walk but want to walk, so we made a plan Well....only one way to find that out....and and challenging as it may seem it could be, it's a less drastic step than moving If you both want it to work, it will
assistant
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That sounds nice. My friend just likes being in shape ig, so it works out. We both have kinda hectic, unsupportive families.
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Well I hope you two can talk it out.
assistant
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Yeah, that's a good point. It takes time, but I'm trying to learn to when to give more effort and when to pull away. Me too. Thanks for talking to me.
user
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oh it's been a pleasure speaking with you, you're very welcome I wish you all the best, you will get through this :)
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Thank you so much. I hope we both can continue to work on being happy and healthy
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