I am in a critical situation in need of money, urgently for my business. I was sure my friend will help me. To my surprise, he has refused, in spite of my help to him previously when he was in a similar situation.
Yes. I liked the task. It gave some relax over the anger and suggested some way to reduce the anger.
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seeker simply would not press quit
Hello, how are you feeling today? Hi, is there anything you'd like to talk about today?
assistant
Question,Question
Today there is nothing to feel about that. When I think of it or have some situation to recall the previous incident I get very angered on my friend, who did not help me, in spite of my volunteer help to him on a similar situation.
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Would you like to give me a few more details?
assistant
Question
So simple. I was in need of money, urgently, for my business. I helped him when he was in a similar situation. Now I am in situation, previously he was when I helped. I expected my friend surely will help. But he did not. This has put me some anger on him. This was a situation that happened 1 year before. Now I recall this for chatting.
user
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Well, are you sure that he could have definitely afforded to loan you anything?
assistant
Question
Yes. That was well within his limits and he should have obliged.
user
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Well, the thing is, just because you had lent to him does not mean he is obliged to help you Though of course it would have been the courteous thing to do
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Others
Thank you for your understanding and feeling. I feel some relax over the anger, just by your words.
user
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Is it possible to try to talk to him calmly and tell him exactly how he has made you feel?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Yes. I tried calmly of the situation. He told accepting as the situation has passed. I am not sure he has fully understood. As the situation passed, he says okay.
user
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I think you need to decide whether you just just let it go or whether you cant' and won't be able to continue the friendship
assistant
Providing Suggestions
However I continue the friendship not affected by this harassment.
user
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Aren't you worried that it might rankle with you and surface again at some time to affect the friendship?
assistant
Question
My behavior with him will not be affected because of this. But whenever I happen to think or recall of this I get to anger of it unavoidably. And cools off in some time.
user
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It is understandable. I hope that I have been able to help you a little and thank you for talking it out!
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I need some more to chat with you. Is there any suggestion not to get angered again, even when having some recall or thought of the situation. That has been my problem.
user
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Have you thought of trying any meditation exercises or breathing exercises... just to help you stay calm?
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Generally I am cool, not an emotional person. If I need any special training, it should be only because of this. If there is some simple way that could help.
user
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I think you should give it a try - I have personally found breathing exercises very helpful! Thank you for talking, I must go now.
assistant
Self-disclosure
However it is not at all required. That anger does not affect me, just only feeling for some minutes. I let it go.
user
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can you press quit and do the survey? It has to be done your end:) We've done ten turns each.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
I think you suggest to try for breathing exercise. Do you feel benefited by that, often or rarely.
user
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Yes I do but the task really is finished. Please press quit, I can't do it my end. Neither of us will get paid if you do not. Ten turns each and fifteen minutes .. we've done that.
assistant
Providing Suggestions
If you are urgent, I do not want to delay you . Thanks, Bye.
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