My mom is stuck in Mexico and I hate she keeps asking me for money.
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Hello. I am so upset. It's ridiculous how things keep happening to people around me. I suppose my supporter is not here.
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I am just so upset It's like things never get better
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I am sorry to hear that. I know how you feel.
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Yeah... My mom is in Mexico right now for some ex who got deported. Like come on. It's bad enough she sent money to him.
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What have you tried in the past to turn things around?
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Hm. I tried moving on. And it just appears she gets worst
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So you are missing your mom?
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Not really... She just keeps asking me for mone I gave her like 10k for the house she bought and she hasn't done anything back.
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Oh I see my mom has also done this in the past. Sometimes I wonder who raised who?
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Yeah. I get that She rented it to some guy and left before even getting some decent money so now she is stranded in Mexico with some guy who can't even afford to get her back
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That is the worst. I ended up having to cut my mom out of my life.
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I wonder if I should do the same... My grand mother basically gave me a whole speech about how ashamed she is.
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Sometimes it is for the best to set clear boundries.
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But who knows. Apparently my mom said she'll put the house in my name for all these things I did for her. Kind of annoying to be frank.
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Is Grand mother ashamed of you or her daughter? I feel it should be her ashamed of her daughter.
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My grand mother is ashamed of her daughter I am kind of left with a weird circumstance.
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At least that is a good thing to come out of a bad situation.
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Only reason she has a house is because I helped. And if I leave it. Everyone in my family said I would be irresponsible to let my mom lose it.
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I do not think that would have a reflection on you. It should only reflect on your mom.
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Yeah, they said they already know my mother is irresponsible. Instead they suggested I should provide extra financial security to myself or at least some future children. Grandma already is giving a home and 2 apartments but... I guess I am the only kid. Christ. My mom lost my om over 100k to be honest. It was crazy growing up to that
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It may be nice to have a bonus house for the future. But even that comes with headaches. In the end you have to do what is best for you.
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Yeah. I guess boundaries are good. I left her without much help to be honest but I guess just hearing it frustrates the crap out of me.
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Or sell it now and pocket the money to recoup what was lost.
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I would but it isn't even my property And mom needs a place to stay... sometimes I wonder if she just wants to be homeless
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So she is just talking circles and not accomplishing what she says?
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More like she keeps talking about doing something crazy like have a police chase and how she doesn't care for anything
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Some people do choose that life to be free of responsibility. Have you had a talk with her about seeing a mental health professional, She may be having some issues that would benefit from care.
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I tried to baker act her after she tried to call the cops on me randomly It ended up them asking dumb questions like if she knows what day it is letting her free somehow ending up with her getting herself hospitalized 2 weeks later for low hemoglobin.
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Often police officers are not fully trained in helping mentally ill people, they only access if the person is a danger to themselves or others.
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yeah it sucks Tried to get her on disability but they just denied her She was brought up with bipolar depression before I was born. She said she just ran out the hospital.. I don't know how she is just getting the consequences of that now
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A good first step is taking her to your local mental health provider. Or ask at a major emergency room where this is located as sometimes the places are hard to find.
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That was about 30 years ago Crazy they didn't stop her Well I do feel better. Thinking about boundaries. It has been less stressful being so involved.
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Without treatment she may just be getting worse. That is good to hear..
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I've heard she has a lawyer trying to straighten up the whole disability and tr eatment thing My girlfriend just won't let me stay out of it Saying my mom has no one and I would regret it if she just does something crazy
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That does make it difficult when a partner encourages you to engage in unhealthy behavior.
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Yeah. If it was up to me I would probably just be dead silent
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I suggest talking to your girlfriend about how it makes you feel when she insists you continue a relationship that causes so much pain.
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Yeah. That's a good point. Well I think the point about boundaries really stuck with me I feel so much better now
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It was nice talking to you.
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