I have been diagnosed with Major Clinical Depression over 20 years ago. I am struggling with anger with my husband lately
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Good evening!
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What's your problem?
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I am having anger issues and thinking nasty thoughts toward my husband
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Is this because of something he does or you are experiencing angry issue with everything?
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Mostly because of how he treats me lately He makes disrespectful comments.... Are you female or male
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So from what I understand, you think your anger is because of your husband's fault. Have you talked to him about his behavior? I am female
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No it wouldn't do any good I am afraid. Whenever I try to stand up for myself he says Oh here we go again Poor you etc Like just tonight I mopped floor and he came up and said What are you sick ? Youre actually cleaning. Than I said yes I was actually on my hands and knees last week when I mopped and he said well get used to being on your knees and touched himself
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That's gross. I can't believe he said all those things to you. I'm sorry you have to hear those words from your husband.
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He's always saying stuff like that and constantly trying to refer to lets just say going down
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You need to stand up for yourself. I know it's difficult and as you said, won't even do any good. However, if you keep your silence, he'd think it's okay to treat you that way because he has power over you
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I know even my good friends that know me and everything that is said agrees with you
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I'd advise you to disclose this to a family member and have them with you (on the phone) when he starts talking like that that way the other person can call him off
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My mom already knows and his parents are dead and he has no relations with any other family. HE wont listen He knows everything and its HIs way or else He is very controlling
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if you want, you can talk to him one last time and let him know it's enough. I fhe doesn't change, you will cut off with him You have to stand up for you self first before expecting him to do that
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Thats true and its time for a change. Thank you so much . I do feel better
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If he intimidates you, you should practice what to say and then do the talk in public or when someone else is around I believe you can do it
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Thank you . Its sounds like you know what you are talking about. Ill try it
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I hope you at least will be able to settle with your husband
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Well I can try and pray it does I need to get my boys ready for bed as it is a school night. thanks again
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Have you ever threatened to leave him?
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yes i have years ago and he threatened to take boys
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Then you should do it for real this time and see if he changes.
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and he would prove I am an unfit mom
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The mom always has an upper hand in these issues
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but he has photos of dirty house and that I was dignosed with major clinical depression
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You should also have photos of clean house to prove against him
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I do
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as for depression, as long as you have proof youre seeking treatment, you should be fine
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I used to but he wont let me get treatment He doesnt believe in therapy for me him familly etc
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do it secretly, behind his back
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there is no way I can he tracks everything
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it all comes down to you have to let him see that you can stand on your own. He's treating you like this because he thinks he can control you
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ok I need to go take care keep safe
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