separate lie change my life . actually and the q and a do . spoiler below . read only if you watch trailer or if you have already see it representthe emily watson character cheat on the tom wilkonson character . my first reaction to the puppy dog eye emily be it over . dump her . bad riddance . for some reason and he stick around . not in a pathetic way . he just listen . and try to accept her need . at time he need to leave . but he stuck by her and let her live her life . but i still want to see her afterwards and julian and the screenwriter and director and talk about the film . i be glad he do and because frankly i be too you and be too immature to get the point before he break it down for me . tom character love her and and no matter how much her pursuit of her need might disagree with what he want and he would always love her . the relationship and love they share wasn not a lie and all of a sudden and just because she want to be with someone else . the fact that she want to be with someone else do not make her who she be . when you get past fifty and there a strong chance that find the love of your life would not come around again and so you can not be as dismissive a you be when you be young . you have to try and make thing work and because the alternative may be much bad . she need what she need and and she couldn not help that . he have to learn to let go of her if he want to be the full man he could be . he help her in pursuit of her lover and even when it hurt him . another thing represent julian say that the strong tool of a controller be guilt . again represent the strong tool of a controller be guilt . at the end of the film and tom release her from her burden . he felt a need to let her know that he love her and but not to in order to get her back while he want to let her know she do not need to feel guilty or think poorly about the relationship and just because it end in such a terrible way . it be not my way to review a film base on the message and rather than the execution and especially when i understand that message well when it be explain to me by the director and but i make an exception here and a i feel one more mature than i would benefit from see the film . the execution of the film making be a nice and british pace . rupert be slimy and revolt . tom and emily be their usually solid and real character .