My significant other has started to become distant and I fear our relationship is over.
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Hi, how are you doing?
assistant
Question
Hello. I suppose I could be doing better.
user
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Anything in particular you're having a hard time with?
assistant
Question
Yep. Thanks for asking. It feels to me like my GF and I may be breaking up.
user
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I'm sorry, I've been in that position before. Do you feel it's for the best?
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
No. I am very sad about it. She recently informed me shes going to go a graduate school far away after I made the decision to come to school near where she lives.
user
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That's really hard, especially when there's chance it could have worked out if it wasn't for the distance. Do you regret choosing to go to the school near where she lives?
assistant
Reflection of feelings
Yes. I feel like I put my life on hold for someone else only to have them throw me to the curve.
user
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Definitely feeling like you're living for someone else and having them not do the same is hurtful. Although it seems like you're the one in the relationship who is willing to make more sacrifices
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
At this point, yes. I just wish we would of talked about this a year ago when I uprooted my life the first time. I fear that this will continue to happen.
user
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Oh ok then it's not the first time this has happened. I think you might be right, if you notice a pattern then it might continue to happen
assistant
Others,Affirmation and Reassurance
So you think this will continue to happen?
user
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Most likely, she seems to need space to live for herself and is less willing to make sacrifices for you like you do for her But even it won't happen again, you shouldn't have to live worrying that it will Have you spoken to her about how you feel?
assistant
Reflection of feelings,Providing Suggestions,Question
I dont even know how to start the conversation. I feel betrayed and that I have wasted the last 3 years.
user
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Wow I can only imagine. But I think it wasn't a waste if there were good times and you had room to grow. In relationships you have to prioritize your own happiness and I'm sure if you mentioned that you're frustrated and hurt maybe you can understand how she feels and why she made the decisions she made
assistant
Providing Suggestions
Its frustrating. I am sorry to complain. It seems silly with everything going on in the world.
user
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Absolutely not! Individual frustrations are the best things to focus on before everything that happens in the world.
assistant
Affirmation and Reassurance
What should I do? I feel like I just need to give up. I feel even worse because it is Christmas.
user
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I think it's important that you talk to her and get the answers you need. She might not even have been aware you feel this way and assumed you were happy to move for her. Although again, I'm really sorry you have to go through this during the holidays, definitely sucks but doesn't mean you can't at least get some answers and move on with your life
assistant
Providing Suggestions,Affirmation and Reassurance
Thank you.
user
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